@Kathryn0903 granted this was nearly 33 years ago, but my mom found out less than a month before we were born that we were twins. They didn't do ultrasounds back then unless they thought something might be wrong. She was due Christmas day. She went into the hospital November 5th and had a c section November 13th. Doctor kept telling her she was gaining too much weight, so when she saw a different doctor October 17th, surprise 2 babies.
DH has twin uncles that are 37 or 38. His grandma went to the doctor and they thought she was measuring big so they did an ultrasound. She gets home and is cooking supper. Phone rings, it's her doctor telling her he's got the ultrasound from the hospital and that she needs to sit down. He tells her it's twins. They asked her if she wanted to get induced the next day but she said she would go on her own. She went into labor the next day. After 3 daughters (the oldest was my MIL who was 15 or 16) and the youngest was around 8, they had twin boys.
I cannot imagine not knowing till right before or at delivery. My mom said she went home and cried because she didn't know how they would take care of 2.
@bumpybump DH's "work wife." You know the expression? It's basically your best platonic friend at work but the "wife/husband" element is often added in if it's someone of the opposite sex. So DH and his best friend at work are competing for the same promotion.
I know what "work wife" means. I was confused who had the work wife, your DH or the VP. I can't believe you actually call her his work wife though. No way would I be ok with that. Any "couples" we called that at work (not to their faces) were always rumored to be in affairs.
***TW in Siggy*** Me: 34 / DH: 33 Married: Nov 2011 TTC #1: Jan 2013, BFP Sept 2013, DD: June 2014 TTC #2: Aug 2016, BFP Nov 2016, DS: August 2017
@bumpybump DH's "work wife." You know the expression? It's basically your best platonic friend at work but the "wife/husband" element is often added in if it's someone of the opposite sex. So DH and his best friend at work are competing for the same promotion.
I know what "work wife" means. I was confused who had the work wife, your DH or the VP. I can't believe you actually call her his work wife though. No way would I be ok with that. Any "couples" we called that at work (not to their faces) were always rumored to be in affairs.
Eh, nope, doesn't bother me. I've known DH a little over 5 years. He's known her about 10 years. If anything was going to happen, it would've happened long before I came along. We've hung out with her and her husband after work. It's all good.
@DeansGirl14 I totally had a 'work husband' that my DH referred to as my work husband, but he was gay so maybe that made my DH more comfortable with it? Plus we became good couple friends with him and his partner. He even stood up in our wedding-on my side. DH has not had a work wife.
TW: 1 infant loss 8/17: Our daughter was born 8/18: Our daughter kicked open heart surgery ass 2/19: We lost our son to Prader-Willi/Paradoxical Vocal Cord/ Noonans at 6wks old 4/26/2020: EDD for baby #3!!!
@DeansGirl14 I had a work wife when I was teaching. She was the other 6th grade math teacher, and she and I spent almost more time together than DH and I did some weeks, so thats what we called each other. Dh also had a work wife, when he was working in consulting. I think the main reason they got along so well together, was he was the only married male that was under 40, and she was in a serious relationship as well. They had to be dressed really nicely every day, so they kept each other in check. We went to her wedding almost 2 years ago, and she is one of my best girl friends now! Im not sure how I would have felt about her if she had been single, but who knows. DH works almost 100% with males now, so I joke that his old boss was his work husband!
**TW Loss/pregnancy mentioned** Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 5/30/16 and MC on 7/6/16 BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17 BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19 BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19 BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2 Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage IVF started Feb 2020 retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal. Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
Mommy to a super cute havanesse puppy and baby boy!
DH has a graduation ceremony in Austin the middle of June. I'll be 32 weeks. I was hoping we could take an extra day (pending drs approval for me to go) to just relax somewhere else other than home. But since it's a military trip he is pretty sure he has to leave with everyone else right after his graduation. Of course his boss is out of town this week so he can't confirm anything and he doesn't even know if they've already booked his flights. Do I really want to do a 4 hr flight just to turn around and fly back the next day?
I'm enjoying the thread about running out of alcohol. My DH works for a local winery and his actual office is in a brewery, so we always have nothing short of 10-20 cases of wine and beer in our garage. I have to beg him not to buy it when it is on sale. Beer isn't even good that long. It doesn't get better with age. And who needs 7 cases of wine on an average day, especially since I haven't drank more than 6 glasses in 6 months including cooking with it.
NJ's liquor laws are meh. Not as bad as PA but not nearly as relaxed as other states. No alcohol at all in regular grocery stores or Target. No hard alcohol sales anywhere after 10pm. Many towns still have blue laws on the books and prohibit alcohol sales on Sundays. Certain size breweries are required to give you a tour of their facility before they can sell you any beer and they can't sell food (which is kinda great because that allows them to choose to be dog-friendly and you can bring your own food in). It's so expensive to get liquor licenses in many towns or towns don't issue more licenses which result in many great BYOB restaurant options.
