FFFC | 2.17.17

jessafishy

Let's hear those confessions ladies.

Disclaimer: Not guaranteed to be flame free.

jessafishy

I love Dr. Pimple Popper on YouTube.

ksf13

I put the t-shirt, that I slept in, on inside out last night and didn't notice until I'd been awake for 3 hours this morning (which also means I'm confessing that I'm still in pajamas). Oh, and I plan to keep it this way until I change clothes lol.

mylittleversailles

If I'm at home for the day, I never change out of pyjamas, even so far as changing into a clean pair after showering. As soon as I get home from wherever I've been, PJs go on even if that means changing back into real clothes later.

EmEeGee

I'm having an affair. 




Just kidding. But vanilla FFFC's make my soul die a little. I need the dirt. 

EmEeGee

@jessafishy popping stuff usually doesn't bother me at all, but today... yeah I can't handle that today...

jessafishy

@EmEeGee so I shouldn't post a blackhead extraction gif?

mrs_fogue

I'm praying for some drama queen AW to arrive!  This board is too slow and boring, it needs to liven up! 

mommac2017

I had dinner last night. And then DH mentioned pizza and it's all I wanted. So I had a second dinner of Little Caesars pizza. No regrets. 

mrs_fogue

 @jessafishy, thanks for helping out the MS today. 

jessafishy

mrs_fogue said:

 @jessafishy, thanks for helping out the MS today. 

Happy to help!

A warning to anyone else wanting to google Dr. Pimple Popper - if you are feeling queasy probably don't do it. 

ShakeUpTampa

My husband is having jealous talk that his brother and my sister bought a new came system and two games...I told him it will bite them in the ass just like their big TV purchase a year ago did. They planned to use Christmas work bonus on it and they got bonus canceled. This time I know it's her student loans....they have twins on the way and no savings and haven't even put the damn title and tag that I SIGNED OVER TO THEM of my Mom's in his name....Mom's birthday was last week....soooooo next month if they get pulled over, I warned them. We can't BABY them just because both are the BABIES of the families. They are grown adults to some degree. As long as she pays Grandma the rent on the house they are in and code enforcement doesn't come at me like last time since I am power of attorney when Grandma is out of the country...I don't give too poops what they do with finances. Shame they are being offered a car payment free too if she gets her license....a newer car not a 2002 run down never taken to shop car because they don't do normal visits...oh well...priorities right? //soapbox off hahaha

jessafishy

 Well I guess I'll bite the bullet.

For almost every parenting decision out there IDGAF what you decide to do. You do what works for you.

Vaccinations, on the other hand, are my hill to die on. If you are considering not vaccinating your child, I urge you to PLEASE consider everyone else and not just yourself and your internet "research" (which by the way is not real, peer-reviewed scientific evidence and so means absolutely nothing). 

I judge you hard if you do not vaccinate your children. Hard.

bluejeanbabi05

@jessafishy I'll add that I judge everyone who reads fake news and fake science written by a few "loud" celebrities and believes it. And then proceeds to tell everyone else they're brainwashed by big Pharma and the media.

jessafishy

bluejeanbabi05 said:

@jessafishy I'll add that I judge everyone who reads fake news and fake science written by a few "loud" celebrities and believes it. And then proceeds to tell everyone else they're brainwashed by big Pharma and the media.

YESSSSSSSSS. 

mrs_fogue

Wait @shakeuptampa, so you sister and his brother are having babies together?  And 2nd, this isn't also by the way my SIL?  Sounds just like her.

Seriously, she just had a baby and her lack of trying and educating herself on pregnancy/baby/motherhood is frustrating me to no end.  Also, she does nothing but mooch off her parents and it drives me batty especially seeing that she's a year older than me, she should have her crap together if I do! 

ShakeUpTampa

@mrs_fogue yep my sister and his brother , they met at our wedding...she is almost 23 and I think he is like 31 or 32 I can't remember I know a few years behind my DH. They have twins on the way! I'm trying to be the cool Auntie without putting my two cents in but when others come at me wondering wtf like Grandma who they pay rent to and hubs who they make it look like they are being financially backed haha...I'm like ok...let's look at reality folks. 

sjohns908

The topic of showers for 2+ kids tends to be a hot topic, so I'll bite.  I think it's insanely tacky to throw yourself a shower for your 2+ kid, no matter the circumstances. 

