TTGP After Dark 1/13

lulu1180

You know the deal.  Let's really get to know each other .  Feel free to answer whatever questions you are comfortable with and if you have any questions you want to add, feel free to do so!  

Is there anything that you need to have a certain way before you have sex?

About how many people have you had sex with?

What is the kinkiest thing you have ever done?

Do you have any fantasies that you have not previously acted out but would like to?

Do you orgasm regularly with your SO?

lulu1180

Is there anything that you need to have a certain way before you have sex? Nope, I'll do it pretty much any where, any time and in nearly any situation

About how many people have you had sex with? I would have to stop and think to figure out the exact number but I think its in the mid/high teens.  I went through a period where I was having a lot of fun!

What is the kinkiest thing you have ever done? Ummmmmmm.........I'm afraid some of you may judge me but one of the kinkiest is that I've acted out Katy Perry's song.....and then some

Do you have any fantasies that you have not previously acted out but would like to? At this point, I think the only thing I haven't done that I kinda would like to is take video of DH and I together.  I think I've covered just about everything else.

Do you orgasm regularly with your SO? Recently, it seems that he will try to make sure I O during the minimal foreplay we have but I rarely O during penetration.  

Peregrine

Is there anything that you need to have a certain way before you have sex?

The door locked.  Or at least throw the nosy animals out of the room!

About how many people have you had sex with?

DH.

Do you orgasm regularly with your SO?

Um.  Yes.  Like every time, at least once.

kiwi2628

YAAAAAS

Is there anything that you need to have a certain way before you have sex?

I prefer the cat and dog to not be in the room, other than that, not really

About how many people have you had sex with?

So, I grew up with a VERY liberal mother. I assumed I would have a life like her- grow up, move into the city and live like Carrie Bradshaw- have a string of dates and boyfriends and one night stands and fun, and eventually settle down.

And then I met my husband as a 16 year old virgin. Sooooo 1. Whoops.


What is the kinkiest thing you have ever done?

Oh thats not going on the internet. Lets just say that we don't have a nightstand drawer for toys. We have an entire 3 shelf dresser; and it's full.

Do you have any fantasies that you have not previously acted out but would like to?

Yes and no. In my mind, a threesome would be hot, but I know I couldn't do it in real life. So its a fun fantasy, but not one that I would ever act upon.

Do you orgasm regularly with your SO?

Not 100% of the time but probably a solid 80%.

BertieMeetsGertie

Since I really enjoy reading all your sexcapades, I guess I should probably respond so I'm not a total creeper. However, please keep the "OMG Bert and Gert have such a lame sex life" to yourselves please! 

Is there anything that you need to have a certain way before you have sex?
It drives me crazy when we are getting ready to have sex and DH will just lay on the bed without taking his damn underwear off. Come on, man! Remove your pantaloons so we can get this show on the road!!

About how many people have you had sex with?
High school sweethearts over here, so.... 1

What is the kinkiest thing you have ever done?
Not really sure. Watching porn with DH and having sex? See lameness above...

Do you have any fantasies that you have not previously acted out but would like to?
not really a fantasy but I'm curious about toys. We don't have any and I'm not sure where to even start. I'm sure DH would be on board though! 

Do you orgasm regularly with your SO?
YAAAASSS! DH is extremely unhappy if I don't O. I'm hoping at some point to O during penetration, but whenever I get close DH has his, so...

lulu1180

OMG @BertieMeetsGertie For his next birthday or your anniversary, you should go to the adult store together and get a simple toy to try out together.  You will not regret it, I promise!!!!

kiwi2628

@BertieMeetsGertie a very low key but exceedingly amazing toy you should try is the WeVibe. You can buy it online. It is a little clit vibe that also goes in you and vibrates inside, but is shaped so you can be having penetrative sex with your SO while having it on.

Ah-Mazing. 100000% recommend.

lund

Is there anything that you need to have a certain way before you have sex?
Nope. I just try to make sure that the downstairs situation is agreeable. I'm not a cleanliness freak, but if I've been sweating or haven't showered in 24+ hrs i give the lady bits a once over.