I really know too much about this topic. booze
Together: January 2002 Married: May 2008 Baby: August 2017
Clearly we like to rush along at lightning speed...
Oh my gosh, I would die if I found out in labor that we were having twins. It took a good 4-5 weeks for me to grasp the idea and get excited about it. I cried a lot that first week. Ffmc?
DH worked with this girl who referred to him as her work husband, which was odd because she also worked with her actual husband. It didn't bother me because I knew DH secretly hated her.
@mango517 It makes me feel better that other states have pretty strict liquor/beer laws too! We moved from Ohio (which has pretty lax laws) to Pennsylvania last year. I had no clue what I was in for. Being able to pick up cold beer at the grocery store or gas station was so nice! Gawd, I would love to subscribe to a wine-of-the-month club but can't because of our dumb laws here!
The first day May 2007 The yes day April 2012 The best day Nov 2013
My first run-in with wacky liquor laws was when I was going to tailgate before a baseball game on a Sunday. The 7-11 wouldn't sell me my little bottle of vodka. It was like, 10am and they can't sell until 11am. I told the guy, "But.... baseball. Tailgating. What am I supposed to do?" and he just shrugged.
Another time I was in a county in Michigan where they can't sell beer or wine on a Sunday, but due to a loophole they can have liquor. So we had to get vodka orange juices at brunch instead of a mimosa. Derp.
In Germany everything is closed on Sunday. Everything. Unless it's that towns open Sunday then some shops can choose to open. It's such a pain in the ass. I really like to grocery shop on Sunday.
The work wife thing has always been associated with affaires here too.
Just gave DD some Tylenol because she's teething and running a slight fever. I checked on the tooth, and surprise! she has 3 molars coming in. No wonder she's cranky!
Just gave DD some Tylenol because she's teething and running a slight fever. I checked on the tooth, and surprise! she has 3 molars coming in. No wonder she's cranky!
@bumpybump good idea. I guess I could ask the people at the brewery how long an unopened growler stays fresh
Also, I've referred to two different people that I've worked with in the past as my work wives (we shared patients - them as the physical therapist, me as the occupational therapist). I think DH might have had an issue if it was a male that I was calling my work husband though.
@OTmom3 A regular growler won't keep long (usually it's recommended to drink within 48hrs but you can push to a week or two). If you can get a counter-pressure growler fill or a crowler, they can keep until after the baby is here. Just keep in mind that hoppy bears, such as IPAs, should be drank as fresh as possible.
@britvahok me too! Another woman in my class is a twin and said her mom didn't know she was having twins until she was in labor!
This! I'm a twin. My mom was actually induced because they thought she was over her due date since she was so big. Nope. Just two babies in there. Turns out we were a month or so premature. Still have no idea how her OB had no clue. I thought the late 70's had more advanced medical care than what she got.
Im not a twin, but when I was born, my mom had only had one US and that didnt really do a lot (it was for spina bifida) because it was at like 18 weeks for her. She had no clue going into labor that I was not in the right position, and the doctors didnt know until after they broke her water, and my feet came out! This was the late 80s and on a naval base, so prenatal care was not its priority. My mom tells me all the time about how shocked she was, when she had my sister, how much care she missed out on with me. She didnt have any of the normal screenings (like GD), she only saw the OB twice, once for initial blood check to confirm pregnancy (where they found something to do with spina bifida) and then the one US to confirm that I didnt have it. Medical care has come a long way!
**TW Loss/pregnancy mentioned** Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 5/30/16 and MC on 7/6/16 BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17 BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19 BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19 BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2 Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage IVF started Feb 2020 retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal. Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
Mommy to a super cute havanesse puppy and baby boy!
I was a twin and *TW....* my mom miscarried my twin but they did not know there were twins and she was put back on migraine meds and had an x-ray for something. It was almost a month later she still wasn't feeling right and went back to the doctor who suddenly realized she was still pregnant-with me!
Lets just say I asked my US tech to triple check that there was just one when they were looking!
TW: 1 infant loss 8/17: Our daughter was born 8/18: Our daughter kicked open heart surgery ass 2/19: We lost our son to Prader-Willi/Paradoxical Vocal Cord/ Noonans at 6wks old 4/26/2020: EDD for baby #3!!!
Since the babymoon thread got shut down, I want to talk about it here. We are going on ours in 17 days, and I CANNOT WAIT! My FIL is paying to take us to Kauai (which is the only way we could afford to go considering I am taking 12 week unpaid off work this year). It is going to be heaven. And we get to take my step-daughter who is 10 and has never been. She is going to love it, and I am so excited to take her snorkeling and just to see how gorgeous it is there.
