Overdue Club

penelope4612

Who's with me?

When were you due?
Any signs/symptoms of labor?
Any plans to get baby out?

penelope4612

I was due 12/1.  At my last appointment I was 2cm dilated and 60% effaced.  I have been losing my mucous plug for days and have lots of BH but no real contractions.  Taking long walks seems to cause a lot of pelvic pressure so I'm working on adding that to my daily routine over the weekend.  My doctor has talked about inducing me on 12/8 if no baby by then.  I have another appt on Monday to check on things.  Fortunately, lots of movement from baby boy so it seems like he's doing well but just not ready to come out.

yellingbanana

I know I'm not overdue, but with my 1st DD I was, so I totally know the feeling and emotions. I can relate. Especially the determination! I went on long walks, was doing crazy squats, DTD, you name it! 
I eventually got induced at 41.5 weeks, they were worried she might be too big and didn't want to wait till after 42 weeks. 
Good luck on getting things going!! Sending labor and dilation thoughts thoughts your way  

gowenc

I was due yesterday. As of Wednesday I'm not dilated and only 30% effaced. They wanted to talk induction because of advanced maternal age but I'm not ready for that yet! I've been walking, doing 50 squats a day, sitting on the birth ball - anything to get him lower and more engaged. I've also been drinking raspberry leaf tea, but I'm not sure that's doing much.

SmashJam

I could wait until Sunday since I am not technically overdue yet...but I went 12 days over with my son and as of now fully anticipate going pretty close to that with DD. SO...

Due 12/3-tomorrow!
I have started and ended each day with pretty intense cramping, some "cleaning out of the bowels," if you will, but nothing timeable or sticking around. I am doing squats, sitting on the birthing ball, had some sex, and eating so much pineapple that my mouth is all burny and hurty. I finally got smart and threw it in a smoothie yesterday, lol. But, she will come when she's ready...sigh. 

SaraRose83

I'm due Monday, 12/5. At my appt this week I was only 1cm dilated and 50% effaced...same dilation as week prior and only 40%more effaced, so I'm going to bet she's not coming by Monday. I guess anything could happen but I had cramping last week that was not timeable and hasn't returned and I lost my mucus plug a week ago. 

I've been having sex, walking around stores because it's too icy to walk outside safely, and bouncing on my ball. I'm going to add in pineapple, the raspberry leaf tea, and probably acupressure starting on my due date. I really don't want to be medically induced. I hear pitocin is not fun and I'll prob have no chance of going epidural free with it. OB mentioned membrane stripping in my last appointment. 

aevan011

Well....today is my due date, and it's not looking like we're having a baby today. I had a membrane sweep on Tuesday and lost mucus plug yesterday. Loose bowels, and some crampy feelings & a few contractions. Nothing regular/timable. LOTS of BH, I just wish they'd turn into something real. 

I've been pumping and doing stuff on my birthing ball, walking, and using primrose oil. Really don't want to be induced but that's where I'm headed if I don't go into labor before my appointment on Tuesday. 

gowenc

@aevan011 My next appointment is Monday. If I'm not in labor yet they're going to schedule me for induction. My hope is that they'll be booked up for next week and won't be able to get me in until the following week though, and that will hopefully give LO enough time to come out on his own. Fingers crossed for you too!

R0824H

mrsg2390

Well the night is not over but my due date was today. At my appt yesterday I was not dilated but 80% effaced. Being so over pregnancy is an understatement. I'm trying everything to speed up the process naturally... Walking, bouncing on birthing ball, pineapple, dates, spicy foods, sex, etc. I'm almost more annoyed at the fact that my family is alll up on my grill like them asking if anything is happening will speed up the process...

SaraRose83

@R0824H @mrsg2390 Yes, the texts and my family are driving me nuts! The when are you going to have that baby comments, as if I'm being cheeky not going into labor are really pissing me off. I am sad about my family who came out to visit to help with the baby. I'm worried she's going not going to get here before they have to go and they're worried, too. But it's not like it's my fault. And tons of texts ever couple of days asking if I've had the baby yet...obviously I'll text when I have the baby. Ugh. It's like people are disappointed in me not delivering the big show. 

penelope4612

Agree with you guys on the "baby isn't here yet??" comments.  It's not like it's uncommon for women to go past their due date.  I'm not a speshul snowflake.  And it's not like the baby actually came and we just decided to not tell anyone, soooo why do you think you need to text me?  

@R0824H - I'm starting my maternity leave next Wed and will be induced Thurs... If my doctor wasn't going to induce me I'm be on the struggle bus trying to continue to work.  I only get 12 weeks maternity leave though, so I want every second.

mjgf

Omgosh I feel you all! Today is my official due date. Nothing happening yet that I can be sure of. My last appt was on Monday and I had zero dilation. I'll go back this Monday if no baby before then. The questions from everyone are driving me nuts too! I'm still working and also planning to as long as I can so every day of my leave is spent with baby rather than waiting on him! But does that really mean every person in the office has to say "no baby yet?" when I walk in. It's soo old at this point. Hush. Also kinda want to run over my phone most days so no one can ask anymore questions. Trying not to act on that impulse! 

kaitmb88

My due date was yesterday 12/2...and it has come and gone. Now officially in the overdue club and it is not fun. Went for lots of walks and would get some cramping but would subside after getting back home. No contractions that are timeable. So frustrating! At my appointment last Tuesday doctor said I was 3cm dilated. I go back on Monday if baby hasn't arrived yet.

