So my ex told me that him and his family want nothing to do with Landon and I and that his family will not even acknowledge him as being family. I was cleaning out my inbox and saw a Pinterest notification saying his mom is now following me. This infuriates me. You want nothing to do with us, yet you want to creep on us?
@tova24 ugh!! So which is it, is she creeping, or was he wrong in saying "they" want nothing to do with you and his child and she maybe actually does? It's weird regardless, come on.
I'm really sorry he's putting you through this. A close friend experienced the same thing with the father of her child. It blows my mind and is so infuriating how anyone can be like that.
@tova24 Im so sorry! It is totally their loss for not wanting you or your son in their lives. I would block his mom from seeing your pinterest, and make sure they are blocked out of all other social media as well.
Question for STMs: So I was supposed to go to a breastfeeding class this Sunday, but it was canceled due to low enrollment. I checked the other available times coming up, and none of them have sold any tickets, so I am worried I wont get to go to one. Ive looked around my area, and despite being in Boston, there arent a ton of options. Did any of you do an online class? Or do you have any suggestions of places to look/books to read etc. Thanks!
**TW Loss/pregnancy mentioned** Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 5/30/16 and MC on 7/6/16 BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17 BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19 BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19 BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2 Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage IVF started Feb 2020 retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal. Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
Mommy to a super cute havanesse puppy and baby boy!
@tova24 I'm so sorry you have to deal with that. Definitely sounds like it's better for Landon to have them not involved. Did your ex text you to say that? Make sure you keep the text or get it in writing so that you have a paper trail in case he ever decides to seek custody. In the meantime, make all your social media accounts super private so that they can't stalk you and baby Landon.
@tova24 I'm very sorry! If you have any fear of him pursuing custody (as @kristenk727 mentioned) you can look into getting him to relinquish his parental rights.
@littlebug2010 have you looked into la leche league? They have tons of meetings and resources all over the US.
It's just really a painful thing to go through. He left me when I was around 6 weeks pregnant and said he never wanted kids and said I should get an abortion. I wish I knew the intentions of his family. I have never met them and her creeping on me makes me fear that his mom would try to take Landon away from me.
@tova24 I seriously doubt that any court would take him and give him to the grandma. I've heard people toss around the phrase grandparents rights, but that's not an actual thing. Just block her and keep being the awesome mama you already are.
That all sounds so awful and your ex is an ass @tova24 . I'm not sure where you are with dealing with this but start a paper trail of any text messages, voicemails, or emails you've gotten from your ex and consult an attorney about getting your rights as the sole guardian established by the courts.
Together: January 2002 Married: May 2008 Baby: August 2017
Clearly we like to rush along at lightning speed...
@tova24 Agree with what other's have said about protecting yourself legally. They say they want nothing to do with him now, but I can imagine Grandma seeing a picture of him or something and suddenly deciding she's grandma of the year. Hang in there!
@littlebug2010 We took a breastfeeding class last week at the hospital. It was definitely helpful, but I almost feel like I learned the main points from our BMB or just reading other online articles. They made it seem like this very natural process that should just "click" in the first few weeks. Just reading feedback on here, I KNOW that's not always the case. So don't feel too stressed if you can't go to the class in person. Check out some online resources and you'll probably be just as informed as someone who took a class. One helpful thing I did take away from the class was specific lactation consultant resources that my hospital offers. Maybe just call and ask about their offerings?
@tova24, I'm so sorry. He seems like quite an ass. I agree about the paper trail just in case.
@littlebug2010, I took a breastfeeding class before my first, but I don't really remember it being super helpful. The most helpful thing was just to work with the nurses and lactation consultant in the hospital and LC after discharge (DD had latch issues and I had to use a nipple shield for quite some time).
@tova24 Sending good vibes and agreeing on the paper trail/ getting him to relinquish rights. If 'they' want nothing to do with you and your amazing soon to be son, than make sure he can't have anything to do with you. Especially with you considering moving and/or changing jobs, you don't want him to suddenly want a say in what you can do with your son or yourself!
TW: 1 infant loss 8/17: Our daughter was born 8/18: Our daughter kicked open heart surgery ass 2/19: We lost our son to Prader-Willi/Paradoxical Vocal Cord/ Noonans at 6wks old 4/26/2020: EDD for baby #3!!!
