U.O. 12.8.16

AdaByron

It's that time of the week again. Share your unpopular opinions here!

AdaByron

Brought to you by the Gilmore Girls revival: I dislike the name Rory. I find it difficult to pronounce. I feel the same about the word "rural." 

irishrose54

@AdaByron that literally made me lol. And I agree it's a difficult name. I actually like it better for a guy too (thinking of the show dr who, Amelia's beau was Rory, I believe).

my unpopular opinion - I dislike it when pregnant women wear shirts like "don't touch the bump" or "loading..." to work. That's fine at home or weekends or whatever. But at work!? Idk why but it truly annoys me. 

JAM85

@AdaByron totally agree also pertains to people who try to be "creative" and take normal names and eff them up by spelling them idiotically. I saw the name Alx today. No e, just because. Not the worst I've seen by far. These kids are going to get to school and no one will be able to pronounce or write their name possibly even themselves. I have a not popular name myself (it's French based) so I get a lot of that as well but to deliberately take a normal name and remove letters and add weird ones is beyond me. 

BabyBuckWay

@jam85 Right there with you!! I was readying another month's board and seeing people write their baby names, followed by (this is how you pronounce it).  If it's not easily pronounced by the spelling, it's going to be a hard name for your kid in the future.  But to each their own.  I've also been reading a lot of unusual names and thinking, "omg I love that." 

lvcpatt84

I'm normally a live and let live kind of person, but I am ragey and judging the hell out of a friend. We have been friends for 18 years. In college she became a born again Christian. She dove in hardcore. Then she met her husband, a southern Baptist who's even more hardcore than her. I don't like him. He shamed her in front of me for having an epidural during labor with her daughter. 

We hang out a lot, and have worked past our differing personal beliefs so we can just enjoy each others company. Our daughters are a few months apart.

Here's the judgy ragey part. She takes the bible very seriously. So she is submissive to her husband. So when he decided God's plan for them was to take their two year old daughter with them to the worn torn countries of the middle east to preach Christianity and The Word of Jesus to Muslims, she hopped right aboard that train.

I understand a higher calling. I understand the motivation and sense of "duty." But I cannot condone a single fraction of the idea of taking a two year old away from her family into an area of utter destruction, violence, and disrespect for human life so that you can feel better about yourself as a Christian. I just cant. 

splashmountain

JAM85 said:

@AdaByron totally agree also pertains to people who try to be "creative" and take normal names and eff them up by spelling them idiotically. I saw the name Alx today. No e, just because. Not the worst I've seen by far. These kids are going to get to school and no one will be able to pronounce or write their name possibly even themselves. I have a not popular name myself (it's French based) so I get a lot of that as well but to deliberately take a normal name and remove letters and add weird ones is beyond me. 


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I once saw a Bwrayden....wtf is with the w!? It drives me nuts when parents think it's unique if it's misspelled!

flipflopped

@irishrose54 I'm with you on the shirts. I also work in an office that is business casual and the general rule is no writing/huge logos on clothing....even on the more casual fridays.

irishrose54

@flipflopped we don't have a policy bc it is a small company but still - it just seems unprofessional to me. These are the same women who walk around all day rubbing their bellies like it's a genie in a bottle. I try not to judge too much on that, but I will be making a concerted effort to NOT do that. Like...keep it at HOME. lol. 

supermom83

I like the Kardashians..... lol, it's my shameful secret. I feel like this is a confession more than a UO. I watch the show and love all the ridiculous nonesense, it's my guilty pleasure. I come from a big family (I'm the youngest of 5, I have 3 sisters and a brother) and so I guess I enjoy watching the family interact with each other because it reminds me of my own family, though we are nothing like them! 

flipflopped

@irishrose54 haha....genie in a bottle!! I feel like there are two main types of pregnant women. One is women who are pregnant and go on with life and the other is women who make pregnancy thier life and everyone elses too. I get the excitement and joy and you never know anyone's whole story....well maybe some...but everyone has a life too.  I have general issues with dress in the office so I'll always bite on this topic!!

