Weekly Randoms | 3.28.17

jessafishy

What's on your mind this week?

jessafishy

So I have needed to get this out for a few days.

My mom had some sort of episode on Saturday where she passed out and stopped breathing. They had to call the ambulance and they had to perform CPR and she ended up in the ER. They don't know what happened.

I almost feel like not knowing what happened is worse than knowing. She is supposed to go to a follow up appointment this week but I'm really afraid she's going to blow it off.

Definitely NOT ready for my parents' mortality to be a worry. 

OliveOyl2014

@jessafishy sorry to hear this! Is there a way you can take her to the appointment so she doesn't blow it off? I agree with you, though, I am not ready to think about my parents' mortality. I was out shopping with my mom last year and she randomly pulls into the local cemetery to show me the grave plot and headstones she and my dad purchased. I was like wtf mom, I don't need to see that without warning. 

Hopefully all will turn out well with your mom and she takes it seriously. 

beezeee

@jessafishy oh no! I hope she gets some answers and that it doesn't happen again. I'm totally freaked about my parents getting older, too. So far they've been pretty healthy, but things are happening with some of my friends' parents and it has me thinking and worrying about my own. I still think of myself as young (but I'll be 30 this year), so it's hard to realize that my parents are getting older.

mylittleversailles

 @jessafishy Oh my gosh, I'm sorry. Hopefully there's some kind of answer with her follow up appointment(s). Wishing her a speedy recovery and no additional episodes!

edit: nvm

jessafishy

Thanks you guys.

@OliveOyl2014 Unfortunately I live about 3.5 hours away so I can't take her to her appointment. I think that's part of why I'm still unsettled by it. We FaceTime almost every day but I haven't physically seen her since the incident.

jessafishy

@reneeannemm I'm sorry about your loss and I am sure your Grandma appreciates that you are doing what you can.

lisa06317

@jessafishy oh my goodness I'm so sorry you have to go through this being so far away from your mom!! I hope you all get some answers from her follow up appointments so you can all breath a bit easier!! Will be thinking of you!

mylittleversailles

@jessafishy Thank you

curlyq423

@jessafishy Oh no! I hope she goes to her appointment and gets some answers!

VLillyV

@jessafishy *hugs* My mother had something similar just recently, and similarly to you, I live over 20 hours away and there was no way for me to be involved. She did not pass out at all, but would spontaneously start bleeding from her mouth with no known cause. They never were able to diagnose her with anything nor find the cause. 

It's very scary and unsettling. I know it unsettled her because after, she started talking about age and life. 

I hope that what your mom went through is diagnosed and treatable. I hope that everything goes smoothly for her and that this doesn't happen again. Sending you and your family all of the good vibes.

bluejeanbabi05

@jessafishy how scary, I'm sorry! I'm glad she's ok and hope she takes it seriously. My biggest fear is my parents mortality, so I feel that 100%. I legit don't know what I'd do without my momma. 

soprano19

@jessafishy that's so scary. I hope she's okay and that it was just a one-time event.

I hear you ladies on not being ready to deal with my parents' mortality. So far they are healthy, but that doesn't mean it's easy to think about.

purplestarz

@jessafishy I'm sorry, that's so scary! I really hope she goes to her appointment. I know what you mean about dealing with parents mortality. I've been thinking about it more and more lately due to a few recent events. Hugs!

This is more like a Bitchfest...but DH is really getting on my nerves this morning. He asked me this morning if he could tell his friend we are pregnant, and I told him I wanted to wait until our next appointment (Monday) before we told more people. Family already knows but I'm just more comfortable with waiting until one more appointment. I even told him his friend could be the next person to know...on Monday. But he's still trying to argue with me. Just. Stop. Already. 

carries2018

i am sorry @jessafishy i am constantly worried about my parents they had me later in life. so i feel like i am just waiting for the shoe to drop.

@purplestars H told his boss, when we talked about not telling her for another month. i am so annoyed. we have been pretty much telling everyone so not super worried about that part. but there is so much drama with this woman he should have waited. but listen to your wife? nooOOoOOoooOOoo!!!

jessafishy

I am so bored today and probably annoying the FTMs in their check in thread by answering every question. 

beezeee

@jessafishy I saw that! I started typing a big long response too and then decided to leave them alone 

jessafishy

Has anyone else taken the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator Test? (MBTI) 

Any surprises that I am an ISTP?  

bluejeanbabi05

@jessafishy I'm ISFJ and that chart just made me LOL. Too true. 

Everything is getting to me today. I just snapped at my poor DH for no reason. I want to start this day over.

natleilynn

Where is Twatwaffle Tuesday?? I've been saving one up all morning!!

ksf13

@jessafishy Saying a prayer for her! I know that's scary! 

  Possible TW-- I definitely never planned on facing my parents' mortality this soon either. My dad was diagnosed with stage 4 esophageal cancer in November. We had already planned on trying for this baby, but it almost made me feel guilty to start trying. When he did start chemo, he told me he wanted to fight hard so he could meet more of his grand babies. He had his scans for the end of his first chemo regimen this morning. Almost all of the cancer that had spread to his lungs is gone (which is what they were the most worried about!). Stage 4 esophageal cancer is hard to beat, but he's well on his way! We live about 1200 miles away too, so the distance makes it hard!

