October 2017 Moms

Weekly BFest (5/29-6/4)

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Re: Weekly BFest (5/29-6/4)

  • @crazypuglady we just signed up last night for some classes in August. They are free and the labor class is only 2 classes long so I don't see the harm in going. I also signed myself up for a breastfeeding class and then we are also going to infant CPR class. I'm sure that it all depends on personal preference whether you really "need" them or not... I'm an over-planner and I mostly like the idea of spending more time in the hospital where I will deliver and interacting with other couples who are going through the same thing. My hubby is also on the fence about really wanting to go... At first I got upset with him when he adamantly refused to read any of the books I bought, but I find that he just needs to do things on his own time and it helps when I lay out options and back off. So yeah, I'm doing classes for me :-)

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  • @callababy17- He really wants to do the newborn class, and thinks the CRP and safety classes are a good idea too. I think his main aversion to the labor class is the fact that it's 12 hours of class. He doesn't understand his role in being taught breathing and calming techniques. I keep telling him it will teach him how to help me through it. He said he can do that just fine without a class. My argument is... it's 12 hours for a reason.. they don't drag all this out on purpose.. it must be important to know. There's also a tour of the center included in the class... but you can go on one without taking the class too. Sigh.

    We prob wont be doing any classes until August, so there's time to discuss it more. Maybe I can ask my midwife about it at my next apt.




    Me: 36 / DH: 37
    Met: 9/21/08
    Married: 10/5/13
    BFP #1- 2/5/17 * EDD- 10/18/17 * DD born- 10/25/17
    BFP #2 3/18/19 * EDD 11/25/19* DS born 11/30/19
  • soprano19soprano19 member
    edited May 2017
    My BF is also my H. We're about to start the house hunting process, but we live in the most expensive city in the entire country, so it's a huge ordeal to find something in our price range that's in a decent area.

    Last night I mentioned something about looking at nursery furniture this weekend, and he hesitated because he doesn't want to buy anything yet because we might move before the baby is born. When he said that, I started thinking about how all of our previous moves (we've lived 4 different places in 6 years of marriage) have fallen 90% on me, and how buying a house can take several months, which might very well put us right around when the baby is due. I brought up that I'm nervous about trying to close on a house and move right around when we have a baby, especially when I've done most of the work for all of our previous moves. He got all offended and doesn't seem to understand that having a newborn is going to take all of our time and energy and it's going to be hard enough without adding in a move.

    Honestly, if we found the absolute perfect house and that was the timeline we had to abide by, we could suck it up, but I'm worried that he's going to want to wait to get anything ready for the baby until like the end of September "just in case we move before the baby is born," and I can't deal with that. Ugh.
  • Ugh.  My whole doctors appointment was so weird today. My ultrasound was at 3:30, and then a regular OB appointment at 4:15. We didn't get called back until 4:00 for the ultrasound. Apparently the receptionist didn't check us in correctly so they didn't know we were there. Then my whole anatomy scan felt super rushed. She was really quiet the whole time and not very friendly. She gave us the ultrasound pics at the end but I didn't look at them until we left. There were two pics of the genitals...one said boy, and one says girl.

    WTF.

    i mean, she told us it was a boy and pointed out the penis, but come on. I guess she was just super rushed. I'm just annoyed, and now there's a silly little nagging thought in the back of my head that it's really a girl.
    wtf. i would be super annoyed. sorry this happened to you :(

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  • My BF: I know you're supposed to have an increased heart rate during pregnancy but last night it was just uncomfortable. It didn't even feel like it was beating fast just harder than normal. As a result I didn't fall asleep until after 2am. Thankfully I have the day off but man that was annoying. I don't know for it's something I'm eating before bed or what.
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    TTC Since 1/1/2017
    BFP: 2/6/2017
    Due Date: 10/13/17
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  • VLillyVVLillyV member
    @feeislove +1. I can feel my heart in my uterus, in my temples sometimes, and so strongly in my chest. It's uncomfortable depending how I lay and how much I focus on it. I've even checked my BP and everything pans out normally. Poor mama :( big hugs to you. 

    I find that when I move around too quickly and suddenly lay down is when I get it the worst.
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  • I'm right there with the crazy heartbeat thing. Keeps me up sometimes, too!



  • jasmuinjasmuin member
    @crazypuglady the doctor with my first baby told me they were a waste of time so I never went to a birthing class.
    During my labor though the nurses and dr were awful and never explained anything (I never looked anything up either) it was a super long labor, 34 hours and 1.5 hours pushing. I wish I had taken a class or looked up info before hand so I knew what to do and what to expect. 
    So if you aren't taking a class then make sure and research it! 
  • @lola1144 @crazypuglady yeah it's still bugging me today. I might call for peace of mind or I know the ultrasound notes will be in my online record soon so I'm hoping they will also give a definitive answer lol

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  • @soprano19- Yeah that sounds like a nightmare. Maybe get some essentials- like a pack n play for baby to sleep in, some clothes/blankets, car seat/stroller/carrier, plastic storage bins- just the things you know you will need and can use in the event a room is not ready. The minimum so that you have piece of mind. Your H also needs to know that even if you wait.. you're going to be very limited in what you can handle in the 3rd tri and with a newborn. It's possible and can be done.. but you won't be able to help, period.

    What about your shower? You're going to be getting a lot of stuff for that... stuff you'll have to pack and move.. so it doesn't make sense to get zero things ready. Plus, even if you find a house.. the deal might fall through and you'll be back to square one. Too risky to not have anything for baby beforehand.

    @jasmuin- Thanks for the advice.. I asked a coworker about it and she said the day she was supposed to take her class, she went into labor so she never got to take it. She also said the nurses don't really tell you anything until you're already doing it and she wished she got the chance to take the class. I'm still leaning more towards wanting to take it.. the question is.. how hard to I push for DH to come lol.




