March TTGP Grad Check-In

danjoly

@jolydan and @danjoly can be removed. Ollie is now 8 months! GL TTGPers!!!!

starla

@PurpleRains Ditto.. I'm sorry for your loss. I'm actually going through a M/C right now at 11 weeks so unfortunately I can more or less say "I know how you feel." Hugs!

Also @BigBadWolf12 I'm not upset about you tagging me because I know it's hard to keep track of everyone. Please whoever is starting this thread next month, don't tag me...

PurpleRains

@Starla Hugs, lady

icecubeinthedesert

@Starla, I'm so sorry you're back here. Hugs girl. Feel free to PM me if you need someone to talk to, and join us on the TTCAL check-in when you're ready. I've found it really helpful.

Everycol0r

I always assumed this thread would be a bit of a downer for non-KU up folk. 

BigBadWolf12

@starla omg I'm sorry thanks for your patience and understanding. I took out your tag in case that list ends up being copied in April.

GG620

The dram. Oui.

Just popping back in here to say I can't believe this month's TTGP grad thread! It is just pure amaze-balls. Have the happiest and best 9 months @adirat @heatherdubrow @slaven @jess0211 @JulesDP

jatwal128

I feel like i'm jumping in the middle of so much other stuff, I'm sorry!

I haven't been active on here in quite a while solely because it was slowly taking over all my free time and I was feeling bad for letting it interfere so much with real life stuff. But I have started occasionally lurking because i genuinely miss everyone and had no idea that I had been tagged in these check-ins for so long! I honestly didn't think anyone remembered me from TTGP but it made me feel so good to see that

I'll update now for anyone who is interested, but I don't think I'll be able to make it a regular thing so you don't need to keep me on the list if you'd rather clean it up a bit!

*How long were you active on TTGP and when? From about March 2016 to August 2016, so roughly 6 months

*How far along are you? 30 weeks today

*Which birth month board/due date? May 17th. I don't participate in my BMB though.

*Team Pink/Blue/Green? Pink!

*How are you doing picking out a name? Feel free to share it. We're still narrowing down a short list, but so far my favorite is Olivia.

*Questions, concerns or other? Anything else exciting to share? I see some ladies that i was closer with are going through or have gone through some really difficult stuff since i kinda dropped off (along with some AE changes too!), and so so many hugs to you girls. I'm sorry i haven't been around to show the kind of support that you deserve, but I still think of everyone quite often and hope that everyone is doing alright.   

wabash15

@jatwal128 It's nice to see you check in and I'm glad your doing well!

kiki75

@jatwal128

Of course I remember you. Glad to see that things are going well for you!

@Everycol0r Since I'm already posting, I will say that while there are people who skip this thread because it's a downer for them and I completely understand and respect that. It's what *TW*s are for, after all. For me, it's worth any of the downer-ness to see how my old friends are doing. Even if it does highlight how many people have passed through while I've been here. I'm still invested and happy to see them happy.

RedBreast35

Aaaaaaah @jatwal128 HIIIII!!!! I miss you!  Thank you for checking in 

Everycol0r

Kiki75 said:

@jatwal128

Of course I remember you. Glad to see that things are going well for you!

@Everycol0r Since I'm already posting, I will say that while there are people who skip this thread because it's a downer for them and I completely understand and respect that. It's what *TW*s are for, after all. For me, it's worth any of the downer-ness to see how my old friends are doing. Even if it does highlight how many people have passed through while I've been here. I'm still invested and happy to see them happy.

I get it but a TW doesn't stop an emotion. Just sort of prepares you for the oncoming bus. Still hurts either way. 

ETA: In any case my post was more of a jest due to the drama and that's always why I said "a bit" of a downer. 

kiki75

@Everycol0r I know you were half kidding but I wanted to respond. I don't fault a single person for skipping the whole thread. Some days, some weeks, some months, and months, you just aren't up to it. And that's absolutely okay. Shit's hard and I don't fault anyone for not being up to the grad posts. Unless, of course, they try to say that we can't have them at all.  

starla

@Everycol0r I respectfully disagree. If you see a *TW* then you can skip that part of the post. The thought of the subject that may be raised might make you feel uncomfortable, but generally I think it's a million times better than reading the whole thing. 

KirstinH88

@jatwal128 Hey!!!!!!! So good to see your update and that all is going well! 

Everycol0r

Starla said:

@Everycol0r I respectfully disagree. If you see a *TW* then you can skip that part of the post. The thought of the subject that may be raised might make you feel uncomfortable, but generally I think it's a million times better than reading the whole thing. 

If you don't read the TW then sure I agree. In essence why open this thread at all then because the whole thing is a giant TW? I still read them, and the emotions are there regardless. I think I was pretty clear that a TW doesn't stop an emotion which implies you read the TW. If I see the warning "TW" and then don't read the TW clearly I'm not going to have an emotion because I generally have no idea what it's about. I can't feel something about something I don't know.

So I still stand my ground, if I see a TW about toddler loss, I can mentally prepare myself for the emotion I'm about to have vs blindly reading it and getting smacked in the face. Either way I will have some illicit emotions regarding that topic but I would rather prepare then be blind sided. 

And just because I can skip it doesn't mean I do. Just because a feeling is sad or hard doesn't make it bad or wrong to feel. I don't exactly like feeling depressed but it's life. 

I don't really see the point in arguing over this. I appreciate TWs but their very presence doesn't negate sad feelings. Disagree if you want but it's just a fact. I protect my heart a lot and I encourage others to do so as well when they need too. 

starla

@Everycol0r Fair enough. Those are all good points. I wasn't arguing.

KhRun17

I've been a terrible Bumper lately. I browse from my phone, but never post from there. Sorry!!!!
*How long were you active on TTGP and when? April - December

*How far along are you? 17+3

*Which birth month board/due date? August 18 - I have only been (poorly lately) active on the TTGP grads thread, because the bmb didn't seem like as much of a community... although I fail at being a part of the community part lately anyway.

*Team Pink/Blue/Green? Currently green. Can find out in 3 more weeks... I want to, DH doesn't, we'll see what happens

*How are you doing picking out a name? Feel free to share it. We have our girl name pretty set. First name for sure, but still searching for a middle name and a boy name. DH seems to think he has to have a biblical boy name (I think that's influenced from his grandma and mother ugh!) but literally every normal biblical boy name is taken in our families...there are a lot of boys.

*Questions, concerns or other? Anything else exciting to share? Just that I'm sorry I've been MIA so much lately! Forgive me!