Baby bump barely showing

Jayseeka

im due sept 5 so I'm 16.5 weeks and am barely showing☹️ Just looks like a beer gut. I'm 5'7" with a VERY long torso. I had an appointment like 2 weeks ago and the doctor said everything looked good. Anyone else in my same boat and barely showing. 

msashley2010-2

If you check out the HDBD (Hump Day Bump Day) threads we post every Wednesday you will see that we all have a variety of different body types and some of us show much later than others. If your doctor said that you are fine I wouldn't worry about. I didn't even look pregnant with my first until I was 6 months pregnant. 

I'm 17 weeks now and no one that doesn't already know about my pregnancy can tell that I'm pregnant just by looking at me. 

wyomama0427

Who are you?

cmar1006

Give it time. 

wyomama0427

So you're new here. It's usually not well received when someone comes into an established community of people who have been getting to know each other and supporting each other since December/January, and doesn't care to learn how it works before making their own posts. You're more than welcome to participate in the daily threads, in fact we'd love to get to know you if you'd read the thread at the top of the board that says read this first, introduce yourself in the intro thread.

BigBadWolf12

A lot of people don't show until 20+ weeks. My cousin posted a 20 week bump shot and she looked like she just had a big burger or something, not a baby bump.

join in on the other threads or check out the "when did you start showing?" thread. A lot of stm posted that they didn't show the first time til 18-20+ weeks.

lap018

You're not showing yet at 16.5 weeks with a "VERY long torso" it's like a medical mystery I can't figure it out guys. 

mrs_tacos

I 5' 2" with almost no torso to speak of, and someone asked me yesterday if I'm 6 or 7 months along.  We all have our crosses to bear, sweetcheeks. 

kelseyrayay

@mrs_tacos same here I looke like I'm 6 months pregnant 

labby18

I'm 5'7 with an "average-ish" torso. I'm not really showing a lot, but I am starting to. I am 15wks tomorrow. Every pregnancy and body is different. A lot of people don't show until later. Be happy you might not end up with a ginormous stomach, or your baby is just holding out right now. Don't rush things.  

Eta...words are hard lol

Jayseeka

@wyomama0427 for a app and community center that is suppose to be pregnant woman supporting each other that came off awfully rude and catty. I was not aware that posting a question on an app to other pregnant moms who have their hands full would be a issue. I'm so sorry if my question upset you so much. 

DPandMB

Jayseeka said:

@wyomama0427 for a app and community center that is suppose to be pregnant woman supporting each other that came off awfully rude and  

Not rude. Just honest. She did say we'd love to get to know you. Just do some reading and lurking first. 

msashley2010-2

@Jayseeka No one means to be rude, I assure you. TB just works a bit differently than other forums that you may be used to. I suggest reading the thread titled *read this first* so you can get a feel for how we post here. We tend to have threads that apply to the entire community and not as many for the individual. There are a lot of different threads you can find by using the search function and seeing other mothers that are having a similar experience as you are! 

This way the boards arent clogged up with several threads on the same topic, etc. 

mrs_tacos

DPandMB said:

Jayseeka said:

@wyomama0427 for a app and community center that is suppose to be pregnant woman supporting each other that came off awfully rude and  

Not rude. Just honest. She did say we'd love to get to know you. Just do some reading and lurking first. 

I second this. And I don't know why people think this forum is only here for blind support. Sure, we support each other, but we also get to know each other, and take part in the rest of the forum. For future reference, random threads that are only about you and only benefit you are generally not encouraged, especially when you haven't introduced yourself, and no one here knows who you are.

labby18

Jayseeka said:

@wyomama0427 for a app and community center that is suppose to be pregnant woman supporting each other that came off awfully rude and  

Not rude. We like the organization of the board and there are posts called Read First that is meant for all new members to read first so you don't accidentally commit a faux pas. We welcome everyone here, just would appreciate if everyone read up on how it works first. But welcome and congrats on your pregnancy. I hope you take the time to review the aforementioned post and that you enjoy the board as much as we do. 

Jayseeka

I'm 30 years old. I'm 16.5 weeks pregnant. I'm a retail manager. I've been married for 2 years and have a large family with lots of nieces and nephews this is my first child. I'm due September 5 which happens to be my birthday as well as my moms. I had a tough first trimester but am starting to finally enjoy food again. 

