Why my Pregnant Self is Irritable

car1a

When I get angry lately I go from zero to 100, and when I reflect back it's usually about something pretty stupid (but seemingly very valid at the time). I thought we could hopefully get a laugh out of each other's irritable moments. Or at least we could take comfort in knowing that we're not the only one who's irritable.

car1a

It was raining this morning so I didn't let the dog out right away. Nor did she want to go outside. When DH heard this he took it upon himself to let her out. Little did he know, I had had a plan! I had been checking the radar and it was going to clear up in about 5 minutes. I tried to explain but he already had the dog riled up and outside and so I followed him out onto the porch telling him about MY PLAN and waving my phone (with the radar displayed) at him, my poor dog is standing outside getting rained on and was going to have to get toweled down. Haha, the look on his face (like uh oh). It's like, if I have a plan then you best be aware that I have a plan and that's what's going to happen and if it doesn't then I'm going to be pretty angry.

DuchessOfCambridge

I didn't want to say this yesterday because 1) I was pretty angry at DH and I don't like bashing him because he's actually really wonderful so I needed to wait until I calmed down and 2) it was so so so stupid that it's embarrassing. But I think it's kind of funny now.

All that happened was DH and I were talking about how once we got home, we'd grab our kitty and find out if he was gaining a human boy or human girl. DH joked that he was getting another kitten, as in, I was birthing a kitten. For whatever reason, I found this incredibly offensive and flew into a rage, demanding an apology. DH sometimes will give in to me being crazy and sometimes will try to reason. He tried to reason which naturally did not go over well, so the logical thing to do in my mind was shut myself in our bedroom and cry. And that was why I didn't want to look at the gender paper anymore. Eventually (because @ElizabethSchuyler made me laugh) I told him how to fix it and he did and it was all fine.

Dang, that looks even more ridiculous typed out. I'm nuts, guys.

cmessamore

One word, HORMONES! And yes, I've been the same way too!! 

AntWolfe

Yep. Same here. I have been super irrationally angry. I keep trying to bring myself back down to rational but I stay angry. 

kissthesky32

@DuchessOfCambridge That is hilarious! I'm sorry you were so upset, but I'm impressed your DH was able to even try to reason with you. Mine would have busted out laughing. 

car1a

@DuchessOfCambridge That did make me giggle but only because I'm right there with you! I can't predict little things that are said that could set me off but then in retrospect it's kind of funny. A few weeks ago I actually stormed up the stairs like a teenager because DH was making the coffee wrong (I've been drinking a mix of regular and decaf and he was putting in too much regular) and I didn't want to talk to him for awhile after. I'm usually a chill person so I think that I need to talk to DH about how best he should handle these situations.

DuchessOfCambridge

@kissthesky32 I was so dramatic too, I threw myself on the bed and proceeded to sob. I knew I was being nuts and I should let it go but I didn't care and I didn't want to hahaha. And obviously since he told me I was being ridiculous it made me more angry. But really though, just let the pregnant lady win lol.

@car1a to be fair, I am not a chill person in general and am kind of worried my baby will also have no chill lol. Your coffee story makes me feel better though!

jess0211

Work. On. My. Last. Nerve. Just found out I will be in this temporary, shared office space until well into my 3rd Tri. I want to cry. This is not a good space at all.

BayCamp

DH called me an hour and half ago and said he should be leaving work "any minute" and still isn't on his way home. DS has been car napping for the last hour (we just got home from the water park) and I'm stuck in the driveway. I was really hoping he'd be home by now so I wouldn't have to lug a 30 pound half asleep toddler in the house and I'm irrationally irritated that it's looking inescapable. 

bcashaw

Irrationally devastated.  Here's a longish story. 
 So I bought this adorable cube storage for my nursery it's super cute and it says on the box that it fits with the standard box sixes 10.5x11 I checked the cubes at home depot and Canadian tire and they were indeed 10.5x11 so I was like k perfect. Then I go on the babies r us sit so I can choose really cute ones to go in it. I hum and haw and call my best friend because I can't decide which cubes to get. FINALLY Decide on a really cute cube combination only to find that the cubes are 13x13 . Fml. I hate everything . 

ugoglencoco

They just gave me a vanilla milkshake instead of chocolate and I'm about to legit cry my face off. All I want is a chocolate milkshake.

kwaldy

I wanted a KFC famous bowl for lunch, ordered it, got to the drive thru window where they told me "they were out of bowls to make them." I was so upset I cried, but it was out of frustration 

ugoglencoco

ugoglencoco said:

They just gave me a vanilla milkshake instead of chocolate and I'm about to legit cry my face off. All I want is a chocolate milkshake.

