I've gotta say WTF to gout. Seriously. The night before going to the recruiters office to sign paperwork.. DH is diagnosed with gout. Which DQs him. He doesn't want to lie, we had a heart to heart on the way home and he says he couldn't live with himself if he lied and "cheated" to get in. Also, he's had eye surgery, he had a cyst under one of his nipples, his shoulder dislocates... there's a whole host of medical questionables. He said if he lied he'd never be able to talk to DS about honesty and lying and cheating and stuff. He's upset. He left early this morning to go hunting. So WTF.
Also WTF KIWI HOW DO YOU WORK?! The package says "cut and scoop" but I tried scooping and that was a giant clusterf*ck. WTF I JUST WANT TO EAT A KIWI.
@wyomama0427 I'm so sorry about your DH's health issues. He sounds like a really good, stand-up guy though. But I'm sure you already knew that
Re: kiwis: I use a paring (or any) knife to peel the furry outside of it and then just slice it and eat it. I've never tried scooping but that sounds like a mess to me.
Me & DH: 31 | Married: 5.4.13 | TTC: April 2016 | BFP: 1.8.17 | EDD: 9.13.17
@wyomama0427 I know that has to be so tough for him, but I am a firm believer in everything happens for a reason. So maybe this just isn't the time for your family to have a big change like that. Good on your DH for relying on his moral compass. It's a really great quality to have and to pass on to your LO's.
My WTF is all day yesterday my wedding band was MIA. I never take it off. Never. So this was really weird. I was hunting for this thing everywhere and getting really depressed. I thought maybe it slipped off when I gave DD a bath the night before since it's pretty loose. Fast forward to DD's bedtime and I grab her pillow and stuffed animal off my bed and there's my friggin' band chilling underneath my pillow. I guess it fell off somehow in the middle of the night. Now I'm crazy paranoid and won't even consider wearing my engagement ring until my fingers fatten up.
@wyomama0427 I AM SO SORRY! I know we had talked in length about the corpsman program! When DH was a recruiter this happened to way too many people that were truly passionate about joining.
My WTF goes to an admin staff member here at work. 1st of all she has taken it upon herself to nickname my child "peanut", she has also decided that I am having a boy and will refer to my child as HE for the foreseeable future and will have to correct her if it isn't a boy. I have told her we like to call baby....Baby, until we know the gender, and that is when she went on this diatribe about how Baby is a boy. And today....today....today she asked how my little peanut is doing as we were walking into an office meeting, and i replied with "still in there" and she has the audacity to tell me "You are the most unfun pregnant woman I have ever met." I turned with a QUICKNESS and snapped *TW* "When you've had 3 consecutive losses it's not always fun and games to discuss my pregnancy with the world, it kind of takes all that extra fun out." and I really wanted to add:
@wyomama0427 I'm so sorry for your DH. It shows great character that he doesn't want to get in dishonestly, and I hope he comes back from hunting with a better perspective on things. I know my DH goes fishing when he's stressed or disappointed about something. I know it's trite, but everything happens for a reason. Just wait until you're five years down the road, and loving life and can't imagine it any other way. Also, I just peel my kiwi and slice it into circles. DH eats the furry stuff!! *gag*
follow up ladies!! she was in the RR and i was waiting so i can take my HDBD, and when she came out she was all like "are you okay? is everything alright?" i replied with "um yes. i just don't like talking about my pregnancy unsolicited." and she just looked at me shocked and said "oh. i'm sorry."
follow up ladies!! she was in the RR and i was waiting so i can take my HDBD, and when she came out she was all like "are you okay? is everything alright?" i replied with "um yes. i just don't like talking about my pregnancy unsolicited." and she just looked at me shocked and said "oh. i'm sorry."
WTF to my usually wonderful and amazing DH last night, and dragging his feet on feeding our hangry toddler while we had family over to visit. It was 6:30pm, past DS' dinner time, and DH wanted to feed himself first. I said I would do it, since DH was so hungry, but he refused to let me. And still wanted to feed himself first. I finally told him to get his ass on the porch and feed our child, and that DS not having a meltdown was more important than DH's growling stomach if he wouldn't let me feed him. I never swear at DH, but I was just at the end of my rope last night, and he was.not.helping.