JAM85

@lvcpatt84 you may get some blowback from that but I completely see your point. It also helps I'm not religious so things like that literally make
 zero sense to me. I live in the south so this mentality surrounds me (both the subservience and extreme religion) and it's like watching another culture it's so beyond my understanding. 

glitterfish-2

1. Whyyyyy are almost all maternity clothes so fitted?? Tight clothes aren't comfortable to me at a normal size!

2. I don't care for xmas ornaments. I'm just all about the lights! 

flipflopped

@glitterfish I have done just lights on the tree a few years. It started out as I got behind, but I really just liked the plain tree.

OperaSingerMommy

I get truly annoyed with the majority of my friends who do direct sales this time of year.

I get how direct sales can be a great job for a fellow SAHM or a military spouse but I HATE getting messages from a random social media acquaintance I haven't talked to in 5 years trying to sell me something.  They pretend like they want to catch up but when I politely say I'm not interested in the product... silence.

For the record, if it's someone I keep in touch with and a good product, I do try to support them.

longhairdntcare

going along with names being spelled weird...names with apostrophes are just stupid. stop it. 

satsumasandlemons

@lvcpatt84  I would judge that too, but I'm a born and raised agnostic atheist so religion, and people who take them seriously (not to mention those that take religious literally) completely baffle me. 

satsumasandlemons

speaking of sitcom revivials, I refused to watch Fuller House and I think Ashley and MK made the right decision to sit that one out. I think everyone who kept saying they were too full of it to join are ridiculous... also, they were BABIES during Full House. 
Anyways, i guess my UO is I love Ashley and MK and everything they wear and make. 

glitterfish-2

satsumasandlemons said:

speaking of sitcom revivials, I refused to watch Fuller House and I think Ashley and MK made the right decision to sit that one out. I think everyone who kept saying they were too full of it to join are ridiculous... also, they were BABIES during Full House. 
Anyways, i guess my UO is I love Ashley and MK and everything they wear and make. 

I do think it's stupid that they didn't just recast her!

virginiaunicorn11

flipflopped said:

@irishrose54 haha....genie in a bottle!! I feel like there are two main types of pregnant women. One is women who are pregnant and go on with life and the other is women who make pregnancy thier life and everyone elses too. I get the excitement and joy and you never know anyone's whole story....well maybe some...but everyone has a life too.  I have general issues with dress in the office so I'll always bite on this topic!!

Yes!! I'm the first type. I don't like the "you think you're tired, well I'm growing a human and am more tired than you" approach. Everyone can be tired. There's enough tired to go around. 

Actually, this is probably just true of people generally and exacerbated by pregnancy.

abmommy15

It annoys me on baby name threads when people are super secretive about their name selections.  Like why do you care if a random internet stranger uses the same name as you?  I kind of get the people that just don't want their kids name on the internet but I'm talking about the "our DS is John, our choice for this baby is less classic" comments.  

longhairdntcare

abmommy15 said:

It annoys me on baby name threads when people are super secretive about their name selections.  Like why do you care if a random internet stranger uses the same name as you?  I kind of get the people that just don't want their kids name on the internet but I'm talking about the "our DS is John, our choice for this baby is less classic" comments.  

^ this. The point of the thread is to discuss names. If you're just going to comment "we have names but aren't telling anyone" just don't comment at all!

plumpous

Fuller House was pretty awful. I think most remakes are too cringy. The Olsen twins, I heard, refused because they are just not actors. That said, they could've popped in as a five minute cameo. 

Xath

lvcpatt84 said:

Here's the judgy ragey part. She takes the bible very seriously. So she is submissive to her husband. So when he decided God's plan for them was to take their two year old daughter with them to the worn torn countries of the middle east to preach Christianity and The Word of Jesus to Muslims, she hopped right aboard that train.

