1. How bad is it really to eat sushi from a reputable restaurant?
2. Do any stores carry the decent Doppler, or only online?
3. STM when did you feel your baby? I feel like I was 15/16ish weeks with my first before I felt the flutters, but I swear the last couple of days a feel a flutter or two throughout the day. I'm trying to be logical and think it's probably just like spasm from my uterus growing, but it has me curious. I'm 13 weeks tomorrow and google agrees that's too early.
Sidenote, so glad I have you ladies to say my dumb thoughts to. DH just chuckles and shakes his head when I say these things.
I eat sushi all the time. My doctor said to get it from good places and avoid high mercury fish and you are fine. I have been pregnant and/or breastfeeding for two years now. Not going that long without sushi!
Last time I was definitely 16/17 weeks before I felt anything. I am being extra vigilant looking out for any baby flutters but so far I can't really tell I only hit 12 weeks yesterday so I think I'm jumping the gun lol.
Stupid question: my friends doctor told her to stop breastfeeding her toddler when she hit 20 weeks because of uterine contractions and preterm labor and stuff. I asked my doctor but didn't really receive a concrete answer if I should stop or not... so I guess my stupid question is... if I keep nursing DS could it cause preterm labor?
I am also conflicted about the breast feeding thing. DD will be a year right about the time I hit 20 weeks. She is getting super disinterested in BFing anyway, so I don't think it will be hard to wean her. I had the goal of making it to the one year mark with the idea that if it still worked for us, I would continue, but not push it. But I don't want to stop JUST because I am pregnant, I want it to be because she is ready. I know plenty of people who nurse their entire pregnancy just fine.
That said, I do kind of like the idea of having 6 months where I am not BFing.....
My doctor says sushi from a reputable source is fine, but he'd prefer if I don't eat raw sushi more than once a week. He's actually encouraged me to eat it, since raw fish is the only meat that sounds good to me besides deli meat, and he wants me to get more meat in my diet.
I'd have to get a new pump, which probably isn't a bad idea anyway... but DS doesn't like bottles and the only reason we're still nursing is pretty much comfort at this point He will be about 15 months when we get to 20 weeks, he's already drinking whole milk from a sippy... I just need to night wean him and I think we can wean for good... but it's sooooo hard!
I'd have to get a new pump, which probably isn't a bad idea anyway... but DS doesn't like bottles and the only reason we're still nursing is pretty much comfort at this point He will be about 15 months when we get to 20 weeks, he's already drinking whole milk from a sippy... I just need to night wean him and I think we can wean for good... but it's sooooo hard!
It is hard. Night weaning was the worst for my DD. It's also such a bittersweet moment.
@DPandMB I just don't even know where to start... he doesn't sleep through the night at all, he wakes up multiple times at night and wants boob. He's like permanently attached. If I don't give him boob he cries and screams and sits up and won't go back to sleep...I know I need to but it just seems so intimidating right now
@daniellelynette have you tried having your DH go in at night to get your DS back to sleep? Make the point that boobs go away at night and night is for sleeping? That worked with some friends of ours.
@Becky012016 I have thought about it but I'm not sure DH would like the idea of that.... I think it's worth a shot, I'll bring it up again and see what he thinks about trying it on his week off so he isn't waking up for work and stuff.
@daniellelynette - This doesn't answer your question, but I thought I'd share a different perspective that I looked into once upon a time.
I'm also still breastfeeding DS, who will be 18 months old at the beginning of March. My doctor hasn't mentioned anything about stopping, but then again, I haven't asked either. But I've read testimonies from other moms who have breastfed their first children until the new baby was born and continued to breastfeed both afterwards. The important thing to do here is to cut your toddler off for those first few days after birth, when your body is producing colostrum. The new baby needs as much of that as he/she can get. During those few days, these moms stockpiled breastmilk or offered other types of milk to their toddlers instead. Since your toddler already drinks cow's milk, you'd be all set. Once their milk came in, they resumed breastfeeding their toddler in addition to the new baby. Your body produces a massive amount of milk in the beginning, trying to figure out exactly how much you need, so if you're still feeding two kids, it'll make enough to feed both. Our bodies are amazing! This is just my own opinion, but because my body knows what's going on with my milk production and my pregnancy, I trust that it's going to care for both babies.
