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FFFC | 2.17.17

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Re: FFFC | 2.17.17

  • @mountainmartha my husband and I weren't married when we hadn't our first daughter. We had been together 6 years at that point. We got married 2 years later on our terms. Not because we had a child on the way. No one can dictate what you do with your life. 

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  • @canonmom413 @VLillyV this makes me happy to hear - marriage on YOUR terms  <3 maybe I'm not the dirtbag my parents like to make me out to be haha.
    *TW* Angel J. Conceived 1/1/17 - nonviable 3/7/17
  • @mountainmartha You're not a dirtbag at all, although it's funny making folks mad sometimes ;)
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  • @VLillyV at least not in this circumstance. I will save my more ratchet confessions for when I know you all better  :D:D:D
    *TW* Angel J. Conceived 1/1/17 - nonviable 3/7/17
  • Took a long nap, came to learn more confessions haha and realized....maybe I'm shower bitter in a few ways but my SIL (mine not hers) who did not even come to our shower, is throwing my sister and bil a shower...because they are twins and need "help". Yet...my sister made the online facebook invite and my sister is having it at her house....I'm confused but I'll show up and shop for my niece and nephew lol. 
    Nichole Tampa, FL
  • @mountainmartha no sense in waiting, share them now! Lol


  • Sounds like my step-son. I have to keep reminding myself that it's partly the ADHD/ODD and partly his age. I am hoping that this one inherits my genes and doesn't have ADHD as it can certainly be difficult for everyone involved at times.
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  • Chinese Gender Chart was right with DS and says Girl for this baby. We will see. DH and I cannot agree on a girl name to save our lives. :|
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    if one only remembers to turn on the light." 
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  • @mountainmartha SO and I are on baby#2 and we have 0 plans to get married. We've got a house, a car, the kids - we're a family regardless of our marital status. 

    FFFC? This morning I dipped my toast in ketchup. Baby wanted it!
  • Okay. So here's my thing with the Chinese gender chart. Because I WANT to believe it. 

    But which one do you use?! Because my lunar age and my age not lunar (I donno what it's called) is different. So one said DS would be a boy and one said he'd be a girl. Now with this pregnancy one says boy and one says girl again. 

    So what do I use?!

    My sister had the same thing. One told her boy, boy, girl. One said girl, girl, boy. She had boy, boy, girl. So hers was right on one calendar but NOT the same calendar mine was right for. 

    End rant. 
  • My sister and her two toddlers live with her boyfriend and his two older kids (9 and 10). They are all the time hanging with the boyfriend's family. So they're basically like a big family since my parents are up here in NC and she's down in Florida. The older boys' grandmother (who is known for being a bit of the matriarch type) took the older boys out for dinner and left my sister's kids at home. No invite or anything. Now, they're too young to really notice these things but eventually my sister's kids are going to pick up that the older two get preferential treatment and start asking why they're being left behind. My sister tells her boyfriend and apparently there were some heated words between him and his mother. Don't know what those words are but voices were raised. My FFFC is I'm dying to know how the conversation went and what was said. My sister said she's not going to ask him but hopes he'll volunteer info. I'm sitting here like ASK HIM!!!!!
    Me: 29  DH: 32                                                                                          
    Married 9/27/2014
    TTC Since 1/1/2017
    BFP: 2/6/2017
    Due Date: 10/13/17
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  • @sjohns08 no flame from me. My 9.5 year old ( 10 in April) is full blown pre teen. 

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  • @shan24 that makes me feel so happy. Also I think it's acceptable to put ketchup on everything. Except steak.
    *TW* Angel J. Conceived 1/1/17 - nonviable 3/7/17
  • @mountainmartha You stop that nonsense.  I love ketchup on steak, only way I'll eat it.
  • @mountainmartha those are my wedding sentiments exactly! He comes from a big Italian family and I just don't know how I'm getting out of a wedding wedding without offending half his family. No one on his side has had a wedding smaller than 200 people vs my family does backyard weddings. We had issues when we started making our plans, and after that I gave up any desire to plan a smidge of it, just because his family wants it. I even had it out with his sister when she asked, "but how will your godmother feel if you don't invite her?" "I think it would be my day to have how I want, not hers, not yours, not your mothers!" @VLillyV your comment is my ff token. I don't want to make anyone else happy but my own freakin' self! In fact at this point I think I want to make them all mad.

