The last one of these I saw was for 3/11 and buried on pg 2 so I figured I'd start a new one. Thanks to all you STMs+ for answering FTM questions and sharing your knowledge!
I selfishly have two questions: 1) What was the hardest part about having a newborn in your opinion? 2) Kind of a gross question but what happens after you give birth? You have the baby, they let you see it, and then what? Do you stay in that bed with whatever came out of you? Do you get a shower? This is one of the most mysterious parts of birth to me.
1) Marriage. I wanted to punch DH so badly with both of my babies. He is just way more laid back and fine hearing crying than I am. So we fight about it constantly. We are much better once baby is 6+ months and we are on pretty much the same page with our 4 year old.
2) This can vary - and some people are very passionate about it. With both of mine, I pushed out the baby, they showed me, then went and did some quick wiping off/apgar score/wrapping up/auctioning since both of mine were born with merconium and handed them back to me. Once I delivered the placenta and needed to be stitched up, they took baby again and did another apgar and more toweling off. Baby was back in my arms once I was stitched and we started trying to nurse. All the baby stuff happened in the room, just in a little crib thing a few feet from me.
I shouldn't have hit send yet - we hung out with baby until a post partum room was available. They do an okay job of getting rid of the gross sheets for you to sit comfortably for a little bit. Then we went to the new room, I showered and ate something and baby went to the nursery for newborn test. They brought baby back as soon as the tests were done.
1. Adjusting. I was very, very emotional and overwhelmed a few days after being home. I ended up with an extremely mild case of PPD. I am positive that without my support system, it would have been much worse.
2. I can only speak from a csection birth. I didn't know about gentle csections before I had my emergency CS. Once the docs got him out, they cleaned him up real quick, wrapped him and brought him over to me. My husband held him up to me the entire time they were finishing. I didn't shower until the day after (since I wasn't walking until then). CS or vaginal birth, push yourself (BUT know your limits). I'm positive that's what made my recovery easier than anticipated.
@DuchessOfCambridge 1) The hardest part for me was that we had no idea what we were doing. We were terrified to even go to the store with him. It was hard to get over the "I'm going to break him" mentality. 2) The nurses took DS and bathed him, weighed him, and measured him while DH watched. I delivered my placenta & got stitched up. After I was stitched up, they brought DS over for skin to skin and to nurse him. I was allowed to stay there as long as I wanted. Once we were finished, the nurses helped me to the bathroom and an entire staff of folks came barging into the room. They had my sheets changed, the floor mopped and the room spotless before I even had my mesh panties on. It was actually really cool how quickly they operated. If I bled on my bed they would change the linens any time I went to the bathroom. I had extremely high blood pressure post-delivery so I couldn't shower until the next day due to my IV meds. If I didn't have the IV, I could have showered immediately.
1. Obviously different for everyone, but for me with my first baby, the hardest thing was this overwhelming feeling that I didn't matter anymore. It felt so ironic that I was 100% sustaining another human's life (as I had been for 9 months), but everyone else acted like I was dispensable. My birth was traumatic for me, and no one even really asked about it, although i felt like if it had been just a medical situation without the baby aspect, I would have been smothered with love from my family. When they came over, while I was still healing, I remember sitting on the floor because they took all the chairs (I've since learned to speak up). I just felt so overlooked despite having just done the most incredibly hard thing in my life. In hind sight, I wish I'd spoken it out loud sooner to my husband. He wasn't contributing to that feeling, but he also didn't see it happening until I said it out loud. After that, I felt like I had someone on MY team just as much as baby's team or our new family team.
2. If you give birth in a hospital bed, it all kind of folds down with a big disposable plastic covering at the end. While youre holding baby, they'll bundle that up and throw it away. You won't even really notice or care what's happening though:)
I know I asked about sleeping arrangements before but I am struggling with what is safe for infant to sleep in all night. Although I love the bassinets, I really want to use something like a pack n play since we will be traveling to NY quite often it would serve a dual purpose. 1. For baby sleep in as a newborn in our room until he/she is ready for crib 2. For travel.