That said, I would love a break from breastfeeding before having another baby (especially with the super sore latch I've been experiencing these past two weeks - youch!), but DS just isn't ready yet. And because I'm a big fan of BLW, I don't want to force him to stop. But that decision is up to each mother. You'll know what's right for you. Trust those mama bear instincts and do what feels right when it feels right. That doesn't mean to ignore what your doctor has said. I'd just look into it a bit more if you're worried.
Dr. Jay Gordon's method for night weaning worked well for my family. I recommend it. My kids were both closer to two when I used it though (well, 19 months and 26 months). Also, the recommendation I got for tandem nursing was to always let the younger nurse first until they were full, then let the toddler have a turn. I also used a timer for my eldest.
My stupid question is, I live in Florida and have season passes to Disney. I've heard mixed things about Zika and several pregnant women telling me that they were told they shouldn't travel to Orlando or Miami. Is it an actual thing? If so, is it just for the first trimester?
Back to the sushi question, I read in the book Debunking the Bump that there really isn't much risk from eating sushi. The reasoning being that even if you did get sick from the raw fish, the things that could be in raw fish that would make you sick (parasites) are not harmful for the baby, nor are the treatments you might need to have for them. So, basically the risk is the same whether you're pregnant or not, so if you were ok with eating raw fish when you weren't pregnant, there shouldn't be any reason to stop (of course be careful about the high mercury fish). I haven't had sushi since I've been pregnant, but it's something I usually only have a once every couple of months anyway.
@bookitboo There was a thread a while back called "Zika" I believe and there were a ton of responses to it. I think the consensus was Miami is bad and to wear sleeves/pants and bugspray to avoid getting any bites. Ask your Dr but it did seem to be regional as to whether or not Drs were more lax about travel or not.
So I am still nursing and don't plan on stopping because I gave up weaning. He only nurses 1-2 times a day anyways and it's more for comfort. I have heard that if you tandem nurse to let the new baby nurse first and then the toddler. I do not want to tandem nurse so I've got 5-6 months to figure this out! My OB hasn't said anything about stopping. My pediatrician was surprised I was still making milk for him actually (DS is almost 20 months). Also, night weaning, we had to have my husband help. I hired a sleep consultant and we did gentle methods. I would nurse before bed and then went cold turkey at night. It was a lot of patting, rubbing, soothing, but no picking up or nursing. It took 5 nights and then he was weaned! The first 3 nights were super rough, but so worth it now.
@jessieR358 for those last few feedings that were hanging around I just took one entire month to focus on cutting out one of the feedings. Basically he was on one right after wake up in the AM and one right after nap and one right before bed. For the after nap and first morning feeds I just got him right up and took him to a snack in his high chair with milk in his sippy cup and he really just acted like no big deal, (I only focused on that specific feeding and if he needed one for comfort or for after a boo boo I still fed him) he never cried or screamed or asked to be breast fed at all. He did great! I was so thrilled! For before bed though he would cry until I let him feed so I had DH put him down for like a week straight and then I was able to rock him to sleep without him fussing/crying.
@lap018 I have tried that with the AM feed. My DH will get up with him and give him a sippy cup of milk and breakfast. Once I come downstairs it's a 50/50 chance if he will pull my shirt down, sign for milk, lay in my lap and cry lol. I've cut out the bedtime session. So it's morning and nap. On days I work I can go the whole day with out nursing. I really think it's just comfort at this point. It's so hard to wean them!
Which damn Sudafed is the acceptable one to take for congestion?? My list says "on the shelf" next to it so I took the one I got on the darn shelf which contains phenylephrine (lighter form of pseudaphedrine). Then i googled and saw another list stating NO phenylephrine...get the one from the pharmacist!!! Shoot me!!! Which one am I supposed to take? I'm all freaked out now that I've taken two of those over the past few days and I'm at 11w.
@Texafornian I just checked my Drs list of medicine and it just says "Sudafed".... no clarifications. I can't imagine pseudaphedrine is safer than phenylephrine, though, since it's so much stronger.
Sudafed that is just sudafed nothing on the end of the name is the one I was told was ok. None of the sudafed dm or whatever and I think only in the second trimester is it ok.
