I completely agree, shell never do it though she's too old and wise. I'm so done, I am about to deal with her myself. Usually I stay out of it because DH usually takes good care of it but this is absolutely unacceptable. I cannot handle her manipulative, selfish, self righteous, ass.
You guys, she just posted on Facebook "I wouldn't be able to live with myself if I knew I was causing someone unbearable pain" she didn't post anything about having a new grand baby though. She the most narcissistic person I've ever met in my life. Who takes a pregnancy announcement and uses it as a platform to bring her negativity around us and drag us down with her?
Woooooooooooah. HOLD UP!!!! Your existence in her son's life and contribution to his happiness with the added joy of bringing a child into the world together equates to unbearable pain for HER???? Who in the world is this self centered?!?!?
Oh, boo f-ing hoo. This lady needs a serious psychological evaluation.
@lap018 That is just not acceptable. You don't need the negativity. I would stop following her on FB. Or, because hormones, I might respond by telling her that she is causing you and your H unbearable pain by refusing to be excited about her grandchild. Admittedly, that is probably not the best tactic due to starting a public fight, but it would make me feel better (again, hormones).
Agree. She self absorbed and negative. She doesn't need to be causing her son or the mother of her future grandchild any pain.
My TW is being on pelvic rest. It is Valentine's Day, and I actually feel like having sex, and I'm not even allowed to do ANYTHING. I can make DH happy, but nothing for me. Boooooooo. I'm having a little pity party about it
^^^THIS! I'm in the same boat as you @amandarene112. Pelvic rest on Valentine's has to be the most cruel and unusual punishment.
@HollyGolightly09 right there with you on the spotting. Since you just had an exam yesterday it could be red blood from that, last week my dr did an exam on me for spotting too and he said don't count any spotting until 24hrs after the exam. Kick your feet up and Netflix something good. I spotted the whole first trimester for DD and not just brown most was red. They couldn't find a cause I was just a spotter. This time it's a lot less spotting but I am still spotting.
@daniellelynette I would scrub the toilet with his toothbrush and return it to the holder. If my DH ever did that I would arrange every card/gift I bought him over the years in a pile right by the front door so he would fall over them when he walked in the door.
@bridge-and-wall I honestly don't know how you feel because I am one of the lucky ones who are easily impregnated but you have every right to feel this way! You are in no way a TW. Every feeling you are having is completely valid. My sister and cousin have had to struggle to get pregnant so I like to tell both of them alone and I also allow them to be completely honest with me. And I let them be alone for a little while so they can feel their feelings and process. I know they are happy for me but sometimes that is not the emotion that comes out at first and for me that perfectly fine.
The TW in my life today is my DD. We colored, played outside, made her favorite dinner, and even had a chocolate covered strawberry! She refused to nap, threw a fit when we had to go to Target, threw a fit because she kicked her ball while playing outside, threw a fit because bubbles got on her, threw a fit because she colored all over her paper and didn't have a new one, threw another fit because I flipped the paper over and there wasn't any color on it, she threw a fit for dinner and threw her red beans all over the floor and mommy. The only time she didn't throw a fit was when she ate her strawberry. This mommy is so over the terrible twos and DD doesn't turn 2 till Saturday.
@kimby883 Thanks! I haven't bled since early this morning, so I feel like it probably was from the exam. I hate that you're spotting too, but it does make me feel better. My mom said that looking back on how much she bled with my brother she can't believe he was okay.
@MyNameWasTaken Im on team " You get one shower" You are 1000% correct a shower is a welcome to motherhood. So no matter what the age gap or if you are having the opposite sex of what you already have or whatever- you dont get another shower. It is SO tacky and comes off as gift graby ( because it is) its no ones responsibility to buy you stuff for the kids you choose to have.
after typing that out I feel like I came off pretty strongly about that- apparently I care about that a lot haha
@Kimby883 I can totally relate and just a heads up, two-three will make you wish you kept that baby in your uterus until she was 4! My DS who never complained about anything has in the last week, thrown a fit bc his tablet died, I gave him the wrong cup, he couldn't have the 50th lollipop he wanted yesterday, literally all things. I feel like as soon as they realize there are options in life, all sense of reasoning goes out the window! I'll wish you good luck and say I'm right there with you girl! Some days are just interesting....
My TW is my mom...and probably me too for being so irrationally mad at her (I blame hormones). She always said that she got SOOO sick with us kids, all 7 of us. But we were texting today, and I was asking her about getting a prescription from my doctor, and I asked her if she ever used anything. She said she didn't, just soldiered through. So I'm sitting here thinking I'm a wimp, and then she says that she only ever vomited twice with my oldest brother--TWICE. Ugh...so mad at her for making it seem like she was sick all the time.
@mrsmgseenot to defend your mom, because that is super annoying, but sometimes with morning sickness, being nauseous all the time is just as bad as throwing up. That being said, I would rather be nauseous than throwing up. Throwing up is inconvenient, gross, doesn't help you feel any better, makes you have to brush your teeth again (that makes you sick again) and makes you never want to eat that food again. I say get meds. There is nothing wrong or wimpy about taking meds. My mom always says "God wouldn't have made meds if they weren't meant for us to use them." Med up. I do.
