Opinion question: my in-laws live just under 4 hours away, and like to visit pretty often. Right now the trend is a visit to see LO every 3-4 weeks. However, because they live a few hours away, the visits are always overnight stays-- one to two nights each time. I'm starting to feel a bit suffocated. I'm thinking of asking DH to stretch the visits out to once every 6 weeks or so. Is this unreasonable of me? My in-laws and I have an awkward relationship. TIA for your input-- with a first baby, I'm not trying to be rude, but I think my comfort level matters, too.
Re: Reasonable or unreasonable?
Is it the overnight that bugs you, or the frequency of the visits? YOU can always gice dates that work to decrease the frequency, and make it a Saturday night so they have to leave on Sunday for work,on Monday to ensure its always one night instead of two.
One more thing- I understand the point you made about having an awkward relationship with them, but they are making an effort to have a relationship with your child, and that is a precious thing. Too many people these days don't care about their family, and don't make any effort to invest in relationships with them. My kids would love to have grandparents that actually give a crap about them, but they don't. It's sad. Maybe you need to re-evaluate, get your own feelings out of the way, (because it really isn't about you) and let them have access to their grandchild.
I agree with PS, try to arrange the dates so they only stay one night and see if they can babysit while they're there.
If there's any way to try to improve your relationship with them, this is a good time to try