October 2017 Moms

Let's Talk Irrational (or rational) Fears

Started this for selfish reasons but feel it was a good outlet for anyone to talk about their fears in pregnancy, motherhood, or just in general. Whether they be true validated fears, or fears that should be deemed irrational, let's support one another and talk each other down ;)

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  • Thank you @shan24. It was so nice to be able to sit on a bench in the park or feel the warm sun after some sleepless nights etc. I mean, I *know* getting out is doable ( hence the irrational part haha), I'm just scared my winter blues will affect me with wanting to. 

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  • @dumbledoredies it is very rare for a FTM to go into labor a month in advance , but yes it can most certainly happen. Just take it easy and don't push yourself too much around that time. It is a total rational fear you have! 

    As for your cats, I get it! I have a bunny who sort of got put on the sidelines when we got our cat. He gets taken care of an loving but no where near as much. Mainly because we have to actually go over to the cage etc. now with my cat I don't fear as much because she's very assertive and will come to us for attention. She is like my baby right now, so I get it! Just make a conscious effort to set time aside just for kitty time. You'll love surprised that it's easier to get into a routine and groove sooner rather than later ! 

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  • @canonmom413 I've been worried about being housebound and the winter blues too. My two girls were March and my son was a May baby, so a fall baby has me anxious. I'm already thinking about our pumpkin patch trip and how this baby will be less than a month old and it's usually pretty cold out when we go.

    I have depression and anxiety as it is, but the winter definitely intensifies it. So I'm right there with you. Living in the Midwest though, the winters can be harsh and the idea of going out with a newborn/infant in that kind of cold and wind is getting me anxious
  • My irrational fear is having a newborn during cold and flu season.  My son started preK this year and both my kids had every sickness imaginable from Halloween till Christmas.  Strep, pneumonia, croup, among others.  I don't know how to keep the baby from being exposed to all the germs!  Obviously make my son wash as soon as he's home, but I still am just so worried.   

    @dumbledoredies, you will still love your cats!  Yes, they may take a back seat for a little while and they might annoy you more, but you will still love them and have time with them.  I have two and my relationship with them did change a bit, but they are a big part of our family still.  I will say, that once we had my first son, we started to keep them in our finished basement when we go to bed and get them out in the morning.  We didn't want to have them waking us during the night and also didn't want to have them climbing in the crib at night.  One tip is to put some tin foil in the crib when you set it up. If they jump in, they will hop right back out and it will train them to stay out  
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  • @KDeola I never heard of foil in the crib. That's a great tip. Thank you! My cat think she owns every bed in the house. I do NOT want her in the pack n play or the crib. 

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  • Another one with anxiety here, so I'm right there with all you ladies on the (ir)rational fears. Winter is actually a much more desirable time down here for me, as going outside in a South Florida summer is not my idea of a good time, but @canonmom413 one great thing about this community is you'll have all of our support. I think that will make all of our anxieties at least a little better.

    @dumbledoredies I have the same anxieties about our dogs. There was a thread awhile back with a bunch of ladies saying that once they had their babies, the dogs were a complete afterthought, and that scares me so much because we adore our dogs. I think most of those moms, though, admitted they didn't love dogs in the first place so I let that comfort me. I'm also afraid of my Maltese getting snappy with the baby- she doesn't have the highest patience levels.

    And I also fear PPD. My anxiety is bad this pregnancy, esp without being able to take anything for it, and since I plan to BF I won't be able to take anything for a long while.



  • @canonmom413 you know, thinking about it, I had DD in January and it was brutally cold that winter.  I was terrified of getting PPD (I did eventually get PPA but it was after I went back to work during the spring.)  I think being winter actually helped me with staying in and keeping her home.  I think had it been spring I would have had her out and about everywhere during those first few months.  This time I'm more worried about the holidays.  We aren't skipping holidays so we will be around so many people. 

    @dumbledoredies I'm curious how far the wedding is from where you are?  I went into preterm labor with my first at 35 weeks (don't worry, she made it to 39 weeks.)  My doctors said that it could be from my hour long commute to and from work every day.  She told me that she's seen many girls go on long trips and go into labor. I don't mean this to scare you at all.  Just maybe look into local hospitals, have a plan if you are going to be traveling somewhere. 

