TW Tuesday Valentine's Edition

wannabeamongoose

I haven't seen anyone post this so hopefully you all don't mind.

It's V day, so who is that special person in your life?

wyomama0427

DH wins the TW award today. He NEVER remembers to even SAY happy Valentine's Day. Let alone remember to pick up a card. Every year I get him a card and write a bunch of nice shit in it and get him his favorite candy and last year DS and I painted him a cute picture that had DS' tiny little newborn feet in the shape of a heart. Well this morning DH's stupid ass dog shit all over the living room and of course he wants to go to bed (he was on nights) so I end up having to use MY TOOTHBRUSH (buying a new one now) to scrub the shit out of the carpet and steam clean. Well I asked DH if he could rinse out the collection bucket of the steam cleaner really quick and he refused! Anyway fast forward a bit and as he's going to bed I mumble "Happy Valentine's Day..." and that sparks a HUGE fight because he thinks I don't get him anything for Valentine's Day (wanted to punch him, I went ALL OUT last year) and I told him that I ALWAYS get him a huge gift and HE is the one who never gets me anything and this asshole POINTS TO MY STOMACH AND SAYS "Um I got you a baby." Super seriously. 

At this point, he's lucky to be alive. Like I'm not that into Valentine's Day but I do my best for him every year and he can't even remember to SAY happy Valentine's Day. He even told me the guys at work were talking about Valentine's Day and what they were getting their girlfriends/wives.

edited for spelling

wyomama0427

In five years, he's only ever remembered Valentine's Day one time, and even then it was the day after.

edited for spelling. Not my thing today apparently 

labby18

@daniellelynette I woulda stabbed him with the poop filled toothbrush.

We haven't had a Valentine's day together for 3 years...stupid military. But today I am the TW. My mother in law is overly sweet. Like so sweet, it has to be fake. She called me this morning while I was getting ready for work, and I ignored it. She left a voicemail. That was at 845a....it's 1pm and I am just now listening to it. It was this on going voicemail about happy valentines day and how she knows it must be hard with my "sweetie" not here (i dont call him that, but ok), and just on and on. I don't want to talk to her because her son hasn't told her that he's currently 1hr away from them right now or that I'm expecting. And i know she's going to ask about some stupid tshirts that his command is selling but I deleted FB and have no idea what is going on with them, and I am just not in the mood no matter how nice her intentions are, I don't want to talk to her. Yep I am the TW daughter in law.

HollyGolightly09

@daniellelynette Umm..... pretty sure I might have hit him. I can't be sure, because it isn't typically in my character to hit people, but I feel like that would have done it. 

@lahearn18 Where my MIL is concerned, I am most likely always a TW. The woman just bugs me... 

lap018

@lahearn18 I wish my MIL was that nice, mine wins the TW award today, we tried all weekend and yesterday and today to get together with them to tell them in person that we were expecting. She literally told me none of those days would work because they are too busy this week. Maybe next weekend. So this morning DH sends her in a text our announcement photo and so she calls him after that and basically the conversation went "congratulations on the baby but I am still not over the hurt and the pain and the issues that have happened between us over the last 10 years (isn't it coincident that I came into the picture exactly 10 years ago) and she starts crying saying that she doesn't even knownDH anymore and he isn't the sweet caring kind son she raised anymore and that he is not empathetic towards her hurt feelings and that she cries every day because when the two of them aren't ok her whole world isn't ok" I mean what the FUCK??? We just announced our rainbow baby and she makes it about herself? Your child should not be what makes or breaks your emotional well being especially an adult child? Now instead of enjoying this special day and announcement my husband is left feeling frustrated, inadequate, guilty, and just like crap. She's such a bitch! 

Emeraldcity

DH is wonderful, he brought me and our daughter roses. It was super sweet. The boys weren't left out either. They got some cute stuff too. 

The TW in my life is my neighbor. He cursed me out about my dog. He is mad that my dog barks and runs up and down his fence and he even told me to quit letting my dog pee on his fence. I was like, "dude, dogs bark! You gotta get over it." I also told him my dog is peeing on the grass near the fence, not the fence. Why does it matter anyways? It's a damn fence.
As far as the barking goes, my dog is outside a total of 15 minutes a day. There is no way his barking is that irritating. It would be different if he was outside all day barking. 
Anyways, he was overreacting and being completely irrational. 

Becky012016

@lap018 your MIL sounds just like my aunt in law. I'll never understand those types of women. I never see the lady but the 1 day every other month my in-laws spend the day with DS she just "randomly dropped in to see how they (ILs) were doing and had no idea DS would be there". Yeah right. 

