October 2017 Moms

FFFC (5.12)

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Re: FFFC (5.12)

  • I agree about primarily wanting a healthy baby, but also having secret hopes for a certain sex. I've always pictured myself as a boy mom, and if I have one of each I always wanted the boy first so he could protect his youngest sister. DH on the other hand, secretly hopes for all girls. So we'll be happy either way :)

    +1 to only having DH in the delivery room. My mom and MIL can come visit once it's born, but no one need to see me while I'm pushing and cussing: 
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  • @sjohns908 my MIL is a very nice, caring person. But she is not someone I would want holding my legs back. Not to mention, she told me with DD that she didn't need drugs and that I didn't either. Okay, well, about that.

    I love my mom dearly but she never went into labor (emergency c-section and scheduled c-section) and I don't think she would be very happy to be in the delivery room to see it all go down. She'd come in if I asked her to, but I don't think I'd ever put her through that. 

    Honestly, I don't even want to be in the room when DD gives birth one day unless she just really wants me there. 
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    BFP#2: 4/19/13 EDD 12/28/13. Team Green for pregnancy and Baby Girl arrived 12/21/13.
    BFP#3: 2/9/13 EDD 10/18/17. Team Green for Round 2!

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  • I have to have my MIL in the room, because she's a bigwig at the hospital we're delivering at and is present at all the family births. To be fair, we will get a lot of upgrades because of this, and she's a nurse so she has a lot of experience. I'm sure I'll be happy she's there when it's time, but I'm a little worried right now. Especially since I'd like to go epidural free- I would be the first family member to express that preference and I'm worried she won't be supportive. She's already poo pooed my choice to have a CNM.



  • @natleilynn my MIL only had csections also, so has SIL. so she's really unfamiliar with the whole deal that goes down with vaginal births. I'm not saying we don't get along, she will do anything for anyone, but she's also manipulative and an AW, so that's just something I don't want any part of when I'm pushing out a baby.


    @bluejeanbabi05 My mom never had epidurals either, and she likes to remind me of that.  It was part of the reason I decided not to have one with my first.  I figured if she could do it, so could I. What a dumb mentality.  I completely, 100% regret not having one with DD1. It was the first thing I asked for when I got to the hospital with the other two babies lol.
  • @sdarling2010 I'd probably have done the same thing you did - if I had needed a c-section (or need one this time), I probably would ask for my mom since she's been through that and could reassure me. 

    But then, back to DH and I and we'll see ya later.
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    BFP#2: 4/19/13 EDD 12/28/13. Team Green for pregnancy and Baby Girl arrived 12/21/13.
    BFP#3: 2/9/13 EDD 10/18/17. Team Green for Round 2!

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  • +1 to no one in the room with me except DH. Omg, hard no to having my MIL there. She's great, but no. Last time I actually suggested the ILs wait a week to come visit at all (they live across the country) because they're kind of stressful to have as houseguests -- they're the kind of people who won't really do take initiative or make decisions without asking me first. This time around I might let them come sooner just so my mom will have some help with DS.

    Love my mom and she can come around all she wants after the baby is out, but she won't be in the room with us.

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  • It was just me and my husband in the room. In fact, there wasn't even family at the hospital. My mom wanted to drive down and wait but I told her she would be sitting in the waiting room all night and I would rather her just get some sleep then come early in the morning. This time I don't care if people are in the hospital waiting room. We will deliver either way in the OR, so they won't even have the temptation to come back. 
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    Okay, I did some scanning to catch up lol. 

    First of all Cherries -
    Fresh cherries: YES   
    Jarred/Maraschino: NO NO NO
    Artificial Cherry Flavored Candy: One of my favorites lol

    DH loves fruit more than ANYONE I know and when we were dating he insisted he hated cherries, since he had only tried the jarred ones. I made him try fresh ones and they are now one of his favorite things. I rarely buy them, because he irritates the crap out of me by leaving the pits and stems in a bowl for me to clean. They get stuck or end up in the bottom of the sink.  I really want cherries now though. Maybe I'll tell them he has to use a plastic cup for them lol.

    Bicyclists only annoy me if there is clearly a bike lane and they aren't in it, so I have to drive slowly behind them. That's when I hate them lol.

