my UO was that I was getting really annoyed by the baby kicks. He would kick me every half hour, for a half hour straight. It felt like I was popping popcorn in my stomach and I was actually very irritated by it. Then after 2 weeks of this, I went 6 days without ANY movement. I was convinced that he no longer had a heartbeat because I kept rolling onto my back while sleeping. I planned to go to the ER Sunday for an U/S but luckily Saturday night I felt something again. He was just being a stinker already and now I apologize to him for not liking his kicks.
I would love to have been "annoyed" by my first baby's kicks but unfortunately I lost my baby. Perspective is everything. I feel so thankful and grateful for every kick, twist, roll, and hiccup I've felt with DD1 and now DS. I realize this is an UO thread but you should really think about how you word things.
@budzynb that was going to be my UO as well! Im getting so annoyed and I feel guilty. With DD I loved every one, but this time it seems more irritating. Idk if the fascination is gone and I just want the baby here, or if its because he tends to be the most active when I lay down to sleep.
Im so glad you finally felt some movement, not feeling anything for that long would have driven me crazy!
UO: I think people who incessantly post about how great their SO is, on social media, are just looking for attention. I'm glad you love your husband or boyfriend, but tell them, don't tell everyone else.
@budzynb I can't remember if this is your first or not and I hate the just you wait comments, but if kicks and wiggles annoy you now, I sincerely hope you're prepared for a newborn or toddler because that's a whole different ballgame.
@budzynb I have to agree with @Nxy You really gotta read the room. Many of us have lost our babies and would have given anything to have felt our baby move. Every time I feel my son kick me in the middle of the night, and it makes me have to get up to go pee, I get so happy becuase I can feel him, and I know hes growing. I also understand that after 6 days of nothing you got scared, and im glad that you started to realize how important those kicks are, but please think before you speak!
**TW Loss/pregnancy mentioned** Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 5/30/16 and MC on 7/6/16 BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17 BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19 BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19 BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2 Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage IVF started Feb 2020 retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal. Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
Mommy to a super cute havanesse puppy and baby boy!
my UO was that I was getting really annoyed by the baby kicks. He would kick me every half hour, for a half hour straight. It felt like I was popping popcorn in my stomach and I was actually very irritated by it. Then after 2 weeks of this, I went 6 days without ANY movement. I was convinced that he no longer had a heartbeat because I kept rolling onto my back while sleeping. I planned to go to the ER Sunday for an U/S but luckily Saturday night I felt something again. He was just being a stinker already and now I apologize to him for not liking his kicks.
TL; DR: Pregnancy makes you lose your mind!
After having lost my first baby any and all kicks this little girl gives me are a true relief. This morning when I went to the bathroom I had a handprint marked on my chest from sleeping and I was terrified I had rolled over onto my belly while I was sleeping and smothered her in the womb. I poke and prod at her in the middle of the day to make sure she's still moving in there. It must be so nice to be so fortunate that you can feel annoyed. If you have an UO make it about stupid crap... not the annoyance of your unborn child.
My UO is not loving people who think I can't possibly have an opinion, or my opinion doesn't count because I am a FTM. I am not claiming to know everything, I am grateful for advice from people who have been in my shoes before. But being a FTM doesn't mean I know nothing. I do research, I have babysat for over 10yrs-including newborns and I worked with special needs toddlers. Yes, having your own that you are responsible for 24/7 is different. But what I have done has helped prepare me, and my opinion-which is just that-not fact-is still something I am allowed to have. Stop telling me I don't know anything or I couldn't possibly have any idea. I mean my sister has a kid, and when I told her and BIL about how nice the 'envelope' shoulders on onesies were to get it off w/o going over their head if there is a blowout they both looked at me like I was crazy!! Argh!
TW: 1 infant loss 8/17: Our daughter was born 8/18: Our daughter kicked open heart surgery ass 2/19: We lost our son to Prader-Willi/Paradoxical Vocal Cord/ Noonans at 6wks old 4/26/2020: EDD for baby #3!!!
@smallbutmighty77 I got so many of those looks, still do. SIL told me her husband thought I was crazy and making it up that babies can't have honey till they're one. I read and research a lot. I'm not crazy
I LOVE feeling the little kicks at this stage, and it def keeps my pgal brain at bay. I got so used to it with DD that even for a while after I had her I used to feel imaginary/ghost kicks. Probably just my insides moving back to their normal spot
@Nxy- the kicks into the ribs at the end are awful!
Can't think of a UO today, but I will say on the baby kicking topic, even with my anterior placenta she's picking up strength. It's so funny because she'll kick strongly, and I'll have DH feel my belly, and she won't kick. He'll remove his hand, and she'll start kicking again. Knowing her genetics I feel she's already taking after DH and being intentionally annoying, LOL. But on the other hand, maybe she's just getting our attention and is soothed by the presence of his hand. That's a more of a loving thought I guess!