I eat sushi but only non raw. My doctor said it would ok to eat raw as well as long as it's from a trusted restaurant. I limit myself to only cooked sushi but that's me not the doctor. He said American sushi is pretty safe.
@hatrats@lahearn18 yes, it's a pun for over reacting. There are a few different puns out there (my siggy has 2). They're just inside jokes from a smaller group of us who have been on TB for a while with each other.
TTGP history (*TW*):
Started TTC Oct 2015 BFP #1 June 2016: EDD 16 March 2017, MC July 2016 Re-started TTC Aug 2016 Started IF testing Nov 2016 Spontaneous BFP #2 January 2017: Rainbow Baby Boy September 2017 BFP #3 November 2018: Baby #2 expected August 2019
@texafornian My approved medicine list says sudafed too, no clarifiers. I took the phenylephrine kind from 11+2 to 11+3. It's on my approved medicine list so I try not to worry about it.
@Texafornian the high risk doctor I went to see said sudafed was fine to take (praise Jesus) so I finally took it and my sinuses have been so much better! I try not to take more than 2 doses in one day but he didn't say I had to do that
@BigBadWolf12@lahearn18 haha ok thanks. I thought there was more to it like it was supposed to also represent certain phases of ovulation and was way over my head.
I ate sushi yesterday, although I try to mostly eat cooked rolls, like baked salmon-my fav, or just get great quality sushi.
There seems to be a lot of misinformation/communication on the issue of breastfeeding into pregnancy. I personally haven't done it because my kids were spaced far enough apart but I know several friends who have with no complications. I feel like a lot of OBs and/or PEDs may be using traditional advice here, like suggesting rice cereal at 3 months old. Some people believe it to be an outdated standard but others don't. Had my kids been close enough I probably would've still nursed through pregnancy as long as my supply was fine, it was comfortable and worth it for me and baby, and I wasn't a high risk pregnancy. What did women do years and years ago when formula or a wet nurse wasn't readily available?
Hey ladies! I have a question about maternity clothes. I did a cursory TB search, but let's face it, concentration is not my strong suit right now. FTM here, gaining weight but obviously not getting any sort of real bump yet... I need to buy bigger pants but regular maternity pants don't seem necessary at this point. Any advice about what kind of pants are best for this in-between time? Under bellies? Just regular pants, but in a bigger size? I'd also love to be able to wear them as long as possible, because I'm cheap. TIA
@RedBreast35 I'm also cheap and I just went ahead and ordered 3 pairs of maternity jeans. I really don't mind the full panel even this early. I don't like the "under belly" ones because they always give me a weird line where they stop. Also in case you were wondering, I ordered three pairs from Walmart and they were each $13... I'll update again when I get them but I'm actually really excited
Thanks @lap018!! I feel like I've outgrown the hair tie already since my actual butt is getting bigger so my regular pants are getting too snug Too many carbs and too few walk breaks... *sigh*
@daniellelynette please let us know about how they look/fit and their quality, I have been so tempted to get some of those too but I don't usually buy from Walmart, of course with maternity clothes they aren't worn for years and years so that helps but let me know!
@RedBreast35 A friend loaned me her never-used belly band, and I hated it. It rolled and shifted a lot, and just generally annoyed me. So I just went ahead and invested in some Target maternity leggings. The over-the-belly part has room to grow in, but is actually really comfy, and the material is really nice and thick, almost like a yoga pant.
I just got these from Amazon and they are amazing. Jersey feel, and they have a tightening belt at the very top to keep them up now since my belly isn't big enough for full panel (but regular leggings aren't comfortable). I'm loving them.
Re: Stupid Questions 2/25
2. Do any stores carry the decent Doppler, or only online?
3. STM when did you feel your baby? I feel like I was 15/16ish weeks with my first before I felt the flutters, but I swear the last couple of days a feel a flutter or two throughout the day. I'm trying to be logical and think it's probably just like spasm from my uterus growing, but it has me curious. I'm 13 weeks tomorrow and google agrees that's too early.
Sidenote, so glad I have you ladies to say my dumb thoughts to. DH just chuckles and shakes his head when I say these things.
Stupid question: my friends doctor told her to stop breastfeeding her toddler when she hit 20 weeks because of uterine contractions and preterm labor and stuff. I asked my doctor but didn't really receive a concrete answer if I should stop or not... so I guess my stupid question is... if I keep nursing DS could it cause preterm labor?
