This might be tailored for S+TMs to respond but would be a good read for FTMs.
What do you think you might want to do differently this time in regards to your pregnancy, labor, and post partum/newborn stage?
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BFP in September 2014, DS born June 2015.
TTC x2 months.
BFP January 2017.

Re: What You Might Do Differently
BFP in September 2014, DS born June 2015.
TTC x2 months.
BFP January 2017.
BFP in September 2014, DS born June 2015.
TTC x2 months.
BFP January 2017.
Baby Boy due October 2017
The nurses and lactation consultants at the hospital freaked me out so much about "nipple confusion" that I waited a week to introduce them to my son, and by that point he wanted nothing to do with either—it was mama or nothing.
I nursed him for 15 months and loved the bonding experience, but it sure would have been nice to pump even one bottle a day and let my husband take a turn feeding him!
This time around I plan to have the lactation consultant come in multiple times and ensure our latch, the way I'm holding baby, etc is good. DD and I had such a hard time BFing that I want to do whatever I can to make sure we're on the right path before leaving the hospital. Anytime we're offered an LC I will be saying yes!
I have dealt with gestational diabetes in the last six pregnancies but have managed to control it through diet/exercise. It's not my favorite way of eating but I generally feel very good while eating this way. My plan this time is to just keep eating this way after the pregnancy instead of having every kind of junk food I've been missing.
If baby has a lip tie I will get it fixed much sooner.
I will probably bedshare sooner too. I got so much more sleep once I started that.
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I'm a planner to a fault. I figure if this babe is likely going to be born in November (my EDD is October 31st), I'm going to have zero time/energy for holiday baking, so I plan on making a lot of cookies, Christmas treats, etc. in September and deep-freezing them. I imagine that there will probably be family and friends dropping by over the holiday season and it'd be nice to have something to offer them. Plus, even if no one shows up, I'll have a freezer full of cookies to eat!
2. Relax. With DD2 I was so set on keeping DD1 busy so she wasn't upset about the adjustment. I left the house every morning took her somewhere with a newborn strapped to me. I was so warm out. And I never gave DD2 the attention she needed.
3. Keep the girls in school.
4. Put a better effort forth with BFing than I did with DD2. But not be as intense as with DD1.
5. NOT eat a big heavy meal the night before. No adding to that first poop.
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I'll also be sure to see the lactation consultant this time and have baby checked for lip/tongue ties at the hospital (It was the weekend when DD was born and she was already off). DD took to nursing great and self weaned a month before her 3rd birthday (haha, may be an OMG thing for some, because had you told me I'd breastfeed past a year when she was born I would have laughed. I plan on letting this one self wean too
I plan on baby wearing A LOT more this time too. I wore DD some, but I think it will definitely make things easier with two.
Another thing I want to do is not have visitors at the hospital. With my son, I was having a hard time getting him to latch. As I'm struggling to get him to feed, visitors showed up. I felt 1000x more pressured and ended up asking for formula. I regret it to this day. I should have had DH tell the visitors that they would either need to wait or come back. I just want to get settled with nursing before having people just show up this time around.
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LO#2 EDD October 18th
BFP#1: 9/9/2014 DS born 4/7/15
BFP#2: 6/16/2016 MC/D&C: 7/29/2016
BFP#3: 10/14/2016 (fingers crossed for a sticky bean)
BFP in September 2014, DS born June 2015.
TTC x2 months.
BFP January 2017.
BFP in September 2014, DS born June 2015.
TTC x2 months.
BFP January 2017.
BFP in September 2014, DS born June 2015.
TTC x2 months.
BFP January 2017.
BFP#1: 9/9/2014 DS born 4/7/15
BFP#2: 6/16/2016 MC/D&C: 7/29/2016
BFP#3: 10/14/2016 (fingers crossed for a sticky bean)
2) Have a fully stocked diaper changing set(diapers, wipes, butt cream, foldable changing pad, garbage can with a lid) next to the bed and another one next to the couch. Also a basket of snacks/water for me and the children and a box of distraction/books for the kids too.