Behold my backstory: My SIL is pregnant with her 2nd kid and it's her husbands first. She decided for some reason that she gets to throw herself not one, but two showers (a traditional one in the morning and then a couples shower later that evening). I cannot get over how tacky this is. Listen, I'm all for showers and such for 2+ kids for just little stuff like clothes and small toys and such. As long as someone else offers to throw it for you. But to decide that you get to have one, ask your mom to "host" it for you and to ask for big gifts is gift grabby and tacky. Even worse is when you also decide to throw yourself a couples shower and tell everyone they have to bring diapers. On the same damn day, nonetheless.

I have been rolling my eyes over this for months listening to MIL justify it for SIL. Her reasoning is because it's her husbands first kid. That's great, but showers aren't for the dad, they're for the mom. Plus, if his family wanted to celebrate, shouldn't one of them offered to throw it? 

mommac2017

@sjohns08, oh my goodness I can't stand second baby showers!!!!!! I agree with everything you said. 

My SIL is pregnant with her first right now so I'm planning a shower. My sister just had her third baby and my MIL asked me when the shower will be. I was appalled. I told her there wouldn't be one and she thought that was ridiculous. I made sure to be very clear to her how tacky I think it is. She doesn't know we are pregnant yet and the last thing I want is for her to plan a surprise shower for me!

bluejeanbabi05

@sjohns08 it's her second baby so two showers makes complete sense!

.........face palm.

Also, is there guest overlap between the two showers? That's fun for people- spending literally all day at baby showers. And do they have to get two gifts??

eta: just saw that they have to bring diapers to the second shower.

ShakeUpTampa

@sjohns08 a friend who is pregnant now said to save the date she is throwing a TEA PARTY to celebrate. I agree every child should be celebrated but my 1st shower I was in tears and look back so thankful my sick Mom threw it but at the same time it was a bad day overall with bad juju lol. This time we are hiding pregnancy quite some time and maybe do a meet and greet after we come home. I don't NEED people to buy us stuff, first time around nothing useful was bought so I don't see 2nd time being any different, I asked for children, I supply for children. If she has a girl this time I will get a cute outfit and a toy and make the 1st child a big brother box. 

The ones who have children YEARS apart and think they should get gifted all the big stuff again because either 1) they got it all in pink or blue and it is a different gender or 2) they sold it or got rid of it all...dude...parenting is a full time job and a financial responsibility, gifts are nice but the real kicker is knowing who is your SUPPORT system and VILLAGE when said and done...who can  you call in an emergency. Material crap does nothing for me if I am in the hospital and I need someone to pick my kid up from school. 

sjohns908

@mommac2017 I can be OK with showers for 2+ kids as long as they're more of a celebration vs. for getting gifts. I personally wouldn't ever want one because it would make me really uncomfortable.  

@bluejeanbabi05 yes there's guest overlap. Basically all of us girls (friends, sisters, cousins) got an invite to both. So not only do I have to go buy her a gift for her shower, I also have to bring diapers to the couples shower. And yes, spending my entire Saturday going to these two showers is exactly what I want to do *insert massive eye roll here*

jessafishy

On the topic of baby showers...

Yes, every baby should be celebrated. However, a shower is specifically to welcome a woman to motherhood and to shower her with gifts.

If you want to have a celebration, then throw a party and provide food and fun for guests, no gifts. There you go! Celebration accomplished!

bluejeanbabi05

@sjohns08 Wow I'm actually awed at her narcissism

ShakeUpTampa

OK this one is a little bitchy but y'all got me thinking about it now...I'm thankful I wouldn't have to listen this whole pregnancy to my MIL state she KNOWS the gender and saying "it's a so and so I just know it" non stop. I feel bad I feel this way because she is now deceased and she would be over the moon at the twins coming from her other son and this baby but it put a lot of tension on me, I mean I had to tell her to gtfo of the delivery room when DR was checking me. 

Celebrate all the babies!!!! 

sjohns908

@ShakeUpTampa @jessafish exactly. Every child should be celebrated but celebrating doesn't equate to getting gifts. If we find out the sex of this baby, I kind of want to throw a reveal party, but only for fun and to celebrate. It's our last baby and it's been over a year trying to get here. I would mention no gifts on the invite.