Last night she really picked up steam when I was trying to sleep on my side. I was leaning more on my belly (you know what I mean, legs not stacked but the top one more forward) and she got really active, so I thought maybe she was getting smushed! So I tried to position myself more perpendicular to the bed and she calmed down.
With all the symptoms I have to say I have not enjoyed being pregnant, but feeling the baby kick is one really redeeming quality to the process!
I apologize to everyone for not thinking before I spoke. I did say it "was" an UO, and that now I apologize to my belly for ever being irritated with his movement. So I obviously learned my lesson on my own and realized not to take that movement for granted anymore. I am very fortunate that I have not lost a child, born or unborn, so I guess that doesn't cross my mind before I post every time. Again, I am sorry.
But yes, I am fully aware that the kicks are just going to get worse as the pregnancy progresses. And once he's born I'm sure I'll take a few to the face and diaper changes will take 10 times longer because of their wild legs. Doesn't make it any less "annoying" though.
@budzynb when your DS is first born the pee in the face will drive you more crazy than the wild legs. I think it takes a few months for the wild legs to kick in. I wish someone warned me about the constantly being peed on.
My UO: I hate monograms. I live in the south where people think you need to monogram everything you own in order to make it look pretty. Your car, your hat, your bag, your dog's collar, your mailbox, your recycling bin... I mean the curly, swirly monograms in hot pink and turquoise just in case someone couldn't see it from across the room. I'm baffled every time I attend a baby shower and every item the guest of honor opens is monogrammed and the whole room is swooning over how beautiful it is and asking where to get it done. Yuck!
I apologize to everyone for not thinking before I spoke. I did say it "was" an UO, and that now I apologize to my belly for ever being irritated with his movement. So I obviously learned my lesson on my own and realized not to take that movement for granted anymore. I am very fortunate that I have not lost a child, born or unborn, so I guess that doesn't cross my mind before I post every time. Again, I am sorry.
But yes, I am fully aware that the kicks are just going to get worse as the pregnancy progresses. And once he's born I'm sure I'll take a few to the face and diaper changes will take 10 times longer because of their wild legs. Doesn't make it any less "annoying" though.
Sounds an awful lot like sorry, not sorry. If you're going to aplogize (espically to us that have experienced a loss), at least do it with sincerity.
@britvahok, DH has two girls and I CANNOT WAIT for him to get peed on! I figure it's probably going to be the funniest new 'first' he'll get to deal with as daddy to a boy!
But @PinkPrincessPiper she's well aware that her annoying baby will continue to annoy her for the foreseeable future. Isn't that enough of an apology for you??
@britvahok@caity024 whenever my DD peed "on me" it was just a cute little trickle that soaked whatever was underneath her (usually another diaper or changing pad cover). Guess I should count myself lucky haha. I'm having another girl but maybe one day I'll get to experience pee pee in the face from a little boy
When I'm told "oh you just wait" by a bunch of internet strangers...no, I get it, kids keep kicking. I'm not stupid. I apologized for being insensitive with my first comment. Not sure what else you guys need. I should be allowed to say my kid will probably be annoying during diaper change time without people bitching me out.
@budzynb No one was bitching you out. We were letting you know that maybe you should think before you post. Maybe read the PGAL post on this BMB or any of the others you lurk and that will give you an idea of some of the struggles women face. PGAL brain is a real and serious thing!!!
If you post dumb insensitive shit you're going to get called out on it all day, regardless if you post in UO or FFFC!!!!
@middy411 your uo is a straight up sin where I am from! Gasp!!!!! But we can go a little over board with the monogram thing. Especially for girls! You're gonna hate me, I use their monogram over all three of my kids cribs in their nursery. sorry not sorry:)
Non-baby related unpopular opinion. I think going to the movies alone is the best. No talking during the movie, no sharing of snacks, and No being made fun of when you sneak a blanket inside.
1. No one called you stupid 2. No one "bitched" you out 3. It's not an apology, when at the end you say the same thing. Your so called apology is the equivalent of I'm sorry you feel that way. 4. If you think what other people are saying to you is bitchy, then take a step back and imagine how you are making the mamas who lost their babies feel. All we're saying is to be a little more sensitive to that. 5. How is feeling your baby move annoying?
When I'm told "oh you just wait" by a bunch of internet strangers...no, I get it, kids keep kicking. I'm not stupid. I apologized for being insensitive with my first comment. Not sure what else you guys need. I should be allowed to say my kid will probably be annoying during diaper change time without people bitching me out.
I too would like to see where any "bitching" took place? Just giving you another point of view. Trust me, I'm POSITIVE others could have been much less gentle at stating their different view points. I pray that I remember this and don't ever refer to my child that I have hoped, prayed and worked so damn hard to get as "annoying".
My UO is when people complain about their kids publicly! Just stop! You wanna complain to your mom? Your spouse? Go right ahead.. chances are they'll be more understanding than the public. You chose to have a kid or kidS now quit your cry babying.