    @emwj10187 I was just like you, I'm not really a baby/kid person.  But once yours is here and in your arms, it's totally different.  You will love and obsess over them like all the other crazy moms. As for PPD, it's very real and possible.  I think that being concerned about it now is actually a good thing.  It means you will watch out for it and hopefully catch it early if it does appear.  Fingers crossed though that it doesn't.

  • My fear is carrying these twins. I'm scared how large my belly will get (I'm only 5'3''). Plus I work 12hr shifts and am on my feet a lot. I really don't want bed rest since it will cut into how much time I get off after I have the babies. I'm just worried how uncomfortable I will be.  And part of me is sad. This will be my last pregnancy and I'm worried I won't be able to enjoy it because I will be so uncomfortable. Plus I worry about all the things that could go wrong. I need to stop worrying, haha! 
  • emwj10187 i dont like other kids, but i like mine...most of the time. it will all come, even if you dont have a rush of love the moment you see the baby (i didnt for a couple months)...it comes. and then it will be a love you never knew you were capable of. it is really amazing.

    also PPD is a thing, and a thing that you can talk yourself into "its normal." stay on top of it, start talking to OB now about it. there are resources and meds to help you through!
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  • @mrs_fogue That is a worry of mine too. I'm afraid my son will get lost in the chaos of the twins. I don't want him to feel any less important. 
  • 1. I can't even watch the news because I feel like everyone is out to get my kids. I'm seriously paranoid. I can't handle any kidnapping stories and get so anxious! It's awful. 
    2. I hate elevators. It's really weird. I've never been stuck and I don't know why, I'm just scared I'm gonna get stuck in one and I have a panic attack every time I have to get in one. Lol also heights, but that's somewhat normal. 
  • I'm terrified of taking care of a newborn and a toddler. I know that I am capable of doing both, I just feel like my poor toddler is going to get left out. I worry about giving him the attention he needs those first few weeks/month. 


  • @dajocl for me at least my toddler didnt "suffer" much. it was the newborn. the newborn sleeps so much (more than you remember). i would just put her on a mat/swing/RNP/wear her and chase the toddler. i was never a successful BFer but i really didnt have time for that with #2, but to be fair my heart wasnt in it to really try. i was never into baby wearing but def look into getting a carrier if you dont already have one. that was a life saver.
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    @jessafishy I worry about complications in L&D too. I had absolutely no issues with DD, during pregnancy or delivery. I think it has a lot to do with just having her already and worrying more for her sake. 

    I also worry about my family not getting here in time to stay with DD. Since we don't live near family, I've never spent a night away from her. We have friends that would be glad to watch her, but I'd rather her be with family if it's an overnight stay (like if baby comes at night). 
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  • Thanks for the advice @carries2018 I'm sure it will go better than it does in my head! 


  • I have so many fears:

    1) That my labour will go as badly/worse than last time. 

    2) That DS will hate the new baby. 

    3) That I'm going to be a horrible mom to 2 kids!

    4) That I'll have PPD again. 

    5) That I'll never get to sleep again for as long as I live...
  • 1. I can't even watch the news because I feel like everyone is out to get my kids. I'm seriously paranoid. I can't handle any kidnapping stories and get so anxious! It's awful. 
    2. I hate elevators. It's really weird. I've never been stuck and I don't know why, I'm just scared I'm gonna get stuck in one and I have a panic attack every time I have to get in one. Lol also heights, but that's somewhat normal. 
    Your #1 - my irrational fears with this came when I was home on maternity with DD. It was right when ISIS started getting a lot of publicity and all I could think was, "what kind of world have I brought this child into?"

    But the joy she brings me every single day...worth the worry and anxiousness and stress over all of the things that "could" happen. Whatever happens in her life, in our lives. Completely worth it. 
    BFP#1: 12/3/13 EDD 8/15/13. Heartbeat found on 12/26/13, HB gone on 1/4/13. D&C 1/7/13
    BFP#2: 4/19/13 EDD 12/28/13. Team Green for pregnancy and Baby Girl arrived 12/21/13.
    BFP#3: 2/9/13 EDD 10/18/17. Team Green for Round 2!

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  • @natleilynn glad I'm not alone but sorry you get anxious over this as well. There are so many stories of human trafficking right now and people trying to steal kids at grocery stores I just can't deal. I feel like I'm hyper aware all the time! These sweet babes are my world. I just can't imagine. 
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