Weekly Randoms 7.3 - 7.9

mcvgal

What's new this week? Anyone have plans for the 4th of July?

Kateriee

A BBQ tonight and one tomorrow. My family wants me to take my 7 week old to the firework show and just cover her ears.  Um no.

I don't want lo outside a lot or for long periods due to 100 degree weather and poor air quality. Is that being to over protective? 

mcvgal

@Kateriee I don't think that's overprotective at all. I know how uncomfortable I get in the heat, just imagine how hot a baby (that is most likely being held) can get. 

mrsrep123

@Kateriee I think you're being totally reasonable and not overprotective at all.

Has anyone ever returned an item they've already assembled? I've never done this before, but I purchased a swing from Target with my completion discount, and Rowan just doesn't look comfortable in it (neck is flexed forward too much). I put him in it twice and now it's just sitting in the corner. 

Nevermind... I just called and not only did they say it's not a problem, they'll have someone unload it from my car!

mamatowildones

 Having a neighborhood block party tomorrow with the bounce house and a barbecue! Can't wait it's going to be so much fun and this is our first Fourth of July not traveling to be with family so we are really looking forward to hanging around our  place. There are fireworks at the lake across the street from our house. We will be going to those and I bought noise canceling headphones for the baby.  We thought about not going but there was no way we could tell our four-year-old and two-year-old that they couldn't see fireworks.   Luckily I was able to get the headphones today and they were only like 30 bucks!! 

Jens_Hoes

No plans for me. I just woke up and can barely swallow so maybe I'll be on the couch all day. We've had people setting off fireworks the past few days and it's terrifying our dog. He literally starts heavily breathing and shaking. So I'm excited for July 5th

luckywife10

We had a busy weekend visiting family so today is a chill day for us. This is my dog's first 4th of July so I'm not sure how he'll react to the fireworks later. I got a 5 pack of 4th of July onesies on clearance last summer so when DS gets one onesie dirty I can put him right into another patriotic onesie! 

MoshiMoshi7

@Jens_Hoes my dog has been hiding in the basement shower for two days. Poor pup.

We went out on the boat yesterday and are having a neighborhood block party today. DS is going to be exhausted by tonight, so hopefully we can spend tomorrow just vegging out and recuperating.

Hope everyone has a happy and fun 4th!

mrsrep123

I have a 13 year old dog and she still can't deal with the fireworks. We keep her inside during this time.

Soooooo, finally got the courage to DTD.  It was awesome and felt great to be intimate with MH again.

Now, getting the kids ready for day time 4th of July fun before we watch the fireworks from a distance tonight.

Have a fun, safe and happy 4th of July May Mommas!

ShadeofGreen816

Nothing better than a drive by birth announcement from over a month ago.... 

mcvgal

DD did so well last night with all the loud fireworks going off. However, she got so scared when all my family started laughing with my nephew. I hope everyone's pets handled the celebrations well.

Jens_Hoes

Had a follow up at the doctors today for the thrush and she's all clear. DD is up to 9 lbs too, 4 weeks old yesterday. She's getting a fat roll on her thigh which makes me so happy she's gaining.   
Shes been extra needy today though, refuses to sleep, and keeps pooping. Looks like I'll be nap trapped all day. 

OmegaRose3

The 4th was fun for us, DS barely noticed the fireworks and DD seemed to really enjoy them. Also, my nieces (3&4) doted on DS all day, they are super excited to be big sisters in September and are a bit baby crazy according to SIL. Overall fun day.

TMI question...so when I had DS I tore in 3 places, one of the tears extending out to my clitoris, not sure what they are categorized as because they avoided telling me anything about the tearing during my hospital stay. Well I had my 6 week checkup and was told all of the stitches were out, yada yada, got my BC proscription and last night DH and I decided to DTD...completely horrible. It hurt so bad, I could feel every part of the tears and we had to stop. Almost started crying because I felt awful and my slightly buzzed self was convinced this meant I could never have sex again.
Please tell me there's some sort of positive side to this? That maybe if I wait longer it won't feel awful or maybe some sort of reassurance from anyone else who tore badly? 