3) Something I'm already doing different is staying on top ofy fitness and mental health stuff. Hopefully both of those things will help me have a better labor (more stamina plus more ability to relax)
@ksf13. i can't tell you how happy I am not to be the only extended breastfeeding mama in this group. BOTH of my girls are still nursing (although DD1 is nearly done and only occasionally asks at bedtime). And fully expecting DD2 to still be nursing for quite some time.
I will be more active- I complained a lot and hated even walking for exercise.
I will have more of the sex- uh, let's just say maybe 3 times the entire time I was pregnant with DD2.
I will not rush time - this is my last. I do not want time to hurry.
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-I won't get my cervix checked weekly in those last few weeks
-I won't let anyone else influence my labor and delivery
- I won't have an unnecessary induction, or my waters broken by the doctor
-I will buy a changing table, and a bottle warmer
-I won't trap myself in the house after the baby is born
Put baby in his/her own room sooner than we did with DS.
Try baby wearing...maybe, ha!
Since this is #4, I have done a lot of trial and error and got most of it down. Except this time:
-I will be more strict about visitors. I didn't allow many last time but this time will be even less knowing the post delivery cramps get worse with each baby. I'm not in the mood to visit with people when I'm in pain and exhausted
-I will be more observant of people before they hold the baby to make sure they aren't sick. With my last, my MIL was sick and she didn't say anything until after she had spent hours holding the baby at easter. So my 3 week old then got her first cold that night
I don't think I'll try as hard to BF as last time. Definitely pushed me to the brink of PPD, and that's not a place I want to go to again.
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Pregnancy - I did walk a ton the first time, but I want to include more vigorous exercise and strength training this time. Also, not sharing a ton of details about my pregnancy on social media like I did last time out of respect for those who have experienced MCs or struggle with infertility. Also hoping to go to the chiro this time!
Labor - not having regular checks for dilation; not having them break my water to "speed things up"; waiting longer to go to the hospital and only staying if I'm actually in active labor; hopefully avoiding the epidural this time (although it was awesome, I got it at 9cm and was really hoping for all natural).
Get help ASAP if I have signs of PPD again.
Babywearing was a huge goal this time but with twins...... I dunno.
With DS, I was really on edge for the first month. Completely scared that I was going to do something unfixably wrong or accidentally hurt him. It made me unable to relax and really enjoy that period. I felt really vulnerable. If I feel the same at this birth I'm going to be sure to talk about it and ask for extra support. I think being more social in the first month will help too.
I also want to get more "me time" in earlier. When I started adding in a morning run, trip to the nail salon, or date out I started to feel like life was finding it's new normal. With DS I waited till three months and will start waaaaay earlier this time.
For the moms that are in their last pregnancy, what are you guys thinking about birth control?
I will also be more likely to tell people NO when they try and push a formula suppliment on me. DD had horrible latch issues and 2 nurses told me she had tounge tie and i should get it snipped if I wanted BF success. I gave DD formula in the hospital and almost had her tongue tie clipped, but something told me no. Don't snip shit on your 2 week old baby (until you *know* at least) Long story short, we kept going and nursed her successfully with no formula until 13 months old.
Also, i am going to buy a super cute and comfy robe. A hospital gown was really hard to BF, so i just took it off from the top down. And it would be nice to wear around the house on maternity leave. Oh and make sure you GRAB AS MANY OF THOSE MESH PANTIES AS YOU CAN!! They were so great to have in those early weeks when you're still bleeding and healing. Cause lord knows there will be blood... I was surprised how much actually...
ETA the"until you know part" on the tongue tie. I didnt want to imply that it should not ever be done, I just didnt want to take 2 nurses word for it. I needed another opinion.
@stefanirn06 I agree! I know my limitations with bf and I'm ready if it fails again. I won't let myself be made to feel bad if I don't.
@jesssssrg SO is getting snipped once babe is born. We're done done.
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