@tova24 - I'm so sorry that you're dealing with that. Agree with all of the PPs. Also, can you talk to a lawyer to figure out what your and his rights are. At this point, I'd try to only contact him through a lawyer as well so that things can't be said off-the record and you can keep things free from emotion. You don't want him refusing to sign something just to spite you. It'd also be good for you to know what type of child support you're giving up by letting him do that, which I believe would be the case if he relinquishes his rights.
@smallbutmighty77 - I bought The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding which is published by La Leche League International (which @lewliv mentioned). I'm only about 60 pages in so don't have feedback yet except that so far it is very pro-home birth and no interventions. I'm planning to have it more as a reference when I run into issues later. I am also going to a class (tomorrow) so might have more to add on how much I got out of that. I really want DH to hear a lot of it so that he can support the process in whatever way they recommend and just be aware of how difficult it might be. If you were hoping to have DH join, maybe you can both watch the online class together? My hospital has classes but so does my OB's office (it's a small network) so you might be able to find another option for classes. Otherwise, La Leche League is a great resource although they have meetings, not classes, as far as I'm aware (https://www.llli.org/). This is also a great option after birth to get support and you can bring your baby. From the book, it sounds like if you get in touch with a group, the leaders are usually available for you to contact with questions, too.
@kvh22 thanks for posting that info. I know LLL has come up often but I just found my local group thanks to that site. The local group has a FB group and the meetups and meetings aren't far from me. Great to know!
@littlebug2010 Really good point from @kvh22 about the class being helpful for DH's/support people to attend. It definitely shows them it's not super easy, takes a ton of time, there will be some pain, etc.. The class also offered ways for dad to get involved so he doesn't feel totally excluded. Things like bringing the baby to mom to feed, getting water/snacks, changing baby mid-way through feedings, stuff like that.
@secicc12 I just read what @kvh22 said, and I agree. I did find a class much closer to my due date that was almost full, so no chance of cancelation. I signed up for that one, and hoping that we get to go before baby arrives. Its at 37 weeks, so im not too worried, but it is much closer to my due date then I wanted.
**TW Loss/pregnancy mentioned** Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 5/30/16 and MC on 7/6/16 BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17 BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19 BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19 BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2 Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage IVF started Feb 2020 retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal. Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
Mommy to a super cute havanesse puppy and baby boy!
@tova24 just echoing what all the other ladies said. "Paper" trail for sure and you hang in there and stay strong!
@littlebug2010 I went to a BFing course when pregnant with DD. What I remember the most from it was when someone asked about getting mastitis and other "scary" things she had heard about BFing and the instructor brushed her off saying those things were very uncommon. Fast forward to having DD and I got mastitis as did like 75% of my BMB (remember that, @OTmom3?). I'm just saying, the course wasn't very helpful in the end. DH had attended too so maybe he got something from it. But I know when I got mastitis, he didn't believe I had it for awhile. Plus, when DD was born, we felt soooo lost and the LCs were my saving grace. Our nurses weren't helpful at all.
AFM: took DD to the zoo today since the weather was in the 60s (rained this morning too). Apparently, everyone else thought today was a great day too because the place was packed! DD did great but me, I could barely get my pants up after going to the bathroom one of the times because it was so humid out and they were stuck to me. They have a playground area which is on a tiered area. DD got to the top of one of the slides and started yelling for me to come stop her at the bottom. The tier was at my knees. I really struggled getting up but a nice husband and wife asked if I needed help. I was able to get up but I really did appreciate them acknowledging my struggle.
***TW in Siggy*** Me: 34 / DH: 33 Married: Nov 2011 TTC #1: Jan 2013, BFP Sept 2013, DD: June 2014 TTC #2: Aug 2016, BFP Nov 2016, DS: August 2017
Thanks @bumpybump I have been researching LCs in my area, to have a number or two to call when we get home, and I know that there are LCs in the hospital, and they come to help all the time. I am still going to do the class, mostly becuase DH wanted to go too, and then we can feel covered (maybe).
Also I had a similar situation during my maternity shoot Friday, I was SO HOT, and went to the bathroom, and felt like I might not get the pants up! Actual footage of me on Friday:
**TW Loss/pregnancy mentioned** Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 5/30/16 and MC on 7/6/16 BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17 BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19 BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19 BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2 Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage IVF started Feb 2020 retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal. Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
Mommy to a super cute havanesse puppy and baby boy!