I understand a higher calling. I understand the motivation and sense of "duty." But I cannot condone a single fraction of the idea of taking a two year old away from her family into an area of utter destruction, violence, and disrespect for human life so that you can feel better about yourself as a Christian. I just cant. 

So...I'm not  a huge fan of proselytizing or religious zealotry in general, so I get where you're coming from with part of this, but I'm going to take offense at the bold.  Maybe that's my UO?

I hate when people negatively stereotype large swathes of the world.  I don't like it when entire nations or regions of people are painted with the brush of very specific a-hole extremist groups.  Unless your friends are taking their daughter into downtown Aleppo (which I very much doubt they could even get into right now), it's highly unlikely that they're taking her into an area of utter destruction and violence.  

There are certain regions/war-zones within the middle-east that are unstable and wrecked with violence.  Unfortunately it's not even limited to the middle-east; there are regions like that all over the world.  But even in those regions, the vast majority of the people are just trying to live their lives and provide for their families.  There is absolutely a respect for human life amongst the general populace.  There are entire nations and regions within the middle east that have stable governments, safety, great schools, and are fantastic places to raise a family. 

flipflopped

@virginiaunicorn11 Enough tired to go around love it!! The only person I one up with symptoms is DH and I also 'blame' him for all the symptoms. Mostly just joking....but I don't know how I will deal with full pregnancy in the summer heat.

LoveLee85

My UO is the holidays, and all the socializing that goes with it, can shove it!!!! I'm not in the mood. Bye 2016!!! 

plumpous

@Xath I'm with you. I lived all my life in a place where terrorism was weekly. A war every other summer. But I was never afraid or felt unsafe. My family is all there and you don't actually feel it where they are. It's mostly isolated events or specific regions and it always looks much worse from afar. 

kat0607

@abmommy15 HAHA!! Guilty as charged...I am being SO secretive about our names, and to be completely honest, it's more because I don't want the judgement that comes with sharing. I'm confident in our names and love them, but I just don't want others opinions to make me second guess! We aren't even planning to tell family for that reason...so I guess I can dish it, but I can't take it...

yellow1daisy

Xath said:

lvcpatt84 said:

Here's the judgy ragey part. She takes the bible very seriously. So she is submissive to her husband. So when he decided God's plan for them was to take their two year old daughter with them to the worn torn countries of the middle east to preach Christianity and The Word of Jesus to Muslims, she hopped right aboard that train.

I understand a higher calling. I understand the motivation and sense of "duty." But I cannot condone a single fraction of the idea of taking a two year old away from her family into an area of utter destruction, violence, and disrespect for human life so that you can feel better about yourself as a Christian. I just cant. 

So...I'm not  a huge fan of proselytizing or religious zealotry in general, so I get where you're coming from with part of this, but I'm going to take offense at the bold.  Maybe that's my UO?

I hate when people negatively stereotype large swathes of the world.  I don't like it when entire nations or regions of people are painted with the brush of very specific a-hole extremist groups.  Unless your friends are taking their daughter into downtown Aleppo (which I very much doubt they could even get into right now), it's highly unlikely that they're taking her into an area of utter destruction and violence.  

There are certain regions/war-zones within the middle-east that are unstable and wrecked with violence.  Unfortunately it's not even limited to the middle-east; there are regions like that all over the world.  But even in those regions, the vast majority of the people are just trying to live their lives and provide for their families.  There is absolutely a respect for human life amongst the general populace.  There are entire nations and regions within the middle east that have stable governments, safety, great schools, and are fantastic places to raise a family. 

+1

i grew up in north NJ and have met allll kinds of people including many middle easterners and they will be the first to tell you the places they originate from are not like how you see or hear about on TV. 

dancegurl1118

It makes me cringe when people say "preggo" or "preggers". It sounds ridiculous and stupid. 

cssme13

Let me preface this by saying I am half Native American and DH is full blooded Navajo. We live 20 minutes from the largest Native American reservation in the states. 

