Weekly Randoms: 04.24

SandNStarsNJ

It's almost 8pm and I have no idea how I'm going to get everything done for tomorrow and sleep. So I figure, why not Bump!?

How's everybody else?

rspalding001

First day back at work tomorrow, boo! I'm definitely not looking forward to it and may be in denial. Why haven't we won the lotto yet so I can quit?

hoosiermama-2

@rspalding001 DH and I ask ourselves that at least weekly!  Good luck! 


Tomorrow is my first day at the new job! I'm oddly not nervous and actually pretty eager and even a bit excited.  

...but still hoping for that lucky lotto ticket hahaha

SandNStarsNJ

Good luck @hoosiermama-2 & @rspalding001!

MollySm

Good luck, ladies! 

tvh1982

Good luck ladies!

SandNStarsNJ

I'm about to go to work on 2.5 hours sleep and that's not even in a row. I could do that in college but now?

kvruns

Oh no @SandNStarsNJ

m6agua

Good luck @hoosiermama-2 & @rspalding001

I leave for vacation in 2 days!! AHHH! I have so much to get done, packing, getting the cat to SIL, getting our pup ready for boarding, mani/pedi, oh and I need to loose about 4lbs by Saturday so my bridesmaid dress won't be so tight. I'm going to try going to the sauna at the gym the next 2 days and hope to sweat some of it out.

kristah2

@hoosiermama-2 and @rspalding001 good luck!! 

@SandNStarsNJ I think a good luck is needed your way too. How did we manage in collage ?! And with a hangover to boot. I wouldn't make it now. 

@m6agua YOU CAN DO IT! maybe even try a belly toner (I used a belly bandit after m) it basically sucks everything in so you don't lose the numbers on the scale as much as start feeling tighter and toned which is what is most important then the scale when trying to fit into something. 

ZoeFer

good luck at work ladies ! 
we are going to move this weekend and still have not packed much. this week is going to be crazy. it is so hard to get things done with DD while she wants attention like every second

Ladybug2821

@kristah2 Will the belly bandit work this late in the game?  And does it actually tone your stomach or just help suck everything in so your clothes fit better?

Good Luck to everyone going back to work, starting new ventures, and working on little sleep.

kvruns

@zoefer can't imagine moving with kids also needing attention.  Are you moving to a bigger space or different location? 

ZoeFer

@kvruns it will be in the same neighborhood, so we can move slowly. H can have his own office area but other than that it is not really bigger. We have to move out from our current place because it was school housing and our lease is ending. Thank god my parents are here to help us. 

kristah2

@Ladybug2821 I found after wearing it for a while when I took it off my stomach looked a lot more toned and smaller around the waist (I would do this when you could see the bandit through my outfit).  That said I haven't touched mine in a few months since it's too big now so I'm not positive it would have the same effect at this stage. 

SandNStarsNJ

I think I might have slept but I don't know if it was at the expense of sleeping through the monitor as LO is currently in the exact opposite direction he started in. 

kvruns

@SandNStarsNJ maybe he moved silently

kvruns

Taking today off for a Me day. We had painters in doing exterior work yesterday and apparently they will be back today. So now I have to deal with that instead of just coming:going as I please. H says I don't have to do anything since if I wasnt home they would still be painting anyway but I know I'll end up having to interact some. Whine whine whine 

SandNStarsNJ

It's exterior painting. Greet them. And tell them you're going out. Do you!!

MrsMaryK2016

I agree with @SandNStarsNJ. I just had my house painted last month and of the 6 days they were here I think I talked to them three times and it was mostly just ask them to move their truck so I could leave. 

Ladybug2821

S has been in her own room for 2 nights now.  The first night was great.  She woke up twice like normal to nurse.  The second time was at 5 so I just kept her in the bed because I knew she'd be waking up for the day soon.  Last night, she did well, but I didn't.  She only woke up twice as usual but after her first wake up, it took me forever to get back to sleep.  That is what I was worried about with moving her to her room.  Unfortunately, I don't have a great place to nurse in her room and I'm not even sure that would make much of a difference since I'd still have to walk across the house twice.  I guess it is just something I'll have to adjust to.  I hope she'll start STTN soon.

kvruns

Pretty sure I burned my nips from the heating pad on the massage table. BF probs. Lol

kvruns

@Ladybug2821 I had trouble falling back asleep after feeding him and still do some but it got better. Do you not have a chair in her room for feeding ?

m6agua

*TW* Loss

My friend just had a MC. This was her first, she made it to 12 weeks but it was rough the entire time. She lives in another state but I will be traveling to see her this weekend (she is getting married). We are both artistic so I want to draw/paint/design her something with a quote. Which one do you think would be best or is it a bad idea? I too have had a MC and she knows my story. Otherwise I was thinking about waiting and sending it to her for Mother's day.

1. There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you. - Maya Angelou
2. If love could have saved you, you would have lived forever.
3. Hold onto the love, not the loss.
4. A mother is not defined by the number of childeren you can see, but by the love she holds in her heart. 
5. Even the darkest night will end and the sun will rise. -Victor Hugo Les Mis
6. You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have.
7. Life is tough but so are you.

Ladybug2821

@kvruns We have a wooden rocking chair that H bought for me years ago when first TTC.  Definitely not nursing friendly unfortunately.  When she was a newborn before we got BFing down, I nursed her on the couch in the living room.  But eventually just did it in bed. So now I've been bringing her back to my room.  Maybe I could go back to doing in on the couch and see if that helps.

kvruns

m6agua said:

*TW* Loss

My friend just had a MC. This was her first, she made it to 12 weeks but it was rough the entire time. She lives in another state but I will be traveling to see her this weekend (she is getting married). We are both artistic so I want to draw/paint/design her something with a quote. Which one do you think would be best or is it a bad idea? I too have had a MC and she knows my story. Otherwise I was thinking about waiting and sending it to her for Mother's day.

