*TW* Diagnosis (updated again)

KMD1106

@RainyDays86, it can't be said enough how sorry I am that you have to go through this. I'm glad your mom will be a great support, and please know we're here if you just need to vent or cry or whatever. Sending so many healing vibes your way. 

mspacman34

I'm so sorry to hear this. Take some time for yourself if you feel you need it before telling everyone. They will be there for you when you decide to talk to them. Sending you so many thoughts, prayers, and hugs. 

mrsrep123

   @RainyDays86 thanks for updating us as we are all here for you! You have a lot on your plate right now... I was getting pretty teary reading about the news you received and the emotions you're feeling about telling your mom as well as other family (sorry to hear about your dad's passing). I can't offer anything other than positive vibes and continued support. Stay as positive as you possibly can. 

RedInLove

I'm so so sorry! It sounds like you have so much in motion already, a team of people that are ready to help you, which I hope brings you some comfort and encouragement. Take care of yourself this weekend, and please update us as you keen more. Hugs to you and your family!

mamatowildones

This is horrifying news. I'm so sorry. Thank God you found it and praying for healing for you and your family. 

achays11

I am so sorry to hear this news @RainyDays86. It sounds like your doctor is helping you to develop a solid plan for treatment. Praying that the conversation with your mom goes well and that she can be a shoulder for you through this time. We are hear for you for whatever you may need. 

MoshiMoshi7

@RainyDays86 I am so heartbroken for you. Thank goodness they found it now and not later in the pregnancy so that you know your options and can get right on treatment. Those positive stories are encouraging and I would focus on them. Yours will turn out the same way.

Is there anyway we can help from afar? Meal delivery service? Priming you some sweats, ice cream and movie? Please don't hesitate to ask for any kind of help.

hp_momma

I'm so sorry to hear the news. I can't imagine telling my mom either, as I can imagine it would be a very emotional conversation. It sounds like your OB is on top of everything you need and has you set up with a great staff of medical professionals. Please remember that we are here for you as support, a sounding board to vent, or whatever you may need! 

starphish18

I'm so sorry @RainyDays86. We're here anytime you want to talk about things. I wish it were better news, but it sounds like you have great medical resources at hand to help you through this. Sending good thoughts your way. Let us know if we can help in any way!

Squirtgun

Oh, I'm so very sorry!  I'm glad you have a good OB who is helping put together a good team of doctors for you. But this sucks!  I'm sure it will be hard for your mom to hear your news, but she's going to want to be there in your corner supporting you too!!  Know that we're all supporting you and vent all you need to as you go through this, and  whatever else you need. ugh, I wish there were better words to use right now, or a better way to help you. 

RainyDays86

Thank you everyone for your support.  My conversation with my mom went incredibly well.  She was very positive and solutions-oriented.  She is a former nurse practitioner and now owns a business helping people navigate significant diagnoses (researching treatment options, helping to find doctors, helping to organize information and appointments).  She also battled breast cancer herself 10 years ago.  So I knew she would be helpful, I just hated ruining her day/week/month/year.  But she was honestly so great.  She also told me her oncologist told her grade 3 cancers respond better to chemo (hers was also grade 3) and that her cancer was roughly the same stage as mine (at least my estimate of what my stage is) and she's doing fine now.  So that made me feel better.  She is looking at flights now to come out so she can hopefully be at my appointments on Tuesday.

I feel like I keep saying this, but I so so so appreciate everyone's support.  You guys are the best.  @MoshiMoshi7, you are amazing for offering help, but honestly at this point having a sounding board is the best possible thing for me.  It has been very helpful to get all of this out and process through writing.

mdlorenz

So sorry to hear mama, but so glad to hear you feel supported by family and your providers. Wishing you peace during this time. 

pshaortao

I'm so sorry, I was really rooting that it would be nothing after all or at least not in the lymph nodes. But like PPs have pointed out already, it sounds like you have a great OB and oncologist already, ready to tackle this and put you in remission. I am so so glad to hear that it went well with your mom, especially her having gone through it before, and it's so reassuring to hear that she was around the same stage and it worked. And I know that treatment has come a long way in the last decade. I especially love that she's coming out to you for your Tuesday appointment. Safe travels to her and I hope this weekend flies by quickly enough so you can get a better idea of what to expect. Don't hesitate to refrain from posting about how you're feeling mentally and physically, I'm happy that we can be your sounding board

NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot

@RainyDays86  I'm so sorry to hear this.  I'm glad your mom is able to provide such awesome support.  Do you think she could help me navigate some of life's challenges? But in all seriousness, I'm glad to hear you have a great support system and a decent plan in place pending Tuesday's news.

mcvgal

I'm so sorry you are going through this. I am glad that you have great team of doctors and your mother's support. Please feel free to vent and unload here anytime that you need to. I am praying for you and thinking of you.

vrj0522

I am so sorry to hear these knews! It sounds like you have a strong team behind you between your doctors and your mom. So glad the conversation with her is making you feel better. So many t&ps for you and your family!

CherryBananas

I'm so sorry. Big hugs, and I'm sending lots of thoughts and prayers to you and your family. I'm so glad you have your mom in addition to the rest of your support team. 

rkstro2

So sorry to hear @RainyDays86.  I can't even imagine all the emotions you are feeling.  I am so thankful that your mom is coming to help you navigate.  I am praying for you and sending positive thoughts your way

Yiggle09

I'm just reading all this now. I am sure your tired of hearing this but I am sorry this is happening to you and your family. I am hoping it's in no other node and that you make a very speedy recovery. I'm glad your mentality is positive and you have your mom for support. Please be careful with the tumeric it can cause uterine contractions and isn't suggested till 36 weeks of pregnancy. 

arels483

I'm so sorry to hear the news, @RainyDays86! I had a friend who had lymphoma during her pregnancy. I know it isn't the same, but I can send you the link to the blog she kept during that time. 

kns1988

@RainyDays86, it sounds like you have a lot of strong and capable people in your corner, and it sounds like you're also an incredibly strong woman. Vent here as much as you want to. Wishing you the best. 

chickyclg

Oh @RainyDays86, I really don't know what to say other than what has been said.  We will be your venting place if you need it.  Sending you so many thoughts and prayers, and many hugs.  

bacorrea

I am so very sorry girl. I am praying for you and your family. I'm so glad you have so many great doctors that seem to be on top of this. Please let us know if we can do anything. 

