Mother's Day

roo_baby

What's everyone doing this Sunday?

STMs+: do you have any favorite Mother's Day traditions?
FTMs: are you planning to start celebrating this year or will you wait until next year?

Anything special you are doing to treat the grandmas?

DH and I are currently debating if we send our moms chocolates of flowers (both are long-distance). Not sure what he's planning for me, but he usually at least gives me a card from the dog. We will see if he steps it up this year!

melarowan

My SO is insisting that I celebrate Mother's Day this year and not wait.  His mom would like us all to have a family meal that the guys prepare, so that's the plan.  My mom is long distance, so I'll call her and send her a card.

VLillyV

Honestly, I'm not celebrating it for myself - I am a FTM and will wait to start the tradition next year. It just doesn't feel like the same thing, if that makes any sense.

KSweet

My husband and kids make whatever meal I request and take over the chores. Usually my husband takes the kids to see his mom, which gives me greatly cherished alone time (I homeschool, so I am with the kids literally 24/7). She's trying hard this year to get together with me and is not taking the hint that, for one day of the year, I want to be "off duty" and that includes off duty from MIL duty! My mom is long distance so I sent her a devotional and a coffee mug with a scripture verse on it. 

KSweet

@VLillyV Do what makes you happy but you are a mama already  

natleilynn

This is the first year that we will have all moms in town (my parents live here,  his are visiting). I've told his mom already that DH, DD and I are going out as a family Friday night,  we will celebrate with her on Saturday night and then be with my family on Sunday.  

I think it's important to celebrate your moms but also celebrate yourself and your family unit.  This will be the first mother's day I'm getting special time with just my little family and I'm super excited

buttercream_frosting

I don't know but DH better do something or there will be hell to pay 

KSweet

@natleilynn I know it sounds rude of me but I feel like I'm in "active duty" mothering so my Mother's day comes first, lol. I feel like those of us who are currently raising our kids need the most encouragement and celebration. Of course, I need to remember this when I'm the grandmother, lol!

natleilynn

@KSweet You don't sound rude at all!! I feel like I'm being the rude one,  I know MIL came into town for mother's day but I'm standing firm in she doesn't get the whole weekend.  That's why I tried to break it out this year so each mom can feel special and celebrated

carries2018

Ugh H has a baseball game so I have to parent on Mother's Day  all I ever want is to do nothing. My only parenting comes in the form of cuddles. I would prefer not to cook but I hate busy places they give me anxiety so I normally don't go out to eat at all. 

sjohns908

We're doing our traditional mothers day brunch Sunday morning with the ILs and my parents all together. It's so nice to get that knocked out in one foul swoop. Then I plan on taking it easy and taking a nap. Not that that's any different from my typical weekends lately   

natleilynn

@sjohns908 You're so lucky you can have everyone together like that! Our families are friendly enough, but his mom is extremely demanding of our time, which rubs my parents the wrong way. Most of the time it's just best to keep them separate. As long as they don't just hate each other at least. 

ksf13

We will go to church, then probably go out for a nice lunch somewhere that I choose, then come home and be lazy lol. That's pretty much our tradition every year and I love it. As for grandmas, we are long distance, so we will just call and wish them Happy Mother's day, but we are going to visit in two weeks right between Mother's Day and Father's day, so we will take their gifts to them then. Really, it just worked out, because I have NO IDEA what to get them this year lol. Buys me some extra time!  

DH ordered (okay, told me to order lol) my mother's day gift yesterday haha. Amazon had a good sale on the baby carrier I wanted (Lillebaby Organic) and I'm pretty excited about it. We had a Lillebaby with DD and loved it, but since she was our first I didn't wear her a whole lot. I plan on baby wearing a lot more this go around, so of course I had to get a "newer style" haha. Our older one will be DH's, so we don't have to adjust it every time we take turns wearing baby. 

KDeola

My sister and I usually take my mom to brunch but for some reason it wasn't working out that way this year.  We went to visit her last Sunday and she got a card and a hanging basket of flowers.  That is my go to gift for her.  My in-laws are on vacation abroad so MIL will probably get a card when she gets back (I better buy one before they are sold out!). I told DH that I want a leisurely morning and to go purchase flowers for us to plant together in the afternoon.  Then he will make dinner.  Simple and no crazy schedule sounds perfect to me. 

bluejeanbabi05

I'm making brunch for my mom and MIL Sunday. I do a killer French toast casserole with baileys and Cointreau that soaks overnight   

My dad sent me a Mother's Day card, which I thought was so sweet. No idea if DH will do anything, I would be surprised if he didn't get me a card, he's thoughtful like that, but I'll be fine either way. 