    Me: 41 / Fiance: 35 +  One DS, one dog & two kitties...
    First BFP: 1/17/16 = EDD 9/21/16 (MMC)
    Second BFP: 6/24/16 (CP)
    Third BFP: 2/7/17 = EDD 10/20/17 🌈 *** BORN 10/23 *** 🌈
    Fourth BFP : 2/5/19 = EDD 10/14/19
         BabyGaga
  • I am so worried about telling my friend thats been ttc for 2 years, and just had a miscarriage. How do I go about telling her without making her feel bad?
  • I have two:

    1. I'm probably going to have a shower even tho this is my second baby. I didn't have one for my son (no friends or close female relatives that I was in contact with). I'm semi gonna have to throw it myself? I wanted to have a gender reveal thing and my boss and coworkers want to make it into kind of a shower too. I will say tho that I don't care about getting gifts or anything and will make sure people know. I just want to have a get together to celebrate :) And my coworkers would be in charge of the 'showery' parts.

    2. I don't know if I'm gonna tell my dad I'm having another baby. He couldn't've cared less the first time, was actually mad about it (even though I was 3 years older than he was when he had me, the hypocrite) and he's only met my three year old son 4 times, and only bc we happened to be at the same family functions and not until my son was already a year old. He basically treated me like a stranger at Christmas and hasn't called me himself since the day my son was born (a 5 minute convo). I feel like if he cant care at all for his first and only grandchild, he doesn't deserve to hear about this one. I know my grandmother will tell once she knows, but I'm not gonna tell him myself.
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  • I 100% agree with elopement, @mountainmartha ! We were never even engaged...Just looked at each other and decided to do it...We got married 2 days later and told our families afterwards.

    And that's tough, @feeislove .  I'm sorry to say that my Grandma does that to my step siblings and their kids. And the kids are all old enough to notice. I felt horrible this year at Christmas when she got my 3 younger sisters and I really nice gifts and nothing for any of the others. We've gotten on her about it every year. Even offering to buy the gifts and put her name on them, but she won't budge.

    FFFC? I'm not a religious person, but I cannot wait for Lent to start. We live in a heavily German Catholic area, and it's ALL fish frys EVERYWHERE every Friday, and I love a Fish Fry!
  • @cooaladoll this is pretty much the exact scenario I'm living... and honestly making them all mad has proven to be pretty damn satisfying.  :D
    *TW* Angel J. Conceived 1/1/17 - nonviable 3/7/17
  • @Cythe everyone that we're friends with know except her, and they know not to tell her. But I just makes me so sad knowing what she's going through  :'(
  • @beautyundefined Hm, I appreciate (from an IF and loss POV) that you're sensitive to what she's going through. I'm torn because I know the last thing I wanted to know after my loss is that a good friend of mine has the thing I want most in the world  is pregnant. That said, I've also been told second hand that someone I was close to (and she knew about our IF) was expecting, and it made me feel like she didnt care enough about me or what I was going through to even tell me herself.

    Its a fine line, do your best to be sensitive to her right now and I think you'll do just fine when its time to tell her.
    TTC #1 since May 2014
    3 failed IUI cycles
    Oct '15 - IVF 1 - 10R, 3M, 0F
    Sept '16 - IVF - 12R, 11M, 5F and 3 perfect day 5 blasts - MMC 7w5d
    Jan '17 - FET 1 - BFP, EDD 10/14

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  • @mommyportz you should move south.  Fish on Friday/Saturday is a year round thing.  (And we only eat it fried
  • @Cythe thank you for the advice, I really appreciate it.  I think I'm just going to sit with her on monday and tell her, because like you said the worst thing is for someone else to tell her
  • These constant random threads are driving. Me. Crazy. Lol
    THIS. I'm going to have to step away today before I start getting snarky. READ THE DAMN ORGANIZATION THREAD!! 
  • I want the Seraphine dress just because Kate Middleton wore it during her pregnancy. 

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  •  sjohns08 said:
    These constant random threads are driving. Me. Crazy. Lol
    THIS. I'm going to have to step away today before I start getting snarky. READ THE DAMN ORGANIZATION THREAD!! 

    Normally I don't mind, I chalk it up to people being new and overwhelmed by the board "rules" and  general pregnancy freak out.  But today :| I don't have the patience to wade through all the symptoms threads. 

    Maybe I'm just being extra bitchy today.  Which reminds me, I haven't seen a Monday Bitchfest yet....going to do that now.

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