Random quasi-vent: a lot of my neighbors are... gross. I live at the end of a horseshoe-shaped building and can see 40 balconies from mine. For whatever reason, our units were built without screen doors to the balconies. Some neighbors have installed screens (not screen doors, just screens you can attach to the door frame). But, lots of people sit outside with their balcony door wide open to the elements, no screen. My closest neighbor keeps his balcony door open all day long. But guys... BUGS. Seriously. How can you just live without screens? And at night too! Lights attract bugs!! Look, I grew up in a rural farmhouse and am no stranger to creepy crawlies indoors even with screens and I get wanting to save on AC bills but come on. Why are they inviting bugs in? Spiders? Flies? My door will be open just for the 5 seconds it takes me to step inside or outside and a fly gets in. Their units must be so dirty. This doesn't impact me in any way (no infestations have made their way to my unit, anyway) but every time I'm out enjoying my own balcony- with my door closed- I see all these people and just cringe.
@DeansGirl14 I totally hear you. I live in California and we don't have mosquitoes like I'm used to on the east coast which makes this a much bigger deal growing up than it would be here...but every once in a while a housefly or something will get in between the front door (which is to the outside) or the screen to the porch and I chase it around trying to get it out until it's gone. I cannot let it go. Meanwhile, a ton of people who live on the bottom floor don't have screens to their porch - it's the one and only door to get into their apartments with no screen and they just leave it wide open to get air if it's not quite hot enough for AC. It boggles my mind. I attributed it to an east coast vs west coast mentality but you're in the midwest, correct? So now I have no clue.
@littlebug2010 I did Lactation Link's online breastfeeding course with DH.
Definitely sign up for her free 6-day email course, it can't hurt! If you don't purchase her online class right away for full price she'll keep sending you an email for lower prices. We ended up paying like $47 I think (normally $97) for a 78 minute video.
I thought it was kind of helpful but echo what @secicc12 said that I've learned sooo much from our BMB. However, DH learned all. the. things. So to me it was worth it.
@littlebug2010, I was just going to suggest making sure your hospital has an LC on hand to help (mine did not and it was awful), but it sounds like you've already done that. Is there a support group for post partum breastfeeding ladies offered through your hospital that you could maybe sit in on and learn techniques and speak one on one with the LC? Another option may be your local WIC office. They offer breastfeeding support classes, but I have no idea how good they are.
@mrsmatt1212 I was just going to ask about online classes. I'm super cranky the past few weeks and don't feel like sitting in a physical class. Thanks for the input, I think I'm gonna sign up and see how cheap we can get it!
Sorry for all the stress. FWIW, the grandparents may want to know their grandchild despite what their douchebag of a son says. I almost feel bad for his mother if it is the case. If your ex wants nothing to do with his son go through the legal process and have him legally relinquish all rights. The downside the grandparents can get their own lawyer and request/ be granted visitation rights. My aunt/uncle did it and we're successful. They couldn't fathom not knowing their grandchild.
Thanks everyone (too many to tag) on the advice for the class. Because our class was refunded, we were able to go to a different class (free), that hadnt been canceled. We decided to go to one in later July, (lll be 37 weeks) and I am planning to do some good research for LCs and drop in groups around me. Despite living in a larger city, drop in groups and such are a PITA to get to most of the time. So I have been trying to find places outside the city, where I can drive and not have to take the subway. I also took @mrsmatt1212s advice and got the lactation link free course stuff. So between the class, the extra courses, finding an LC and you guys, I feel like I will be covered with support!
**TW Loss/pregnancy mentioned** Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 5/30/16 and MC on 7/6/16 BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17 BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19 BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19 BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2 Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage IVF started Feb 2020 retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal. Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
Mommy to a super cute havanesse puppy and baby boy!
My anxiety is through the roof today. I'm 33+4 and the nursery furniture was set up weeks ago and all non baby items out of the room. I painted some shelves for DH to hang on the wall and he took that to mean it was ok to pile junk in there. He had loaned his sister a tote full of DVDs a couple years ago. She gave them back a few weeks ago and he went through them and left them scattered all over the room. I got them boxed back up and carried to the basement this morning. Bedding set up, but there are still piles of stuff that need gone through. I need him to hang the shelves and decorations. He just keeps saying he'll get it done, but doesn't. Every time I try to do something I have a 2 year old stalker picking everything up and asking 50 million questions. Everything hurts, but I have to ignore it and get stuff done. I'm sure he'll tell me he was going to do it when I tell him it's done. Why can't they just do what we ask the first time instead of making us nag them.