My UO is that I don't find Native American mascots offensive. DH and his entire family are die hard Redskins fans. His grandma is a very traditional almost 90 year old Navajo woman and has said on multiple occasions that she sees nothing wrong with the mascots. I feel as though the opinion of a few have been taken as the opinion of the majority which in my area it is not. 

virginiaunicorn11

cssme13 said:

Let me preface this by saying I am half Native American and DH is full blooded Navajo. We live 20 minutes from the largest Native American reservation in the states. 

My UO is that I don't find Native American mascots offensive. DH and his entire family are die hard Redskins fans. His grandma is a very traditional almost 90 year old Navajo woman and has said on multiple occasions that she sees nothing wrong with the mascots. I feel as though the opinion of a few have been taken as the opinion of the majority which in my area it is not. 
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This is really interesting. I think you're making a fair point, though it's been shown that many people these days are living in like-minded bubbles. Do you know if your general feeling about how the majority feels is accurate? I have no idea, so am just asking from a place of ignorance and interest. I'm Jewish, and previously lived in NY. I could speak to what my reform community there believes on any given topic, but have no idea if that would be reflective of the wider Jewish community. Given the nature of my vocal community, though, it always feels like majority opinion.

I also wonder if this is an issue where the majority should decide. Sometimes we need to accommodate minorities - is that true for the minority of minorities, too? I don't have the answer, I just think you've made me think about these questions in a new way. Thanks for your post!

cssme13

virginiaunicorn11 said:

cssme13 said:

Let me preface this by saying I am half Native American and DH is full blooded Navajo. We live 20 minutes from the largest Native American reservation in the states. 

My UO is that I don't find Native American mascots offensive. DH and his entire family are die hard Redskins fans. His grandma is a very traditional almost 90 year old Navajo woman and has said on multiple occasions that she sees nothing wrong with the mascots. I feel as though the opinion of a few have been taken as the opinion of the majority which in my area it is not. 
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This is really interesting. I think you're making a fair point, though it's been shown that many people these days are living in like-minded bubbles. Do you know if your general feeling about how the majority feels is accurate? I have no idea, so am just asking from a place of ignorance and interest. I'm Jewish, and previously lived in NY. I could speak to what my reform community there believes on any given topic, but have no idea if that would be reflective of the wider Jewish community. Given the nature of my vocal community, though, it always feels like majority opinion.

I also wonder if this is an issue where the majority should decide. Sometimes we need to accommodate minorities - is that true for the minority of minorities, too? I don't have the answer, I just think you've made me think about these questions in a new way. Thanks for your post!

Being close to one of the largest Native American populations I kind of feel like the people here are the majority since there are so many in one area. The general consensus around here is that there are bigger issues that need to be dealt with within the tribes themselves and the mascot issue is relatively small in comparison. But with some tribes who don't have the same issues it could be a major thing. I definitely think it's all dependent on location. Most of the area schools here have Native American Mascots including multiple Redskins and Chief mascots and no one finds them offensive at all or have ever discussed changing them. I can only speak to what I know, which is of the Navajo tribe but they are the most populous tribe in the states with the largest reservation. But I know of many Hopi, Apache, Ute and Pueblo Native Americans who have no issues with the mascots either. 

Edit it because I hit post too early 

crzyforbabies

@flipflopped I also strive try to be the pregnant person that goes about their life, and doesn't make a big deal out of being pregnant. My pregnancy has been pretty easy so far *knocks on wood*, so I just take it in stride.

My unpopular opinion is that I'm not planning on doing a Facebook announcement about being pregnant. I feel like people these days feel obligated to do too many cutesy photo shoots, and I refuse to succumb to peer pressure. I will probably do maternity photos and definitely will do newborn photos, but no chalkboard announcements for me!