The driver who was afraid to pass an 18 wheeler (who was not driving dangerously or over the line), and caused a half mile of traffic this morning on the highway, also gets a WTF. Don't make the rest of us suffer bc you are afraid to pass a big truck.
@ColoradoHiker I hate when people do that! It's like okay if you're scared, pull over and let everyone else pass you... stop creating traffic b/c you don't know how to drive!
My WTF today: I had an appointment on Monday and had to see the nurse practitioner because my OB is out of town. I was told that next time I'm supposed to see the OB, so I scheduled my A/S and next appointment and told DH to ask for the day off. I was going to put the appointment in my calendar for work, and I noticed on the appointment card that they made the appointment with the NP again. I actually liked the NP a lot, but I was specifically told to see the OB next time. Hoping that changing the appointment doesn't mean changing the A/S.
My WTF is why is it such a struggle to go grocery shopping when hungry. I went in for dinner for tonight and walked out with a bunch of unnecessary things that all looked good. Plus the Fresh French bread I got to go with dinner is now about half way gone and I haven't started on dinner yet.
@labby18 Your coworker sounds extremely insensitive. I hope your comment at l day made her reflect on how the way she is acting could be perceived as hurtful. And obviously no one would want their child referred to as a specific gender before even knowing.
I don't hate Jude Law as Dumbledore, but I don't know if I like it. I will make this decision final when of course the film comes out, and as trailers are released.
@wyomama0427 I am sorry to hear about your DH. I personally know how hard it is to be held back from your passion because of an injury. Hopefully he will find something else that he is equally passionate about.
@labby18 screw your co-worker. I hate when people say shit like that. During this pregnancy and especially during my pregnancy with DD, people all the time would say things like "Don't you love being pregnant?" "Aren't you excited?" and other various stupid generic dumb things. When you are sick, feel miserable, and have horrible anxiety, its hard to express the excitement. Yes I am excited to be pregnant and have a healthy beautiful baby, but the 9 months of getting there, is not as much fun.
@DPandMB I hate when people ask me if I'm excited. Of course I'm excited, but I'm not Meryl Streep, I can't conjure excitement out of thin air the moment you randomly demand it.
@Swazzle I'll give him a chance because I do think Jude Law is talented and I trust JK, but I wasn't thrilled when I initially saw the casting announcement either. If he ruins what I love, I will hold an eternal grudge.
@wyomama0427 That is so hard. Your DH did a really commendable thing. I also believe everything happens for a reason, so who knows what opportunity you guys will get down the road that you wouldn't have otherwise, or, alternately, what thing you've been spared. I hope his hunting trip helps hims find some clarity and peace about the situation.
@HollyGolightly09 I hate that you're still having nausea. I'd take it for you if I could!
@labby18 F her. People are the worst. But I'm glad you spoke up for yourself. I hope it shuts her up from here on out.
@ColoradoHiker Doesn't your DH know by now that avoiding a hangry toddler is worth whatever it costs?! Also, ass is a really mild curse word- like, one a scale of one to ten, it's only a two or three, so you didn't really say anything that bad.
@mrs_tacos@Ae_Lovely321@labby18 I might be biased because he's just really not my favorite. DH really wanted to watch his show The Young Pope and I could barely get past the first episode. I think his face bothers me.
Me & DH: 31 | Married: 5.4.13 | TTC: April 2016 | BFP: 1.8.17 | EDD: 9.13.17
Thank you for all of your sweet comments and support. I really do love this board and all of you. I talk to you guys about stuff way more than my IRL friends. In fact my family knows nothing about any of the military stuff. You all have been so supportive through all of this. I also believe that everything happens for a reason and to me, it's a big huge neon sign that the night before we go in to sign, he's diagnosed with something that disqualifies him. On the topic of people saying stuff to pregnant women, I am SO TIRED of people assuming I need a girl or I want this baby to be a girl and all the f*cking girl comments. My mom, my grandparents, the cashier at the freaking grocery store. The girl comments are really starting to annoy me. I don't NEED to have a girl. Staahhhp. The cashier who doesn't even know me literally said "I hope you get your girl!" Lady you don't even know me? I just have to want a girl because I have a boy? The inappropriateness of people's comments toward pregnant women never ceases to amaze me. Half of me hopes we have another boy just to spite everyone. But honestly whoever this baby is will be perfect. Boy or girl. Our family will be no more or less complete than if they had been a different sex. Also, I can't see Jude Law being a convincing dumbledore.