This is what I am looking at it. Would this be safe for infant?
@kissthesky32 I feel you on the husband aspect. My husband and I rarely fight. We just don't. But in those first trying months of being up all night we would fight all night long. From midnight-4am we would question our life decisions. Then at 6, the baby would smile at us and all would be forgotten. We got back to our old selves once the baby started sleeping 6 hours or so.
@jess0211 Totally safe! Just make sure the sheet you get it is for it and fits snuggly. Don't add any padding (mattress, towels under the pad, anything).
Yup, @av2323. Sleep issues were huge for us. Plus, DH was an intern when our first was born. He would be up with me and baby all night and then have to get to the hospital at 430 or 5am. He'd get home at 8pm and we would repeat the entire thing. Looking back, I'm surprised we made it through. Our second was a better sleeper and DH's hours got (marginally) better - and we had an idea of what we were in for - so that made it easier. I'm hoping that holds for this time too.
The hardest part for me was breastfeeding. I needed a lot of help to get past the pain (met with multiple lactation consults, needed some prescriptions, had some therapy/adjustments done with DS so he could open his jaw appropriately, and ended up using a breast shield for a couple weeks). It was worth it though. It became one of my favorite things, plus saved us tons of money in the long run.
I selfishly have two questions: 1) What was the hardest part about having a newborn in your opinion? 2) Kind of a gross question but what happens after you give birth? You have the baby, they let you see it, and then what? Do you stay in that bed with whatever came out of you? Do you get a shower? This is one of the most mysterious parts of birth to me.
1. Definitely marriage. We're obviously on a much different page now but I didn't think we were going to make it. We talk often how terrible it was and how to make sure we don't have a repeat this go.
2. I had a c-section after a 24 hour labor so life was a blur. I know I didn't get a "shower" until the next day or so? One of the most painful (a little humiliating too) experiences of my life. I cried the entire time and the nurse couldn't have been sweeter. You'll need to use a peri-bottle (a squirt bottle) every time you use the bathroom after delivery. I don't remember how long I used it for but it oddly made me feel better about my life.
I was sleep deprived for sure as most moms are. I also suffered from mild ppd. My DH asked if could go out with friends the first weekend we were home with son and I said yes. I didn't want to be that wife. I sat home and cried because my entire life was different and DHs didn't appear to have changed. I obviously confronted him when he got home and everything was different. It also took DH some time to feel like he was a father because I nursed son and so DH didn't know where he fit in. As son got older and more alert, DH felt more like daddy. It is hard but you figure it out and what works for you. I think 2nd time around will. E different because we know a little more know
@kissthesky32 birth story is about the same as mine.
@jess0211 I use something similar for my son when we travel.
@MississippiCatfish you're so spot on! During pregnancy everyone is so focused on you. Once the baby comes it's like you're a non entity. I had traumatic births as well and no one was terribly interested.
I do do all of the nighttime wake ups as my H has a mentally demanding job (pediatric anesthesia) and works long hours and I stay at home. So the sleep deprivation was something I had to get used to.
I know I asked about sleeping arrangements before but I am struggling with what is safe for infant to sleep in all night. Although I love the bassinets, I really want to use something like a pack n play since we will be traveling to NY quite often it would serve a dual purpose. 1. For baby sleep in as a newborn in our room until he/she is ready for crib 2. For travel.
This is what I am looking at it. Would this be safe for infant?
A few women on my last BMB used the Pack N Play as a bassinet! As previously mentioned, make sure it's flat with no loose sheets or anything additional added to the sleeping area.