SaphireSweetie88

OperaSingerMommy said:

I get truly annoyed with the majority of my friends who do direct sales this time of year.

I get how direct sales can be a great job for a fellow SAHM or a military spouse but I HATE getting messages from a random social media acquaintance I haven't talked to in 5 years trying to sell me something.  They pretend like they want to catch up but when I politely say I'm not interested in the product... silence.

For the record, if it's someone I keep in touch with and a good product, I do try to support them.

@OperaSingerMommy - To the bold: 100 times yes! Lately it's been people adding me to groups for sales, ugh

kat0607 said:

@abmommy15 HAHA!! Guilty as charged...I am being SO secretive about our names, and to be completely honest, it's more because I don't want the judgement that comes with sharing. I'm confident in our names and love them, but I just don't want others opinions to make me second guess! We aren't even planning to tell family for that reason...so I guess I can dish it, but I can't take it...

@kat0607 - We're being secretive too because we've seen in both our families how people can get when names are shared and I personally don't want to deal with the comments like "but I don't like that name. I like (insert name here) better". Too damn bad! Unless you helped make this baby or are going to contribute financially in a significant way - you don't get a say! lol

crzyforbabies said:

@flipflopped I also strive try to be the pregnant person that goes about their life, and doesn't make a big deal out of being pregnant. My pregnancy has been pretty easy so far *knocks on wood*, so I just take it in stride.

My unpopular opinion is that I'm not planning on doing a Facebook announcement about being pregnant. I feel like people these days feel obligated to do too many cutesy photo shoots, and I refuse to succumb to peer pressure. I will probably do maternity photos and definitely will do newborn photos, but no chalkboard announcements for me!

@crzyforbabies - I agree that people are pressured to do the "fancy cute photos" that are done professionally. DH & I didn't do that. We took our own photo and posted that - Hooray for free lol

cssme13

@SaphireSweetie88 we were the same way, no reason to spend money on big photo shoots just to essentially announce to the world that you had sex lol. We've done iPhone pictures both times and they worked. 

SaphireSweetie88

@cssme13 - Right! IMO the $100 + is better spent on things for the baby, bills, etc. Hell I analyze every thing on our car insurance like "do we really need this coverage or that" but unfortunately when we got our insurance I didn't get any bells or whistles with it but I do call every 6 months (before we renew) to see if there's any way to lower our rate hehe

MissKrisBliss

Mine is probably pretty unpopular, but I hate when people spout their religion at me.  It's one thing to say oh I'll pray for you, or what a blessing etc... but I am agnostic, I believe in universal love but I don't believe in "god" and people know that about me and continue to tell me, oh god this and god that and he has a plan for you and I pray you find god, god doesn't give you things you can't handle.... ugh. I've just heard enough.  It's like people don't know what to say so they say that.  I just hate the assumption that I believe in god.   Not everyone does and just cause ya do doesn't mean you should assume everyone else does.... theyre not very comforting sentiments when you're not in the club.  Also recently a psychic told me "I know you believe in god so I'm going to say this to you...." um....you're not a psychic. 

kat0607

@crzyforbabies we are planning to do a photo shoot to announce, but I don't think I'll do maternity photos. On the plus side, my sister is a photographer and is going to take our photos for free, so I figured why not! DH and I haven't had nice pictures taken since we got engaged, so I'm looking forward to having the updated photos at least!! 

WorkinWeezel

@JAM85 my brother's first roommate was named 7ven.  Not a joke.  And my sister once had a student named Placenta.  They chose it when she was born.  She also had another student named Shithead (th blended).

MrsSharier

My uo is I can not stand mothers who assume everyone wants to hold their baby. Like yes I love holding my daughter and I am excited about holding this baby when they come, but I honestly can not stand holding other's kids. I'm sick of hearing "you need the practice again" and the mother just plops their kid in my lap and runs to the other room. What sucks is it's my DH friends kid...
*edit for literally typing a question my student was asking me in an e-mail lol