@wyomama0427 So sorry about your H's issues. Also, frustrated with the way people talk to pregnant women. Seriously, why are people so interested in your baby's genitals? It's none of their business. Personally, I hope we all have healthy, happy babies at the end of this.
another WTF... we put on lunch & learn seminars just about every month, but the date sometimes changes. I rely on my boss to copy me on the correspondence and actually invite me to the calendar event, FOR THE EVENT I HAVE TO PREP AND SET UP. Yeah, I just happened to click on his calendar. IT IS TOMORROW. I have had no correspondence or anything on this. Zero head count. NADA. So I'm just prepping the average head count for these things of informational folders and goodies. Hope it's enough. I sent him a passive aggressive email.
Giant WTF to DH's aunt who just asked if I'd "stop writing my little stories" once the baby came. Um, excuse me?! Screw you and the horse you rode in on. 1: That tone is suuuuper condescending. My current "little story" is a 326 page novel, but thank you for completely minimizing any time or talent it took to create. And while I haven't made money from it yet, I do make money from a number of other side projects. I'm not just sitting over here twiddling my thumbs. 2: I don't see where she ever gave up her career when her kids came along. Just because I don't put on a power suit (or even shoes) and go into an office everyday doesn't make my career any less legitimate. And 3: This isn't just my career, it's my art. No one expected my sil to give up playing piano or violin when she had kids, why would anyone ever think I'd give up writing?
@labby18 I don't consider myself a passive aggressive person, but I all the time send passive aggressive emails at work. It brings me joy to see how passive aggressive I can be.
@DPandMB@labby18 I don't like being passive aggressive in life in general, but sometimes at work it's the only way to go. If you're too forward you get labeled a bitch (My usual problem. I fired a contractor last year because he insinuated that I was only mad at him- aka acting bitchy- because it was "my lady time." Hahahahaha- it's not, and now you have no job.), but I just can't bring myself to be the person who just grins and bears it. I hope your boss gets the message, labby, because it is not ok to not communicate with you about your responsibilities. Boo on him.
@mrs_tacos That's ridiculous! Honestly, I occasionally write novel-length fiction for fun when I have time. No one has ever suggested that I stop. And, no one asks if I'm going to quit my job. And they shouldn't. If they didn't make the baby with you and they don't share finances with you, they don't get to have an opinion on how you raise the kid or pay your bills.
@bridge-and-wall Thank you! I have an agent and two editors, everything but the publishing contract. It's still not enough to be taken seriously by a surprising number of people. It's so frustrating.
@mrs_tacos I got my master's in publishing. Made me decide that I'd rather go to law school than actually try to get published. But, that's because I write for fun and I don't want it to be work. It's one of my big stress/anxiety relievers. And I'm afraid of losing that if it becomes work. If you have the discipline to treat your writing like a job and pursue it as a career, that should be respected and taken seriously. And it seems like you have the talent to succeed, so she should just STFU. I second the sentiment that people suck.
@mrs_tacos people will try to delegitimize your choices as a mom no matter what you choose. I almost think it's worse when they act incredulous with your choices rather than just passive aggressive. I have asked someone before if they were quitting when the baby comes because she had expressed the desire to be a SAHM but it ends up financially they can't swing it and she's really upset about it. I never saw myself being a SAHM but here I am and I still get questions about when I'll get a "real" job. People suck, hugs.
@mrs_tacos someone actually said that to you?! I would have fired him too. That reminds me of the jerk from AT&T with @labby18. What ever happened with that guy?
@DPandMB oh yeah AT&T....i got new grass (yay) and essentially every single manager for the area has either called me or my husband assuring the individual has been "handled" and if there is anything else and that the guy is wrong because it is in their policy to replace the grass yadda yadda yadda....
eta: i knew he was wrong...hence why i got new sod put in before any of the managers called because i made sure it was taken care of.
