This baby will be the 4th of the same family name, named after GFIL, FIL, and DH. To limit confusion within the family we've decided on a shorter version of the middle name for him to go by (and of course it's the 2nd most popular boy name right now). He will never actually be called his first name unless he chooses to later in the life. He is also the first and only boy that will be born on DH's side of the family so everyone's all freaking out about "carrying on the family name.
DS is IV too. He goes by a nickname but we make sure he knows his legal name too. DH tells a hilarious story about not knowing his real name until he was 6 and he freaked out. Yeah, I'm avoiding that trauma for sure lol
@lola4411 a kid in my kindergarten class didn't know what his name was and freaked out when the teacher was teaching us to write our names. He legitimately did not know his last name or proper first name. She kept asking him what his name was and he'd say Tommy, she'd correct him and ask him what his last name was and I remember the meltdown that followed.
I don't mind people saying "Are you going to try for a girl?" or similar now that we're going to have 2 boys. My answer is Yes! And if I end up with all boys then I'm meant to be a boy momma and that's cool too!
For me, I feel like I might be more inclined to try for a girl if LO2 is a boy but I don't feel comfortable telling too many people that. When I get asked I just say it all depends on how it goes with LO2 and where we are at mentally. I don't want people getting too many kicks watching for the sex of the 3rd pregnancy because everyone is rooting for a girl this time and it's been making me feel really weird.... like if I have a boy, so many will be disappointed and my feelings get hurt on behalf of my unborn baby.
+1 I prefer two of the same sex vs. one of each. But I also think one of each is great. +1 pools over beaches +1 no youneek names
-1 on the thong haters. they can be super comfortable, especially when working out (early FFFC: to me working out = yoga. I don't do the sweaty stuff)
Neutral on giving nicknames as full names. My parents gave me a Katherine-type name expecting to call me the Katie-type nickname only. They felt the longer name was important to be taken seriously as a professional (though my understanding is there isn't much difference in Katie/Katherine in professional settings and for men at least a "Tom" does better professionally than a "Thomas". The bigger issue is if you are a Kaytee or another name/spelling that some people interpret as lower class.). Anyway, the Katie name never suited me so I was glad to have the Katherine option.
@lola4411 oh my goodness! I hadn't thought about that yet. Not that I intended to keep his real name from him, of course. This LO will definitely know his legal name!
@mrs_fogue I'm still wiping a 3 year old's butt, what whattttttt.
She's pee trained. Just not poop trained. She does, however, go put a pull up on when she needs to poop so at least I'm not messing with dirty underwear.
BFP#1: 12/3/13 EDD 8/15/13. Heartbeat found on 12/26/13, HB gone on 1/4/13. D&C 1/7/13
BFP#2: 4/19/13 EDD 12/28/13. Team Green for pregnancy and Baby Girl arrived 12/21/13. BFP#3: 2/9/13 EDD 10/18/17. Team Green for Round 2!
I would have wanted a girl too but I am going to be a mom of two boys, which is absolutely fine, actually more than fine! I wanted to experience being a mother of a girl too, but I also wanted to re-live my moments with DS so either way, I was happy, of course there are a lot of people who have commented, oh a girl would have been perfect! But well, me and my DH just wished for a happy healthy baby regardless of the gender.
Re: nicknames... my FIL is Tim, H's older brother is Tim, and his 2.5-year-old son is Tim. BIL and SIL decided before he was born that they would call him "LT" for Little Tim. They also just had a daughter like 6 months ago and named her Olivia knowing that they would call her Ollie. Ugh. It was even worse with our niece because Olivia was the name H and I loved and wanted for a future daughter since basically the day we met. I cried some ugly tears over that one, but that's a whole other story.
Related to touching (kind of), I get irrationally angry when my FIL asks me, "How's my baby doing?" It's not your baby, FIL. It's H's and my baby. He is weirdly possessive of our nephew as well.
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For me, I feel like I might be more inclined to try for a girl if LO2 is a boy but I don't feel comfortable telling too many people that. When I get asked I just say it all depends on how it goes with LO2 and where we are at mentally. I don't want people getting too many kicks watching for the sex of the 3rd pregnancy because everyone is rooting for a girl this time and it's been making me feel really weird.... like if I have a boy, so many will be disappointed and my feelings get hurt on behalf of my unborn baby.
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LO#2 EDD October 18th
+1 pools over beaches
+1 no youneek names
-1 on the thong haters. they can be super comfortable, especially when working out (early FFFC: to me working out = yoga. I don't do the sweaty stuff)
Neutral on giving nicknames as full names. My parents gave me a Katherine-type name expecting to call me the Katie-type nickname only. They felt the longer name was important to be taken seriously as a professional (though my understanding is there isn't much difference in Katie/Katherine in professional settings and for men at least a "Tom" does better professionally than a "Thomas". The bigger issue is if you are a Kaytee or another name/spelling that some people interpret as lower class.). Anyway, the Katie name never suited me so I was glad to have the Katherine option.
I do also think it depends entirely how me and DH handle 2 kids before we think about bringing a third into the mix... 1 was hard enough on us!
BFP in September 2014, DS born June 2015.
TTC x2 months.
BFP January 2017.
She's pee trained. Just not poop trained. She does, however, go put a pull up on when she needs to poop so at least I'm not messing with dirty underwear.
BFP#3: 2/9/13 EDD 10/18/17. Team Green for Round 2!
Related to touching (kind of), I get irrationally angry when my FIL asks me, "How's my baby doing?" It's not your baby, FIL. It's H's and my baby. He is weirdly possessive of our nephew as well.