1. There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you. - Maya Angelou
2. If love could have saved you, you would have lived forever.
3. Hold onto the love, not the loss.
4. A mother is not defined by the number of childeren you can see, but by the love she holds in her heart. 
5. Even the darkest night will end and the sun will rise. -Victor Hugo Les Mis
6. You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have.
7. Life is tough but so are you.

I like 5 or 7 because they apply to this but also other situations in life. I'm torn on giving it to her now or later although I'm not sure Mothers Day would be best but you know your friend best. If it were me then just having you there as a distraction would be good although this on top of a wedding yikes 

RhodaMorgenstern

I agree with @kvruns I think 5 or 7 is the best since it's not obvious what it's about. I'm so sorry for your friend, I can't imagine dealing with a miscarriage and getting married at the same time.

kristah2

Also on the 5 or 7 team!! She will still understand but not as specific to MC. 

ZoeFer

I liked the 5 as well, i personally would not want something mention `loss` on my wall. 

SandNStarsNJ

I am a fan of #5 for the generality intent, but having had a MC myself, #3 really resonates with me. I would steer clear of mother's day though - the year anniversary and those first few weeks are the hardest (personally).

lajoliedreamer

SandNStarsNJ said:

I think I might have slept but I don't know if it was at the expense of sleeping through the monitor as LO is currently in the exact opposite direction he started in. 

E is always in a different direction now. She does it in her sleep. We share a room so I am positive it is not a waking thing so you don't need to feel guilty. Yay sleep!

lajoliedreamer

@m6agua - 6 really resonates with me and my MC experience, but I also think 5 is a good choice. It's a hard call on when to give it to her, but I'd lean more towards mother's day and let her try to focus on her wedding this weekend (as hard as it will be). You could also send it to her next week or leave it for her to find post-wedding when she might really need it instead of waiting for Mother's Day. 

anne11716

LO got his 6mo shots and a flu shot on Monday. There is now a small red and harder part where the needles went in. Normal? They don't seem to bother him at all. 

SandNStarsNJ

anne11716 said:

LO got his 6mo shots and a flu shot on Monday. There is now a small red and harder part where the needles went in. Normal? They don't seem to bother him at all. 

Totally normal!

desoky01

I'm here to ask your valued opinions on a potential opportunity! I may be able to provide care for a family whose son is one day younger than my LO. It would only be two days a week, for a total of 16 hours for the week. I'm just trying to figure out if it would be too hard for me to watch both, and if I will drive myself crazy quitting my current job and being home that much. Depending on how much we would agree on I could potentially match what I'm making now at my part time gig. 

kvruns

desoky01 said:

I'm here to ask your valued opinions on a potential opportunity! I may be able to provide care for a family whose son is one day younger than my LO. It would only be two days a week, for a total of 16 hours for the week. I'm just trying to figure out if it would be too hard for me to watch both, and if I will drive myself crazy quitting my current job and being home that much. Depending on how much we would agree on I could potentially match what I'm making now at my part time gig. 

Things I would consider:
- what additional costs will you take on (buying extra crib/pnp, bouncer/RNP, extra car seat, double stroller, etc) or any home improvements
- will you miss the "me" time from being away for the hours you currently work outside of the home
- do you actually want to do something like this or is it just a way to be home more
- what happens if this family has a change and doesn't need you anymore. Will you need to find a job again, or would you look for another child to watch, or would you be ok financially without it
- do you receive any benefits at work that would not be lost

SandNStarsNJ

kvruns said:

desoky01 said:

I'm here to ask your valued opinions on a potential opportunity! I may be able to provide care for a family whose son is one day younger than my LO. It would only be two days a week, for a total of 16 hours for the week. I'm just trying to figure out if it would be too hard for me to watch both, and if I will drive myself crazy quitting my current job and being home that much. Depending on how much we would agree on I could potentially match what I'm making now at my part time gig. 

Things I would consider:
- what additional costs will you take on (buying extra crib/pnp, bouncer/RNP, extra car seat, double stroller, etc) or any home improvements
- will you miss the "me" time from being away for the hours you currently work outside of the home
- do you actually want to do something like this or is it just a way to be home more
- what happens if this family has a change and doesn't need you anymore. Will you need to find a job again, or would you look for another child to watch, or would you be ok financially without it
- do you receive any benefits at work that would not be lost

Also now having two kids, it is WAY harder and they never seem to agree to the same schedule. If one of the primary incentives is that you would get to be with LO more, it's deceiving because you have to split your time and cater to BOTH their needs. I guess I'm saying the mommy guilt might get worse because you have to be shared with another child who isn't yours.

SandNStarsNJ

Tomorrow is take your child to work day. Anybody taking the chance? I'm bringing our two year old, but not LO. Nursing makes things too complicated. 

kvruns

SandNStarsNJ said:

Tomorrow is take your child to work day. Anybody taking the chance? I'm bringing our two year old, but not LO. Nursing makes things too complicated. 

I didn't know they still did that 

RhodaMorgenstern

SandNStarsNJ said:

Tomorrow is take your child to work day. Anybody taking the chance? I'm bringing our two year old, but not LO. Nursing makes things too complicated. 

My husband works for the federal government and they don't let anyone bring anyone under 7. And yet people still asked if he was bringing our 5 month old...

RhodaMorgenstern

Question: does anyone have bottles that don't leak? We've tried the Doctor Browns, the Nuby and the Medela bottles (with the medela nipples) and they all inevitably end up leaking on the way to daycare. Anyone have anything that really works?