I feel like none of our mothers breastfed. We were all raised on Formula, rice cereal, and water as a cure all.
@MamaBish ouch! That was super insensitive. I hope everything worked out for you. Sending DS to daycare was rough when I had 14 weeks home with him. I can't imagine your situation.
**edited cause sleep deprivation and autocorrect don't work well together.
Thanks ladies! Luckily my work was willing to help and have allowed me to bring her with me to the office. I get to bring her until February and then my mom will come to our house and watch her. It's a HUGE weight lifted knowing we don't have to send her anywhere.
My mom just texted me a photo of a baby brezza and said she might get it for me for Christmas because it will be handy "for when you switch to formula". Um...what? We've been EBF since he was born except for supplementing while my milk came in, and I have no intention of switching. Where did that come from???
@holly142 ha! knowing my mom she would want to come over and set it up and make the first bottle. I'll admit it looks really convenient if you're formula feeding. We just wouldn't need it.
I took Layla over to her house last week so say hi because we felt bad that we haven't been around for her to see her much. Also, she doesn't really leave the house unless it involves gambling. Layla started fussing a bit when she was holding her. Let me say our baby isn't "great" about going to other people. Everyone gets about 10 minutes before she wants to come back to my husband or I. So shocker, she was fussy! Of course know it all MIL wanted to diagnose the situation.
MIL: When did you last feed her: Me: About 45 minutes ago. Right before we left to come here! MIL: She's probably thirsty! They get thirsty you know! Me: (Deep down, wanting to roll my eyes) Um, I don't think that's the case.
Mom: who's keeping L? Me: her uncle Mom: ...people asked me if that's wise. Me: why wouldn't it be? Mom: ok Me: well what do those people suggest instead? Mom: well you know, men keeping little girls... Me: well what do those people suggest INSTEAD?? Mom: just regular daycare. Me: and do they know it costs $400 A WEEK? Mom: A WEEK?! Me: yes mom, a week. so yea.
So my mom came for a "surprise" visit. She lives 6 hours away, called me Wednesday night to tell me she was coming to visit on Thursday. Keep in mind she knew that my husband, me and C are all sick and I had class on Saturday.
Mom: You really should clean your house, no wonder you are all sick. Me: I think its because of daycare and this crazy weather. Mom: Well you really should clean. Me: Well if bothers you, why don't you clean it. Mom: I am only here to see my granddaughter
Ugh. It just annoys me that she invites herself over in the middle of the week when its only convenient for her.
Sometimes I wish I had annoying mother in law problems. My husbands parents just really don't care. I don't understand why, but it breaks my heart a little that they just don't love her. Most recent conversation:
MIL: so, what is going on lately? DH: Just enjoying time with my daughter! MIL: oh yeah. Elle, right? DH: No. Her name is Elise. MIL: How do you spell that? With an A?
When I was eight months pregnant they called and said, "So, was he born in April then?" Nope. SHE is due in July. Why would we not call you when your granddaughter was born?
Thanks everyone. Every now and then I feel like it shouldn't bother me, but I feel so hurt for her. She is their first grandchild. He is an only child.
The other great grand child was having over night visits with them alone at a few months, (SIL was 17/18 and struggling) they have already been told no one would be keeping our child over night as an infant. So we are *denying* him the "great grandparent experience" he thinks he deserves.
*1 day pp, while visiting us in the hospital he proceeds to try to carry on a conversation with anyone he can about how I won't be able to breastfeed long after leaving the hospital. *Less than 24hrs pp, told me I still looked pregnant. No shit smh *Stop by to see them after his 1 month well check. Tell them how much he has gained etc. That Dr is happy with his progression. He then asks how breastfeeding is going and if I am going to continue. GMIL tells him to shut up, baby is healthy and gaining weight so obviously it's fine and we are continuing. *Constantly makes remarks about my son "always being on the tit" and that I am over feeding him. *(We live in a small farm town, surrounded by other small farm towns. So local people run the festivals. He was running a kids ride) Told me I wasn't "allowed" to feed him while walking around the festival. When I laughed in his face, he told me I needed to go feed him in the car. *Asked if I was pregnant again, because I looked chunky (3 months pp). When told no, made some comment about being a mom and priorities being different. Said yup, my son is my priority, not focusing on baby fat! Then asked how long I intend to breastfeed... I could go on for days *sigh* Old man makes me crazy!
@joberkiser tell him to jump into the correct century and rather than degrade and ask you all the time about breastfeeding and how you look, to commend you of how you made a baby and most of all, be proud he has a healthy, happy grand child! Christ sake -What an old tool! Sorry, but that's mean spirited and hopefully DH will take a stand and defend you!
@shaylalr I just want to let you know that you're not alone. We also don't have a relationship with DH's parents and it sucks. They won't meet her until we make the 2000 mile trip, and they barely try. His mom got LO's name wrong too, and actually argued with DH about it. Like we don't know how to spell our daughter's name.
July BMB Siggy Challenge: Weird Hot Dog Situations
So one of DH's bigger concerns is that I'm turning our "little man" into a "snowflake".