LaceyC1020

DH and I are going out to dinner tonight as long as I'm not super nauseous lol Valentine's Day has been difficult the past couple years. Our first baby that we lost was due Valentine's Day. It's hard to imagine that I would be planning his 3rd birthday party now. I know he's in heaven watching over this sweet baby now though, and that helps.  I love the day after Valentine's Day when all that delicious chocolate goes on sale!!


Edited because half of my post disappeared..

TW Award today goes to Sonnys BBQ for not having any banana pudding today. I really wanted it. I mean they only sell 2 desserts, what gives?! And no...I didn't want the peach cobbler instead! Ick!!

Aly0430

I'm not sure if @daniellelynette or @lap018 wins so far. I felt my blood boil when I read both of yours.

HollyGolightly09

My TW Tuesday award goes to me... more specifically, my body. Went to the Dr yesterday because of brown discharge/cramping on Sunday...they did an exam and US and everything looked great. Well, I woke up this morning to red spotting. Really? Is that necessary? I think no. 

So, now I'm on 24 hour bedrest and missing work for the second day in a row. 

msashley2010-2

daniellelynette said:

DH wins the TW award today. He NEVER remembers to even SAY happy Valentine's Day. Let alone remember to pick up a card. Every year I get him a card and write a bunch of nice shit in it and get him his favorite candy and last year DS and I painted him a cute picture that had DS' tiny little newborn feet in the shape of a heart. Well this morning DH's stupid ass dog shit all over the living room and of course he wants to go to bed (he was on nights) so I end up having to use MY TOOTHBRUSH (buying a new one now) to scrub the shit out of the carpet and steam clean. Well I asked DH if he could rinse out the collection bucket of the steam cleaner really quick and he refused! Anyway fast forward a bit and as he's going to bed I mumble "Happy Valentine's Day..." and that sparks a HUGE fight because he thinks I don't get him anything for Valentine's Day (wanted to punch him, I went ALL OUT last year) and I told him that I ALWAYS get him a huge gift and HE is the one who never gets me anything and this asshole POINTS TO MY STOMACH AND SAYS "Um I got you a baby." Super seriously. 

At this point, he's lucky to be alive. Like I'm not that into Valentine's Day but I do my best for him every year and he can't even remember to SAY happy Valentine's Day. He even told me the guys at work were talking about Valentine's Day and what they were getting their girlfriends/wives.

edited for spelling

Um. That is karate chop straight to the groin material right here. 

sorry about yor v day blues! Hope the day has gotten better for you! 

DPandMB

Aly0430 said:

I'm not sure if @daniellelynette or @lap018 wins so far. I felt my blood boil when I read both of yours.

This! I don't think I would have handled either situation as nicely as you ladies.

msashley2010-2

@lap018 your poor husband!!! He does not deserve to be treated that way. Way to go TW MIL for making an exciting announcement all about her personal emotional woes. Smh

labby18

@lap018 i think my MIL has similar issues tho. He's their miracle baby and only child and once i came around yeaaaah. But my MIL has made racial comments about me (hispanic) when we first met and a lot of other not so great encounters over the past 8 years. She cries if DH forgets to send them an anniversary card but remembers to call....and so on.

Aly0430

Yeesh @HollyGolightly09. That really is unnecessary. Take it easy and keep us updated!

As for my award, I give it to my prenatal vitamins. I'm about to throw them in the friggin trash. I keep forgetting to take them, and yesterday I remembered right before bed. I only took half a dose (a full dose is 4 giant horse pills) and I woke up with a throbbing headache and had massive acid reflux all morning after eating a banana, a piece of toast, and some yogurt. Literally the gentlest foods I could find. Shouldn't have caused that big of a problem. Needless to say, I'm begging my husband to let me buy some gummy vitamins.

mercury94

@daniellelynette Yeah, he's a TW. I would be furious. 

@lap018 That is ridiculous. 

@HollyGolightly09 Creepy internet hugs your way. Also, tons of happy thoughts and prayers that everything is okay. 

I think I'm a TW today. Found out a good friend of mine is pregnant. Super excited for her and it will be great to have a friend with a baby about the same age as mine. But, when her husband told me, I was slightly annoyed. Not because it's taking attention from me or anything. Just that they started TTC their 3rd child 3 weeks ago and got pregnant immediately.  I was annoyed that it was so easy for them when it was so hard for me. I feel like such a jerk for even having that thought. 

