October 2017 Moms

What You Might Do Differently

This might be tailored for S+TMs to respond but would be a good read for FTMs.

What do you think you might want to do differently this time in regards to your pregnancy, labor, and post partum/newborn stage?
TTC x 1.5 years.
Acupuncture, Femera x3 cyles, and HSG.
BFP in September 2014, DS born June 2015.
TTC x2 months.
BFP January 2017.


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  • Start pumping a little earlier to build a stash. I waited until I went back to work last time and never had a good stash and it was constant stress. I stopped BFing after 8 months mostly because I just hated pumping. I want to figure out a better relationship with the pump and make it a year. 

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  • I might consider IUD for birth control post partum instead of condoms.  That sucked and definitely didn't help our sex life recover.
    TTC x 1.5 years.
    Acupuncture, Femera x3 cyles, and HSG.
    BFP in September 2014, DS born June 2015.
    TTC x2 months.
    BFP January 2017.


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  • I'm with everyone on building a great milk stash. I had a stomach virus when DS was 13 months and my supply tanked. Thank goodness for the frozen milk. Also, I got to go on a girls spa getaway for a night and DH fed DS with the stash. I pumped while away of course. 
    Me: 30 DH: 32
    BFP#1: 9/9/2014 DS born 4/7/15
    BFP#2: 6/16/2016 MC/D&C: 7/29/2016
    BFP#3: 10/14/2016 (fingers crossed for a sticky bean)
  • -I will exercise this pregnancy
    -I won't get my cervix checked weekly in those last few weeks
    -I won't let anyone else influence my labor and delivery 
    - I won't have an unnecessary induction, or my waters broken by the doctor
    -I will buy a changing table, and a bottle warmer
    -I won't trap myself in the house after the baby is born

  • @beautyundefined I'm curious as to what you mean by not having your water broken by the Dr? Like at all or as a way to induce? Mine never broke with any of my 3. My 2nd and 3rd, I was fully dilated with waters intact, so they had to break them and baby came right out (literally within 10 minutes with #2 and 3 minutes with #3)

    Since this is #4, I have done a lot of trial and error and got most of it down. Except this time:

    -I will be more strict about visitors. I didn't allow many last time but this time will be even less knowing the post delivery cramps get worse with each baby. I'm not in the mood to visit with people when I'm in pain and exhausted

    -I will be more observant of people before they hold the baby to make sure they aren't sick. With my last, my MIL was sick and she didn't say anything until after she had spent hours holding the baby at easter. So my 3 week old then got her first cold that night 
  • I'm planning on limiting visitors in the hospital so I can attempt to rest a little. I won't be as social or a good hostess either. If family come over to visit, this mama is taking a nap! 

    I don't think I'll try as hard to BF as last time. Definitely pushed me to the brink of PPD, and that's not a place I want to go to again.  





  • edited May 2017
    @sjohns908 my doctor broke my waters when I was 4cm dilated to "speed things up" .... even though I had just went into labor  :/
  • I made freezer meals and it was awesome!! Totally worth the work. 

    Pregnancy - I did walk a ton the first time, but I want to include more vigorous exercise and strength training this time. Also, not sharing a ton of details about my pregnancy on social media like I did last time out of respect for those who have experienced MCs or struggle with infertility. Also hoping to go to the chiro this time!

    Labor - not having regular checks for dilation; not having them break my water to "speed things up"; waiting longer to go to the hospital and only staying if I'm actually in active labor; hopefully avoiding the epidural this time (although it was awesome, I got it at 9cm and was really hoping for all natural). 
  • sjohns908sjohns908 member
    edited May 2017
    @beautyundefined gotcha. That makes sense.  Luckily my OB with 2 and 3 waited until I was ready to push to break mine, even when I had to be induced with my 2nd. My first OB did it to "speed things up" about half way through and it was miserable. Not only did it make the contractions more intense, it didn't make things go any faster. Plus I really, really hate bodily fluids, like it's anxeity-inducing. So leaking fluid with each contraction was awful (I realize that probably sounds ridiculous considering so much yuck goes on during birth, but still. The less the better)
  • @carries2018 I didn't mind CERTAIN Visitors. I was super annoyed by my in laws though. FIL wanted to hold my baby the entire time and got snippy when I wanted/needed her back. They were over every day for multiple hours each day (since they're only a 5 minute drive away) and I thought I had to stay awake and entertain them. I didn't mind certain friends coming over or my family. I felt like they weren't as pushy and let me do my thing and only hold the baby when I was ready to give her up. But then again DD was their first grandchild, this time may be different, especially now that they know how we are as parents and what support DH and I like/need. 
  • Im hoping to labor more at home this time around. 

    For the moms that are in their last pregnancy, what are you guys thinking about birth control? 

  • kkerner87kkerner87 member
    edited May 2017
    I will ask for the epidural sooner this time lol. I had 1 failed and had to wait forever to get the 2nd one because it was the busiest night for L&D. I almost wasnt able to get one,and I was so done from puking from the pain and being just exhausted, that i said next time i will get it sooner.
     I will also be more likely to tell people NO when they try and push a formula suppliment on me. DD had horrible latch issues and 2 nurses told me she had tounge tie and i should get it snipped if I wanted BF success. I gave DD formula in the hospital and almost had her tongue tie clipped, but something told me no. Don't snip shit on your 2 week old baby (until you *know* at least) Long story short, we kept going and nursed her successfully with no formula until 13 months old.
     Also, i am going to buy a super cute and comfy robe. A hospital gown was really hard to BF, so i just took it off from the top down. And it would be nice to wear around the house on maternity leave. Oh and make sure you GRAB AS MANY OF THOSE MESH PANTIES AS YOU CAN!! They were so great to have in those early weeks when you're still bleeding and healing. Cause lord knows there will be blood... I was surprised how much actually...

    ETA the"until you know part" on the tongue tie. I didnt want to imply that it should not ever be done, I just didnt want to take 2 nurses word for it. I needed another opinion.
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    I'm planning on baby wearing more, for sure. 

    @stefanirn06 I agree!  I know my limitations with bf and I'm ready if it fails again. I won't let myself be made to feel bad if I don't. 

    @jesssssrg SO is getting snipped once babe is born. We're done done. 
  • i feel like i dont have a choice. but i HATE baby wearing. but i think October baby will be easier than a May baby. i felt like i was in an inferno with DD2.
                                      DD1 - 10/11/13                 DD2 - 5/07/15

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  • @carries2018 was it just the temperature that made babywearing uncomfortable or anything else in addition?



  • @bluejeanbabi05 i dunno i am a mover and a shaker haha. i dont like to sit still. but wearing i feel like i need to be careful and move slower...i ain't got time for walking carefully. i am sure it has to do with the carriers i selected but since i am not really in love with doing it i didnt want to spend a million dollars on them. and i felt like it was faster to just hold the baby and use one hand for whatever i was trying to do. i mean wearing def has its benefits but i just don't have the attention span to deal with it. i wore DD1 like 3x total. with DD2 i wore her at least once a week when she was a newborn. with this one i assume i will up my game a little more.
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  • @carries2018 I'm definitely concerned about the hot aspect of it. Even October can be sweltering down here. I'm going to get a couple different carriers so I have options, and pay attention to what the reviews say about how hot they get. 



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