About how many people have you had sex with? 
Oh man.... I think about 15. I had some wild college days 

What is the kinkiest thing you have ever done?
Good question. I just asked DH - he shrugged and said "butt stuff?"   so yeah, we've tried anal ... not my fav, but it happens once in a great drunk while. We've had sex in many different locations (on our boat, on an trampoline in my friend's backyard, on a beach...), tied each other up, and tried to let him fuck my boobs but they're too small lol. Oh, and we've made videos. They're on a single jump drive - no where near anywhere that could be public. 

When I was 18 I had a heavy-petting threesome. No sex, though. And in college there were certainly many occasions of having sex or oral when others were in the room. Mostly when we were sure the roommate(s) were asleep, but occasionally there would be a few couples going at it in one room.

Do you have any fantasies that you have not previously acted out but would like to?
Hmmm. I could totally get into some 50 Shades of Grey stuff, but there's no way DH would do that. 
We've talked about sex clubs and swinging, but it's just fun to talk about. I'm not sure either of us could go through with it because we're not into sharing. Not to mention the whole hygiene issue. Voyeurism turns me on, though.

Do you orgasm regularly with your SO?
hahaha... I think everyone knows about my new found DH-induced orgasms. I could always orgasm solo, but this week was the first time I had one "given" to me. Aaaaaaaand, DH gave me another last night  by George I think we've got it!

Man I wish I could gif on mobile...

lund

@lulu1180 I'm dying to know what it's like to go down on another girl! Morbid curiousity lol

jess0211

I'll play!!

Is there anything that you need to have a certain way before you have sex? 
DH must not be all gross from work....a shower must happen first. I also don't like the lights on. 

About how many people have you had sex with? Three

What is the kinkiest thing you have ever done? That can't be on the Internet, sorry ladies.  A girl must have a few secrets 

Do you have any fantasies that you have not previously acted out but would like to?
Like @kiwi2628 I have had fantasies about a threesome but would probably never go through with it. I totally want to try the WeVibe now though!
Do you orgasm regularly with your SO?
 Most of the time, ttc sex sometimes kills it for me.

lulu1180

lol @LuND It was interesting and I enjoyed it much more than I thought I would, in the same way that I feel very in charge of DHs pleasure when I'm giving him a BJ, I felt the same thing in that situation, I was very much in charge of her pleasure and I really enjoyed making her squirm and knowing I was the one doing it.  I was told that I was very good at it as well.  Also, one of the things that was always a huge turn on for me was tasting myself on a guys lips so I guess it shouldn't have been that much of a surprise to me.

lund

@kiwi2628 which Wevibe model do you recommend? It looks like there are a bunch of options.

kiwi2628

@lulu1180 Ugh, I HATE tasting myself on my H lips. He thinks it's so hot, but internally I cringe every time it happens

lulu1180

@jess0211 I looked up the we vibe at @kiwi2628 recommendation and it definitely looks fun!  If I could find the money, I would consider getting it.

adirat

@bertiemeetsgertie We were also super intimidated to consider toys but it can be fun if you take the right kind of jokey attitude toward picking something out. I will admit we have only ordered things online because I feel like there is a 100% chance of getting Hep C at any of the stores near us. 

Is there anything that you need to have a certain way before you have sex? Hard to be picky when you're on cycle 9 of ttc amirite?


About how many people have you had sex with? Two. Like @kiwi2628 I expected I would have some wild years, but most of the guys at my college were gross and I started dating DH when I was 22, so...

What is the kinkiest thing you have ever done?

Figuratively vanilla but also involving vanilla ice cream. Yum. 

Do you have any fantasies that you have not previously acted out but would like to? Yes, does anyone know how to have sex such that you get pregnant? Thanks!

lulu1180

And now wevibe will have a sudden increase in sales thanks to @kiwi2628 lol

bluejeanbabi05

@lulu1180 judgement-free zone here!

@kiwi2628 love the 3 shelf dresser full of toys We don't even have that many and I thought we had a lot of toys! We do have several dressers full of lingerie though...DH loves to buy me super raunchy stuff off Amazon lol. For those of you that haven't checked it out- Amazon has a great selection of cheap lingerie and toys

 Is there anything that you need to have a certain way before you have sex?