IvyMagic828

I'm glad you have your mom to really help you through this, especially with all her experience and advice she can send your way in addition to love and support.  I hope all the additional staging tests turn out as well as can be expected and they are able to get you into remission sooner than later. You can beat this! Thinking of you as you start this challenging journey.

lnds32

So sad to read this update. Take some time to process everything and get a solid plan! Hopefully after Tuesday you will have a better understanding of what's in front of you! We are all rooting for you! Let me know if/when you want to reach out to my friend who was in a similar situation. Sending lots of prayers to you and your family ❤

sarah0985

I can't even begin to imagine what you're going through @rainydays86. Please know that you and your family are in my prayers. Sending you the biggest of creepy internet hugs 

jayandaplus

@RainyDays86 There are no words. I'm sitting here, crying, wishing I could give you a real life hug. You  seem to be handling this situation with amazing grace, dignity, and composure. I'm impressed with your ability to find silver linings and utilize all the resources around you. I'm glad your mom is available to help you through this-- she sounds like the perfect person to be at your side. It's great you have a support system, but I also hope you take a second to realize how strong you are. I'm glad you're reaching out to us and telling us. Thank you for letting us into your world. If there is anything I or any of us can do, please don't hesitate to let us know. I'm so sorry you're going through this and am keeping you in my thoughts.

MrsFox2008

I am so sorry to hear this. I will continue to pray for you. 

Stankonia2014

I feel creepy lurking (from June 17) and not offering my support and prayers.

I can't even begin to imagine what you are going through, but I wish you the best and I'll pray for you and your LO. I'm so thrilled you have your mom as support (and DH) by your side who has been through it. 

I'm sorry you are going through this. Hugs.

SparkySunDevil

Oh man, I'm so sorry to hear this. I was praying so hard for a different outcome. I'm so glad you have such a great support system in place. Sounds like you have some pretty proactive doctors as well. I'll continue to pray for you.

edit: fat fingers, posted before I was done typing 

bubsalicious

It sounds like you have a fantastic support system on your side! We are definitely standing behind you here.

sweaterboots

Thinking of you and sending you good thoughts. My gramma had breast cancer when she was much younger, has a mascectomy (it was in the 80's and may have been a drastic measure) and lived to be 90 with no recurrences! I know she was not pregnant so it's not the same, but she seemed to breeze through the whole experience with full health. Wishing that for you!

clebl24

You are in my thoughts and prayers as you meet with your doctors and create a treatment plan. I'm so glad your mom is getting to you ASAP.  I'm sure you're in good and loving hands. 

NewbySweet

I'm so sorry this is happening to you and your family, I am so glad to hear that you have such great support. Sending thoughts and prayers to you whilst you make the big upcoming decisions. 

onebadmotha

I am so sorry you're going through all of this, but so glad they were able to catch it. It sounds like you have a great medical team and support system, which I'm sure will make all the difference in the world. If we could, we would give you the biggest group internet hug ever.

Kipperoo

I am so sad to see this update. Continuing to send my love and support. Please keep venting to us as you need to.

schnitz9

I just saw this update. So sorry for the news. Sounds like you have a great OB and Oncologist. Your mom sounds like a great support too. Please keep us posted. All my prayers will go out to you and the baby

RainyDays86

Hi ladies,

Another update for those who are interested.  We got some additional information about the cancer yesterday which makes us all cautiously optimistic.  The full pathology report came back with hormone status.  Basically breast cancers can be either positive or negative for receptors for certain hormones - if positive the cancer is fueled by the hormone in question.  My cancer is positive for estrogen and progesterone receptors which is good news, because it means there are more treatment options (hormonal treatment rather than just chemo).  My cancer is also negative for something called a HER2 receptor which is a very good sign (HER2 negative cancers have a much better prognosis than HER2 positive).  So, in short my cancer is considered ER+/PR+/HER- which is the most treatable kind of cancer.  It is also the same kind of cancer my mom had (she's been in remission for almost 10 years) which helps because although things have changed in the last 10 years our treatment will likely be similar.

Additionally, I met with a breast surgeon this morning and she was very reassuring.  I will be treated at the big med school in Denver by an oncologist who specializes in treating young women - including pregnant women -with breast cancer and the surgeon told me that although it seems crazy that I'm 30 and pregnant with cancer, the oncologist wouldn't even bat an eye at my case.  She told me I would be totally unexceptional for this doctor which is the best scenario I could envision in which to be called unexceptional.  

The surgeon thinks I'll probably need to start with chemo and then have a mastectomy after the baby is born.  I'll know more next week when I meet with the oncologist, but I feel good about having a plan.  It is certainly not how I thought my third trimester would go a week ago, but I also know things could be much worse.  And to end on the happiest note, I updated the ultrasound thread but we also had our anatomy scan today and it went well.  Baby is very healthy and everyone I've talked to seems very confident he/she should do ok for the remainder of the pregnancy.

vrj0522

Continued t&ps!! Glad you got the most positive diagnosis and that you have such a strong medical team behind you!

NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot

It sounds like you received as positive as possible news.  I'm glad to hear you are "unexceptional."