On a lighter note...my 3 1/2 year old had to have "the start of a cavity" filled this morning. I was definitely more nervous than she was. They ended up not having to do a shot, but she did get the laughing gas. She did great and afterwards she told me "That elephant nose they put on me made me feel soooo happy and great! I loved it!" haha. I was definitely nervous for nothing! It only took like 5 minutes.

jessafishy

@natleilynn girl start it!

soprano19

@jessafishy @beezeemarie please come answer our FTM questions!!

VLillyV

@jessafishy yessss. I turned out to be an INTJ and my younger brother did as well. Very odd... because I feel the part but at the same time... I don't. The INTJ has too big of shoes to fill. I am not surprised that you are an ISTP XD 

beezeee

This is more of a FFFC but DH has no idea that I use the bump boards. He would totally judge me if he knew I was spending so much time talking to strangers on the internet.

riverrainez

@jessafishy How scary. Hopefully it's just a one-time event!

@beezeemarie Ha, I totally kept my participation a secret from DH the last time around because I thought he'd judge me. But he eventually caught on after the babies were born and a smaller group moved to FB and started talking and even meeting in person. Now he asks about them, and he's even met one of the moms. Pretty sure he still thinks it's a tiny bit weird though  I don't know if he's put two and two together that I'm doing it a second time. Ha!

carries2018

@beezeemarie my H knows. but i keep everything very limited from him he would judge me so hard haha. also there have been many dramaz with my old BMB that really affected me. like tears for days. and i lied to him why i was crying that i read a sad story or something haha.

beezeee

@riverraine @carries2018 I'm sure he will catch on eventually when I slip and say something like, "my internet friend said xyz..." lol.

jessafishy

@beezeemarie DH knew but I don't think he knew the extent of time I spent on here until I joined the FB group and decided to go on a trip to meet some of the women I'd been talking to daily for 2 years.

carries2018

yea we vacation with one of my BMB BFFs. so he has gotten over the awkwardness of it/accepts it more. but still if he knew i was crying over people i will never meet that i dont have to talk to he would shake his head in shame of me haha.

carries2018

ZOMG my dad/boss is at a tradeshow. and i had them make up USB drives with our logo on them to hand out. he calls me frantically asking me what they are. "i haven't a clue what these are! what do i tell people they are?!?!" "anyone in their right mind will know what it is, it is a USB drive...you save files on it" "so i just tell people to save files on it?"

bluejeanbabi05

@beezeemarie DH kind of knows, but I definitely don't talk about it often because he also thinks it's a little odd.

And @carries2018 I think that's so wonderful how close you are with your former BMB. Goalz. It's amazing how much of a connection you can build here so fast. One of our TTGP girls lost her husband two months ago and our hearts all just absolutely broke for her. A bunch of us became fb friends and donated to the funeral fund. Just horrific but shows how incredible some of the ladies on these boards are.

eta words

carries2018

@bluejeanbabi05 it took awhile to get there. My BMB has had about 4 major breakups and splits (plus about 12839723429 small stands/break ups). but i have whittled down to true bffs, who prob know more about me than my IRL bffs haha.

soprano19

@bluejeanbabi05 that's absolutely horrible. How awful for her. And how sweet of all of you to support her, especially as someone you've never met IRL.

In truth, sometimes I think we can be much more open and honest with internet strangers than we can with people we have to face every single day.

sjohns908

@jessafishy I'm sorry you are dealing with that with your mom.  I hope they can figure out what caused it and it's something treatable

My dh knows about my BMBs. I was on one with my first back in 08 and meet up with some of them once.  My other board I feel a lot closet to and ended up becoming BFFs with one of them who happened to live in the next town over. It's so cool how you can make such bonds on these boards

@bluejeanbabi05 oh that breaks my heart. How awful for her, but I'm so glad to hear she had a supportive group of ladies there for her. It really is amazing how much a group can come together for another member, I've seen it so many times over the past almost 9 years on different boards. *TW* we've had a husband pass, 3 children pass, children with cancer, lost jobs, divorces, everything that real life can unfortunately bring. But seeing everyone come together for them is amazing

purplestarz

My DH kind of knew about my BMb last time...but I really brushed it off as no big deal. Even though it was a huge deal. I became friends with 2 of them on Facebook, and one of them had liked one of his posts that I was tagged in so I had to come clean when he asked who the heck that person was lol 

I haven't brought this one up yet. Don't really intend to because he also thinks it's weird lol

shan24

I kept my SO in the dark about my last BMB until we moved to Facebook. Then, another mommy and I figured out we lived in the same small town. She became my mommy bff and I had to tell SO how we met. He's all about it, now!

buttercream_frosting

@jessafishy Sorry to hear about your mum. I agree that not knowing is scary. Keep us posted.

@beezeemarie My DH didn't know for ages until I started to add some of my BMB as FB friends after talking to them in a FB group for 6 months.

A woman at work caught me puking in the toilets. She was really sweet about it but it was embarrassing because I make the worst sounds when puking.

JNAthanassious

@jessafishy I'm so sorry to hear about your mom. It's really so hard being far away from your family and feeling like you can't be physically be there. My parents are on the other side of the country, and although their health is decent right now, I dread the feeling of powerlessness I will feel when I inevitably get a call about their health declining. I hope you all get some answers soon and can find some peace in knowing that everything is OK. Keep us updated!

jessafishy

@mrs_fogue You feeling better today?

purplestarz

DD is being super whiny today. Just a general bad mood. Then she demanded a bagel and just licked off the cream cheese. We usually go to toddler story time at the library on wednesdays and I have about 20 minutes to decide if it's going to be worth the struggle with her attitude this morning.