1. Breastfeeding. Omg it is so terrible and hard at first (and for me terrible and hard the whole time bc I could never make enough milk). With my first, I totally thought I'd just put the baby on my boob and BOOM. Easy! Nope nope nope. I strongly recommend reading up as much as possible about BFing before you have the baby and having a strong support system in place to get help if you need it in the early days! My first also wouldn't take a bottle until about 14 weeks so the first 14 weeks were nightmareish. I didn't have a good support system and I probably had undiagnosed PPD. It would have been so much better if I had known more and got help sooner. (Also, being potentially ok with not BFing if it turns out it doesn't work for you. I was ok with that possibility the second time around, and got help for my PPD and it was sooooo much better!)
2. I didn't shower until I went home (quick turn around with both and I prefered my own shower), but they do a great job of keeping the gross stuff cleaned up! Also, I thought I'd want the baby all cleaned off before I held it but when you see your BABY for the first time, you most likely won't care about the gross stuff! I iust wanted to snuggle them!
@TallMomma29 yes! Both of my girls had tongue ties that completely shredded my nipples. It took 7 weeks to get a diagnosis and clipped with my first. With my second I recognized it right away and it was faster. But so painful!
So a lot of ladies have mentioned PPD. I am terrified about this because I have a history of depression (many years ago), an extensive family history of depression and I watched my good friend suffer terribly with PPD to the point I was at her house almost every night after the birth of her twins. I want to make sure that I have the support and guidance I need in the event I experience this. Is this a concern I should talk to my ob about early on? I have never been more concerned in my life than when my friend suffered and it's really impacted me in terms of what I worry about. I want to be proactive and any advice is welcomed!
1) The first 6-8 weeks were the hardest for me. It took a while to get in the groove, get used to sleep deprivation, work out the kinks of breastfeeding, and just honestly figure out WTF I was doing. I def agree with the ladies who said that it's about the baby and not you, that is 100% how I felt too. It can feel a little isolating at times so just speak up!
2) With my son, they thought he might have swallowed some of his own meconium stool (poop) during delivery so they whisked him away as soon as he came out. He was still in the room with me, just a few feet away being checked out. I got him in my arms a few minutes later and all was fine. By that point they had cleaned him up. It made me so so so so sad I didnt get to hold him right away. I wanted to hold him the second him came out, goo and slimy and all!! I know it was necessary, just really broke my heart. I agree when the other ladies said they do a good job of cleaning you up. They don't tell you when you poop (yes, YOU WILL POOP but YOU WILL NOT CARE) and hide the blood and stuff from you. The bed I was on kind of folded up at the end and they just have a big ole container underneath and drop all the stuff and that is that! For showering- I took a shower in the hospital the next morning.
@jess0211 yes, absolutely let your ob know you're worried. Nothing can be done now but he/she will know to look out for it at your post partum check up. The important thing is you and your H know what to look for and Take action. It's treatable and there is no shame in it.
@heatherdubrow that was a big part of my problem too and I had a terrible pedi who insisted it wasn't a big deal. Ugh I wish I had switched pedis sooner!
2....for me it has been.....push baby out, baby straight to mum. Apgars etc can be done in the 5 seconds it takes to be handed baby. That is, as long as baby is obviously well. You get to hold bub and lay there in some kind lala land while midwife helps you deliver the placenta. Daddy gets to cut cord. Baby is quickly checked over and tagged by peadiatrician in the same room. Nurses quickly strip bed while you are in it..... no idea how this magic happens. Then a few different options. If you can walk and there's no hemorraging or heavy bleeding or stitches......shower! Or the other option is you are too exhausted and fall asleep for a bit with bub. The other options is you get moved to a different room and can shower there. Ive done all 3. Obviously there are other little differences..... stitches, does baby need oxygen, do you, c-sections, epidurals, plus a thousand other small changes will change outcomes. The main one we seem to forget.....YOU HAVE TO BIRTH THE PLACENTA.
@jess0211 I would bring it up now and bring it up towards the end of pregnancy to your doctor so at the very least it's been documented that there's history. It's important that your friends and family know what to look for too so they can be supportive if you should need help after delivery. And if you ever feel like something is wrong, speak up.
