@Itsnotyourturn Well they may not even be pregnant or actually use this site. Also, they may use a public computer so an IP ban wouldn't affect them.
@lph4248 Haha I figured there would be dirty tailgaters on here (read joking tone, not seriously calling you dirty, this is mostly for WK people who might report me or something). I totally get it if someone is really going slow in the left lane. Not that I do it, but it at least makes sense. My issue is that no one seems to drive at a normal speed. Right lane is always at least 5 under the speed limit, left lane is a race track. This one stretch of highway that I travel regularly, the speed limit is 55 thanks to the road being in mountains and pretty curvy, but the "flow" of traffic in the left lane is at least 70, if not even higher. It's just stupid dangerous, especially here where it likes to snow and rain a lot.
Hubby and Me Friends since 2008 Started dating: July 1st, 2013 Engaged: July 1st, 2014 Married: July 1st, 2016 R born: July 8th, 2017 N born: June 30th, 2019 Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022 (maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
I feel tremendous guilt for working and seriously debated leaving my tenured faculty position with my first baby. There are very few women in my position and I feel some sort of guilt for women as a whole for even considering leaving. (Like WTF self!). I had spent many years building a large successful research program and literally couldn't give a f*ck about work once baby was here and needed me. Scary! As academia was such a core part of my identity for such a long time (got pregnant at 37) - this was a serious crisis for me. I wish I could stay home - somehow I'm more old fashioned than I knew - when all is said and done I think home with baby is where I 'should' be. That being said, being at home is not as intellectually fulfilling and stimulating for obvious reasons. It's all so hard really... I still struggle with this every day - hubby thinks I should sort it out with a therapist but I assume that lots of other moms have this struggle too.
@yellow1daisy ugh! Sorry you are having such a crappy day!
@CarsonsMommy I'm having the same problem! My toddler never used to do this. All of a sudden it's like he's trying to knee my uterus on purpose - what is up with that!
Your feelings are absolutely valid and i could not agree more. I know we touched a bit on this in the maternity leave thread but I have a similar passion for my job and I, too, have spent so many years getting here, plus moved continents, it's hard to visualize slowing down. I wanted to congratulate you on your incredible accomplishment of tenured academic faculty position at/before 37, and even though I don't know you IRL, I am very proud of you and hope our children will have more role models like you to look up to. I know you will find the right balance and will be an amazing mom!
@caribbeanmama I have no doubt lots of other moms struggle with that decision. I'm sure I will. Therapy can be a great option for dealing with that conflict.
Awww @mj8215 I really needed to hear that! Thanks for the vote of confidence - awesome boost! It's good to hear from someone who 'gets' it. I know you too were concerned about what things will look like workwise once baby is here - and man is it anybody's guess but you will do what's right for you and the baby! It is crazy how baby takes over your brain when they get here though lol! But as you said - balance is the key - and I need to fight for balance. I wish someone had told me that it would be hard to return to work - perhaps I could have mentally prepared myself in some way, who knows?
@lph4248 you're right on both accounts but I don't know when I would have the time for the latter right now lol. But it is definitely something for me to keep in mind if I can't come to peace one way or the other once the second baby is here. Thanks for chiming in!
The gender reveal thread made me break into a sweat. Then I remembered we are Team Green, and I can breathe again. Good on you, ladies!! Soooo soooo not my thing...
The gender reveal thread made me break into a sweat. Then I remembered we are Team Green, and I can breathe again. Good on you, ladies!! Soooo soooo not my thing...
I haven't even touched that thread because I don't want to see the yellow tag everytime I bump. We are also team green and it sooooo isn't my thing.
The gender reveal thread made me break into a sweat. Then I remembered we are Team Green, and I can breathe again. Good on you, ladies!! Soooo soooo not my thing...
I haven't even touched that thread because I don't want to see the yellow tag everytime I bump. We are also team green and it sooooo isn't my thing.
Yeah, our idea of sex reveal is to tell people who ask "it's a boy!"...
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@lph4248 Haha I figured there would be dirty tailgaters on here (read joking tone, not seriously calling you dirty, this is mostly for WK people who might report me or something). I totally get it if someone is really going slow in the left lane. Not that I do it, but it at least makes sense. My issue is that no one seems to drive at a normal speed. Right lane is always at least 5 under the speed limit, left lane is a race track. This one stretch of highway that I travel regularly, the speed limit is 55 thanks to the road being in mountains and pretty curvy, but the "flow" of traffic in the left lane is at least 70, if not even higher. It's just stupid dangerous, especially here where it likes to snow and rain a lot.
Friends since 2008
Started dating: July 1st, 2013
Engaged: July 1st, 2014
Married: July 1st, 2016
R born: July 8th, 2017
N born: June 30th, 2019
Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022
(maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
@lph4248 you're right on both accounts but I don't know when I would have the time for the latter right now lol. But it is definitely something for me to keep in mind if I can't come to peace one way or the other once the second baby is here. Thanks for chiming in!