sjohns908

@natleilynn it is so nice! Our parents get along well, so we do Easter, Mothers Day, Fathers Day, mine and DHs anniversary (MIL insists in taking us out every year, which is kind of odd to me but free meal, so I'm in lol), plus the pumpkin patch all together every year. My parents are also invited to a lot of stuff with the ILs; SIL's wedding, big get togethers for someones birthday, etc. It's also nice having my mom there when some occassions I just don't want to deal with MIL lol

aprilsarahjune

@sjohns908 My parents and ILs do this too!  They started doing joint gatherings somewhat before our kids were born, but as soon as the first LOs arrived, they were planning endless group outings.  It helps that these are the only grandkids for either family, and DH and I grew up in the same town and same church.  Though they were not friends by any means before DH and I got together, my mom and MIL come to our house together at least once per week to run kiddos around to events and cook us dinner.  They spend at least 3 hours in a car together to do that.  It's crazy but awesome.

cram314

This year parents and ILs are coming to our apartment for Saturday brunch and to do the gender reveal with them. It's both sides first grandchild so we decided to share finding out the sex with them. I think the last time they've all been in the same room was our wedding. They more than tolerate but less than like each other - enough to get through a day. 

We've been celebrating mother/father's day for a couple years with a home cooked meal of the other person's choice, which is probably what we'll do Sunday. We adopted a dog with a lot of medical issues so use it as a day to thank the other for being a good partner/ doggy parent. 

roo_baby

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MCraig1484

My family is coming to visit, so we're doing a picnic at the park on Saturday. My dad is making us breakfast on Sunday morning, then my mom and I are going to the spa (MIL was invited, but not interested -shrug-) and then DH will make dinner.
@sjohns908Mine parents and in-laws are similar which is really nice! My in-laws are from Italy (just moved here) and they basically have no other family, so they are always welcome for holidays at my parent’s home.  It works out really nice!

dumbledoredies

We will see both of our families this weekend to celebrate our mom's!

I don't plan on celebrating myself. I'm not big into celebrating anything (really wish people would ignore my birthday) but wouldn't be surprised if both of our mom's get me a card.

It won't even hit DH that he could get me something for mothers day lol. So I'm not expecting anything from him! We are super chill about these kinds of things.

joforyoga

Uggg starting to hate these made up holidays to be honest! It's a struggle between seeing my mom, hubby's Mom or doing something just is, like for me! Mil lives a few hours away so it sucks to try and coordinate  and both mothers get offended if they can see us and our baby on the actual day itself. Generally we scramble to accommodate them and I get no relaxation whatsoever!  

kkerner87

I brought this up to DH tonight. Last year he F'd up big time. Not only did he NOT do a thing for my first official Mother's Day, but he was a complete ass about it. 
 He was in a wedding the night before and a little hung over mothers day morning. So I was the one to wake up early AF with our baby. The night before he told me he was cooking a big breakfast. Well he slept until 11am so I ate cheerios. 
 No flowers, no card. Nothing but a bad attitude. I cried and was so hurt and he could not get it. He said he couldn't see why I was so upset about a made up holiday. 
 Im still salty about it. It would have been different if this wasnt my first Mother's Day, but c'mon. Ugh. I brought it up to him tonight and said that he really needs to make up for last year. He says "oh why do you have to bring that up. Just let it be in the past.." I said "beacause you were a real dick and it hurt my feelings. That's why I'm bring it uo. Don't do that shit again."  All I ask for is sleep, breakfast and a clean kitchen sink. Literally that's it. Anyway, thats my vent for the evening lol.

roo_baby

@kkerner87 I'm sorry you had such a bad first Mother's Day. I really hope he makes it up to you this time!

winterecho

Hubby and I are spending Sat together doing nothing together, and it'll be the first time since we found out about the pregnancy in early Feb that we will be just the 2 of us (every single weekend one or both of us has been busy). My mom really wants me to visit her on Sun but she's 2 hrs away on public transit and this week my nausea has come back with a vengeance so I'm still not sure about making the trip up there. I already made and gave her a mother's day card and I'm working on one for MIL

JessDG

My FIL informed us yesterday that it "would be really nice" if we cooked Sunday for DH's mom.  He suggested surf and turf.  Um hello?  We have a baby on the way and we need to buy a new car.  We can't afford to buy steak AND seafood on top of the gift we already bought her!  

We were planning on offering to cook something Sunday and have them over, but being told to do it sends me into a little bit of a rage...

natleilynn

@JessDG I'd kindly tell FIL I'd be thrilled to do that if he would like to go ahead and purchase the surf and the turf.

C'mon now.

Mommaswizz

Oye, this mother's day is going to be rough. We have to drive 90 mins to where my parents live. I have a baby sprinkle to attend Sat afternoon and my future SIL's bachelorette to attends saturday night (seriously, mother's day weekend?!). Then we'll do half of mothers day at my parents then drive an hour to my In Laws to celebrate there.  And eventually we'll come back home. This is our last weekend in our current house, i'm kinda bummed it's going to be spent chaotically.  Selfishly, all i want is to sleep in and let DH have DD duty all day. 