@Lauradi1010 the sad thing is, I reached out to her months ago and she never returned my calls. Instead of returning them, she told my ex and he said that I had no right to contact his family because they want nothing to do with me or Landon. I gave her chances.
@tova24 If that is the case, then you've gone above and beyond, and you have every right at this point to ask him to legally relinquish his rights, and block his mother from creeping on you.
@kristenk727 he slept on me for an hour before I got him put down. Now I've lost all energy and motivation. I have this horrible guilt and feel torn between wanting to treasure the time he has left as an only child and wanting him to amuse himself for 20 minutes so I can get something done.
I totally understand. I'm guilty of renting 3 sesame street dvds and we snuggle while he watches. Not ideal, but he's happy and I can relax and spend time with him.
@SouthernMama15 I've gotten to the point where DH has brushed off and procrastinated what I need him to do (and he knows it) that I give him the option of 2 or 3 items for the evening when he gets home from work and he has to pick one to get done. I've been working on slowly sorting the clothes in the nursery (almost done!) when I'm home from work so sometimes he'll feel guilty and do more than one thing - huge win! We don't have a toddler running around though, so if he's sitting on the couch and I'm doing hours of work on the nursery in the evening it'd be hard for anyone not to feel guilty. I have noticed there are certain things he will always not choose to do though so those are must-dos for this weekend and he knows that too. The man will hang anything (and get frustrated by the process) before having to go through his (I kid you not) 100+ T-shirts and figure out what to donate vs. keep so that I can have the 3 draws of the new nursery dresser he moved his stuff into when we got rid of his old second dresser that had been in there before (he has one the equivalent in size of my two small dressers combined in our master and the use of the entire huge closet in the nursery which he'll keep).
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I'm really sorry he's putting you through this. A close friend experienced the same thing with the father of her child. It blows my mind and is so infuriating how anyone can be like that.
Question for STMs: So I was supposed to go to a breastfeeding class this Sunday, but it was canceled due to low enrollment. I checked the other available times coming up, and none of them have sold any tickets, so I am worried I wont get to go to one. Ive looked around my area, and despite being in Boston, there arent a ton of options. Did any of you do an online class? Or do you have any suggestions of places to look/books to read etc. Thanks!
Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17
BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19
BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19
BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2
Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage
IVF started Feb 2020
retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal.
Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
I'm so sorry you have to deal with that. Definitely sounds like it's better for Landon to have them not involved. Did your ex text you to say that? Make sure you keep the text or get it in writing so that you have a paper trail in case he ever decides to seek custody. In the meantime, make all your social media accounts super private so that they can't stalk you and baby Landon.
@littlebug2010 have you looked into la leche league? They have tons of meetings and resources all over the US.
Together: January 2002
Married: May 2008
Baby: August 2017
Clearly we like to rush along at lightning speed...
@littlebug2010 We took a breastfeeding class last week at the hospital. It was definitely helpful, but I almost feel like I learned the main points from our BMB or just reading other online articles. They made it seem like this very natural process that should just "click" in the first few weeks. Just reading feedback on here, I KNOW that's not always the case. So don't feel too stressed if you can't go to the class in person. Check out some online resources and you'll probably be just as informed as someone who took a class. One helpful thing I did take away from the class was specific lactation consultant resources that my hospital offers. Maybe just call and ask about their offerings?
@littlebug2010, I took a breastfeeding class before my first, but I don't really remember it being super helpful. The most helpful thing was just to work with the nurses and lactation consultant in the hospital and LC after discharge (DD had latch issues and I had to use a nipple shield for quite some time).
#1 - DD: 7/5/12
#2 - DS: 5/21/14
#3 - EDD: 8/25/17
If 'they' want nothing to do with you and your amazing soon to be son, than make sure he can't have anything to do with you. Especially with you considering moving and/or changing jobs, you don't want him to suddenly want a say in what you can do with your son or yourself!
1 infant loss
8/17: Our daughter was born
8/18: Our daughter kicked open heart surgery ass
2/19: We lost our son to Prader-Willi/Paradoxical Vocal Cord/ Noonans at 6wks old
4/26/2020: EDD for baby #3!!!