Ae_Lovely321

I'm 17 weeks and mines not really noticeable  to strangers. But like @labby18 stated we all have different body sizes, types, and lifestyles. I'm not really concerned about when I'll show.  My only concern is will I be able to balance a can on it or not

Jayseeka

@mrs_tacos just bc you say something is "honest" doesn't mean it is not rude. Like if someone walked up to you and said you look fat not pregnant. Although that might be honest is is extremely rude. 
If your not interested in my post I posted about myself you don't need to click on it or respond. Just keep scrolling.  I'm sure you will tell your child the same thing in a few years: If you don't have something nice to say don't say it. 
It was an innocent post on a forum this app added me to. I had no intention of upsetting anyone... but also don't appreciate the cyber bullying and taking sides. 
A simple: hey welcome to the forum we would love to get to know you... please go introduce yourself on the read me first forum so we can get to know you. Would have gotten the message across the same way. 
I believe in creating A culture Of warmth and belonging where everyone feels welcome. Also always assuming positive intent. 
This was not the case from several of you women and it's disappointing. I'm sorry if I was not "well received" but I had positive intent and your response back was clearly not of positive intent but to try and shame me or make me feel stupid. 

mrsvp614

@jayseeka FYI It's also considered rude to start calling out dedicated members of this forum who support women here daily (with poor grammar in your post as well) and telling us how to use our own forum. 
Once again, all we ask is that you take the time to read the *read this first* post, and you would have gotten your answer rather quickly by looking at other recent threads.
We are excited to welcome new members here, but not when they ignore the basic concepts of the community we've all been a part of since December. 

labby18

@Jayseeka there's no need to get nasty. individual threads like this just aren't received well bump wide, and @mrs_tacos was just expressing that. No big deal, now you know. No one is trying to start a fight or hurt anyone's feelings, we just want you to know how things are typically executed here.
We hope to see you around more and in the weekly threads where symptoms and bumps and all sorts of things are discussed on a regular basis. The bump board might help you a lot with gaining confidence with your bump growth rate. 

mrs_tacos

@Jayseeka Did you seriously just call me fat? Here's some rude honesty for you: just because you come on a pregnancy board and tack a "anyone else in my boat" at the end doesn't mean your post wasn't whiny and self-involved. (Also, learn how to properly use punctuation. When you ask a question, a question mark is the appropriate mark to put at the end, not a period.) If you feel like sticking around, that's fine, but read the "Read This First" post, introduce yourself on the "Introductions" thread like everyone else, and then lurk around to get a feel for how the community here works. Because I can guarantee that getting butt-hurt and calling people fat is not the way to make friends around here. Also, this is an internet forum, I don't have to just keep scrolling if I don't want to. 

msashley2010-2

Jayseeka said:

@mrs_tacos just bc you say something is "honest" doesn't mean it is not rude. Like if someone walked up to you and said you look fat not pregnant. Although that might be honest is is extremely rude. 
If your not interested in my post I posted about myself you don't need to click on it or respond. Just keep scrolling. 

Unfortunately that's just not the way it works here. We have a lot of threads that everyone can join in on and there are already a couple of existing threads on this very topic. I recommend getting acquainted with the board and it'll be a lot easier for you moving forward here. 

Jayseeka

@mrs_tacos I did not call you fat as I obviously do not know you. I just simply stating an example of how being honest does not mean it is not rude. Just like you attacking me about my grammar. That was so unnecessary. This  is a public app and a public forum not a sorority. It is suppose to be supporting one another. My post was innocent and that of positive intent and you as well as several other came at me in a very strong offensive way that was not necessarily and not of positive intent. It could have easily been communicated in a different way. 

Jayseeka

@labby18 thank you for your helpful  communication and making me feel welcome. 

wyomama0427

OH my god I'm so sorry it was sooooo rude of me to say that I'd love to get to know you if you just introduced yourself.... gosh that must have been so traumatizing for you. Girl please. I wasn't even rude at all. I'm calling MUD. You've been around TB for three years. That's long enough to get to know how stuff works. I knew someone was going to cry "I thought you were supposed to be supportive!" HA if you had only seen the stuff we've supported each other through. Coming in and getting all pissy and using the F word (fat, in case you were wondering) at one of the nicest people EVER is rude. So before you go around calling people rude, maybe check your shit at the door. 

mrs_tacos

@Jayseeka I think the claim of cyberbullying goes a little far. Nor did I "attack" you. And you can try to back peddle all you want, but lets not pretend that it was coincidence that after I posted that someone asked me if I'm much farther along that I actually am that your fat example was implying anything other than what it was. 

