I'm curious what everybody's Holiday Plans with their in laws are because no mater how many times I tell my MIL her options she tries to change it for her own selfish benefits.
This might be long and confusing but I am so frustrated, I have to get it all out.
Last year we had our first child in February so she had lots of time/warning and in the end we did Christmas Eve with them for a rushed hour before going to my FILs cousins house for dinner. I had preferred if we did dinner at my in laws only. After this happened I even thought we made a deal/came to an agreement that it was not to happen again this year. This year my FIL was "disappointed" that he wouldn't be going to his cousins house Christmas Eve. This made me really upset that he would rather be there then with his son, and granddaughter. At the last minute he got to go but without even consulting my husband and I. I had a baby on 12/22 so they assumed they would go there instead of our house. I actually never said Christmas Eve at my house was cancelled, I just said I wasn't making anything. So they took it upon themselves to do that AND invite themselves over Christmas Day and at the worst time; right when we were planning to go to my parents house and that's because we live 12mins from her sister and her sister was hosting Christmas Day at 2:30 so they got there at the perfect time. Where we were almost two hours late for my parents and all we did was exchange gifts in a very rushed presents in your face fashion. So now I have to confront my MIL again and make it clear that next year they can come to our house Christmas Eve or on 12/23 but those are the only options. I made it clear when I was pregnant that as long as my parents host Christmas Day we would be going there and I would not give up Christmas morning or try to go to two places in one day.
So so that's why I ask what your plans are with your in laws. I know some people who have four families or more to see/visit and they don't have problems like I do with my MIL. I feel like she doesn't respect me.