And now DH told me to just drink the vanilla. And I want to TP him SO HARD RIGHT NOW.

av2323

Dh and I alternate doing the dishes.  I like a clean kitchen and do them immediately following dinner.  I'm silently fuming because the sink is overflowing with dinner dishes and we are 3 hours ago.  It would be easier to just ask him to do them but instead I'm just bitching to my pregnant internet friends.

DuchessOfCambridge

ugoglencoco said:

ugoglencoco said:

They just gave me a vanilla milkshake instead of chocolate and I'm about to legit cry my face off. All I want is a chocolate milkshake.

And now DH told me to just drink the vanilla. And I want to TP him SO HARD RIGHT NOW.

Your feelings are valid from the crying to the TP. I'd be pissed. I get so mad when we get sushi and they don't give extra spicy mayo. 

car1a

Yes, any feelings related to food are automatically validated. I've never before been so picky so it's definitely upsetting to have your mind set on something- AND close to getting it - only to not get it after all!

bcashaw

@av2323 I have the same peeve with the dishes piled in the sink. We made a rule (for the kids but DH has to follow too) that dishes have to be done before 8pm. 
Also, sometimes I use my "super sensitive" pregnancy nose as an excuse as to why they need to be done right this second. 

MississippiCatfish

I'm feeling very lazy as dishes OFTEN wait until the next morning when I'm pregnant. I have zero energy left for that after the kids are in bed! 

bcashaw

@MississippiCatfish my nesting needs are much higher than my exhaustion these past few days. 

cmessamore

@bcashaw I'm super jealous! My exhaustion level definitely overrides my drive to get things ready for the baby. I'm sooooo tired! 

bcashaw

It's actually kind of ridiculous I'm doing stuff that isn't nessicary AT ALL . Like
.. no I don't need the cup organized by size that's ridiculous 

liz4382

I cried once because I didn't get honey mustard with my chicken nuggets at Wendy's. And I wasn't even pregnant then!  Fast food disappointment is real and valid, ladies.

baby3forme

I can't eat anything because my teeth ache too much.  I got my spacers put in yesterday because I get my braces put on next week (just the top and rubber bands). I am not excited. It's only been a day and I miss food.

tsa208

Husband usually wakes up an hour and a half earlier than I do to catch up on household stuff (especially since all I do lately is sleep and he's really had to take over). But the other day, I woke up around the same time and went downstairs (in a terrible mood) and proceeded to talk his ear off about his mother, who had done something to annoy me. He told me that he couldn't deal with it right then, that he really needed this time to get stuff done and that me waking up early really messed with his own schedule because mornings were his only time to get stuff done (he has a crazy demanding job), why don't I just go relax in bed. That really hurt my feelings because I took it as he didn't want me around, immediately busted into tears, and said "FINE, I'LL JUST LEAVE" and went upstairs to cry in bed, spilling coffee everywhere as I stomped away. Poor husband came up after me, hugged me, made it all better. Patience of an angel. So far, he still finds these tantrums funny because they're so out of character. Not sure how long that'll keep up, lol.

tsa208

I also get serious road rage now. Before the hormones, it was easy, breezy, nothing bothers me, if got a good song playing, I'm fine. Now, it's best for me to just stay off the road if I can help it! 

NYTino24

bcashaw said:

Irrationally devastated.  Here's a longish story. 
 So I bought this adorable cube storage for my nursery it's super cute and it says on the box that it fits with the standard box sixes 10.5x11 I checked the cubes at home depot and Canadian tire and they were indeed 10.5x11 so I was like k perfect. Then I go on the babies r us sit so I can choose really cute ones to go in it. I hum and haw and call my best friend because I can't decide which cubes to get. FINALLY Decide on a really cute cube combination only to find that the cubes are 13x13 . Fml. I hate everything . 

Try Michaels for baskets. I had the same issue and while they are more durable than the fabric ones.

NYTino24

baby3forme said:

I can't eat anything because my teeth ache too much.  I got my spacers put in yesterday because I get my braces put on next week (just the top and rubber bands). I am not excited. It's only been a day and I miss food.