I felt my first "flutter" around 17/18 week mark. It was really hard for me to decipher gas and flutters.
Thank you for asking the sushi question. I was just wondering the same thing. I can't stop thinking about it.
That said, I do kind of like the idea of having 6 months where I am not BFing.....
I'm also still breastfeeding DS, who will be 18 months old at the beginning of March. My doctor hasn't mentioned anything about stopping, but then again, I haven't asked either. But I've read testimonies from other moms who have breastfed their first children until the new baby was born and continued to breastfeed both afterwards. The important thing to do here is to cut your toddler off for those first few days after birth, when your body is producing colostrum. The new baby needs as much of that as he/she can get. During those few days, these moms stockpiled breastmilk or offered other types of milk to their toddlers instead. Since your toddler already drinks cow's milk, you'd be all set. Once their milk came in, they resumed breastfeeding their toddler in addition to the new baby. Your body produces a massive amount of milk in the beginning, trying to figure out exactly how much you need, so if you're still feeding two kids, it'll make enough to feed both. Our bodies are amazing! This is just my own opinion, but because my body knows what's going on with my milk production and my pregnancy, I trust that it's going to care for both babies.
That said, I would love a break from breastfeeding before having another baby (especially with the super sore latch I've been experiencing these past two weeks - youch!), but DS just isn't ready yet. And because I'm a big fan of BLW, I don't want to force him to stop. But that decision is up to each mother. You'll know what's right for you. Trust those mama bear instincts and do what feels right when it feels right.
regarding sushi:
https://pregnantchicken.com/can-i-eat-sushi-while-pregnant/
My stupid question is about that "ovary acting" picture thing in people's signature? What does it meeean? I don't get it.
Remember, there are no stupid questions, only stupid people.
I have heard that if you tandem nurse to let the new baby nurse first and then the toddler. I do not want to tandem nurse so I've got 5-6 months to figure this out! My OB hasn't said anything about stopping. My pediatrician was surprised I was still making milk for him actually (DS is almost 20 months).
Also, night weaning, we had to have my husband help. I hired a sleep consultant and we did gentle methods. I would nurse before bed and then went cold turkey at night. It was a lot of patting, rubbing, soothing, but no picking up or nursing. It took 5 nights and then he was weaned! The first 3 nights were super rough, but so worth it now.
Then i googled and saw another list stating NO phenylephrine...get the one from the pharmacist!!! Shoot me!!! Which one am I supposed to take? I'm all freaked out now that I've taken two of those over the past few days and I'm at 11w.
**TW**
Losses:
#1: 8wks MMC 4/16
#2: 13+4 T21 + Hydrops 3/17
I eat sushi but only non raw. My doctor said it would ok to eat raw as well as long as it's from a trusted restaurant. I limit myself to only cooked sushi but that's me not the doctor. He said American sushi is pretty safe.
BFP #1 June 2016: EDD 16 March 2017, MC July 2016
Re-started TTC Aug 2016
Started IF testing Nov 2016
Spontaneous BFP #2 January 2017: Rainbow Baby Boy September 2017
BFP #3 November 2018: Baby #2 expected August 2019
There seems to be a lot of misinformation/communication on the issue of breastfeeding into pregnancy. I personally haven't done it because my kids were spaced far enough apart but I know several friends who have with no complications. I feel like a lot of OBs and/or PEDs may be using traditional advice here, like suggesting rice cereal at 3 months old. Some people believe it to be an outdated standard but others don't. Had my kids been close enough I probably would've still nursed through pregnancy as long as my supply was fine, it was comfortable and worth it for me and baby, and I wasn't a high risk pregnancy. What did women do years and years ago when formula or a wet nurse wasn't readily available?
FTM here, gaining weight but obviously not getting any sort of real bump yet... I need to buy bigger pants but regular maternity pants don't seem necessary at this point. Any advice about what kind of pants are best for this in-between time? Under bellies? Just regular pants, but in a bigger size? I'd also love to be able to wear them as long as possible, because I'm cheap.
TIA
@RedBreast35
I just got these from Amazon and they are amazing. Jersey feel, and they have a tightening belt at the very top to keep them up now since my belly isn't big enough for full panel (but regular leggings aren't comfortable). I'm loving them.