Wednesday Whatever 2.1

nda_roxybabe

Isn't Wednesday Ventsday or WTF day or something? IDK, I feel like we could use a vent/ WTF thread this week, so here it is!

I'm exhausted. I've been going to bed too late, having weird dreams, and sleeping like crap. Last night I actually went to bed nice and early at 9:30 only to wake up a few hours later with an excruciating headache that kept me. I went to Dunks this morning and got a 1/2 caf, but I'm so tired.

SKZW

@nda_roxybabe: wishing you a good night's sleep tonight!

I feel big and wobbly, rolly-poly and uncomfortable. It's really hard for me to sit on the floor and play with my son. I know it's only gonna get worse, but I feel awful enough already.

hp_momma

Woke up with a scratchy throat. Ughhh. I thought I was over this winter sickness. Come on summer! 

Kipperoo

I mentioned this in randoms, but it fits better here. Add me to the misery club--I am home sick today after a horrible night of heart burn and indigestion. I feel like death. I would so much rather be at work, but instead, I'm working from home on employee reviews. It's 11:15 and I have yet to start...

lilmisscrafty-2

Received an email from MIL that since her son thinks so little of her she won't be involving herself in my shower. So, because he was a jerk I get punished?! The whole email made me both sad and angry. I don't appreciate being put in the middle of their fight. I haven't replied because I can't think of anything I could say that doesn't make things worse. 



nda_roxybabe - with you on the tired front. Can't seem to get my butt to bed at a decent time.

jayandaplus

@hp_momma and @Kipperoo: I hope you both feel better soon! I've learned being sick and pregnant is the worst!

@SKZW I hate how uncomfortable I am all the time. Everyone keeps saying "it only gets worse", and you knw what? That's not helpful. The looming future of worseness does not make my current misery better!!

I've been in a weird/grumpy/guilty/cranky mood all week. Frankly, I'm sick of it (my mood). I'd really like to change my attitude, but can't seem to shake it. I wish I could not hang out with myself for a day.

nda_roxybabe

@LilMissCrafty Oh geez, she really is a peach. I'm sorry

jayandaplus

@LilMissCrafty She seems pretty terrible from all you've said. I wouldn't validate her email with a response either. She's being infantile, and frankly you don't need that! Good riddance, then.

SKZW

@jayandaplus: seriously. The current state of affairs needs to be dealt with! I'll worry about the future when it comes, but until then, all current issues are valid and worth complaining about. 

hp_momma

@LilMissCrafty Ughh. I hate when my MIL does that passive aggressive mind game BS. I'd forward the email to my DH and tell him to deal with it! Lol 

nda_roxybabe

@jayandaplus amen! I know if I told anyone IRL how tired I am they'd all say "just you wait..." I know, I know, but for right now, I AM tired and that fact that I will be more tired eventually does not change that.

jayandaplus

Exactly! I love you guys. This little bitchfest has already made me feel so much better (and not alone in my sulkiness.)

hp_momma

nda_roxybabe said:

@jayandaplus amen! I know if I told anyone IRL how tired I am they'd all say "just you wait..." I know, I know, but for right now, I AM tired and that fact that I will be more tired eventually does not change that.

Third time mom and I actually prefer the tiredness from a newborn over pregnancy tiredness! When your pregnant your just so uncomfortable and even walking up the stairs makes you out of breath! You can get comfortable no matter how you sleep! 

WombThereItIs

Wtf fatigue? I miss coffee and sleep actually feeling restorative. 

I am in camp "I know it gets worse" so I'm trying to stay positive. I had a sleepless colic monster the first time so I am prepared for the worst. Overall this is the part of pregnancy I like I just wish it didn't coincide with the crazy time of year for work. 

I am am beyond excited for clearance Valentines Day candy in two weeks. Probably not the best game plan for weight gain buttttt yum. 

emilyalso

@LilMissCrafty  Agree with @hp_momma (I tagged you!!!) but even in a practical and not snarky way. I believe that an individual should handle their own parents in almost every situation. 

nda_roxybabe

WombThereItIs said:

Wtf fatigue? I miss coffee and sleep actually feeling restorative. 

I am in camp "I know it gets worse" so I'm trying to stay positive. I had a sleepless colic monster the first time so I am prepared for the worst. Overall this is the part of pregnancy I like I just wish it didn't coincide with the crazy time of year for work. 