I had adult braces. Try frozen Gogurt!

baby3forme

@NYTino24 I don't know how I'm going to survive! I had yogurt today and that was okay but not what I was craving.. lol I wish I could've waited until after pregnancy to get braces.

bcashaw

@NYTino24 thanks!I found some cute ones at the dollar store today so I grabbed them. I figure if I don't like them or if I find cuter ones I'll send FD toys and clothes home in them. Or like find somewhere else (probably the basement) to put them 

bcashaw

Oh also I'm irritable because I got headlice because biomom took the kids to sleep at their cousins house who we all know ALWAYS has headlice. Sigh 
Also because I think I have an ear infection.. or maybe I've been clenching my teeth only on one side at night? Either way it's progressively getting worse and I imagine I'll have to get it checked out soon.

am+mommy

I'm irritable constantly lately and I have no idea why. Just pissy all day. DD2 has been killing me lately with her constant defiance and yelling. (I think she gets frustrated because she can't speak so she just screams and gets upset. Which I understand but can't tolerate that well) DH also has no sympathy or patience for me and just gets snippy. He's been even more irritable than me lately. I feel bad for my dogs with 3 pissed off people in the house haha

jess0211

There's no specific one thing but I am finding DH is on my last nerve lately. I feel badly about it but at the same time he keeps making "jokes" that I am not finding funny, I am so over his man cold...go to the doctor or shut up. I am awful. I feel badly, he's really sweet but seriously on my last nerve. I am also finding my patience with m co workers to be non existent anymore. I walk in the office and I'm irritated. I am normally a really patient, easy going girl, but lately ...man, everyone is on my.last.nerve.

NYTino24

baby3forme said:

@NYTino24 I don't know how I'm going to survive! I had yogurt today and that was okay but not what I was craving.. lol I wish I could've waited until after pregnancy to get braces.

I had them at 25 and the first few days of talking to my students with the (removable) palate expander was rough because I kept feeling like I was going to choke. Rice pudding, cold jello, and ice cream should help for a little, even though it isn't very filling. Ask your doc for Magic Mouthwash if they hurt. It has Benadryl, lidocaine, and Maslow. It tastes gross, but numbs and then you can eat a few minutes later. Good luck! I had to go every two weeks to get the braces tightened and cried a lot because of the pain I was in since my gums and tongue were all cut up even with the wax. Use the wax as much as possible!! PS it was totally worth it because my teeth looked way better.

NYTino24

@bcashaw I clench and grind. It makes me feel like I have an ear infection when I don't. I also get headaches that are really referred pain from my ear / jaw. Ask your dentist about a nightguard if you think you have TMJ and check out triggerpoint therapy. I sleep so much better with mine. PS again with the lice? You can't win!!! What does the judge say?

jess0211

right after I posted my co worker walks in and starts in on how this office space isn't working for her and every day her sinuses are bothering her and she KNOWS it's the office space and is demanding to be moved. Mind you, my DH happens to be the person for work who actually tests the air etc. and he did an informal assessment and it's fine. He  wouldn't let his pregnant wife work in a space that was harmful. Second, the room is fine. Yes, the space sucks but it's not hazardous in anyway. She is just being a special snowflake and wants her own office. Mind you the person who really needs her own office is me as I do confidential work, but noooooo, give it to the lady who watches netflix and plays on FB all day because she special. I swear guys, I CANNOT deal with this children I share an office with anymore.

NYTino24

@jess0211 Good riddance! Hopefully she goes far away from you.

jess0211

@NYTino24 honestly, as annoyed as I am with the behavior, it's probably a blessing in disguise. The other girl quit so her last day is next week and if this girl moves to another space I get a private office back. Granted the space will have two random desks and boxes in it, but at least I can perhaps be more productive.

MississippiCatfish

We were supposed to have a play date at a friend's house this morning, and she cancelled last minute.  I'm irritated because she was texting the group of about 10 moms a few days ago saying how overwhelmed she was, please bring your own snacks because I won't have time to get anything, I'm going to need your kids to all help clean up for real afterward, please don't pack lunches like I originally suggested because I need everyone gone by noon etc. (all perfectly fine things, no problems there)  She talked about how overloaded she was and overbooked and she shouldn't have scheduled it in the first place.  We all encouraged her then to just let it go and we'd find another date.  She insisted it would be fine.  And now she's cancelling last minute.  And every other mom is being supppppper nice and supportive about it, and I'm over here feeling all stabby and just not replying I am a horrible person when I'm pregnant!! So moody!!! 

kissthesky32

@jess0211 Can you just leave and find an empty space somewhere else on campus? Walk in, wave, then leave to do your actually confidential work somewhere else?

NYTino24

@MississippiCatfish That is totally understandable on your part.