I hate feeling like I'm just having sex to make babies; I think that's something we all struggle with. If I'm tired or not so into it on a certain night, I'll tell DH, give me 20 minutes then come in. In that 20 minutes I either summon up a favorite fantasy in my head or I read some erotica (literotica.com is a great site) to put myself in the mood. Really helps!

About how many people have you had sex with?

I'm going to leave this section alone because catfish concerns. Let's just say, it's not one. 

What is the kinkiest thing you have ever done?

*Takes big swallow of wine* That I'm willing to put here? I know this is a pretty UO but I love anal. I'm really weird, I know. Guise, WHAT IF I HAVE A BUTT BABY?????

Do you have any fantasies that you have not previously acted out but would like to?

I met DH when I was 22, so while I had plenty of sex before him, anything non-vanilla has only been with him. Sometimes I wish I had been more adventurous before I met him, but it is nice to share a lot of sex firsts with him. That said, I've never had any kind of threesome and DH would never be down for it (I wouldn't want to watch him with another woman and vice versa with another man) but like @kiwi2628 it's a fun fantasy. 

Do you orgasm regularly with your SO?

Yes! And he's the first man I've ever had an orgasm with, no joke. It was like a whole new universe being opened up to me when we started dating. I need to either be on top though or using a vibrator, because I've never had an O through penetration itself, just from C stimulation. DH loves the vibrator though so all is great there.

That was fun! Can't wait to learn more about all you ladies I'm pretty much the de factor sex therapist for my friends because I have not one ounce of embarrassment in me about this stuff and a lot of, well at least I think, good advice. 

lund

@lulu1180 high five lady! From the way you describe it, it sounds like a fun, bucket-list item. 

kiwi2628

@LuND The WeVibe Fling is you basic standard model for couples. It was my first and I loved/still love it. We did just get the WeVibe 4 Plus because sometimes I will wear it out and my H can control it from his phone, so I never know if/when it will turn on, how long, what setting etc... Its so effing exciting and hot. Plus lots of other cool features.

lulu1180

@LuND it really is!  It was something that I had always wondered about and the opportunity presented itself so we went with it!  And DH still loves thinking about watching it!

jess0211

@lulu1180 I just found it on Adam and Eve, we get coupons for there! They usually have discounts if you sign up for an account...just sayin' 

Eta: the words

bluejeanbabi05

Wow I started typing that with only two responses and look at the thread now!

I've also always been curious about that @lulu1180 @lund so I guess I would add that to the fantasy list too

Toys are so fun I highly recommend. Like @lulu1180 said, definitely go to the adult store together and pick out something- you guys will be all over eachother on the drive home even if you don't even end up buying something. Vibes are fun, paddles are my favorite

lund

@bluejeanbabi05 I love literotica! And, hahahahahaha butt baby!!!!!!!!!!!!! Well played, well played. 

@adirat your whole post had me cracking up. You da best, lady.

jess0211

@bluejeanbabi05 I love erotic literature! I haven't ever checked out literotica though! My night just got more interesting 

bluejeanbabi05

@lund I like that fifty shades stuff too, although there are wayyyy better books like it out there. If you want to try it out, ease your DH into it. That's what I did- started with him playing around spanking me, then got a paddle, then....a few other things

KariAnn323

Is there anything that you need to have a certain way before you have sex?
It depends, but definitely have the dog not staring at us

About how many people have you had sex with?
6

What is the kinkiest thing you have ever done?
DH will tie me up sometimes. It does wonders for my anxiety because I don't have to second guess what I'm doing and I can just relax and really enjoy everything. We haven't done it in awhile, I may need to remind him...

Do you have any fantasies that you have not previously acted out but would like to?
We've discussed threesomes in a theoretical way. DH would love to bring another girl into our bed, but I'd rather not. I'm a bigger girl. I mean I have the tits and ass to go with everything else and I know DH thinks I'm hot as hell but I'm very self conscious about it. I'd be good with a threesome with another guy. I think that that amount of attention on me may be terrifying at first, but would end up being an unbelievable turn on. DH would never go for it though.