To your "my post was innocent" point, many people, including me, did give you less strong answers to begin with, and you got salty with me for no reason. You don't want strong answers, don't give them. Also, I find it fascinating that you're trying to teach me how to post and respond on an internet forum I'm very familiar with, when you couldn't read a few posts first and learn what is considered the norm for posting here before jumping in.   

DPandMB

Jayseeka said:

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A simple: hey welcome to the forum we would love to get to know you... please go introduce yourself on the read me first forum so we can get to know you. Would have gotten the message across the same way. 

Pretty sure that's exactly what you got. Several people asked you to read the posts pinned at the top of this board and get more involved. We have a weekly thread to talk about your exact post.  This is a very "warm" and "supportive" community, but you can't expect to get that right out of the gate when you clearly haven't even one of the already existing posts. No one was "bullying" you, no one told you to leave, everyone was actually pretty nice. Please take a look around and join in the other threads. You'll quickly see how nice everyone is. 

Jayseeka

Like I said this is a public app and a public community form not a sorority.  I just posted a simple question and was meet with nothing but hostility. All I was saying is you can get the same messae across without being rude. I did not call anyone fat it was an example of how saying something is honest down not mean it is not rude. All I said is this is a support community thread and you could have been nicer but clearly it has only made you all more upset bc you have only gotten nastier and attacked me. 

Jayseeka

If you re read all my messages vs all of your clearly you are the one "getting all pissy" 

wyomama0427

NOBODY MET YOU WITH HOSTILITY I LITERALLY SAID WE WOULD LOVE TO GET TO KNOW YOU. Good lord. 

Jayseeka

Saying something rude and following it up by something nice does not discount the rudeness. 

wyomama0427

What did I say that was rude. Please tell me. "Who are you?" That's not rude. That's a genuine question because I don't know you from Adam. What in my next comment was rude at all? Warning you that posting about yourself before you've even introduced yourself? Not rude. Actually pretty nice instead of just flaming you first. 

mrs_tacos

Jayseeka said:

Like I said this is a public app and a public community form not a sorority.  I just posted a simple question and was meet with nothing but hostility. All I was saying is you can get the same messae across without being rude. I did not call anyone fat it was an example of how saying something is honest down not mean it is not rude. All I said is this is a support community thread and you could have been nicer but clearly it has only made you all more upset bc you have only gotten nastier and attacked me. 

1: You're right, it's a community, but not a place for blind support. If you had taken the time to acquaint yourself with the community before posting, you would know that. 

2: You were initially met with a lot of friendliness and some playful answers. No one, even now, has been hostile to you. If you choose to properly acquaint yourself with our community, figure out the way things run around here, and stick around, this will all be water under the bridge.

3:You can deny it all you want, it doesn't take a scholar to know what you implied.

4: Again, no one attacked you. And your insistence on playing the victim is starting to get old. 

Souptin

All we're missing is a "you guys are going to be horrible mothers" to call butthurt  newb  BINGO. 

Ae_Lovely321

Let's dance it out yall!

mrs_tacos

@Ae_Lovely321 You have fantastic ideas.

mrsvp614

Jayseeka said:

Like I said this is a public app and a public community form not a sorority.  I just posted a simple question and was meet with nothing but hostility. All I was saying is you can get the same messae across without being rude. I did not call anyone fat it was an example of how saying something is honest down not mean it is not rude. All I said is this is a support community thread and you could have been nicer but clearly it has only made you all more upset bc you have only gotten nastier and attacked me. 

Actually many of these women know more about me than my sorority sisters did, and I actually don't share as much as others do around here. But I can tell you who struggled trying to get pregnant, who had a fight with their husband, who had a traumatic birth experience, who had crappy parents growing up, etc. 
No need to tell us, once again, how you think this community operates.
But I digress... Time to dance! 

HollyGolightly09

lap018

mrs_tacos

@MrsVP614 You are the MVP of this thread, both with that post, and that gif.

wyomama0427