I felt most of the gasps were at my response to achays11. I realize I am the lone minirity on this one, but I've been handling responses on the other end of the spectrum since I was in high school. I've had my DNR in my paperwork (which is a part of our hospitals intake process) since I was in high school and my dad was diagnosed with his first cancer. My stance has not changed and doesn't change with pregnancy. DH knew my wishes before we were even dating and, while he doesn't like it, he has accepted my wish and hopes to never have to make the decision. I appreciate everyone's opinion and I did not mean to spark anyone. I guess I was just putting it out there that it's a conversation we have had each pregnancy and I didn't realize it wasn't something couples talked about.
I meant to ask you about this if you don't mind. A DNR seems quite extreme. I fully understand not wanting to be left on ventillators and machines if you are basically in a vegetative state but a DNR includes much more minor things like no CPR or defibrillation. if you were in an accident and needed a quick one time jumpstart you would refuse that?