1) Figuring out Breastfeeding was the hardest part of my first. I know in retrospect that I gave up way too soon. I wanted to do more, but felt it was just two hard. I am grateful that I had #2 to get it right with! And, by "get it right" I mean figuring out what worked for us! Understanding that we WOULD get it right all we really needed was alone time!
All three of my babies spent at least 1 night in the NICU. Honestly, this prepares you for caring for a infant like nothing else. You see the balance between how frail they are and how hearty they are! Plus, you know you have nurses there to help if/when needed!
2) C-section momma here. I tell people I have my children surgically removed. Honestly, at 35 and after 3 sections...the idea of vaginal birth still bumfussles me!
1. Breastfeeding. I had great lactation consultants who literally pulled out all the tricks because I wanted to bf so bad and was struggling because of hospital policy. (Using sugar water to latch, syringe supplementing the feeding)
2. I had an unplanned c-section. I had a failed induction. Immediately after c-section I was able to see/hold baby with one arm. I went to recovery until I was able to move my legs and the baby was with my HB and a nurse. I didnt get to see her until the pediatrician saw her first and I was highly pissed because all I wanted was to see her. I was told not to get out of bed for the first 24 hrs so some very nice person cleaned me up during that time. I don't have a good recollection of what they did but at that point shyness wasnt a thing anymore for me. I think some of the bfing problems arose from not being able to have those first snuggles.
I selfishly have two questions: 1) What was the hardest part about having a newborn in your opinion? 2) Kind of a gross question but what happens after you give birth? You have the baby, they let you see it, and then what? Do you stay in that bed with whatever came out of you? Do you get a shower? This is one of the most mysterious parts of birth to me.
1) Breastfeeding and then exclusively pumping when the lactation consultant said there was no possible way I could breastfeed my baby until she was physically bigger. I was so relieved when my milk dried up due to a severe stomach bug when she was 3 or 4 weeks old.
In regards to what others are saying about marriage, I highly recommend looking up what happens to men's and women's brain chemistry when an infant cries loudly. A new mom is pumped full of hormones that cause her to jump into full alert mode, like an adrenaline rush, when her baby makes the smallest of sounds, whereas dad might be able to sleep through a little crying. In addition, loud crying or screaming generally causes emotions of caring in the mother, whereas it causes emotions of anger in men. I was so glad I had read that beforehand, because I had never seen my husband that angry before.
2) If the hospital's general policy is to do skin to skin contact right away (generally for about an hour), they'll tell you. (Or you can ask). Obviously it won't be guaranteed, because emergencies happen. DH and I were both surprised when they put DD on my chest because we expected her to be a lot grosser than she was. I had to wait a bit for a postpartum room to open up, so after trying to breastfeed I ended up having a meal brought to me in the delivery room, which I attempted to eat, but wasn't the least bit hungry. I showered once I got settled in the postpartum room; in fact, it may have been several hours later. In both rooms, DD was always in the room with me. They bathed her and gave her her shot right there in the delivery room. The only time she left the room was for her hearing test (and then when we asked the nurses to take her for a couple hours so we could sleep, but I don't like to talk about that). To be honest, everything post pushing is kind of a blur. Even at the time, I remember thinking, "I don't even know what's happening right now."
For me delivering the placenta was just like delivering my baby. They will check it afterwards to make sure it is intact and nothing was left behind. If it is not, they will go in and remove it. Mine was intact so nothing further
@DuchessOfCambridge Delivering the placenta is super weird feeling. There's generally a little tugging by the doctor to help it detach and then it sort of slides out. It doesn't hurt like birthing a baby, but you definitely feel it. Both times, I've had a very distinct feeling of not being pregnant anymore once the placenta delivered. I felt very empty and it was so bizarre to me that it happened once the placenta was gone, instead of when the baby came out. I dunno - I'm weird.