mcvgal

Totally random, but I guess that is what this thread is for. We finally got out bill for DD's NICU time. 42 days in the hospital before insurance payment was $205,890.12. Five years ago at a different hospital DS1 was in the NICU for 40 days, but was born 30 weeks and his bill was $249,000. He required more interventions and procedures than DD. Here's my privilege showing, but I have to wonder how people without insurance or without good plans handle those unexpected bills. 

psherman42wwsa

I don't know much about other states or if its the same everywhere but people have Medicaid and then don't pay anything. Whereas people with insurance pay thousands of dollars on medical bills on top of paying for their insurance. I pay a lot for insurance and have to pay $5500 out of pocket, I know people who pay a lot more and some less. My sister is unemployed for no good reason and is on Medicaid... She had unnecessary genetic testing etc... paid $0 for her whole pregnancy and child birth. She is now pregnant with baby #2 and is in the same situation.  Unfair...

Someone's going to be mad I said that but its true.

mcvgal

Whoa that is totally unfair! I would like to not have to pay medical bills.

Although when I had my gall bladder removed my uncle was supposed to have the same surgery. He didn't have insurance and was given pills to break up the stones instead of the surgery. Now he could possibly get stones over and over again. 

Jens_Hoes

I work with a bunch of low income families and they often go to the ER for tooth pain, or something else that should be handled at the PCP or urgent care. They don't care because they have no copays. It's frustrating because we are paying for that. 

Also the NICU bill you got is ridiculous, in the sense that hospitals can even charge that amount for services. 

mcvgal

Jens_Hoes said:

I work with a bunch of low income families and they often go to the ER for tooth pain, or something else that should be handled at the PCP or urgent care. They don't care because they have no copays. It's frustrating because we are paying for that. 

Also the NICU bill you got is ridiculous, in the sense that hospitals can even charge that amount for services. 

It is ridiculous, especially since over 1/2 the amount was just room and board.

jayandaplus

As a ER nurse I can verify the ridiculousness that comes in for no reason, because it's "free". Very upsetting.

@OmegaRose3 Have you talked to your OB? Have you done the deed by yourself? I'd do some solo time and see if that's uncomfortable. I hope it gets better, maybe you just need more time!

chailife34

+1 on the ridiculous medical bills. We logged $140,000 worth of bills between my hospitalization and DS's NICU stay. My out of pocket portion is $7,500 on top of paying a very high premium. I don't have that kind of money lying around so I'm going to try to negotiate with the provider and do payments. 

Healthcare system is broken when some get free and others assume much larger burdens for the same services. 

melissa11015

LO is just about 7 weeks old and last night she slept from 10-5!!! She started to wake up at 4 but never did and we both fell back to sleep until 5! (Only problem is my boobs are killing me-well only one at this point, I'm going to need to pump OUCH!) what a great night!!!

starphish18

@OmegaRose3 Ouch! Sorry you had such a bad experience. I agree with @jayandaplus, maybe you just need more time? Does the area still hurt otherwise? If it feels fine except when DTD, I'd definitely ask your doctor about it.

OmegaRose3

@starphish18 Scar tissue definitely doesn't make for a pleasant experience!
@jayandaplus Didn't talk to my OB about it much more than him saying that there's scar tissue there and it can cause discomfort...super helpful! We were able to try again and it went okay, but I'm hoping and praying thr pain lessens over time because it definitely puts a damper on things

psherman42wwsa

I went into work yesterday and gave them my notice that I won't be returning after my maternity leave. It feels like a huge weight lifted off my shoulders. I teared up a little bit when talking to my boss about it but I feel good about the decision. 

My baby has been so fussy the past couple days and not sleeping, it's terrible. He is so tired and can barely keep his eyes open but is determined to stay awake..

mrsrep123

@lrwardrop wow, good for you! If I recall, you're an RN, right? Are you going to keep your license active? A friend of mine decided to not return after her maternity leave and is deciding what to do regarding her license.

psherman42wwsa

@mrsrep123 thanks. Yes I'll definitely keep my license active. I plan to return to work in a couple years. It would be silly not to keep it, you never know what could happen later down the road.

mrsrep123

@lrwardrop that's exactly what I told her!

ShadeofGreen816

My aunt was an optometrist and let her license lapse when she had kids. I think that's even crazier because certification is even more difficult to obtain than an RN. Unfortunately my uncle last his job many years later and she ended up working a much lower paying job bc she was no longer licensed. Was kind of a bummer. Moral : always keep those up!!