Souptin

My mother takes it today. I messaged her about my son having croup and how exhausted we all are with being up for over 24 hours, emergency rooms, working and how sad sick babies are ect....she responds by telling me she was also up most of the night because a water leak happened in her building so she's tired too.....dafuk? did you actually just compare your level of tired over a water leak  (not in your apartment) to me right now? Sit down lady.

DPandMB

mrs_tacos

My TW is being on pelvic rest. It is Valentine's Day, and I actually feel like having sex, and I'm not even allowed to do ANYTHING. I can make DH happy, but nothing for me. Boooooooo. I'm having a little pity party about it. 

@LaceyC1020 Our first loss was due in December, and every year on that due date DH and I eat cupcakes, and imagine what that child would be like, since they would be 7 now. I hope you and your DH are able to have a good date tonight! I love the idea of your first baby watching over this one as they grow and develop, it's just beautiful.

JNR6510

DH surprised me with an amazing Valentines day. I thought we were just doing pizza and a movie in bed, but DH cleaned the whole house, made a fancy dinner, and had everything laid out for me to just relax and get spoiled rotten when I got home from work. He is so awesome!

The TW in my life is a former co-worker. She was fired for faking a pregnancy (for 9 months and 3 weeks) and forging documents in order to get paid  FMLA benefits. Seriously deranged cray cray lady! So TW cyber stalks me over the weekend and continuously tries to send me IMs, texts, and messages that I need to keep my pregnancy a secret and make sure no one knows about it plus asking me where our new house we just bought is. Maybe it's just pregnancy hormones, but I am getting a serious creepy stalker vibe from this psycho. As in she would be the freak that you hear about on the news that kills someone to steal their baby psycho. 

Needless to say I have blocked her from my social media accounts and she is barred from entering our work building already due to her attacking one of my male colleagues the day after she was fired. Definitely a little freaked out by the crazy lady.

Texafornian

@daniellelynette I'd go get his toothbrush and then give it back...

@lap018 you're mil is a special kind of someone...smh. 

@LaceyC1020 hugs today 

@HollyGolightly09 oh hell no...damn spotting!! Did you get punched in the cervix by the wand? That makes me spot on occasion...

@Aly0430 it's always easier to apologize than ask for permission...go buy yourself some gummies!!

Souptin

@JNR6510 wants to know where you live?  Oh hell no! 

HollyGolightly09

@Texafornian  lol, no wand punching this time, but Dr did check my cervix. Apparently that causes slight bleeding occasionally, and as my mom reminded me... I'm a redhead and tend to bleed easily in general. 

zetega

@JNR6510 yiiiiikes that is scary!! Of course you know your office best, but it might be worth telling someone at your office that she has surfaced to harass you? In case you're not the only one.

@daniellelynette I would be furious. Buy yourself a nice big Valentine's day present next year instead of continuing to get gifts for someone who can't be bothered to remember!!

wyomama0427

@bridge-and-wall you definitely aren't a TW. My sister is the same way. It took us 10 months to conceive our son and then because I was breastfeeding a while to conceive this one too, but when my sister decided to have her second she got pregnant on the first try. Like their first month. Bitch. 

lap018

Yeah my Mil has some real issues y'all, I'm pretty sure she's clinically depressed. You're telling your child that the reason you are unhappy and the reason you cry all the time is because he isn't meeting the ridiculous expectations you have for yalls relationship? She was a single mom, just her and him for 7 years and they bedshared for like 4 years so he's not her son to her he is an unhealthy attachment and now she doesn't know how to function with him having another important woman in his life. I would never say that a mother doesn't stay important to her son but when a son marries his wife becomes his most important, please note I said the mother is still a very influential, important, needed part of a sons heart but good grief! Learn your new place, my parents have a life, they travel and go on dates and see us in their spare time, we don't talk every day and their happiness is not affected by that?! 

wannabeamongoose

@bridge-and-wall Such a totally normal human type of reaction. Don't be too hard on yourself.

@JNR6510

what a lunatic

mrs_tacos

@lap018 Your mil definitely sounds like she has some kind of depression going on. That's not a normal or healthy reaction at all. It also sounds like she has some enmeshment issues that she needs to take care of. How does your DH deal with all of this? Regardless of whether or not your mil seeks out help, it might help your DH to talk to someone so at least he can figure out how to put up healthy boundaries on his end. 

lap018

amandarene112 said:

@lap018 Your mil definitely sounds like she has some kind of depression going on. That's not a normal or healthy reaction at all. It also sounds like she has some enmeshment issues that she needs to take care of. How does your DH deal with all of this? Regardless of whether or not your mil seeks out help, it might help your DH to talk to someone so at least he can figure out how to put up healthy boundaries on his end. 