@DuchessOfCambridge both times I didn't even really notice the delivering the placenta part! Both times my OB basically pulled it out while I was distracted by the baby. I didn't even see it!
Can we elaborate more on delivering the placenta? Does it hurt or is it just like when you get a really gross gush during AF but a lot more gross?
I had a water birth, and afterwards my tailbone HURT and I had a ton of pressure still. I asked to get out of the tub and moved to the bed. They kept telling me I needed to push again to birth the placenta and I kept saying no, I couldn't, I had no energy left. Finally they threatened me with a hospital transfer if I didn't so I finally did. Oh my god did I feel better. I really wish someone had told me the pain/pressure I was feeling was the placenta trying to come out.
Tl;dr: it's a relief to push it out and feels like birthing an octopus. DH said it was one of the weirdest things he's ever seen.
@jess0211 It's mainly my DH family that gave me that feeling. Its so strange to me how wonderful people that I love so dearly can be so completely self-centered. And have no clue about it. I hope they're better than you expect and that you and DH can have good communication about it.
I second the feeling of delivering the placenta being like birthing an octopus. Totally. Good one.
1. Sleep deprivation combined with breastfeeding! No one told me breastfeeding was going to be hard "its natural. It's best for baby. Etc" but no one told me it would be so hard. With my first, I gave up breastfeeding after a couple weeks of being exhausted and failing at nursing. With my second, he breastfed no problem. With my third, he breastfed ALL THE TIME! It's so challenging and you're so tired. Just remember, you will find no Ivy League school where the kids are sitting around discussing who was breastfed and who wasn't! FED IS BEST! And get rest when you need to!
2. I'm a big fan of skin to skin contact as soon as delivery happens. My hospital cleans them up on your chest and let's you hold them for a bit. Then they clean them up better (in the same room) while you deliver the placenta. I thought this part was awful. It's this weird boggy pulling feeling from your ob yanking on it. Then afterwards the nurses push on your now, deflated-balloo-looking belly to help get all the afterbirth out. Yuck. But then they clean it up and show you your hopefully intact placenta. And then you get your baby back. Our hospital does everything in the room unless there is something wrong like baby has a low apgar score or something. I remember very clearly my husband and baby going to the nursery with one of ours, while I was still trying to get cleaned up with some nurse I had never met and feeling very empty and very alone. It was not a feeling I enjoyed, but then husband and baby are back pretty quick and you will never be alone again for pretty much the rest of your life! Hahaha
1. I think the hardest thing for me was the weight of the responsibility of realising I have a baby totally dependant on me 24/7. It was all consuming and I found making decisions on behalf of this little person about whether they were warm enough or too cold, tired, hungry quite overwhelming. Once I learnt to trust my gut instincts a bit more and stopped putting so much thought in to everything it got easier. I also got to know my babies cues as time went on so that helped as well. 2. C section under general anesthetic so I don't really know what happened!
Re: FTM Questions for STMs Week of 3/26
1) What was the hardest part about having a newborn in your opinion?
2) Kind of a gross question but what happens after you give birth? You have the baby, they let you see it, and then what? Do you stay in that bed with whatever came out of you? Do you get a shower? This is one of the most mysterious parts of birth to me.
2) This can vary - and some people are very passionate about it. With both of mine, I pushed out the baby, they showed me, then went and did some quick wiping off/apgar score/wrapping up/auctioning since both of mine were born with merconium and handed them back to me. Once I delivered the placenta and needed to be stitched up, they took baby again and did another apgar and more toweling off. Baby was back in my arms once I was stitched and we started trying to nurse. All the baby stuff happened in the room, just in a little crib thing a few feet from me.
