Monday B*tchfest 7/31

heatherdubrow

Let it out ladies...

crossfitbabybump

So my husband and I bought my parents a new Chrysler 300 C to help them get around. This weekend, someone keyed the crap out of it. My mom is so upset and I am livid! Who does that!?!?!? WHY!?

crossfitbabybump

Oh and also, Friday was my first appointment and I was expecting to see the baby or at least hear its heartbeat because it looks like most of you ladies have had that done already. The nurse told me no, they wouldn't be doing that until about 20 weeks. Umm no. I am not waiting until I'm 5 months pregnant. I'm already losing it over here. I told her my next appointment (Aug. 18) I am not leaving the hospital until I see or hear my baby's heartbeat. I was so upset. Is it normal to wait so long to see or hear them? Or is my choice of care poor and I should find somewhere else to go?

carig63

I spent 4.5 hours in the ER yesterday. I have a DVT. This isn't earth-shattering, since I've had one before. But being stationary all day and useless is really frustrating.

arhodes6

@crossfitbabybump my midwives normally don't do an u/s until 20 weeks, but I had issues this go round so I got one at 8. BUT they start doing the doplar at 10 weeks so even if you don't see baby you should hear baby. Kind of weird they won't even do a doplar until 20 weeks. That's how they know everything is going ok in there until an u/s. 

crossfitbabybump

@arhodes6 thank you! I will be 10 weeks this Thursday so by my next appointment I will 12 wks 1 day so I hope they at least will do the doplar!

runsoncoffee

@crossfitbabybump they usually use a doppler to check the heartbeat at each appt starting at 12 weeks. Before then it's likely you won't here it. And unless there are issues or dating discrepancies, both my insurance company and doctors office said one ultrasound at 20 weeks is standard protocol. That is how it was for my first pregnancy. This time I needed a dating ultrasound.

chasingroygbiv

@carig63 Oh noo! So glad you knew to go in though! Do you have a clotting disorder?

chasingroygbiv

Oh and my issue right off the bat this fine Monday morning... headache. Probably going to linger all day as usual..

runsoncoffee

@carig63 I hope you recover quickly! What a bummer!

[Deleted User]

Grrrrrrr  I'm having to have a student re take a test from last year.  The student does have a plan in place for her to have modified tests, but I truly believe the test I gave her was at her skill level - and when she failed it last year it was very obvious she just hadn't studied at all.  Her case worker told me to add in a word bank and let her take notes on a notecard to bring in to the test.  This kind of pisses me off.  First - a bunch of it is on color theory so my word bank I made for her is literally just names of colors - really?  Second, if she has a note card she can seriously just write down all of the information and copy it straight to the test.  The whole point of this is that she would KNOW the information, not that she would be able to copy it from one piece of paper to another.  I mean really what is the point of even giving her the test if that's how this is going to go?

I am not by any means bagging on IEP or 504 plans generally.  I have tons of those students and I have always worked very closely with their needs - modifying where needed.  But this girl seriously does not need this help.  All you have to do is take one look at her test and see she didn't bother studying.  She was almost never in classes, she hardly ever turned in a finished project, and now she basically gets to cheat on her final.  Some students really DO need those modifications and I happily help them out, but this girl obviously is just using this as a crutch to pass classes with little to no effort on her part.  I'm so annoyed!  She does not deserve credit for my class but she's going to get it anyways.

runsoncoffee

@antoto that's really strange you'd get to retake a test from a past school year... seems pointless!

scotiagirl

@crossfitbabybump with my 1st I didn't have an ultrasound until 20 weeks but did have a Doppler at 13 weeks to hear baby's heart beat.  I would think you would be getting a Doppler sometime before your 20 wk anatomy scan!  With my first it was certainly frustrating when I learned that was the process!! It felt like I had to wait forever!  Definitely ask about when you'll bet getting a Doppler!! 

