*TW* I'm out.

samyv

Hi guys, 

Had my first appointment today, I was measuring 9 wks exactly like I should be but there was no heartbeat with the internal US. The obgyn sent us to a specialist for a confirmation right away, we went to the hospital and he did a sonogram to confirm there is no heartbeat. 

I have a D&C booked for Thursday but I'm wondering if I should ask for another US. this will be my second mc in a row. Just feeling a little defeated and guilty.

Wishing you all the best of luck with your pregnancies and happy healthy babies. 

jessafishy

@samyv I am so so sorry for your loss. 

VLillyV

@samyv I would definitely do another US. Don't allow doubts to linger. I'm so very sorry for your loss. Please be well, take the time you need. I hope you are given some clarity soon. *hugs*

kmornelas29

So sorry to hear. 

mrs_fogue

Aw, I'm so sorry @samyv I say ask for a another US before if that's what you want.  But please don't feel guilty, none of it is your fault.  Good luck on your journey and prayers with you this week. 

riverrainez

I'm so sorry for your loss.

KTdidit

I'm so sorry @samyv. 

Cythe

Damn it, I'm so so sorry. If you're even remotely unsure, get another scan. 

beezeee

So sorry to hear this. Take care of yourself.

PizzaMonster3

I'm praying for you and sending a warm hug. 

mamabear148-2

Sending you love and comfort, @samyv. I'm sorry
A second (or third) opinion is always a good idea, I think. 
Mind if I ask why the D&C was scheduled so quickly? What are the pros/cons of waiting for things to happen naturally? I would think that waiting for things to start on their own would ease the doubts of a misdiagnosed MC.

I'm so sorry

migdala

@samyv I am so, so sorry that you're going through this again.  It is so unfair.  Like others have said, I don't see the harm in another US to be certain -- for me, it wasn't until I saw my falling betas that I really accepted what had happened, so maybe you can ask for a beta draw too if you think that would be helpful for you.

OliveOyl2014

So sorry for your loss!

sjohns908

I'm so sorry. I agree with the other ladies that you should request another u/s if you're having any doubts. 

bluejeanbabi05

@samyv I am so, so sorry. Take care of yourself ((hugs))

virginiaham

@samyv I am so very sorry.  This is incredibly unfair.

cherrybea

so sorry.  Take care of yourself

mommac2017

I'm so sorry for your loss. 

But I would definitely ask for a second US. Where I live, they will not do a D&C without a second US to confirm. Usually a week after the first. Alternatively you could ask to have your blood taken. If your HCG level is dropping then this also confirms the loss. 

Again, I am so very sorry!

purplestarz

So sorry for the news you received today. Thinking of you.

Mommaswizz

I'm so so sorry. Sending you thoughts and prayers. Take care of yourself @samyv

singing_lyn

I'm so sorry. I would definitely request another US to ease your mind.

riababy4

My heart breaks for you. I am so sorry you have to deal with this. Go and have another US for peace of mind.

Uhlease13

I'm so sorry @samyv I agree with pp, and sending you hugs. 

flowerintherain

@samyv I'm so sorry for your losses  
I'll just echo what everyone else has said about a repeat US and beta draws. It would probably be beneficial to have a true confirmation. 
Also, if you're having a D&C you can request to have the tissue tested to see if they can find the cause of MC. I know not everybody is comfortable doing this, but it could also possibly give you some answers and closure. 

migdala

@flowerintherain makes such a good point about the testing.  We paid out of pocket for it but the testing company worked with us to bring down the price, and we found out there had been chromosomal abnormalities that were random and I couldn't have done anything.  Brought me a little bit of peace 

cranburyposh

@samyv Sending you a huge hug during this difficult time. Definitely not fair how Mother Nature can be, stay strong and don't lose faith. I've been there 3 times in a row, and there's hope! Take care of yourself.   

laeberge3

@samyv So sorry about the news.  Thinking of you; please take care of yourself, and if you're concerned, request that US.

soprano19

So sorry @samyv.

SwtAnana

Ugh I'm so sorry

crazypuglady

I'm so very sorry for your loss @samyv. Please don't be hard on yourself, there's nothing you could have done and it's not your fault. Healing T&P for you during this difficult time.

Designmamauk

Sending hugs. 

mylittleversailles

I'm sorry to hear this. Take extra good care of yourself!

buttercream_frosting

If you want another U/S for peace of mind then you should get one. There's nothing worse than wondering later on down the track. I am so sorry there was no HB. Be gentle with yourself.

EmEeGee

I'm sorry for your loss. No harm in checking again before your appointment if it will bring help your menta state. Take care. 

cooaladolly

I am so sorry you had to get such awful news today. Please try to be easy on yourself and move forward on your own terms and in your own time. Healing hugs to you.

feeislove

I'm so sorry *hugs*

hunnybunny17

I'm so sorry, @samyv. Agreed that there is no harm in requesting another scan or BETAs if that is what you need to move forward. Hugs.

kkerner87

I would definitely have your blood drawn to check your levels if you have any kind of doubt. But remember, none of this is your fault! So sorry for your loss. 

ksf13

So sorry to hear this! Prayers

mountainmartha

So sorry to hear. I agree with the above - do whatever you need to do to find peace of mind. Second opinions in cases like this are important for your sanity today and Down the road. Peace and prayers be with you and your family.

shan24

I'm so sorry