I know she is nice and comfortable in there but if want to cuddle and kiss her little face soo bad! Fingers crossed that she makes her arrival this weekend.  

Also hugs to all the other overdue mama's as we patiently wait for our sweet babe's to arrive! 

yellingbanana

Time for an email to update everyone! Send this to family and friends:

https://www.haveyouhadthatbabyyet.com/

kaitmb88

Lmao @yellingbanana that is perfect! 

R0824H

@penelope4612 that was smart that you picked a day after your due date to keep working. I do understand the struggle of not wanting to work I totally felt like that and even turned down two shifts they offered because I was SURE I wouldn't be working them anyway...now I wish I had..I'd be making more money that way at least lol. 12 weeks sucks

R0824H

Tb ate my post..I don't know how y'all do it with 12 weeks or less!

maamawaabangi

My 1st was 13 days "overdue"... narrowly avoided an induction. 
2nd amazingly can on his DD (still have no idea how I managed that).
3rd was 9 days overdue. 
4th was 4 days overdue...

I would love (like reallllly be happy) not to go over but it's never done me wrong. 
I feel for you all! Hang in there... you all are rocking this thing.

Oh and the down side to repeatedly going over... or really, never early... no one thinks it's possible I might go early. My parents who live 8 hours away are suppose to come and help us with our kids just told me that they won't come until a week before my DD... which is making me nervous... what if??? 

slartybartfast

I dunno if this helps or frustrates but...
https://expectingscience.com/2014/09/29/your-due-date-is-wrong-so-when-is-labor-really-most-likely/

aevan011

@slartybartfast - personally, the more info, the better. Whether it's frustrating or not. Thanks for the article. 
I would probably fight my OB more on induction if I weren't more afraid of the baby's size. At this point 41 weeks is an okay time to induce (for me). 

@yellingbanana I posted that link on my FB today. 

Y'all I'm so sick of the questions that I left my phone in another room for several hours today. I told DH that it just feels like there's so much outside pressure, it's stressing me out just hearing from people that they can't wait - like I am purposely not delivering. 
Um...you think YOU'RE excited? Sit ALL the way down with that, and leave me alone. 

R0824H

SmashJam

Officially overdue now...1 day! I am just going to embrace the whole thing. I have a doctor's appointment tomorrow, a car appointment Tuesday to get snow tires put on, and have now just adopted a whole, "go with the flow" or "surrender" mantra. It will happen when it happens, right? If only I had just ignored everyone's warnings that I "could go early" and made a hair appointment...I doubt I could get in last minute now, lol.

SaraRose83

@smashjam I feel better the more appointments and friend time I make.  I got my hair done and a pedicure and I'm starting to feel like I'm getting away with having fun when I shouldn't be...like I'm playing hooky from work or something. And it makes the days and waiting go by faster. I'm just making lunch and dinner dates and figuring I would love to have to cancel for labor!

maamawaabangi

@R0824H
It was a bummer at the time to go overdue (it's totally maddening and makes one feel crazy) but in hindsight I'm glad I went with it and that I had care providers willing to work with me on it or even encouraging it...  inductions seem to be far more hard on ones body and have added risks. I've been "fortunate" to have relatively quick and effective labors with nearly all of mine due, perhaps in part, to just allowing my body to do what it's ready/ripe to do. 

penelope4612

This secretary from work keeps emailing me (at least once every other day) to check to see if "there's any news".  Today I said "nothing yet" and she responded "OMG nothing yet".  I'm not even a week overdue, lady.  She's the same one that keeps telling me I'm going to have a 10lb baby because "I look big".  GTFO.

trut073014

Due date was 12/2 and as of my appointment last tuesday i was still dialated less than 1cm and 25% thinned.  ive been walking a lot and it hasnt helped but the dr is talking about induction thursday

SaraRose83

Yargh the induction happy doctors are making me crazy. Today they wanted to schedule mine for next week and today is my due date. I'm like are you serious, you really think a due date based on my last period is that accurate? It's just ridiculous. Up until now they treated me like I had months to go, then bam, last week at 39 weeks they started talking induction. They pushed me to do a membrane sweep today - again, I'm not even technically a day overdue yet! So I did it, even though it's only 50% effective according to the doctor today. 

It didn't hurt that bad, so I'm grateful for that, but I'm already pissed about how pushy this practice is with interventions. I just hope my daughter comes this week so they leave us alone to do our natural thing. Or as natural as we can anyway. 