I tried on my swimsuits this weekend and definitely have a very interesting body thing going on, but DH assures me that it is obvious that I am pregnant and don't just look huge. I'm glad I don't have to buy all new swimsuits, cause I got such a nice one last summer that I love.
I'm super excited today: I finished my "before baby checklist!!!!!!" Got Landon a pediatrician, got him enrolled in the #1 daycare facility in Dallas, finished baby shopping, baby-proofing, nursery, etc. I feel like I can now relax
@tova24 that's awesome! You're such an overachiever having all that accomplished! Or maybe I am just way under acheiving...anyone else feel like they have a lot left to do?
@mrsw2017 I have lots left to do! I have a random assortment of things I've gotten/ordered, but I haven't even started the pediatrician or childcare hunts Not to mention that our nursery is still my husband's junk room.
@mrsw2017 and @SpotConlon I've always been really Type A. Also I live alone/ am doing this alone so I figured I would start early so that I would have plenty of time to explore all my options (Dr, childcare, swaddle blankets), ask plenty of questions,and get things done before I get too tired. Trust me, you giys are not behind. People ha e been raising their eyebrows at me for months. My hospital straight up was confused when I prepaid my hospital costs.
@SpotConlon Oh thank goodness. I have found a sitter, (though she hasnt yet formally accepted), but other than that all we've done is cleared out the spare room. I keep telling myself that after my shower I'll know exactly what I'll need so I'll start then. My shower is Sunday so I don't have much procrastinating time left!
We are on two wait lists for childcare, and we've booked classes, but that's really it! My shower is on the 3rd so after that I'm sure I'll get a lot more organized.
@DeansGirl14 one of the places I looked at had a $200 waitlist fee! When I found out that they didn't require your kid to have immunizations, I passed and went with Primrose.
I have the pediatrician, daycare checked off...and the nursery is pretty much cleared out but nothing else. my shower isn't until July, so there is only so much we can do. Hoping to order the furniture this weekend so it gets here before LO does.
TW: 1 infant loss 8/17: Our daughter was born 8/18: Our daughter kicked open heart surgery ass 2/19: We lost our son to Prader-Willi/Paradoxical Vocal Cord/ Noonans at 6wks old 4/26/2020: EDD for baby #3!!!
really random but i just had a guy probably younger than me from liberty university stop by i'm guessing he's a recruiter. anyways when i answered the door he asked if my parents were home! ha ha i realize i'm short but i'm 24 years old with a toddler clinging to my leg and a 29 week pregnant belly... i'm still dying
Another random- I don't think I've seen this discussed too much yet. Has anyone had, or is anyone considering, a drug-free birth? All my friends that I know of all had epidurals, some had scheduled inductions and scheduled Cs, and many told me drugs are just necessary. I took for granted I'd just ask for an epidural. But, from what I'm reading, not having one (or at least having a "walking" epidural) could potentially help labor go faster because I'd be taking natural cues from my body, I can walk/squat to get Baby in optimal position, etc. I'm starting to think I'd rather have a shorter, more painful labor and get it over with than labor longer under the influence. Now, granted, if I decide this is my birth plan I reserve the right to change my mind and demand drugs in the heat of the moment, and of course I'll do whatever is deemed medically necessary and probably with no disappointment (I'm go-with-the-flow), but I'm curious to hear experiences from those who had those types of birth, or hear from others why they're considering it. Edit- I seriously can't type today.
@DeansGirl14 I signed up for all of the drugs, but when push came to shove (pun not intended, but I'll take it), my OB asked that I not have the epidural because he needed to get DD out quickly (there was meconium leaking and they kept losing her heart rate). I don't regret it for a second, and I hope to goodness I'm strong enough to do it again this time around.
@DeansGirl14 I wanted to have DS without an epidural and people were so nasty about it. Wound up with a scheduled c section because he was breech and not having an option. You do what you are comfortable with. My aunt had her first so quickly the anesthesiologist didn't habe time to get to her room, her 2nd was induced with an epidural. She said she preferred the induction with epidural. My sister was induced and had epidurals with both. Her 1st she pushed for 2.5 hours, the second she pushed 11 minutes. It varies from person to person and pregnancy to pregnancy, but no matter what, don't worry what others think or say!
@DeansGirl14 Im all for the drugs. However, if like @HappyToBeHere said, my OB says not to, then I wont. I want this baby to come out the safest way possible, and that means listening to my doctors. I think that if you want to have a drug free birth, thats awesome, and if not, thats awesome too!