    Country music, I've always liked, but a lot of it isn't country music anymore. I was listening to  a country station last week and I didn't even realize it, because the song sounded nothing like country music except for talking about a "back road" haha. 

    I don't sort my laundry either, unless it's something that hasn't been washed before.

    DH is the only one I want in the delivery room with me as well. My mom really wanted to be in there with DD, but MIL made the trip to visit when DD was born with her (they rode together), so while I probably would have let my mom in, I didn't want MIL in there so they both got kicked out lol. In hindsight I'm SO glad I didn't have my mom in there. She freaks out about stuff, so I probably would have ended up yelling at her or something lol. They are coming when this one is born (from 1200 miles away), to watch DD. She already mentioned that she wants to wait at the hospital while I'm in labor. I was like, no our house it 10 minutes away from the hospital and DD it would be so much easier to just hang out at the house and let DD play on the playground or something and we can text when baby is about to be born. 

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  • I am lying to my parents about my due date. Cause my mom has a loooot of friends in Montreal that she feels need to be there for me. I dont want my parents at the hospital, nor her friends (no matter hoe many gifts that ll get the baby). 
    As for MIL i told her, i want her in the waiting room...  she lives 5 mins away from our house and hospital....i might change my mind if i feel like im not doing ok and ask her to join the delivery room because she has just ssssso much medical experiences *tw*(she has suffered 3 cancers, her husband too. And assisted a few deliveries). 
    But for now everyones aware i only want H in room. 
  • I love/hate being late to the party.

    Fresh cherries: yes
    Maraschino cherries: when paired with booze
    Cherry flavored things: hell no.

    Bicycles: A-OK as long as they aren't being assholes

    Country music: It's fine.  I don't listen to the radio much, so I have no idea who all these artists are.

    Laundry sorting: Occasionally I'll sort out the socks, underpants, towels for a very hot wash. otherwise I rarely sort.

    Delivery: My SO will be there.  He doesn't do well under pressure, so I'll have a couple others there too.  My sister,who helped me through spinal surgery, will be there.  Not only is she in nursing school, she helped me wash my self when I wasn't allowed to bend at all for 2 months.  She's seen it all.  My SO's mom is invited too, though she hasn't said either way if she'll be there.  She is a nurse too and has been just awesome.  My mom lives 4 hours away and can't often drop everything to scoot over here.  I imagine I'll be seeing her sometime after I deliver.  I've asked if she'd stay a couple of days to help out after I come home, but it really depends on her job and things.

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  • edited May 2017
    I DD
    Me: 31 DH:35
    TTC #1: March 2011 
    Fur-children: 3 dogs + 2 cats (all rescued)
    dx: Endometriosis and Fibroids 
    2 Laps and 1 Abdominal Myomectomy
    6 rounds of clomid
    5 rounds of iui
    IVF #1 Gonal F, Menopur and Cetrotide
    ER 12/1/2016:Retrieved 22 eggs 12 fertilized, developed moderate OHSS
    4/4 day 5 embryos were normal for PGS!!! 2 boys/2 girls
    FET 1/10/2017  
    Gallbladder surgery 1/10/2017
    FET 2/2
    BFP 2/7/17 <3 Beta#1: 594!!! Beta#2 1630!!!
    Having a girl! EDD 10/21/17
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  • carries2018carries2018 member
    edited May 2017
    oh shiz never mind nothing to see here - putting words in her mouth chocolate didnt say this.
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                                      DD1 - 10/11/13                 DD2 - 5/07/15

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  • I love cherries and cherry flavored things!

    For delivery, it will just be H. I can't imagine having my mother, and won't have MIL (though she is an OB nurse).  My sister gave birth to my nephew a few years back and looking back on it, I don't know what she was thinking.  At the hospital where I'll deliver, they seemingly allowed any number of people into the room while laboring (they didn't have to wait in the waiting room). I think throughout the day, my sister had about 10 people in and out of the room. I was there and so was my dad, mom, BIlL's mom, my mom's BF, and my BIL's sister with the flavor of hour (seriously, I think 3 different guys came with her throughout the course of the day).  Why my sister didn't kick every last one of us out, I have no idea.  No one but BIL stayed for the actual delivery, but still, there is no way I would entertain nearly that many people even with the epidural she had.
    Me: 35     DH: 37
    BFP: 1.6.16 | MC: 2.17.16
    BFP: 10.3.16 | CP: 10.11.16
    BFP: 12.14.16 | CP: 12.14.16
    BFP:  1.23.17 | EDD 10.6.17 -- DS born 10.7.17 <3
    BFP:  9.9.18 | EDD 5.23.19 -- DD born 5.24.19 <3
    BFP: 9.1.21 | MC 10.1.21
    BFP: 11.11.21 | EDD 7.24.22 