1.5cm and 50% effaced so that's something. And cramping after membrane sweep. Hoping that means something!

slartybartfast

@SaraRose83 that sucks. It sucks to be surrounded by people like that. I'm sorry. I hope they back off. I posted this somewhere else but here it is again: https://expectingscience.com/2014/09/29/your-due-date-is-wrong-so-when-is-labor-really-most-likely/
I don't understand how a care provider could justify fear mongering that early. That's just absurd to me. And it's not at all supported by numbers at this point.

slartybartfast

oh ahaha sorry I realized it was this thread that I posted it in. My zombie baby is eating my braaaaaaaaiiiinnnssssssss

acreight13

Due dates are just a number - I was induced at 42+3 last time and he came at 42+4. I totally get how frustrating it feels to be overdue, especially when doctors are pushing for induction. Stay strong if you are against an induction, because trust me if your body is not yet ready induction is incredibly hard. Also, remember that you might not be "overdue" yet even though your doctor says you are. 

SaraRose83

@slartybartfast @acreight13
Thanks, guys. Great article! It's just silly to me that they're pushing induction when they know I could have ovulated later and their due date could be off. Plus, just like our eggs don't suddenly turn to mush at age 35, week 40 doesn't mean diddly. It's all a process and we're not machines. I hate being treated like one. I just don't feel the baby is ready to come out yet. I've been having sex and bouncing on the ball - she's just content in there for now. And if they give me pitocin I know my chances of a more natural birth go down. I know for some people pitocin doesn't wreak havoc but just in case it does for me, I want to put it off. 

R0824H

so I went to L&D Monday assuming my water had started leaking (as I sat on my birthing ball I had a slight gush and I knew it wasn't pee) so I changed my pad and walked around the house for a bit, I never experienced another gush but felt the odd trickles and the pad was pretty damp but not soaked. I figured best to get checked than not. After 2.5 hours at L&D they told me it was a small leak but not concerning since I had a 10am appointment the next day with my OB but then the nurse also said it could probably be increased discharged (ummm you did the swab test... wouldn't you know??)

At my appointment yesterday my OB said it wasn't my water and my fluid levels were great, and apparently my cervix went from 1 cm and very soft to 1cm firm and closed?? umm wtf since when does this shit go backwards? Anyway...I have an induction date scheduled and to think I have to get to that point is bothering me. I've been so excited about the whole going into labor process that the fact that my body won't do it on it's own feels like I'm failing. H doesn't get it. That and the fact that my cousin who has harassed me every single day has now started messaging DH about the baby as well, and a friend that I've told TWO days in a row "if she is here i'll put it on facebook" still asked me "baby yet?" I'm losing my shit, my phone went into a drawer for some time yesterday.

I also enjoy how people comment "oh she's waiting for my birthday" or "oh shes waiting for me to get back from Mexico"....my baby does not give two effing shits about your birthday or when you get back from your damn vacation, so back the eff off *end rant*

SmashJam

@R0824H I here ya! I get inspiring messages from my DH's grandma every day, my mother in law pops me up just to double check that we aren't going into labor today because she's our coverage for DS and she just likes to let us know if she'll be in service. I went 12 days over with my last you'd think they'd just expect it by now..but I guess two isn't a pattern, haha.

R0824H

ugh that would for sure drive me nuts @SmashJam its like people lose all common sense when dealing with pregnant women!

yellingbanana

I just have to say- way to resist the inductions ladies. I'm glad you guys have done your research and are trying to do things naturally. Seriously. Inductions are no joke.   

penelope4612

Well still no sign of baby at 40w 6d.  I actually thought maybe I had my bloody show this AM and was hopeful that today would be the day... still plenty of time I guess but who knows.  Having stronger contractions but nothing super strong or consistent.

I actually sort of panicked about being induced tomorrow and called my doctor to see if I could put it off for a few more days to see if he'd come on his own, so I am going in for an appointment to check on the baby tomorrow instead and then we'll decide when to re-schedule for at that appointment.  She did say no later than Monday.

Now I'm stuck with @R0824H on maternity leave (which started today in anticipation of induction tomorrow) and no baby.

R0824H

contractions are a good sign though at least! welcome to the sitting around waiting room @penelope4612 *pats seat*

SmashJam

I just made a hair appt for next Thursday. I'll be 41 weeks 5 days, the point at which I was induced with DS. I'm just daring her to come at this point, lol

littlebirdie28

SmashJam said:

I just made a hair appt for next Thursday. I'll be 41 weeks 5 days, the point at which I was induced with DS. I'm just daring her to come at this point, lol

It's like going to the bathroom in a restaurant when you are waiting for your food. Hopefully getting a haircut will do the trick

AbriannaO

I'm not over due yet, but I remember the horror stories my mom told about me (3 weeks late). @SmashJam, my mom got her hair done the day before she had me. She decided to be funny and call her hair stylist after I was born saying that she really messed up her hair and needed it fixed, he told her to head right in, but then she said she couldn't because she had a baby.