@mrs_tacos someone actually said that to you?! I would have fired him too. That reminds me of the jerk from AT&T with @labby18. What ever happened with that guy?
Oh yes, he said that. It shouldn't have shocked me, the whole reason I was annoyed was that when my male peer would ask him to do something, it would get done right away. When I'd ask, he'd drag his feet for days, even if it was an urgent request. He also never acknowledged me as his boss. I think it shocked him to discover that I actually had the power to fire him.
So DH had a problem with a parent at a game the other day. DH is a baseball couch for a Christian school varsity team. One of the parents who also happens to be college faculty, crossed the line in trash talking the umps and borderlined harassed one of the tenth-graders who was struggling pitching. It got to the point where an ump commented to DH that he was about to throw the parent out of the game. Since it wasn't the first time this parent had made mocking remarks, and since we are a Christian school that tries to uphold a good testimony, DH sent a respectful email to the athletic director. The AD and the principal promptly kicked out the dad from coming to any more games. Apparently, this wasn't the first time he had been a problem. The dad responded by pulling both of his boys from the team and threatening to pull them out of school. He asked if DH's story could be corroborated by anyone. The kid who was being harassed didn't hear the parent from the stands, and the boy's mom has now changed her story to none of the parent's comments were hurtful in anyway. Now, DH is feeling like he is the bad guy since he doesn't have any hard evidence that any of this happened.
TL;DR: DH tried to correct a problem, and it blew up in his face.
Ugh, so stressed right now. I'm the type of person that absorbs other people's stress and now I'm all nerves. Maybe I should go pull out a coloring book.
wyomama0427
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Re: WTF Wednesday 4/12
Also WTF KIWI HOW DO YOU WORK?! The package says "cut and scoop" but I tried scooping and that was a giant clusterf*ck. WTF I JUST WANT TO EAT A KIWI.
Re: kiwis: I use a paring (or any) knife to peel the furry outside of it and then just slice it and eat it. I've never tried scooping but that sounds like a mess to me.
Me & DH: 31 | Married: 5.4.13 | TTC: April 2016 | BFP: 1.8.17 | EDD: 9.13.17
My WTF is all day yesterday my wedding band was MIA. I never take it off. Never. So this was really weird. I was hunting for this thing everywhere and getting really depressed. I thought maybe it slipped off when I gave DD a bath the night before since it's pretty loose. Fast forward to DD's bedtime and I grab her pillow and stuffed animal off my bed and there's my friggin' band chilling underneath my pillow. I guess it fell off somehow in the middle of the night. Now I'm crazy paranoid and won't even consider wearing my engagement ring until my fingers fatten up.
My WTF goes to an admin staff member here at work. 1st of all she has taken it upon herself to nickname my child "peanut", she has also decided that I am having a boy and will refer to my child as HE for the foreseeable future and will have to correct her if it isn't a boy. I have told her we like to call baby....Baby, until we know the gender, and that is when she went on this diatribe about how Baby is a boy.
And today....today....today she asked how my little peanut is doing as we were walking into an office meeting, and i replied with "still in there" and she has the audacity to tell me "You are the most unfun pregnant woman I have ever met." I turned with a QUICKNESS and snapped *TW* "When you've had 3 consecutive losses it's not always fun and games to discuss my pregnancy with the world, it kind of takes all that extra fun out." and I really wanted to add:
Also, I just peel my kiwi and slice it into circles. DH eats the furry stuff!! *gag*
@labby18 Just ugh. People.
@labby18 I know we say this all the time, but why does growing a baby make our lives open to everyone else's discussion/opinions? Ugh...
@cmar1006 So glad you found your ring! I would definitely be worried to wear them now too
The driver who was afraid to pass an 18 wheeler (who was not driving dangerously or over the line), and caused a half mile of traffic this morning on the highway, also gets a WTF. Don't make the rest of us suffer bc you are afraid to pass a big truck.
DS2: EDD- 09.08.17
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i think grocery shopping pregnant is just a joke. either it all makes you sick or you want to eat all of it. no in between.
WTF to casting Jude Law as young Dumbledore in the Fantastic Beasts sequel.