Do you orgasm regularly with your SO?
I would say about 75% of the time. 

dragonfly87-2

Is there anything that you need to have a certain way before you have sex?

• We almost always take a warm bath before  we have sex (though I do wonder if that is lower chances regarding sperm health) because I will only uh....give a BJ if it's clean. I also don't find it sexy to be sweaty or dirty from a long day. No bath, no BD.

About how many people have you had sex with?

• Just my husband...we started in high school

What is the kinkiest thing you have ever done?

• We are mostly pretty vanilla when it comes to sex, but we have tried vibrators, oils, lubes, sexy outfits and handcuffs/blindfolds. 
• We did have sex in a church parking lot in high school....that was kind of kinky, I guess?

Do you have any fantasies that you have not previously acted out but would like to?

• Not really. I am sure DH has a few though...

Do you orgasm regularly with your SO?

• Yes, but only via manual stimulation...never orgasmed from penetration alone.

hartmich

@bluejeanbabi05 good for you for the anal! Seriously haha. I feel like I want to like it but we have never succeeded. 

@lulu1180 thanks for stating this! I never know what questions to ask...

@kiwi2628 you guys are animals 

@bertiemeetsgertie H and I were more adventurous in our younger years but not as crazy as some of these ladies so you're not alone!

@adirat I've enjoyed this "break" from ttgku sex. Even in the TWW I was preoccupied I think with it all, so this month has been so much nicer! But, if you figure out that fantasy, let me know

Is there anything that you need to have a certain way before you have sex?

teeth brushed or mouthwash... unless we aren't home of course

About how many people have you had sex with?

 3

What is the kinkiest thing you have ever done?

slightly public sex (beach) I guess... like @lund there were roommate situations in college. I've dressed up before but I feel like that is kind of tame. 

Do you have any fantasies that you have not previously acted out but would like to?

I'd like to be tied to headboard but ours is a tufted fabric headboard! 

Do you orgasm regularly with your SO?

about 75% of the time... I can get there from penetration (actually H and I were casually discussing this earlier and wondering if it's his shape or something that just always gets me...)

dragonfly87-2

@KariAnn323: We have two dogs, and they always stare at us if they are in the room...it's like they know what we are doing. Creepy. One time, our chocolate lab licked DH's leg while we were going at it and DH flipped out. 

Now, they always get kicked out of the room

flashley-2

Is there anything that you need to have a certain way before you have sex? 
Not really but now that everyone is mentioning their pets I suddenly feel really bad for the sights my dogs have seen !!!

About how many people have you had sex with?
Don't judge like 20-25 !! These were my younger, crazier days and I regret pretty much every one. 

What is the kinkiest thing you have ever done?
DF and I are both pretty kinky. We like to play dirty. We have freaky toys and love to try all new things. Rough sex sometimes. We like having sex in different places. We stop often on the side of the road and have sex in random places.

Do you have any fantasies that you have not previously acted out but would like to?
Threesome is totally my fantasy but would never do it. Letting another woman touch DF - never !!

Do you orgasm regularly with your SO?
He holds out to make sure I O. Love it. Very rarely do I not have an orgasm. 

kiwi2628

I have noticed I O less often now that we are TTGP. Sometimes I am not 100% in the mood but I am like 'Get your baby batter in me' so we bang, but I don't have it in me to O. Its quite sad. Baby banging was hot the first 2 months. Now we still usually have fun, but sometimes I am like' Just fill me up while I take a nap, ok?'

flashley-2

@bluejeanbabi05 I also must confess DF and I started playing with anal (we were butt the virgins - DF still is lol but never experienced delivering it) and I fucking love it. We only do it when drinking but woooo it's good. 

BertieMeetsGertie

@LuND to quote Michael Scott, I don't have large chesticles, but I've got a large junk in the truck. So, DH likes to titty f*ck my ass (butt cleavage instead of boob cleavage). You could try that (if you haven't already). My apologies if this is called something else but I really have no clue! 

adirat

kiwi2628 said:

I have noticed I O less often now that we are TTGP. Sometimes I am not 100% in the mood but I am like 'Get your baby batter in me' so we bang, but I don't have it in me to O. Its quite sad. Baby banging was hot the first 2 months. Now we still usually have fun, but sometimes I am like' Just fill me up while I take a nap, ok?'