     

  • shan24shan24 member
    It was only SO in the delivery room with me, too, and that's how it'll be again this time. My mom was a little put out because my sister wanted her in the room when my niece was born and she assumed I'd let her, too. Nope. On top of me finding it a bit awkward, it was important to me that the moment of his birth be something just for SO and I. My parents were in the waiting room and saw us as soon as we were wheeled back to my room, and I'm ok with that. 
  • @Brambles23 I'm a fabric hoarder. Craft hoarders unite! In all fairness, it is technically all for work, but that doesn't stop me from holding on to some when I'm having an event or want to make myself some new pillows or table runners  :D If it wasn't all giant piles of chaos, I might post a pic lol. It's sooooo bad!
  • I loved that my hospital had a 2 people allowed rule which made me less of the bad guy!  I only wanted DH and my Mom in there.  MIL tried to be in there but she got kicked out, as did my dad and step-mom.  I just do not care to have an audience.  I also told all of my sisters that they and their kids could wait until we got home. 
  • @PizzaMonster3  +1 for being a baby about having a baby. 

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  • @Brambles23 hey there fellow crocheter!l


    Me: 31 DH:35
    TTC #1: March 2011 
    Fur-children: 3 dogs + 2 cats (all rescued)
    dx: Endometriosis and Fibroids 
    2 Laps and 1 Abdominal Myomectomy
    6 rounds of clomid
    5 rounds of iui
    IVF #1 Gonal F, Menopur and Cetrotide
    ER 12/1/2016:Retrieved 22 eggs 12 fertilized, developed moderate OHSS
    4/4 day 5 embryos were normal for PGS!!! 2 boys/2 girls
    FET 1/10/2017  
    Gallbladder surgery 1/10/2017
    FET 2/2
    BFP 2/7/17 <3 Beta#1: 594!!! Beta#2 1630!!!
    Having a girl! EDD 10/21/17
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  • @carries2018 I hate all bicyclists who are in my way period. This includes roads and sidewalks and their sense of entitlement over both. 
  • @yasandson same! I told my parents if we found out we were having a girl I was just going to start apologizing prefusely for how I acted growing up. My husband didn't get it and mom just looked at him and said imagine your wife 10 years younger with a bad attitude and absolutely no filter. She ended with I'll pray for you both if you have a girl. Lol thankfully we are having a boy 
  • Finally catching up after being on the road all morning...
    • Can't stand country music.
    • Neither candidate was great.  It was like deciding whether to cut off your finger or cut off your arm.  Neither situation is ideal, but one would have been much more manageable to live with.  I think as shitty a situation as our current state of politics is, maybe we needed this to really change the system rather than sticking with the status quo.  I was a Bernie supporter (and still am), but I wasn't an asshole about it.  One of the positives that I'm seeing come out of this are the number of everyday people becoming more involved in politics, especially running for local elected positions.
    • I looooooved DMB in high school and college.  I've even seen him in concert a few times and had a blast.  Not so into him anymore.
    • I really want our first child to be a boy.  So does DH.  
    • I'm only having DH in the room when the baby is born.  I have to have a scheduled c-section because of medical reasons.  I also put my foot down about allowing visitors a day after the surgery.  No need to for everyone to swarm in hours afterwards, especially if I'm just getting out of surgery.  Let us bond with the baby first, FFS.
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  • My coworker hasn't had very many patients scheduled for herself the last 2 weeks (literally less then half the amount I've seen). Last Friday I moved several people off my schedule and onto hers for this week. Now I've had a cancellation and she's been back to back all day. I don't feel badly for her at all.
    Married November 2009
    Clara, August 2014 
    Baby Boy due October 2017
  • I get really internally frustrated when people end sentences with the word "at". Where are we at? Where is it at? Ugh
    Married November 2009
    Clara, August 2014 
    Baby Boy due October 2017
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