**TW Loss/pregnancy mentioned** Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 5/30/16 and MC on 7/6/16 BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17 BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19 BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19 BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2 Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage IVF started Feb 2020 retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal. Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
Mommy to a super cute havanesse puppy and baby boy!
@DeansGirl14 so much depends on your situation. I have a high pain tolerance, but once my water broke my contractions were absolutely unbearable. I wanted to die during each one and was asking them for the epi with every wave. It took an hour for my blood work to come back and the anesthesiologist to come in, at which point I was already at 9. Once I got the epi, my labor was a dream and I was all smiles and talking through it instead of wanting to strangle any person not going through the pain I was going through. I was still able to feel everything and move my legs without help. I felt all of my body's natural cues to push and was even told to hold it until my OB could come into the room. Once she got there, he was out in one push.
Re: Weekly Random 5/22
DH has twin uncles that are 37 or 38. His grandma went to the doctor and they thought she was measuring big so they did an ultrasound. She gets home and is cooking supper. Phone rings, it's her doctor telling her he's got the ultrasound from the hospital and that she needs to sit down. He tells her it's twins. They asked her if she wanted to get induced the next day but she said she would go on her own. She went into labor the next day. After 3 daughters (the oldest was my MIL who was 15 or 16) and the youngest was around 8, they had twin boys.
I cannot imagine not knowing till right before or at delivery. My mom said she went home and cried because she didn't know how they would take care of 2.
***TW in Siggy***
Me: 34 / DH: 33
Married: Nov 2011
TTC #1: Jan 2013, BFP Sept 2013, DD: June 2014
TTC #2: Aug 2016, BFP Nov 2016, DS: August 2017
1 infant loss
8/17: Our daughter was born
8/18: Our daughter kicked open heart surgery ass
2/19: We lost our son to Prader-Willi/Paradoxical Vocal Cord/ Noonans at 6wks old
4/26/2020: EDD for baby #3!!!
Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17
BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19
BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19
BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2
Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage
IVF started Feb 2020
retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal.
Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
I really know too much about this topic.
Together: January 2002
Married: May 2008
Baby: August 2017
Clearly we like to rush along at lightning speed...
DH worked with this girl who referred to him as her work husband, which was odd because she also worked with her actual husband. It didn't bother me because I knew DH secretly hated her.
Another time I was in a county in Michigan where they can't sell beer or wine on a Sunday, but due to a loophole they can have liquor. So we had to get vodka orange juices at brunch instead of a mimosa. Derp.
The work wife thing has always been associated with affaires here too.
Also, I've referred to two different people that I've worked with in the past as my work wives (we shared patients - them as the physical therapist, me as the occupational therapist). I think DH might have had an issue if it was a male that I was calling my work husband though.
#1 - DD: 7/5/12
#2 - DS: 5/21/14
#3 - EDD: 8/25/17
Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17
BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19
BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19
BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2
Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage
IVF started Feb 2020
retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal.
Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
Lets just say I asked my US tech to triple check that there was just one when they were looking!
1 infant loss
8/17: Our daughter was born
8/18: Our daughter kicked open heart surgery ass
2/19: We lost our son to Prader-Willi/Paradoxical Vocal Cord/ Noonans at 6wks old
4/26/2020: EDD for baby #3!!!
I tried on my swimsuits this weekend and definitely have a very interesting body thing going on, but DH assures me that it is obvious that I am pregnant and don't just look huge. I'm glad I don't have to buy all new swimsuits, cause I got such a nice one last summer that I love.
1 infant loss
8/17: Our daughter was born
8/18: Our daughter kicked open heart surgery ass
2/19: We lost our son to Prader-Willi/Paradoxical Vocal Cord/ Noonans at 6wks old
4/26/2020: EDD for baby #3!!!
#1 - DD: 7/5/12
#2 - DS: 5/21/14
#3 - EDD: 8/25/17
All my friends that I know of all had epidurals, some had scheduled inductions and scheduled Cs, and many told me drugs are just necessary. I took for granted I'd just ask for an epidural. But, from what I'm reading, not having one (or at least having a "walking" epidural) could potentially help labor go faster because I'd be taking natural cues from my body, I can walk/squat to get Baby in optimal position, etc. I'm starting to think I'd rather have a shorter, more painful labor and get it over with than labor longer under the influence.
Now, granted, if I decide this is my birth plan I reserve the right to change my mind and demand drugs in the heat of the moment, and of course I'll do whatever is deemed medically necessary and probably with no disappointment (I'm go-with-the-flow), but I'm curious to hear experiences from those who had those types of birth, or hear from others why they're considering it.
Edit- I seriously can't type today.
Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17
BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19
BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19
BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2
Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage
IVF started Feb 2020
retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal.
Transfer #1: June 14, 2020