2. I can only speak from a csection birth. I didn't know about gentle csections before I had my emergency CS. Once the docs got him out, they cleaned him up real quick, wrapped him and brought him over to me. My husband held him up to me the entire time they were finishing. I didn't shower until the day after (since I wasn't walking until then). CS or vaginal birth, push yourself (BUT know your limits). I'm positive that's what made my recovery easier than anticipated.
1) The hardest part for me was that we had no idea what we were doing. We were terrified to even go to the store with him. It was hard to get over the "I'm going to break him" mentality.
2) The nurses took DS and bathed him, weighed him, and measured him while DH watched. I delivered my placenta & got stitched up. After I was stitched up, they brought DS over for skin to skin and to nurse him. I was allowed to stay there as long as I wanted. Once we were finished, the nurses helped me to the bathroom and an entire staff of folks came barging into the room. They had my sheets changed, the floor mopped and the room spotless before I even had my mesh panties on. It was actually really cool how quickly they operated. If I bled on my bed they would change the linens any time I went to the bathroom. I had extremely high blood pressure post-delivery so I couldn't shower until the next day due to my IV meds. If I didn't have the IV, I could have showered immediately.
2. If you give birth in a hospital bed, it all kind of folds down with a big disposable plastic covering at the end. While youre holding baby, they'll bundle that up and throw it away. You won't even really notice or care what's happening though:)
This is what I am looking at it. Would this be safe for infant?
https://www.gracobaby.com/products/pages/travel-lite-crib-with-stages-peyton.aspx
2. I had a c-section after a 24 hour labor so life was a blur. I know I didn't get a "shower" until the next day or so? One of the most painful (a little humiliating too) experiences of my life. I cried the entire time and the nurse couldn't have been sweeter. You'll need to use a peri-bottle (a squirt bottle) every time you use the bathroom after delivery. I don't remember how long I used it for but it oddly made me feel better about my life.
@kissthesky32 birth story is about the same as mine.
@jess0211 I use something similar for my son when we travel.
@MississippiCatfish you're so spot on! During pregnancy everyone is so focused on you. Once the baby comes it's like you're a non entity. I had traumatic births as well and no one was terribly interested.
I do do all of the nighttime wake ups as my H has a mentally demanding job (pediatric anesthesia) and works long hours and I stay at home. So the sleep deprivation was something I had to get used to.
2. I didn't shower until I went home (quick turn around with both and I prefered my own shower), but they do a great job of keeping the gross stuff cleaned up! Also, I thought I'd want the baby all cleaned off before I held it but when you see your BABY for the first time, you most likely won't care about the gross stuff! I iust wanted to snuggle them!
Eta clarification
1) The first 6-8 weeks were the hardest for me. It took a while to get in the groove, get used to sleep deprivation, work out the kinks of breastfeeding, and just honestly figure out WTF I was doing. I def agree with the ladies who said that it's about the baby and not you, that is 100% how I felt too. It can feel a little isolating at times so just speak up!
2) With my son, they thought he might have swallowed some of his own meconium stool (poop) during delivery so they whisked him away as soon as he came out. He was still in the room with me, just a few feet away being checked out. I got him in my arms a few minutes later and all was fine. By that point they had cleaned him up.
It made me so so so so sad I didnt get to hold him right away. I wanted to hold him the second him came out, goo and slimy and all!! I know it was necessary, just really broke my heart.
I agree when the other ladies said they do a good job of cleaning you up. They don't tell you when you poop (yes, YOU WILL POOP but YOU WILL NOT CARE) and hide the blood and stuff from you. The bed I was on kind of folded up at the end and they just have a big ole container underneath and drop all the stuff and that is that!
For showering- I took a shower in the hospital the next morning.