sassypants2010

I didn't want to tell anyone about being pregnant for a while at least(like when I have the baby) because it is my third and probably final so I wanted to enjoy without constant questions from the peanut gallery. But people keep guessing or asking me out of the effing blue and I am starting to feel like I have a huge neon sign declaring to all that I am expecting. I am a private person that really just wanted to be pregnant without being bothered, I mean whose business is it is if the baby was planned, accidental, we used protection, my husband pulled out (wtf grandma), are we ready for another, etc. Like guess what ready or not it happened and will be happening so leave me be. 

crossfitbabybump

@scotiagirl @scoogy19

Thanks ladies! Puts my mind more at ease! I will wait 3 more weeks lol

citygirl17

I had my phone intake this morning.  The nurse offered to let me come in this Thursday for an early ultrasound.  Ummm, yes please!!  But then she only had availability in the morning but DD has gymnastics class.  TEASE!!  Next availability is so close to my next appointment it's pointless to make a separate trip so soon before.  
  
The good news I guess is that I am now having an ultrasound the same day when I go on the 17th.  So no waiting until 12 weeks to see baby!  I'll try to keep it together until then.

missydallas

This is going to be reallllll snarky. But please, PLEASE people stop starting new threads that could easily go into the symptoms thread. Also - if one thread tells you that you need an ultrasound to see if you're having twins, starting a new thread about the same topic is not going to result in different answers. We are not doctors and have no idea how many babies you are currently carrying.

missydallas

@crossfitbabybump - who keys a random car? Seriously? I'm so sorry, that sucks.

@antoto - that sounds so frustrating and doesn't seem like it's helping the student at all. 

@carig63 - Having to be inactive when all you're wanting to do is get stuff done sucks.

@sassypants2010 - I'm sorry people are being so nosey and can't mind their own business - @kiki75 had a really great post in anyone who is being a jerk finding out you're pregnant and saying stupid sh*t -  you should say "I'm sorry - I must have misheard your congratulations on me being pregnant"

heatherdubrow

@missydallas you're my people. 

becausescience

@antoto That is beyond frustrating.  I'd follow the accommodations/modifications outlined the IEP/504, but wouldn't give more than that.  It is amazing to me how different districts handle special education.  My previous district, I was basically told to not fail any special ed student even if the did nothing in class ever.  My new district does not share this view and it is a relief.  

fiddleRN79

@sassypants2010 I completely understand. We just had a funeral and family came. Apparently DH had already told the majority of them. I had no idea until they started congratulating us. I really wanted to wait till I started showing because I am so worried. I'm very happy that he is excited though. 

@carig63 those are scary! I hope it resolves quickly. 

hullabalou

@carig63 oh no! I hope it resolves quickly.


AFM- this is the Monday from hell. My son woke up with his eyes swollen/matted shut for the second day in a row so I had to make him a pediatrician appt to rule out pink eye before he can go back to daycare, which means I am burning another day of PTO before maternity leave. Turns out he has his 3rd ear infection in a month and a half and since he keeps having issues like this with eyes/congestion he needs allergy testing. So 2 specialist referrals. To top it off, I got home and there is a trail of fire ants from his window to his laundry basket. They weren't there when I swept yesterday but somehow a colony of fire ants has moved in overnight and I have to find something to kill them that is safe for my toddler to be around. I've been throwing up everything I've eaten/drank today and I feel like death. Today is not my day. 

vflux33

@antoto That sucks. Something sort of similar happened to me when I used to teach in a community college (so no IEPs or anything like that and she had no intellectual set backs that I'm aware of). The dean basically forced me to pass her even though she hardly ever showed up because she complained. She was a nice girl, but it really bothered me that she got different attendance rules than everyone else. I gave up on it eventually and gave her the lowest passing grade I could, and that was the same term I decided to leave teaching.  

@missydallas Yes THANK YOU. Having a debate on whether a thread that doesn't need to exist should exist every ten seconds is getting annoying AF. Also people in general who think they are definitely absolutely positively having twins without an u/s showing this confuse me. I had a high beta, an RE who told me I might have twins, fertility drugs known to cause twins, and 2-3 eggs known to ovulate at the same time, and I was still like "well, we'll see what happens" until I saw the u/s.  It seems like there are a ton of people who have a "dream" or a "feeling" or a "symptom" they're not expecting and are waaaay too convinced it actually means something. Reminds me of the TTC people who won't accept that they're normal until they're not. Sorry if that sounds bitchy, but well, it is a bitchfest   

heatherdubrow

@hullabalou that sounds miserable!