I am am beyond excited for clearance Valentines Day candy in two weeks. Probably not the best game plan for weight gain buttttt yum. 

OMG me too! I told H at the grocery on Sunday "I cant wait in 2 weeks when all those boxes of chocolates go on sale and I can eat them alllllllll". I typically buy 2 of the boxes with nuts and/or caramel after Valentine's Day anyway.

nda_roxybabe

@hp_momma That's something I've been wondering from STM+. What's worse? 1st Trimester exhaustion, 3rd Trimester exhaustion, or Newborn?

MrsFox2008

@LilMissCrafty I'm sorry your MIL is acting that way towards you. Very immature. 
@SKZW I feel ya about getting off the floor while playing with my toddler. It's a real struggle. 
@Kipperoo & @hp_momma hope y'all feel better soon!!!

I'm in a down kind of mood today. Feeling like a crappy mama lately. DH has pointed out that I have let DDs bedtime routine slide a bit the last few days and that he hasn't seen me read to her (which I have just during the day when hes at work we've just missed bedtime read lately) and by him pointing those things out it really makes me wonder he's really thinking...

NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot

@nda_roxybabe Having experienced 1st trimester nausea for the first time with this pregnancy, I'd say that coupled with the 1st tri exhaustion was the worst.  W/ no nausea & just exhaustion, I'd say it's a toss up between 3rd tri and newborn stages.   In 3rd tri, at least you are the only exhausted one.  With the newborn stage, you might get a nap in, but you and DH are both exhausted and mentally drained.

hp_momma

nda_roxybabe said:

@hp_momma That's something I've been wondering from STM+. What's worse? 1st Trimester exhaustion, 3rd Trimester exhaustion, or Newborn?

For me personally, by far third trimester exhaustion. It's just so uncomfortable overall and your up all night with insomnia or using the bathroom or worried about if that was a real contraction or not. 
Newborns will definitely make you exhausted but it's different. And your DH can help with that exhaustion. There is literally nothing he can do for your pregnancy exhaustion! 

psherman42wwsa

emilyalso said:

@LilMissCrafty  Agree with @hp_momma (I tagged you!!!) but even in a practical and not snarky way. I believe that an individual should handle their own parents in almost every situation. 

I third this! I hateeee drama and I definitely wouldn't want to get myself in the middle of some drama between my husband and his mom.

@wombthereitis I'm also looking forward to the V-day candy. Paricularly the reese cup hearts, mmmm. Also my son is too little to eat all the goodies he gets in his daycare valentines so more for me, yay!

I guess I'll complain a little bit too. I've been sick with pneumonia for over 2 weeks and I am finally starting to see some improvement. It sure is taking awhile to get better. The charlie horses just started up in my legs while I am sleeping, I have to jump out of bed to get them to stop. Also, I rushed into work today because I had an interview scheduled at 830am and the woman never showed up. 

On a brighter note, I am really looking forward to getting out of work and taking my toddler outside to play in the snow. He played in it yesterday for the first time and watching him have so much fun just makes my day !

SKZW

hp_momma said:

nda_roxybabe said:

@hp_momma That's something I've been wondering from STM+. What's worse? 1st Trimester exhaustion, 3rd Trimester exhaustion, or Newborn?

For me personally, by far third trimester exhaustion. It's just so uncomfortable overall and your up all night with insomnia or using the bathroom or worried about if that was a real contraction or not. 
Newborns will definitely make you exhausted but it's different. And your DH can help with that exhaustion. There is literally nothing he can do for your pregnancy exhaustion! 

I'd say the opposite! Pregnancy exhaustion (no matter the trimester) is yours and yours alone. Yes, it affects how you run your life and those around you (slacking at work, not feeling like cooking, hard to play with the kids, who cares about laundry) but is yours alone. Newborn tiredness, though, is the whole household not sleeping. I think it's worse! My poor hubbs was a zombie for a long time, and even if he wasn't fully awake in the night, his sleep was still severely disturbed. I worried about him being behind the wheel every morning for his (very!) long commute. Falling asleep while driving is no joke. At least my exhaustive state could be remedied with a nap. He didn't ever have that option.

BabyMC517

@MrsFox2008 Sorry you're in a down mood can your H not do bedtime read if you have already done so during the day and are exhausted at night?  

