Y'all should check out the Oct Randoms thread, last two pages. Apparently the one who recently left us for October did get a really nasty racist PM, but it wasn't on the boards.
1. I just dont want a fight or flames being thrown on the bump over a controversial subject such as circumcision as we typically like to keep controversial stuff to a minimum here.
2. A war? They think we're starting a war? She called an entire group of women racists bc 1 person allegedly sent a f'd up PM that no one else knew about. Report the person who said that shit. I dont think anyone would be ok or defend someone saying something like that.
3. Ummm...if someone did send that message...thats really not cool.
I just got a message about the hour of silence, I would have waited had I realized. I wont be posting there again ( if ever?) until at least the hour has passed, it was a shit move on my side for not checking first
If someone was sending her those nasty PMs, they should be ashamed. It sounds horrible. I can guarantee that I would join her in a fight against someone saying that racist crap to her. It is not an acceptable way to treat another person.
That said, my point was just that I would research before just assuming that a whole board was racist. Not that they should investigate her or something. I'm not trying to get involved in a war against October or say that they shouldn't want her in their group. I'm glad she found a group she likes. I've just never seen any racism here and I don't want to be known as a racist board when the label isn't warranted. If I see racism on this board, I will leave too.
*snip* Ummm...if someone did send that message...thats really not cool.
Exactly. I'd really like to see a screenshot of this PM, because it could have been misread/misconstrued/blown out of proportion. But if she did get a PM with that kind of message, I'd really like to know who sent it.
@labby18 EXACTLY what you said Report it! I cant believe anyone here ( at least anyone who post more regularly ) would ever think its ok to spew out hate speech to anyone and that it would fly. This just sounds just desperate straw grabbing to me.
If someone was sending her those nasty PMs, they should be ashamed. It sounds horrible. I can guarantee that I would join her in a fight against someone saying that racist crap to her. It is not an acceptable way to treat another person.
That said, my point was just that I would research before just assuming that a whole board was racist. Not that they should investigate her or something. I'm not trying to get involved in a war against October or say that they shouldn't want her in their group. I'm glad she found a group she likes. I've just never seen any racism here and I don't want to be known as a racist board when the label isn't warranted. If I see racism on this board, I will leave too.
To be fair to October, I don't think very many people saw her initial intro post. Only one person responded to it and only a couple people had liked it (now more have). Also, I mainly skim intro posts and never really get to the end, so many could have done that too.
Well to be honest I was typing before the hour of silence started and because I am working and going back and forth between work and the bump it took me forever to type so I wouldn't have seen it before posting anyways, I edited my original comment to say sorry for interrupting the hour of silence without having to add an additional comment so that way they know I didn't see it before hand because as a loss mom that's a really sweet idea
I honestly think if anyone who posts here even semi regularly is THAT blatantly racist, it would spill over into their public posts and we could know that person is most likely a racist.
I honestly think if anyone who posts here even semi regularly is THAT blatantly racist, it would spill over into their public posts and we could know that person is most likely a racist.
I agree... I just can't imagine one of our people doing that. And just from the responses here, we obviously wouldn't be okay with someone else doing it, either.
I feel like this is more of an assumptive racism, I guess she thought I was saying she shouldn't be having sex that often because she was Muslim but I never said she shouldn't have sex that often. Nothing to do with being Muslim and also I think I wouldn't want to have sex that often because ow? I mean if she really did get a PM that had that nastiness in it there needs to be proof otherwise she's fabricating stories against us to validate her accusation of us being racists
@mrsmarygs I didn't mean to suggest that all of October thinks we're a bunch of racists. I don't think most of them saw her post (or at least read it close enough to make that association). I just meant that I would personally do the research before assuming a whole group of people was racist and I hope the rest of TB would act the same way, so that we don't get a reputation we don't deserve.
I feel like this is more of an assumptive racism, I guess she thought I was saying she shouldn't be having sex that often because she was Muslim but I never said she shouldn't have sex that often. Nothing to do with being Muslim and also I think I wouldn't want to have sex that often because ow? I mean if she really did get a PM that had that nastiness in it there needs to be proof otherwise she's fabricating stories against us to validate her accusation of us being racists
Assuming no one here said anything that shes saying they said, it's libel.
Yikes, just read through the randoms post on Oct'17. If someone did say that to her, that's terrible. I really don't see anyone on here saying something so cruel though. It really isn't fair to accuse the whole board for being racist...
And they said they want to go to war with us? Are we 5? Lol...I thought we're supposed to be having children not acting like them...
@HollyGolightly09 Right?? I thought about when that 1 group came in and crashed our boards with crazy gif's? Was that a board war? Haha I have no idea...
@labby18 I'm all for gif parties....now that I've figured them out!! lol! But that was crazy. I couldn't sift through the stuff I actually wanted to read on those boards and then the board got shut down
I just read everything on the O17 randoms thread, and I don't think we need to have beef with them. It's one wacky poster, who I intend just just ignore as long as she doesn't come over here to start shit, or starts name dropping us over there. Some where saying we were "mad" at them, and I didn't see that. I know for my part I just pointed out that I thought it was weird no one questioned the accusation of a lot of our regulars being racist (in her intro, I believe she said it was the leaders of this board).
And my FFTC: I think circumcision is a perfectly fine topic for TB. This board does a pretty good job of stating their opinions without the drama llamas coming out, or bashing others choices, so I think we could discuss this just fine too.
@mrs_tacos I agree about the circumcision topic. I apologize for inadvertently highjacking the TW thread to discuss, but I do think it is a conversation this board can handle if someone wants to start a separate discussion for it. I mean, we've had political discussions, vaccine discussions, and all sorts of conversations without blowing up. We could handle this topic civilly.
And my FFTC: I think circumcision is a perfectly fine topic for TB. This board does a pretty good job of stating their opinions without the drama llamas coming out, or bashing others choices, so I think we could discuss this just fine too.
Me too. This is a pregnancy/parenting board. These are the things we can talk about and gain perspective outside the norm in our own families. We're all grown ups who can be respectful.
And I lurked their circumcision thread - we could definitely do that here. Theirs was really interesting, and there is (so far) only one sanctimony pony.
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2. A war? They think we're starting a war? She called an entire group of women racists bc 1 person allegedly sent a f'd up PM that no one else knew about. Report the person who said that shit. I dont think anyone would be ok or defend someone saying something like that.
3. Ummm...if someone did send that message...thats really not cool.
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That said, my point was just that I would research before just assuming that a whole board was racist. Not that they should investigate her or something. I'm not trying to get involved in a war against October or say that they shouldn't want her in their group. I'm glad she found a group she likes. I've just never seen any racism here and I don't want to be known as a racist board when the label isn't warranted. If I see racism on this board, I will leave too.
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And they said they want to go to war with us? Are we 5? Lol...I thought we're supposed to be having children not acting like them...
if it is lots of fun gifs, then i am kind of interested. if it isn't fun gifs, then naw i'm good.
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And my FFTC: I think circumcision is a perfectly fine topic for TB. This board does a pretty good job of stating their opinions without the drama llamas coming out, or bashing others choices, so I think we could discuss this just fine too.
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