I think her first kid being 7 is just another excuse she tries to use to justify this. She sold and got rid of literally everything as he grew out of it. It's not like they can't afford it, they both make really good money. She just doesn't want to have to buy the stuff herself. She actually threw a fit over how a crib could cost $200. I'm sorry you didn't realize how much things cost since your parents bought everything for you when you had your son, but you want a baby, you support the baby. Welcome to parenthood

@bluejeanbabi05 oh have I got stories that will make your head spin and blood boil at how insanely selfish and spoiled she is. 

mrs_fogue

sjohns08 call me old school, but I don't think it's ever proper to throw yourself a shower.  I don't care if it's your first or fifth. 

I know my church will do a small shower for us because they do for every baby and I feel sorta guilty.  But then again, I'm thinking ALL THE DIAPERS!!! 

Myelhsa

1) My FFFC is that I spend ALOT of time lurking on other boards searching for their closed threads so I can ride the drama-llama.

Also, Vaccinate those babies. I spent 5 days in the hospital with my first LO when she was hit with bronchitis, croup, and pneumonia all at once. They didn't ask me if she was breastfed, attachment parented, or half-alien - They only asked that she was vaccinated. It's important, make sure you're educated on it.

One baby shower, for the first baby, thrown by a friend and never by yourself. That's it. End of story.

jessafishy

Myelhsa said:

1) My FFFC is that I spend ALOT of time lurking on other boards searching for their closed threads so I can ride the drama-llama.
*snip*

@Myelhsa I was just doing that exact same thing!

ETA: My last BMB started a "Trollin' Tuesday" thread in which we would go find all the juicy drama threads and post them for us all to gawk at. Pretty sure it's against the new TOU but it was fun. I was pretty good at digging up gold back in the day.

dogperson11

I don't like chocolate. I mean, I'll eat things that have it in them, but I don't eat it plain and prefer fruity candy.

dogperson11

At 8:30am I already knew I would fail dinner time so I said "screw it" and ordered pizza to be delivered this evening. Now I'm crazing pizza so I'm considering having it for lunch, too.

jessafishy

@dogperson11



ETA: In response to the chocolate hate.

canonmom413

Flame away but I'm praying someone does throw me a shower or a sprinkle. Yes it's my 3rd kid but I did *not* get a shower with my second ( didn't want one as my kids were only 3 years apart,  but this time my kids will be 7 and 10 years apart), and it's totally not for gifts. I want a reason for food and my family to get together, because they are lazy with excuses and won't all get together unless a party is thrown . Ok some gift cards wouldnt hurt either. 

jessafishy

@canonmom413 As long as you aren't throwing it yourself or asking someone to host I don't really side-eye. 

canonmom413

@jessafishy never!!! 

Mommaswizz

FFFC I know it's all bullshit but I love speculating old wives tales to guess the sex of the baby.  I was feeling particularly off my balance a few times today and in my brain i think "uuuuwww i think thats an OWT for a boy" ... Flame away!!

sjohns908

@mrs_fogue I totally agree with you. You should never throw yourself a shower or party where you expect gifts. Unless it's your birthday lol. 

@dogperson11 I'm not a huge chocolate fan either. I won't sit and eat plain chocolate, gross. I'll have candy bars with it in them, but I don't like the weird aftertaste that chocolate leaves

canonmom413

@Mommaswizz I agree. You know it's complete BS, but can't help reading into it. While the Chinese calendar was wrong with my first, it was right with my second. I am assuming it's right this time too. Because you know 50/50 logic, haha. 

mountainmartha

I guess I will dish some dirt. My fiancé and I have been engaged for 8 years and I have literally no sense of urgency to get married even with a child on the way because our families drive me nuts and I know it irritates them which is fun for me. We're happy. We are faithful to each other. We are too lazy to plan a wedding. It is what it is.

bluejeanbabi05

@Mommaswizz @canonmom413 I agree it can def be fun...but please no one start their own "guess the sex of my baby!" thread. Those make me shudder and always get flamed lol. Not that you ladies would, I'm more hoping someone will read this and be enlightened....

jessafishy

@mountainmartha I don't blame you. Honestly, if I had to do it all over again I would elope or go to the courthouse to get married. Weddings are overrated (and expensive) IMO. (FFFC?)