@kiwi2628 I wish I could pull this off! DH isn't into it unless I am into it, so even when I'm like "omg let me go to sleep already" I have to break out the theatrics. 

dragonfly87-2

kiwi2628 : Sadly, I feel the same about HIO during FW. I am so focused on him at least finishing, I try not to let him have too much pleasure with foreplay. If he goes too long, he has trouble "filling me up" (as you put it, lol). So I get less focused on my pleasure and more focused on whether or not we can make it across the finish line.

flashley-2

BertieMeetsGertie said:

@LuND to quote Michael Scott, I don't have large chesticles, but I've got a large junk in the truck. So, DH likes to titty f*ck my ass (butt cleavage instead of boob cleavage). You could try that (if you haven't already). My apologies if this is called something else but I really have no clue! 

Lol I need to try this - the walls are jealous of me. No boobs. DF is always trying to fuck my tits. I've given up telling him they still aren't big enough. 

sheknows6

Is there anything that you need to have a certain way before you have sex? Just privacy really

About how many people have you had sex with? 10

What is the kinkiest thing you have ever done? 

This question makes me glad we're all anonymous! I've gone as far as participating in what's known as the lifestyle. Definitely not vanilla, but since meeting my H, I only have eyes for him. I'm really not into butt-stuff though, it's just not my speed.

Do you have any fantasies that you have not previously acted out but would like to? I want to have what I call "movie sex"- me totally up against the wall in his arms. I don't think it would be earth shattering, but it's definitely on my to-do list, and I'm not a petite woman so I've never been able to truly pull it off. My H is pretty strong though and he has been trying!! 

Do you orgasm regularly with your SO? Yes! He gets upset if I don't, and I can orgasm from both penetration and c-stim. DH finally found the magic combo for multiples with me and he's been exploiting it 

lund

@BertieMeetsGertie now there's an idea! I have plenty of butt cleavage!

@adirat yup, theatrics needed over here too. I occasionally envy women who get to "just lay there" during TTC sex

lulu1180

I feel better about my whoring ways now that I know I'm not the only one on here lol.  And ditto with FW sex, I typically just kind of lay there and let him go at it because I'm pretty much after one thing and one thing only.

And Fwiw I don't regret a single thing I've done.  Everything I've done was either my idea or with my full and complete consent without any coercion 

eta wrong word 

Peregrine

Hrm, guess I should enjoy my crappy natural cycles then.  We know any baby making is going to require the RE.  So sex is still just fun vs a chore.

We're definitely on the kinky side, but some things are not shared online for fear that DH's boss or higher might some day see.  

doula-mama

I've been taking a bit of a break - been super bummed about this seemingly anovulatory cycle and not feeling like I belong in either WTO or TWW... but this I'm glad I jumped back on tonight!

@KariAnn323 and @dragonfly87 We live on a boat so no kicking the dog out... if we are lucky, we get him off the bed, but most of the time he lays right beside us judging... we often end up laughing at him part way through

@bluejeanbabi05 and @jess0211 I love reading erotica to get into the mood (especially useful when it's BD schedule time) - another great site is Lush Stories

@FLAshley No judgments here girl! This thread is just for fun


Is there anything that you need to have a certain way before you have sex? Nope

About how many people have you had sex with? I had a wild phase in my 20's, so low 20's - mostly no regrets

What is the kinkiest thing you have ever done? It's a toss up... the kinkiest that I loved? A three way with two guys. What others would think was the kinkiest? Swapping

Do you have any fantasies that you have not previously acted out but would like to? Not really... I'd like to be a bit more adventurous with DH but it's not really his thing. Makes me glad that I was able to when I was younger, so I at least got to experience them.

Do you orgasm regularly with your SO? Thankfully, yes! There is only the odd time that I don't, and I'm also one of the lucky women who O's regularly from penetration