So, our staff assistant just walked in my office (door was closed because I'm on lunch) to put stuff to be filed for our student assistants, which is fine, except she left the door wide open! I only close it so they know I'm on lunch, even though I will still answer questions if needed. She really irks me sometimes! Yes, I know I should leave my office, but some days I just don't want to and the cafe is always so crowded and loud that I don't want to deal with it! 

Squirtgun

I'll weigh in on the exhaustion question!  I think that if you have morning sickness, first tri is the worst!!  I am one of those people who would rather have any kind of torture over a stomach bug, though, so for some people maybe they wouldn't think so .

I feel like baby exhaustion, everyone sympathizes with more, and that makes it easier somehow. Like, when you're pregnant, it's all "oh, you just wait, it's going to be terrible!" And then when you have a tiny baby, random strangers are all "oh, you must be so tired! I hope you're getting sleep!" Which is a whole different kind of annoying, but you feel a little more validated in your exhaustion.  

I don't know. It's all different, and I think overall some days of each time frame will be the worst, and some days will be the easiest. But, I still think that some days of finals in college are some of my worst exhaustion experiences, so who knows! 

WombThereItIs

@nda_roxybabe oh god newborn suck is the worst by a MILE. I had a super hard baby though so I'm hopeful it won't be as soul crushing. 

For me as far as levels of suck go it's:
newborn>>>>>>>third tri > first tri> second tri

Yiggle09

I have been exhausted this entire week! With my first I slept fantastic up till birth. With this one my sleeps been bad but I have never felt this bone deep exhaustion. I went to bed at 8 last night up at 530 just trying to catch up. I could honestly go to bed right now. I agree with @WombThereItIs with the levels of suck 
edited to add WTF is up with the video ads on the bottom right of the screen these days!

Jens_Hoes

I've been sleeping horribly lately too.  Woke up at 4am on Monday and was just up... and Tuesday night I was up from 10:30-1:30, after having fallen asleep from 9:30-10:30. 
I also still have this super annoying pain/burning sensation in my right lower rib area which I have to go to get an ultrasound on, but it hurts every damn day.  
Plus the ITCHING. I try to put on lotion but my belly, my legs, my arms, it never ends!

starphish18

I've been in a lousy mood in general this week, too. Everyone is just frustrating me. I even kind of snapped at my husband when I was cleaning the sink last night. I commented how it hadn't been cleaned in months and he claimed he cleaned it two weeks ago. I literally laughed, to which he got offended, and then I yelled a bit because he didn't clean it right. He didn't even use a sponge and the stainless steel cleaner we have. He used paper towel and a spray. Seriously, he and I have very different ideas of clean. Anyways, I was surprised at my reaction. I never yell about anything... We've literally never been in a real fight before.

Also, I was so pissed off this morning. I got a call 30 minutes before my wake up time from an employee. No one else was there, the door was locked, and there were clients in the parking lot waiting to drop their dogs off. There were supposed to be two other staff members there at this point who have keys. I'm waking up, trying to get myself ready to drive to work, and calling people to figure out wtf is going on and to see if anyone else could get there sooner (as it'd take me 30 minutes). I get a hold of our groomer, who is going to head over (she only lives 5 min away), then finally hear back from one of the employees who's supposed to be there already that she arrived. The other one was over an hour late. Since I was already awake at this point, I ended up driving an extra 30 minute scenic drive on my way to work while listening to Eric Whitacre so I could calm down, and I picked up a decaf latte on my way. Then I get to work and hear the washer is broken. It's been a day. Sorry for the massive rant.

nda_roxybabe

@BabyMC517 Ugh, that's so annoying. No, you shouldn't have to go out if you don't want. People need to respect your time and space. I have a cube and often stay in for lunch (that I have to clock out for) so I'm constantly getting bugged and I don't want to be rude and be like "Im...on lunch...."

@Squirtgun I sympathize on the throwing up. I hate it so, so, so much. I never ever feel better afterwards, just worse. I always say I'd rather have pneumonia and strep at that same time than throw up once. My Mom is the same way and we both swear that our fear/ hatred of it has kept us from actually doing it in years. The last time I threw up was from being drunk, and that doesn't count. Otherwise, I just....don't let myself.