But i know we dont have forever to spend with our moms so I'll happily give up my quiet mother's day to see them spend time with DD. (such a martyr right?) Next year i better be able to get drunk lol

sdarling2010

@Mommaswizz I'm sorry your weekend is so busy! And seriously, a bachelorette party on Mother's Day weekend? WTAF?? 

My Mother's Day will be super low key since DH's national boards are due Wednesday (uploading starts Sunday night/Monday morning) and he's on selfimposed "lock down" til midday Sunday in order to finish. We're having dinner at my parents on Sunday evening. Planned/shopped by my dad. Prepared and "served" by him, DH and my brother. 

We will get my mom some flowers and call it good! DH will call MIL at some point. 

Mommaswizz

^it doesn't help that they legit are the most half assed bachelorette plans EVER. As in we still dont know what we're doing. Her maid of honor sucks. and she's 36. get your shit together! People have lives and need to know wtf the plan is.

vent over. I'm trying not to be the bitter sober lady 

kmornelas29

I want to spend the day really celebrating my mom this year. When I was little she always said it didn't feel like hers cause she still celebrated her mom. Then, she has grandkids and said we should be celebrating us, because we're the ones with little ones. She is super selfless, and I want it to be a special one for her . We plan on going to our beach house this year for a long weekend with everyone! 

emwj10187

Im traveling to go see my mom this weekend. DH has been away for work for the last 2 weeks and hasn't decided what his plan is yet this weekend. I'm over here like.. oh ok you helped make me a mother this year.... but no biggie! 

monstera13

We probably won't do any celebrations this year since I'm not a mom quite yet, but I did want to share this. My grandma sent me my first ever Mother's Day card!! It made me cry of course!

bbboismom

I'm hosting my mom, I doubt anyone will even think of me lol!  My hubby said he didn't want to celebrate due to "jinxing" it, but then when I was brushing my teeth the other night he was all giddy about it. I'm thinking if he gets me anything it will be a simple piece of jewelry like a bracelet or something? 

shan24

@kkerner87 my sister had something similar happen to her. Her DH was married previously and has two kids from that marriage. My sister gave birth to her daughter in April, so she was still pretty new when mother's day rolled around. Anyway, sis and BIL took the two older girls out to choose a gift for their mother. My sister fully expected BIL to have something for her come mother's day, but he didn't. She was so hurt that he made sure his ex-wife was recognized, but she wasn't. His excuse?  He forgot she was a mother too (even though their daughter was only three weeks old). He also tells her to get over it when she brings it up. 

Since then, she's made it her mission to make sure no mama is forgotten. This is my third mother's day and I know she texts SO every year to remind him. Seriously, though?  All I want is a responsibility free day. Let me sleep in. Someone else can make DS lunch and supper. I want to lay in bed and read a book or watch a movie. 

We do not travel on mother's day. It's too hard. My mom and MIL will get a phone call. I'll have a small gift for them for the next time we see them. 

asickles98

Mother's Day is spent during brunch with his family and dinner with mine.  So hubby normally takes me out on Saturday and treats it like my Mother's Day.  We normally go to lunch then shopping followed by a movie and dinner.  Without the kids, I have a strong belief that on Father's Day the dads normally get a day off to golf and hang with their friends so why do most of my mother friends still have to do all the "work" on Mother's Day?  Hubby feels the same way.

canonmom413

We don't do anything too different for Mother's or Father's Day. DH usually asks, "What do you want to do? Want to go out to eat?" And we'll do an early dinner. But other than that , just the girls wishing me a happy Mother's Day and me not doing any chores or cooking is good enough for me I will call the moms in our lives and wish them a good day too. Other than that, we usually take advantage of not having to do much.  I may want to go nursery decor shopping.

feeislove

We didn't have any official plans until yesterday evening. DH and I are going to watch an early movie (Fate of the Furious *eye roll*) then meeting his parents, grandparents and sister with her husband and DD for lunch. We'll probably go to the outlet mall up there afterwards. My mom has to work so I won't get a chance to see her. 

Boobopgirl

DHs family always goes out for a meal for mother's day/fathers day.  We went yesterday.  I feel bad because I usually enjoy the father's day meal (steakhouse or red lobster) more than the mother's day ( usually a diner or olive garden).  This year  DHs parents took him shopping for work clothes ( which is actually a gift to me because now I only have to wash his work stuff once a week, rather than every day.)

 My brother and I usually go in on a gift card for the nursery where my mom gets her flowers and thrn next weekend we'll go flower shopping with her and have a planting party.

As for today, I took the kiddos to church and then ate ouf leftovers from yesterday's lunch.  And in a few we'll probably all go in the bedroom and have a nap.  Usually I send the girls to their own room, but today we can snuggle.  Maybe try to convince DH to take us fore ice cream later.....