Feeling discouraged

kkerner87

Hello, ladies! Im new to this board, originally from Sep15 board. DH and i have a beautiful and smart 15 month old baby girl. Recently we thought we might try to add to our family. I've been tracking my cycles for 2 months now and this time i really feel pregnant like i did in my past 2 pregnancies (first one ended in a MC). But still getting BFN 11dpo. I'm beginning to become a POAS addict. I almost want to run out to the store and buy more tests 10pm at night. Just feeling a bit silly thinking it would come easy since both my last 2 pregnancies were surprises. But now AF is due in 4 days and i feel so crampy and emotional i feel like im losing my mind with the added BFN's. I'm still holding out hope, but was hoping i would see that BFP especially since my BFF jsut told me they were expecting. So that's my vent. Im sorry i didnt introduce my on the newbie board. I just had to get it off my chest.

lulu1180

OP dear diary posts such as this do not go over well here.  There are ladies here that have been trying for 6 months and more. I know how discouraging it can be but that's why we have he daily threads to commiserate with each other during this process. I invite you to read the newbie guide pinned at the top of the board, read TCOYF, lurk, introduce yourself on the weekly thread and participate in the daily threads depending on where you are in your cycle

ChefRamsay

kkerner87 said:

Hello, ladies! Im new to this board, originally from Sep15 board. DH and i have a beautiful and smart 15 month old baby girl. Recently we thought we might try to add to our family. I've been tracking my cycles for 2 months now and this time i really feel pregnant like i did in my past 2 pregnancies (first one ended in a MC). But still getting BFN 11dpo. I'm beginning to become a POAS addict. I almost want to run out to the store and buy more tests 10pm at night. Just feeling a bit silly thinking it would come easy since both my last 2 pregnancies were surprises. But now AF is due in 4 days and i feel so crampy and emotional i feel like im losing my mind with the added BFN's. I'm still holding out hope, but was hoping i would see that BFP especially since my BFF jsut told me they were expecting. So that's my vent. Im sorry i didnt introduce my on the newbie board. I just had to get it off my chest.

QFP since @lulu1180 forgot as usual 

lulu1180

kkerner87 said:

Hello, ladies! Im new to this board, originally from Sep15 board. DH and i have a beautiful and smart 15 month old baby girl. Recently we thought we might try to add to our family. I've been tracking my cycles for 2 months now and this time i really feel pregnant like i did in my past 2 pregnancies (first one ended in a MC). But still getting BFN 11dpo. I'm beginning to become a POAS addict. I almost want to run out to the store and buy more tests 10pm at night. Just feeling a bit silly thinking it would come easy since both my last 2 pregnancies were surprises. But now AF is due in 4 days and i feel so crampy and emotional i feel like im losing my mind with the added BFN's. I'm still holding out hope, but was hoping i would see that BFP especially since my BFF jsut told me they were expecting. So that's my vent. Im sorry i didnt introduce my on the newbie board. I just had to get it off my chest.

QFP
ETA hahaha @ChefRamsay you know me so well!! I just happened to remember after that he fact

doula-mama

@kkerner87 Like what the others said, this definitely isn't the way to get support or feedback. BUT... Lurk/join in on the TWW, and you'll find an amazing community who will support you through the ups and downs and all the BS craziness.

kiki75

@kkerner87 Look. On one hand, yes, I feel you. But on the other, you openly admit that you know you're breaking norms here...because after two surprise pregnancies you've been tracking for two whole months and aren't pregnant yet. Can you see how it might be slightly offensive/annoying/hard for people here to whip up some sympathy for you? Just as we don't know you, you don't know any of us or our struggles. The protocol exists for a reason. I recommend you follow it. No one here is going to hold a grudge or anything. Just read the newbie guide and start posting in the regular threads. And for the love of all that is holy, if you do get pregnant this cycle, just quietly move on to your BMB.

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kkerner87

Thanks for the feedback. Just was upset last night. Sorry if i offended anyone! I had a feeling i should keep it to myself, but didn"t want to share with any lf or friends or family. I've been a debbie downer lately and just really emotional for some reason. Everyone enjoy their week. 

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You could have 100% posted the same thing in the intro thread, FYI.

LadyMillil

It sucks when you want to be pregnant but aren't. You were incredibly lucky to get pregnant easily before. It is completely normal for it to take a healthy couple up to a year to conceive. The women here are a great source of support.

RVAmom315

@kkerner87 I don't really need to add any more since the ladies already did, but if you intro, participate, and offer support, you will know that whenever you are feeling down, need an ear, or have a question, this is hands down the best place to get it if you're not able to IRL.  Good luck to you

alysapuggles

LadyMillil said:

It sucks when you want to be pregnant but aren't. You were incredibly lucky to get pregnant easily before. It is completely normal for it to take a healthy couple up to a year to conceive. The women here are a great source of support.

This is so true. As someone who "got pregnant easily" the first time around (2 cycles) and is now on cycle 6 the second time around, I'm so, so thankful to have this community because the whole process can definitely mess with your mind. And just because it was easy before doesn't mean it will be next time, but if you are involved in the community here, you will learn so much and they will help you make your way through it.  Good luck to you.