    Me: 36 / DH: 37
    Met: 9/21/08
    Married: 10/5/13
    BFP #1- 2/5/17 * EDD- 10/18/17 * DD born- 10/25/17
    BFP #2 3/18/19 * EDD 11/25/19* DS born 11/30/19
  • +1 to feeling the heartbeat in my uterus. I can't believe how strong it is! 
  • We have our board meeting in SoCal this weekend and I am in charge with communicating with the hotel about rooms and meals.  We are having dinner at the hotel one of the evenings, the rest of the time we'll be dining off site.  I was sent the menu weeks ago with no specifications (only one salad for everyone, we can only select items from certain options, etc...no other instructions other than what was on the menu (pick a salad, entree, and dessert).  I send the info to the hotel last week and I get an email last evening saying that they want us pick one salad for everyone, choose between two entrees, and two desserts.  They said that they'll honor the entree selection, but want us to narrow down the salad and dessert options.  Our meeting is this Friday-Sunday, and the communication between myself and the hotel has been crap (I email...I don't hear back.  I follow up again, don't hear anything).  

    We're having a conference in the spring (I'll be the conference chair), and with how the communication is starting out, I'm not very happy.  We're splitting the conference between this hotel and convention center.  The convention center has been awesome in regards to communicating, but the hotel is really pissing me off.  
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  • The heartbeat is crazy strong! I constantly hear and/or feel it throughout the day, too. 

    BF: The last few days I've been a complete slug. I'm trying to walk every day and I just haven't been able to move lately! I'm so over it!! The exhaustion is real. 
  • migdalamigdala member
    BF:  DH flew to Seattle from Denver this morning on the 7am flight and his phone is STILL off.  He knows I freak the eff out when I can't get ahold of him -- my anxiety runs wild and I start imagining all the different ways he could have died and thinking about how long it will take for me to be notified.  I'm losing my damn mind over here and keep obsessively checking the news.  I don't know his flight info but I'm about to stalk the sh*t out of all the flights to Seattle that went out this morning.  Anxiety is the worst!!!
  • @migdala oh that would drive me nuts! I hate when DH pulls crap like that. Hang in there, I'm sure he's fine.

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  • riverrainezriverrainez member
    edited May 2017
    @migdala That kind of stuff drives me crazy too. I always reassure myself that if a plane crashed it would definitely be all over the news, but then I have to check google and local news to make sure there haven't been any car crashes.  This happened a few months ago when my mom was watching DS for the day and was late bringing him home, and her phone was off. I kept picturing their car going off a ravine or something where no one would know they crashed. I was seriously about to get in my car and start looking when finally she called.

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  • @crazypuglady my H feels the same about the classes. He doesn't understand why he needs to go and thinks we should be able to get the same info from a book. But I'm making him go anyway. I think it will also be helpful to meet other expecting parents in our area. 
     
    @soprano19 I feel you with moving while pregnant. I agree with the advice to at least get some basics and then get the rest when you move, knowing that could be after baby arrives.
  • @crazypuglady i found my birth class to be super beneficial and I think DH did too.  Plus getting to know the others in the class was nice and we had a reunion once all the babies were born.  Labor is not always something that you figure out as you go, as the partner or the mother.  If you feel strongly about him being in the classes or don't have confidence that he will do any real prep to support you through labor in the way you might need, tell him you're interested in hiring a doula to coach/support you through labor.
    TTC x 1.5 years.
    Acupuncture, Femera x3 cyles, and HSG.
    BFP in September 2014, DS born June 2015.
    TTC x2 months.
    BFP January 2017.


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  • @migdala FFWC: I almost never put my phone on airplane mode. I only do it when my battery is low or if I'm traveling internationally and plan to keep it that way to avoid roaming charges. Glad your H had smooth travels otherwise. 
  • I hope the day gets better for you @bluejeanbabi05 ! What a morning already. 

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  • @canonmom413 ugh the thumping. This one surprisingly doesn't do it (at least yet) but all my other rabbits were loud thumpers and drove me nuts. I did buy him a chew toy that had a bell on it, who is the idiot who decided to put a bell on those?? It lasted all of a day until I got sick of it and pried it off and threw it away. 
  • lol @lola4411 I don't know if it's thoughtfulness or just a deep-seated horror of having donuts wasted...



  • ariz17ariz17 member
    BF - So we leased a Jeep in BFs name at the end of April. So yesterday being the end of May BF is like, "oh we need to figure out how to pay the bill." AKA he means I do because I always figure out the bills. We received no bill in the mail or via email, so I called the dealership twice yesterday and left two voicemails and i never received a phone call back?!!

    Aren't you guys in the business of making money??? I am basically begging you guys to take my money! Its so frustrating. I finally got an email from someone that said to contact the financing company (we went with the dealership financing company) yet he fails to give me anyyyyyy contact information for these people. AND I already left a voicemail with the finance guy AND he never called me back. I'm so frustrated. BF says hes going to deal with it today. I'm just thinking if I didn't do my job I would be fired. WTF are these people doing. We just want to pay our bill!!

    Sorry for all the caps and extra letters. I feel they help me verbalize my frustrations.  :)

  • I could really go for a pink donut right now. 

    @carries2018 I don't have any advice but I hope the EI and H following through more helps. Hugs!!
  • @carries2018 Ughhh that sounds so frustrating! I'm sorry to hear DD's tantrums are severe enough for her to harm herself. That's never easy to deal with, and I'm sure it sucks for someone to tell you it's a normal behavior. I wish I had advice! 
  • @ChocolateIsLife I especially like that the donut is filled with cream hahaha
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