He usually just tries talking to her and it just goes nowhere and the whole process is repeated again like 6 months later. I think they should go to counseling together because that'd be the only way she'd see a counselor but I agree that him talking to someone and being told that he does not hold the key to her happiness and he doesn't need to feel responsible for it might help him a lot. I definitely agree with the enmeshment situation but she would never think that she has that because she is "50 years old and is much wiser now and can see all aspects of the situation" (insert eye roll)

wyomama0427

@lap018 That's crazy. My best friends MIL is like that too, she's insanely jealous of her sons gf (my bff) and she went so far as to try to keep their baby away from her because she said that she's not a good mom and doesn't know what's best for her... like blocked my friend from picking up her baby wouldn't give her back kinda thing. The cops got called and this crazy b**** tells the cops that my friend punched her in the face and threatened her with extreme violence and is now pressing charges... my friends bf says she should have actually punched her just to make the whole thing worth having it on her record lol. She's always telling me how his mom is guilt tripping him for not living in their town and how she doesn't see her granddaughter enough. 
I don't understand how mothers can do crap like that... I mean I hope to GOD I don't do anything like that to DS's future gf/wife/baby mama. I don't want to be the crazy mil...

LaceyC1020

@amandarene112 I love the cupcake tradition! How sweet! We said we would spend every Valentine's Day in Disney World, it's my happy place. But this is the first year we won't be able to do that because I'm on restrictions/light duty. Maybe we'll watch a disney movie tonight


@Texafornian that gif almost made me pee myself!!

@JNR6510 Definitely stay away from that lady. She really does sound cray cray!!!

MyNamesTaken

I was added to a local mom group on FB. Someone asked today if she should have a shower for her third child. I said no, they're for welcoming into motherhood so only once but a meet the baby party would be really nice. I got jumped on for being unsupportive and unfriendly!? I think she was implying she would be hosting it herself and I didn't even touch that. Everyone else thought it was a great idea! 

mrsmarygs

@MyNamesTaken
I think a baby shower isn't bad for a third child, as long as its the first of that sex. My cousin had one for her first girl even though she had had two boys, because she didn't have any girl clothes, etc. Or maybe it would be okay if it had been like 5+ years since her last child and had gotten rid of a lot of baby stuff. But I can understand if she already had a lot of the normal stuff and had a boy and a girl, it would be kind of unnecessary at that point.

JNR6510

@lap018 Good luck with the MIL. I don't think I could handle that.

@HollyGolightly09 FX the spotting goes away and doesn't come back! 

mercury94

@MyNamesTaken I think that people usually just do diaper parties after 2 kids. We've done a few at work. We want the excuse to throw a party, but don't see the need to buy a bunch of brand new baby stuff for someone who already has 2 kids (especially if they have one of each).

MyNamesTaken

@mrsmgsee I'm not opposed to getting a baby new clothes/other gifts or having a party. It's just the full-blown shower before baby comes that seems weird. They kept going on about how every *baby* needs to be celebrated, but actually waiting for the baby to be there to celebrate (as opposed to the mom being the first of honour) made me an unsupportive person.

lap018

You guys, she just posted on Facebook "I wouldn't be able to live with myself if I knew I was causing someone unbearable pain" she didn't post anything about having a new grand baby though. She the most narcissistic person I've ever met in my life. Who takes a pregnancy announcement and uses it as a platform to bring her negativity around us and drag us down with her?

mercury94

@lap018 That is just not acceptable. You don't need the negativity. I would stop following her on FB. Or, because hormones, I might respond by telling her that she is causing you and your H unbearable pain by refusing to be excited about her grandchild. Admittedly, that is probably not the best tactic due to starting a public fight, but it would make me feel better (again, hormones).

wyomama0427

lap018 said:

You guys, she just posted on Facebook "I wouldn't be able to live with myself if I knew I was causing someone unbearable pain" she didn't post anything about having a new grand baby though. She the most narcissistic person I've ever met in my life. Who takes a pregnancy announcement and uses it as a platform to bring her negativity around us and drag us down with her?

Woooooooow.................. 

HollyGolightly09

lap018 said:

You guys, she just posted on Facebook "I wouldn't be able to live with myself if I knew I was causing someone unbearable pain" she didn't post anything about having a new grand baby though. She the most narcissistic person I've ever met in my life. Who takes a pregnancy announcement and uses it as a platform to bring her negativity around us and drag us down with her?

Can't. Even. 

She needs to seek professional help. That is not normal.