Non-baby related unpopular opinion. I think going to the movies alone is the best. No talking during the movie, no sharing of snacks, and No being made fun of when you sneak a blanket inside.
I think doing a lot of things alone is fun! One of my friends had a ticket to the ballet and got sick last minute and couldn't go. No one (who might normally like the ballet) would take him up on the offer of the one ticket; one woman even said, "Going alone? I'd feel so weird!" Like... why?
@Kudlica27 I'm not PGAL, but PGAIF and always assume the worst is going to happen...I also haven't felt movement and cannot wait until I do in the hopes that my anxiety eases up a bit. Hang in there!!
@felix08 Thanks! A really kind mother in my community (whom I have never met before) Let me borrow her doppler. It's helped a lot. But with a toddler and working full time, I can't keep the doppler on me at all time.
PLUS, baby kicks is one of my favorite parts of pregnancy.
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Re: UO 4/6
my UO was that I was getting really annoyed by the baby kicks. He would kick me every half hour, for a half hour straight. It felt like I was popping popcorn in my stomach and I was actually very irritated by it. Then after 2 weeks of this, I went 6 days without ANY movement. I was convinced that he no longer had a heartbeat because I kept rolling onto my back while sleeping. I planned to go to the ER Sunday for an U/S but luckily Saturday night I felt something again. He was just being a stinker already and now I apologize to him for not liking his kicks.
TL; DR: Pregnancy makes you lose your mind!
5.5.16 | 8.14.17 | 1.30.19
Im so glad you finally felt some movement, not feeling anything for that long would have driven me crazy!
5.5.16 | 8.14.17 | 1.30.19
My UO is that I don't like to be treated like the "pregnant lady". I feel like a warrior not a wimpy.
Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17
BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19
BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19
BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2
Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage
IVF started Feb 2020
retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal.
Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
I am not claiming to know everything, I am grateful for advice from people who have been in my shoes before. But being a FTM doesn't mean I know nothing. I do research, I have babysat for over 10yrs-including newborns and I worked with special needs toddlers.
Yes, having your own that you are responsible for 24/7 is different. But what I have done has helped prepare me, and my opinion-which is just that-not fact-is still something I am allowed to have. Stop telling me I don't know anything or I couldn't possibly have any idea.
I mean my sister has a kid, and when I told her and BIL about how nice the 'envelope' shoulders on onesies were to get it off w/o going over their head if there is a blowout they both looked at me like I was crazy!! Argh!
1 infant loss
8/17: Our daughter was born
8/18: Our daughter kicked open heart surgery ass
2/19: We lost our son to Prader-Willi/Paradoxical Vocal Cord/ Noonans at 6wks old
4/26/2020: EDD for baby #3!!!
@Nxy- the kicks into the ribs at the end are awful!
Last night she really picked up steam when I was trying to sleep on my side. I was leaning more on my belly (you know what I mean, legs not stacked but the top one more forward) and she got really active, so I thought maybe she was getting smushed! So I tried to position myself more perpendicular to the bed and she calmed down.
With all the symptoms I have to say I have not enjoyed being pregnant, but feeling the baby kick is one really redeeming quality to the process!
I apologize to everyone for not thinking before I spoke. I did say it "was" an UO, and that now I apologize to my belly for ever being irritated with his movement. So I obviously learned my lesson on my own and realized not to take that movement for granted anymore. I am very fortunate that I have not lost a child, born or unborn, so I guess that doesn't cross my mind before I post every time. Again, I am sorry.
But yes, I am fully aware that the kicks are just going to get worse as the pregnancy progresses. And once he's born I'm sure I'll take a few to the face and diaper changes will take 10 times longer because of their wild legs. Doesn't make it any less "annoying" though.
When I'm told "oh you just wait" by a bunch of internet strangers...no, I get it, kids keep kicking. I'm not stupid. I apologized for being insensitive with my first comment. Not sure what else you guys need. I should be allowed to say my kid will probably be annoying during diaper change time without people bitching me out.
If you post dumb insensitive shit you're going to get called out on it all day, regardless if you post in UO or FFFC!!!!
1. No one called you stupid
2. No one "bitched" you out
3. It's not an apology, when at the end you say the same thing. Your so called apology is the equivalent of I'm sorry you feel that way.
4. If you think what other people are saying to you is bitchy, then take a step back and imagine how you are making the mamas who lost their babies feel. All we're saying is to be a little more sensitive to that.
5. How is feeling your baby move annoying?
I too would like to see where any "bitching" took place? Just giving you another point of view. Trust me, I'm POSITIVE others could have been much less gentle at stating their different view points. I pray that I remember this and don't ever refer to my child that I have hoped, prayed and worked so damn hard to get as "annoying".
My UO is when people complain about their kids publicly! Just stop! You wanna complain to your mom? Your spouse? Go right ahead.. chances are they'll be more understanding than the public. You chose to have a kid or kidS now quit your cry babying.
PLUS, baby kicks is one of my favorite parts of pregnancy.
5.5.16 | 8.14.17 | 1.30.19