Me & DH: 31 | Married: 5.4.13 | TTC: April 2016 | BFP: 1.8.17 | EDD: 9.13.17
I don't hate Jude Law as Dumbledore, but I don't know if I like it. I will make this decision final when of course the film comes out, and as trailers are released.
@labby18 screw your co-worker. I hate when people say shit like that. During this pregnancy and especially during my pregnancy with DD, people all the time would say things like "Don't you love being pregnant?" "Aren't you excited?" and other various stupid generic dumb things. When you are sick, feel miserable, and have horrible anxiety, its hard to express the excitement. Yes I am excited to be pregnant and have a healthy beautiful baby, but the 9 months of getting there, is not as much fun.
@Swazzle I'll give him a chance because I do think Jude Law is talented and I trust JK, but I wasn't thrilled when I initially saw the casting announcement either. If he ruins what I love, I will hold an eternal grudge.
@wyomama0427 That is so hard. Your DH did a really commendable thing. I also believe everything happens for a reason, so who knows what opportunity you guys will get down the road that you wouldn't have otherwise, or, alternately, what thing you've been spared. I hope his hunting trip helps hims find some clarity and peace about the situation.
@HollyGolightly09 I hate that you're still having nausea.
@labby18 F her. People are the worst. But I'm glad you spoke up for yourself. I hope it shuts her up from here on out.
@ColoradoHiker Doesn't your DH know by now that avoiding a hangry toddler is worth whatever it costs?! Also, ass is a really mild curse word- like, one a scale of one to ten, it's only a two or three, so you didn't really say anything that bad.
Me & DH: 31 | Married: 5.4.13 | TTC: April 2016 | BFP: 1.8.17 | EDD: 9.13.17
On the topic of people saying stuff to pregnant women, I am SO TIRED of people assuming I need a girl or I want this baby to be a girl and all the f*cking girl comments. My mom, my grandparents, the cashier at the freaking grocery store. The girl comments are really starting to annoy me. I don't NEED to have a girl. Staahhhp. The cashier who doesn't even know me literally said "I hope you get your girl!" Lady you don't even know me? I just have to want a girl because I have a boy? The inappropriateness of people's comments toward pregnant women never ceases to amaze me. Half of me hopes we have another boy just to spite everyone. But honestly whoever this baby is will be perfect. Boy or girl. Our family will be no more or less complete than if they had been a different sex.
Also, I can't see Jude Law being a convincing dumbledore.
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we put on lunch & learn seminars just about every month, but the date sometimes changes. I rely on my boss to copy me on the correspondence and actually invite me to the calendar event, FOR THE EVENT I HAVE TO PREP AND SET UP. Yeah, I just happened to click on his calendar. IT IS TOMORROW. I have had no correspondence or anything on this. Zero head count. NADA. So I'm just prepping the average head count for these things of informational folders and goodies. Hope it's enough. I sent him a passive aggressive email.
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i hate people. people suck. i have come to that conclusion today.
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oh yeah AT&T....i got new grass (yay) and essentially every single manager for the area has either called me or my husband assuring the individual has been "handled" and if there is anything else and that the guy is wrong because it is in their policy to replace the grass yadda yadda yadda....
eta: i knew he was wrong...hence why i got new sod put in before any of the managers called because i made sure it was taken care of.
Since it wasn't the first time this parent had made mocking remarks, and since we are a Christian school that tries to uphold a good testimony, DH sent a respectful email to the athletic director. The AD and the principal promptly kicked out the dad from coming to any more games. Apparently, this wasn't the first time he had been a problem. The dad responded by pulling both of his boys from the team and threatening to pull them out of school. He asked if DH's story could be corroborated by anyone. The kid who was being harassed didn't hear the parent from the stands, and the boy's mom has now changed her story to none of the parent's comments were hurtful in anyway.
Now, DH is feeling like he is the bad guy since he doesn't have any hard evidence that any of this happened.
TL;DR: DH tried to correct a problem, and it blew up in his face.
Ugh, so stressed right now. I'm the type of person that absorbs other people's stress and now I'm all nerves. Maybe I should go pull out a coloring book.