1 SLEEP DERIVATION. Enough said.
2....for me it has been.....push baby out, baby straight to mum. Apgars etc can be done in the 5 seconds it takes to be handed baby. That is, as long as baby is obviously well. You get to hold bub and lay there in some kind lala land while midwife helps you deliver the placenta. Daddy gets to cut cord. Baby is quickly checked over and tagged by peadiatrician in the same room. Nurses quickly strip bed while you are in it..... no idea how this magic happens. Then a few different options. If you can walk and there's no hemorraging or heavy bleeding or stitches......shower! Or the other option is you are too exhausted and fall asleep for a bit with bub. The other options is you get moved to a different room and can shower there. Ive done all 3. Obviously there are other little differences..... stitches, does baby need oxygen, do you, c-sections, epidurals, plus a thousand other small changes will change outcomes. The main one we seem to forget.....YOU HAVE TO BIRTH THE PLACENTA.
Cant wait!
All three of my babies spent at least 1 night in the NICU. Honestly, this prepares you for caring for a infant like nothing else. You see the balance between how frail they are and how hearty they are! Plus, you know you have nurses there to help if/when needed!
2) C-section momma here. I tell people I have my children surgically removed. Honestly, at 35 and after 3 sections...the idea of vaginal birth still bumfussles me!
2. I had an unplanned c-section. I had a failed induction. Immediately after c-section I was able to see/hold baby with one arm. I went to recovery until I was able to move my legs and the baby was with my HB and a nurse. I didnt get to see her until the pediatrician saw her first and I was highly pissed because all I wanted was to see her. I was told not to get out of bed for the first 24 hrs so some very nice person cleaned me up during that time. I don't have a good recollection of what they did but at that point shyness wasnt a thing anymore for me. I think some of the bfing problems arose from not being able to have those first snuggles.
In regards to what others are saying about marriage, I highly recommend looking up what happens to men's and women's brain chemistry when an infant cries loudly. A new mom is pumped full of hormones that cause her to jump into full alert mode, like an adrenaline rush, when her baby makes the smallest of sounds, whereas dad might be able to sleep through a little crying. In addition, loud crying or screaming generally causes emotions of caring in the mother, whereas it causes emotions of anger in men. I was so glad I had read that beforehand, because I had never seen my husband that angry before.
2) If the hospital's general policy is to do skin to skin contact right away (generally for about an hour), they'll tell you. (Or you can ask). Obviously it won't be guaranteed, because emergencies happen. DH and I were both surprised when they put DD on my chest because we expected her to be a lot grosser than she was. I had to wait a bit for a postpartum room to open up, so after trying to breastfeed I ended up having a meal brought to me in the delivery room, which I attempted to eat, but wasn't the least bit hungry. I showered once I got settled in the postpartum room; in fact, it may have been several hours later. In both rooms, DD was always in the room with me. They bathed her and gave her her shot right there in the delivery room. The only time she left the room was for her hearing test (and then when we asked the nurses to take her for a couple hours so we could sleep, but I don't like to talk about that). To be honest, everything post pushing is kind of a blur. Even at the time, I remember thinking, "I don't even know what's happening right now."
Tl;dr: it's a relief to push it out and feels like birthing an octopus. DH said it was one of the weirdest things he's ever seen.
I second the feeling of delivering the placenta being like birthing an octopus. Totally. Good one.
2. I'm a big fan of skin to skin contact as soon as delivery happens. My hospital cleans them up on your chest and let's you hold them for a bit. Then they clean them up better (in the same room) while you deliver the placenta. I thought this part was awful. It's this weird boggy pulling feeling from your ob yanking on it. Then afterwards the nurses push on your now, deflated-balloo-looking belly to help get all the afterbirth out. Yuck. But then they clean it up and show you your hopefully intact placenta. And then you get your baby back. Our hospital does everything in the room unless there is something wrong like baby has a low apgar score or something. I remember very clearly my husband and baby going to the nursery with one of ours, while I was still trying to get cleaned up with some nurse I had never met and feeling very empty and very alone. It was not a feeling I enjoyed, but then husband and baby are back pretty quick and you will never be alone again for pretty much the rest of your life! Hahaha
2. C section under general anesthetic so I don't really know what happened!