Elizabella85

I woke up to a toddler with a gross, snotty nose and a nasty cough. I feel so bad for my DD and yet I'm beyond annoyed. I know exactly where she got this cold. A wildly inconsiderate mom who let her very sick toddler run all over the OB/GYN lab last week and her kid kept touching DD - keep him in his stroller if he's sick like that! We were both there for a 1 hr glucose test and my kid didn't like staying in her stroller either but I brought entertainment and snacks (that I had to throw out because he put his hands on them). They'll survive an hour. 

I have an automimmuine disorder and get sick very easily. The last thing I need is a nasty cold at 7 weeks pregnant while already exhausted and nauseous plus a sick toddler during a week DH is already scheduled to work overtime every night this week. I hope DD gets over this quickly and that I don't get it at all. 

heatherdubrow

@Elizabella85 that sucks! Some kids just won't stay in their stroller though. My youngest DD is like a wild animal when I try to confine her. Like screaming bloody murder, writhing, and throwing her body around. I totally sympathize with getting sick from inconsiderate strangers since we just got over a stomach bug we got from the gym. But that mom probably had no other options. I try to just carry hand sanitizer for those moments...

KristinUM12

@hullabalou OMG I want to hug you. Your day seriously sucks. I would literally be calling DH and forcing him to take a sick day if that was happening to me...you are a hero.

missydallas

@hullabalou - all I can think of is "Alexander's and the terrible, horrible, no good, very bad day". I hope that you get through today and tomorrow is a million times better!

@Elizabella85 - hope your DD starts feeling better soon!! I can't imagine a cold on top of all the other crappy symptoms we go through every day.

One more thing to add to my bitching today (I can have two, right?) - Why does my OB/GYN have a piece of junk ultrasound? My RE had an awesome ultrasound machine (is that what they're called?) and I could see the babes so clearly - then I got to my OB/GYN and I'm just looking at white blobs - WTF? And only looked at them for 2 seconds - ummm could you measure every little thing like my RE did so I can stare at these beautiful little blobs longer?

Elizabella85

@heatherdubrow  oh I know! I have one friend who's middle son will not be confined EVER because he is one active little guy and another one who's daughter is on the spectrum who hates straps, so I understand not every kid can stay in the stroller, but this kid didn't even fuss...she just let him out after about 10 minutes because he kept grabbing at her phone and magazine. She looked much further along, and I get that she probably wanted a few minutes of peace, but still.

I just don't understand why some people don't bring things to entertain their kids when they KNOW they have a wait time. My OB is notorious for long waits so I know better than to show up with an empty handed toddler. 

heatherdubrow

@Elizabella85 ugh how annoying! Anytime I have to take her anywhere I am loaded up with snacks and iPad!

Elizabella85

@heatherdubrow Exactly, we always have books, snacks, a kid kindle fire and my DD is obsessed with the Melissa and Doug Water Wow books. She can "color" with the water pen and no mess!!! The diaper backpack is always stuffed with fun! 

muggle621

I'm sorry @Elizabella85 and @hullabalou about the rough starts to the week you are having!! I hope things get better ASAP! 

I only have a minor annoyance. I had my "new ob" appt today (even though my first u/s was last week but that was some sort of scheduling oops) so I got a second u/s. The tech was sort of rushed and in the pictures she gave us the baby looked like either a blob or a frog with a hat. I'm just glad last week we got pics where it actually looks like an embryo! 
I was also not prepared for a pelvic exam (in front of my husband nonetheless) so that was kind of annoying. Oh well! On the bright side he is very appreciative now of the stuff women have to go through! 

babybluu

I don't even feel like posting because some of you ladies sound like you're having way worse days than me. I'm so sorry I hope your days get better! 