RedInLove

LilMissCrafty said:

Received an email from MIL that since her son thinks so little of her she won't be involving herself in my shower. So, because he was a jerk I get punished?! The whole email made me both sad and angry. I don't appreciate being put in the middle of their fight. I haven't replied because I can't think of anything I could say that doesn't make things worse. 

As much as that sucks, in the long run she will be hurting herself the most. It will be her childish behavior to point at, her selfishness to blame, and years later the photographs will still show she wasn't there for her grandchild. She ultimately will have to live with this decision. I would refuse to engage her or your DH on this topic, even though your shower is being put in the middle it wouldn't be your battle any other day so I wouldn't make it this day either. I'm sorry she's being a selfish TW.

lilmisscrafty-2

Thanks you guys! Made me feel a little better to vent. I gave the email to DH to handle. I actually really liked my MIL and got along great with her. But seeing how she handles conflict has really turned me off. It's funny because the last thing she said to DH was "grow up". And I'm thinking "Hi pot, meet kettle."

Hope everyone sick feels better soon! 

With all the Valentine's Day talk, I just realized that I scheduled my Glucose test on the very same day. DOH! Here's hoping I pass or no candy for me.

nda_roxybabe

@LilMissCrafty Oh no! Mine is scheduled a few days before. I'll definitely be crying if I fail and cant have candy.

NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot

Team No Tossing the Cookies Unless I'm Drunk!

I've avoided actually throwing up the last 2 times I've had the stomach flu.  It's the worst thing ever.

nda_roxybabe

@NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot There's times where I think maybe I WILL feel better if I do it, but then I remember all the times way back when where I most definitely felt worse.

MrsFox2008

@BabyMC517 he totally could, he just doesn't. He works a lot  and is very tired in the evening so I understand but this mama could use some help not some criticism! Lol. We're going  to have a chat about it today, he says he does want to help especially since our second will be here before we know it. So that's a start 

OmegaRose3

@LilMissCrafty Ugh I feel for you! We barely talk to DH's bio mom for the same reason (step mom is awesome though) I agree with whoever said make your H deal with his mom's crazy BS. I use to get crazy texts until I stopped replying. No one has time for that crap.

@SKZW I feel like I can hardly bend over to pick up DD let alone be silly and play with her without my back killing me, I hate it! 

@Kipperoo & @hp_momma I hate this being sick thing...just got over a cold to catch something else. Pregnancy immune systems are garbage.

@nda_roxybabe I've had horrible morning sickness with both pregnancies and honestly that was the worst of it for me. Yes, I was tired when DD was born, but I was also on cloud 9 with my sweet little newborn whereas with pregnancy I just constantly got told how crappy I looked after being sick all day and people really do have no sympathy.

OmegaRose3

My WTF is from yesterday being the first time I sneezed and pissed my pants on the way to the bathroom...seriously only had that happen once last pregnancy and I was well into my 3rd tri. Now I'm worried about what happens when you're not home...

Kipperoo

I'm RIGHT with you no-throw-up ladies. I hate it SO MUCH. I couldn't even tell you the last time I threw up except for a couple of months ago and I'm pretty sure it was related to the liver issues I've been having. I'm home sick with a stomach bug today and my husband asked if I've thrown up and I was like "well...no...but that doesn't mean this isn't a throw up bug..." I never feel better after and the stomach pain/discomfort after while pregnant is just awful.

As far as the exhaustion ranking goes, I'd say newborn was the worst, followed by 3rd tri, and 1st tri. For me, I had a pretty easy newborn, but breastfeeding was a bitch and I seriously think it affected my total newborn experience. The exhaustion on top of the belabored feeding efforts was just too much. I'm definitely better prepared for it this go around, but not looking forward to it. 

Louise_Belcher

@nda_roxybabe For me I would say 3rd tri is the worst. My morning sickness was mild compared to to others otherwise I could see that coming in first. I was so swollen and sore during 3rd and I couldn't walk for very long without hurting and being winded. With a newborn I was tired and there wasn't much sleep happening, but I had almost an adrenaline rush during the first few weeks which was a nice upswing from being exhausted and nervous during the 3rd tri. 

nda_roxybabe

@Kipperoo Yup, my H never quite understands be having a stomach bug of sorts and not throwing up. Trust me, it's the same sort of stomach ache/ pain. I just refuse to puke.

hp_momma

Throwing up is the last possible resort, and I mean like it would only happen if I had no control. I hate hate hate it!