@mrsmgsee Mine is the opposite. She always tells me about how easy pregnancy and labor and newborns were for her. Like she never had morning sickness, didn't really gain a lot of weight, was able to drop the weight like it never existed, etc. With my sister she labored while she was working for like 2 hours because it was super easy and she just had to get up to walk around every once in a while and she didn't need meds or anything because it wasn't really that painful and her labor lasted a grand total of maybe 6 hours and her active labor lasted all of 30 minutes. And all three of us apparently legit slept through the night at age 2 months. I was so beyond pissed after my months of nausea and 36+ hour labor that was super difficult and exhausting and baby that didn't sleep through the night until a year old. Thanks for making me think this whole pregnancy/labor/parenting thing seem like a total breeze when it most decidedly is not.
**TW**
Me & DH: 32 Married 2013 Kiddo #1: Sept 2015 BFP: 1/19, EDD: 9/30
"I'm having fruit salad for dinner. Well, it's mostly just grapes, actually. Ok all grapes. Fermented grapes. Fine, I'm having wine for dinner."
I'm so mad at my moms group today. So ticked off actually that I left the group on Facebook. These are girls that I went to college with, but they are crazy. Someone posted a question about a controversial topic and the OP wanted personal opinions blah blah. Well I stated my opinion and what I thought and I got jumped all over. These are "Christian" mothers and their responses were like WHAT?! Are we living in the dark ages?? (I know your like what are you talking about I don't know the topic, but I don't want to discuss it because I got so heated). Anyways, I realized this is not a group I can look to for parenting advice at all since they are all cray cray. Sad I had to leave after almost 2 years, but when you can justify some parenting methods because you prayed over it, I can't deal. The OP messaged me and wanted to talk about the topic and I told her basically I felt attacked and that if she was that offended maybe she needed to rethink her parenting style. Sorry, venting, but geez these mothers made me so angry!
@jessieR358 I'm sorry that happened!! it sucks that you felt you had to leave after two years Hopefully they'll think about why you left and try not to do the same thing to anyone in the future!
@jessieR358 That's so frustrating! I feel like those groups turn into a bunch of people validating each other's bad ideas. At least you tried to show another perspective. It's too bad it got that out of hand!
@jessieR358 That's so frustrating! I feel like those groups turn into a bunch of people validating each other's bad ideas. At least you tried to show another perspective. It's too bad it got that out of hand!
@jessieR358 That's so frustrating! I feel like those groups turn into a bunch of people validating each other's bad ideas. At least you tried to show another perspective. It's too bad it got that out of hand!
YES so much yes.
Yes, this is exactly what happened! They didn't like that I had foreword thinking, positive parenting advice and it was quickly shot down with "that's not what god wants" I don't know about your god, but my god told me to love my neighbors (which i would assume involves my family), so you do you with your beliefs I guess.
Thanks for understanding ladies. I've received some upsetting news tonight also over my brothers death that happened in August and this has just put the icing on the cake. All I can say is karma. And I really really really wish I could have about 3 glasses of wine right now.
Re: TW Tuesday Valentine's Edition
Oh, boo f-ing hoo. This lady needs a serious psychological evaluation.
@daniellelynette I would scrub the toilet with his toothbrush and return it to the holder. If my DH ever did that I would arrange every card/gift I bought him over the years in a pile right by the front door so he would fall over them when he walked in the door.
@bridge-and-wall I honestly don't know how you feel because I am one of the lucky ones who are easily impregnated but you have every right to feel this way! You are in no way a TW. Every feeling you are having is completely valid. My sister and cousin have had to struggle to get pregnant so I like to tell both of them alone and I also allow them to be completely honest with me. And I let them be alone for a little while so they can feel their feelings and process. I know they are happy for me but sometimes that is not the emotion that comes out at first and for me that perfectly fine.
after typing that out I feel like I came off pretty strongly about that- apparently I care about that a lot haha
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My TW is minor...but it's my nose and all of Texas for making me allergic to the outside. I. Can't. Stop. Sneezing.
Married to David 3/22/14
Started TTC again October 2016
BFP on 1/6/17!
Married 2013
Kiddo #1: Sept 2015
BFP: 1/19, EDD: 9/30
"I'm having fruit salad for dinner. Well, it's mostly just grapes, actually. Ok all grapes. Fermented grapes. Fine, I'm having wine for dinner."
The OP messaged me and wanted to talk about the topic and I told her basically I felt attacked and that if she was that offended maybe she needed to rethink her parenting style. Sorry, venting, but geez these mothers made me so angry!
Thanks for understanding ladies. I've received some upsetting news tonight also over my brothers death that happened in August and this has just put the icing on the cake. All I can say is karma. And I really really really wish I could have about 3 glasses of wine right now.