crossfitbabybump

Third thing today... I hate it when I'm clearly in the middle of something at work, typing away at my desk, focused... and people come up without waiting for you to notice them or acknowledge them and start asking me questions about things that aren't important. Lately, it's been happening a lot and now I just finish what I am in the middle of before I acknowledge their presences. I know that sounds bitchy but I'm tired of being interrupted and them treating me like my work doesn't exist or that I don't have something important going on at that exact moment. Ugh. -_-

ABombard12

Woke up SUPER exhausted today right... overslept and even my DS (2yrs) overslept. Running around the house trying to get out the door to daycare (while holding nausea in) I get a call from my dentist----I missed my cleaning at 8:20am oh and well now I owe them $90 for missing it....WHAT IN THE HELL!? I have never missed one appointment and its an auto $90?!  WTH Monday way to start the week off the week off with a bang.... If they think in paying without a fight they have another pregnancy hormone coming.....

mdfarmchick

Wow @hullabalou. I'd want to just go back to bed. I'm so sorry!

@Elizabella85 also that is so annoying. I'm sorry. 

Guys, I came home today after almost 4 weeks away and I have no reason to bitch. Other than being exhausted, I can't even complain about my Red Eye flight last night with a toddler. I need to go find the Why My SO is Awesome thread.

Speaking of threads, in general, I am a pretty laid back person, but all of these AW threads are annoying and rude. And I'm less than excited to see that I apparently have missed more of them. 

day38

crossfitbabybump said:

So my husband and I bought my parents a new Chrysler 300 C to help them get around. This weekend, someone keyed the crap out of it. My mom is so upset and I am livid! Who does that!?!?!? WHY!?

I used to live very close to a college campus and some drunk college kids literally tore the side view mirror off of my car and left it on my windshield. (I know it was on purpose because it was the side next to the sidewalk, and there was a tree right next to the car so you had to purposely go in between the tree and the car to even get to it). People suck. 

ETA:
@crossfitbabybump +1 to my MW's practice not doing early/many ultrasounds. Their policy is a dating scan if needed, the NT scan if you opt in, and the anatomy scan at 20 weeks. Other than that, you only get one if there's an indication for it. However, she did do a doppler at every appointment after a certain week (forget which).

itsmemario

@hullabalou @Elizabella85 Taking care of a toddler while pregnant is hard enough, I can't imagine having to take care of a sick one! Hope they are feeling better soon. 

@antoto @becausescience It makes me feel good to hear you all discussing that. My daughter will have an IEP and one thing that scares me is thinking that teachers will not take her seriously and let her skate by without learning anything or helping her reach her full potential. 

ShawnnaO

My bitchfest goes out to bad timing. 

We live on the opposite side of the country from my husband and I's family. We were planning on having a big gender reveal party with all of our friends and family when we go up for Christmas. 

While trying to to figure out a venue today, my husbands aunt let us know that basically all of his family would be out of state during the time we'll be up. In other words, there's basically no point in having a party for the handful of people that will actually be around. 

I feel like a brat, but I'm really disappointed that we aren't going to get to experience the fun of doing a big reveal like that. Time to start brainstorming cute ways to reveal on Facebook I guess. 

[Deleted User]

@itsmemario I have IEP/504 students in every single class and this is the first time in 6 years I have objected to something.  The vast majority of them make total sense to me.  You will have meetings with your kid's teachers and you can all talk about how the terms are working out so you won't have to wonder or guess!  I make sure my IEP/504 kids learn the exact same material as everyone else, they just have to demonstrate their knowledge a little differently sometimes.

LiveNLove44

@antoto I hate dealing with stuff like this that makes me feel like the legitimacy of accommodations and modifications is being jeopardized by poor judgement on the part of a professional I'm sorry you had to do it! I had a senior, who was not on an IEP and just lazy AF, who was also the nephew of a school board member. He thought he'd pass and just glide by, but he didn't realize how not writing a single paper all year would impact his graduation status. He needed to pass my class in order to get a diploma. His parents set up the grad party and invited everyone, and he failed. The kicker: my principal told his uncle and father than I would come back throughout the month of June to work with this student so he could pass!!!! What?! I felt totally unsupported and it was 100% bs. 

@hullabalou I hope you get some positives thrown your way with such a frustrating day behind you already--sending good vibes!!