@smallbutmighty77 - I bought The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding which is published by La Leche League International (which @lewliv mentioned). I'm only about 60 pages in so don't have feedback yet except that so far it is very pro-home birth and no interventions. I'm planning to have it more as a reference when I run into issues later. I am also going to a class (tomorrow) so might have more to add on how much I got out of that. I really want DH to hear a lot of it so that he can support the process in whatever way they recommend and just be aware of how difficult it might be. If you were hoping to have DH join, maybe you can both watch the online class together? My hospital has classes but so does my OB's office (it's a small network) so you might be able to find another option for classes. Otherwise, La Leche League is a great resource although they have meetings, not classes, as far as I'm aware (https://www.llli.org/). This is also a great option after birth to get support and you can bring your baby. From the book, it sounds like if you get in touch with a group, the leaders are usually available for you to contact with questions, too.
Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17
BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19
BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19
BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2
Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage
IVF started Feb 2020
retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal.
Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
@littlebug2010 I went to a BFing course when pregnant with DD. What I remember the most from it was when someone asked about getting mastitis and other "scary" things she had heard about BFing and the instructor brushed her off saying those things were very uncommon. Fast forward to having DD and I got mastitis as did like 75% of my BMB (remember that, @OTmom3?). I'm just saying, the course wasn't very helpful in the end. DH had attended too so maybe he got something from it. But I know when I got mastitis, he didn't believe I had it for awhile. Plus, when DD was born, we felt soooo lost and the LCs were my saving grace. Our nurses weren't helpful at all.
AFM: took DD to the zoo today since the weather was in the 60s (rained this morning too). Apparently, everyone else thought today was a great day too because the place was packed! DD did great but me, I could barely get my pants up after going to the bathroom one of the times because it was so humid out and they were stuck to me. They have a playground area which is on a tiered area. DD got to the top of one of the slides and started yelling for me to come stop her at the bottom. The tier was at my knees. I really struggled getting up but a nice husband and wife asked if I needed help. I was able to get up but I really did appreciate them acknowledging my struggle.
***TW in Siggy***
Me: 34 / DH: 33
Married: Nov 2011
TTC #1: Jan 2013, BFP Sept 2013, DD: June 2014
TTC #2: Aug 2016, BFP Nov 2016, DS: August 2017
Also I had a similar situation during my maternity shoot Friday, I was SO HOT, and went to the bathroom, and felt like I might not get the pants up!
Actual footage of me on Friday:
Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17
BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19
BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19
BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2
Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage
IVF started Feb 2020
retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal.
Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
***TW in Siggy***
Me: 34 / DH: 33
Married: Nov 2011
TTC #1: Jan 2013, BFP Sept 2013, DD: June 2014
TTC #2: Aug 2016, BFP Nov 2016, DS: August 2017
But, lots of people sit outside with their balcony door wide open to the elements, no screen. My closest neighbor keeps his balcony door open all day long. But guys... BUGS. Seriously. How can you just live without screens? And at night too! Lights attract bugs!! Look, I grew up in a rural farmhouse and am no stranger to creepy crawlies indoors even with screens and I get wanting to save on AC bills but come on. Why are they inviting bugs in? Spiders? Flies? My door will be open just for the 5 seconds it takes me to step inside or outside and a fly gets in. Their units must be so dirty. This doesn't impact me in any way (no infestations have made their way to my unit, anyway) but every time I'm out enjoying my own balcony- with my door closed- I see all these people and just cringe.
I just can't even.
#1 - DD: 7/5/12
#2 - DS: 5/21/14
#3 - EDD: 8/25/17
Definitely sign up for her free 6-day email course, it can't hurt! If you don't purchase her online class right away for full price she'll keep sending you an email for lower prices. We ended up paying like $47 I think (normally $97) for a 78 minute video.
I thought it was kind of helpful but echo what @secicc12 said that I've learned sooo much from our BMB. However, DH learned all. the. things. So to me it was worth it.
Sorry for all the stress. FWIW, the grandparents may want to know their grandchild despite what their douchebag of a son says. I almost feel bad for his mother if it is the case. If your ex wants nothing to do with his son go through the legal process and have him legally relinquish all rights. The downside the grandparents can get their own lawyer and request/ be granted visitation rights. My aunt/uncle did it and we're successful. They couldn't fathom not knowing their grandchild.
My breastfeeding class was an absolute joke and didn't help at all. Maybe find a good lactation consultant instead.
Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17
BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19
BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19
BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2
Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage
IVF started Feb 2020
retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal.
Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
I'm so sorry. He sucks ass.
Ugh I totally get the frustration. Men suck lol. Could you work on it while DS is napping do at least you have some quiet?