Im making dinner and LO is in his mamaroo.
DS: whimper, whine, fuss DH: Aren't you going to pick him up? Me: Honey, He's allowed to fuss. I'm making dinner and he's not crying. DH: but he doesn't want to in there...I got you, buddy. I'll pick you up. Me: whatever you say, Snowflake.
Anyone else's DH talk a big game, but turn to mush for the LO?
Those conversations are regular in our house! I'm not accused of "babying" her but DH sells himself as being on board with training, etc. real life...not so much! He's the first to cave or stop what he's doing. I guess because I'm with her practically 24/7 I understand sometimes you have to hear some fuss and whine to get anything done!
I've started working 4 hours a day a couple days a week back at my job. My mom comes to my house to watch Layla those mornings. I try and make it a point to have her fed and dressed.
My mom today: Does she need her diaper changed? Me: Why would you ask that? I just told you she woke up 30 minutes ago and ate. Mom: well I'm just asking! Me: Do you think I would put her in an outfit and not change a diaper she slept in? Mom: Maybe she slept in that too. I don't know!
@FTM53 always. BF is the biggest pile of mush for 'boy' (that's what he calls him.. it's cute in person because he yells out "BOY!!" in an all excited tone) I would have never thought a 15 lb baby would have a 230 lb man (who said he never wanted kids) wrapped around his finger.
My MIL complained that we weren't letting her see LO this week. we decided at the start of our marriage thanksgiving is just us and we take turns between families for christmas.
Me: Hey J, since you're off all week would you want to come and watch LO one of these mornings so I can run out and do some errands. MIL: Oh no, I'm really busy this week. Me: okay, did DH ask you if would watch her during his holiday work party. MIL: Oh no, he didn't but i can't.
Um, pretty sure I never even mentioned the date of the party, but yes we're preventing you from seeing her.
Re: My Mother/MIL said...
@MamaBish ouch! That was super insensitive. I hope everything worked out for you. Sending DS to daycare was rough when I had 14 weeks home with him. I can't imagine your situation.
**edited cause sleep deprivation and autocorrect don't work well together.
I took Layla over to her house last week so say hi because we felt bad that we haven't been around for her to see her much. Also, she doesn't really leave the house unless it involves gambling. Layla started fussing a bit when she was holding her. Let me say our baby isn't "great" about going to other people. Everyone gets about 10 minutes before she wants to come back to my husband or I. So shocker, she was fussy! Of course know it all MIL wanted to diagnose the situation.
MIL: When did you last feed her:
Me: About 45 minutes ago. Right before we left to come here!
MIL: She's probably thirsty! They get thirsty you know!
Me: (Deep down, wanting to roll my eyes) Um, I don't think that's the case.
"Bet you can't wait to stay at your grandmas house. there's no rules at grandmas!"
I responded quickly:
"If there are no rules at grandmas then he won't be spending much time there"
People wonder why I am anxious about leaving him with anyone.
Me: Hey, sweetheart. I'm at dinner with Melanie.
DH: Awesome. If you're out, Where's AJ?
Me: Uh...with me?! He IS capable of being out of the house.
LOL. This is our first. We worry over silly things sometimes.
Me: her uncle
Mom: ...people asked me if that's wise.
Me: why wouldn't it be?
Mom: ok
Me: well what do those people suggest instead?
Mom: well you know, men keeping little girls...
Me: well what do those people suggest INSTEAD??
Mom: just regular daycare.
Me: and do they know it costs $400 A WEEK?
Mom: A WEEK?!
Me: yes mom, a week. so yea.
Mom: You really should clean your house, no wonder you are all sick.
Me: I think its because of daycare and this crazy weather.
Mom: Well you really should clean.
Me: Well if bothers you, why don't you clean it.
Mom: I am only here to see my granddaughter
Ugh. It just annoys me that she invites herself over in the middle of the week when its only convenient for her.
MIL: so, what is going on lately?
DH: Just enjoying time with my daughter!
MIL: oh yeah. Elle, right?
DH: No. Her name is Elise.
MIL: How do you spell that? With an A?
When I was eight months pregnant they called and said, "So, was he born in April then?" Nope. SHE is due in July. Why would we not call you when your granddaughter was born?
They still have not met her. She is 4 months old.
god bless you and your little family! That's all you need anyway!
The other great grand child was having over night visits with them alone at a few months, (SIL was 17/18 and struggling) they have already been told no one would be keeping our child over night as an infant. So we are *denying* him the "great grandparent experience" he thinks he deserves.
*1 day pp, while visiting us in the hospital he proceeds to try to carry on a conversation with anyone he can about how I won't be able to breastfeed long after leaving the hospital.
*Less than 24hrs pp, told me I still looked pregnant. No shit smh
*Stop by to see them after his 1 month well check. Tell them how much he has gained etc. That Dr is happy with his progression. He then asks how breastfeeding is going and if I am going to continue. GMIL tells him to shut up, baby is healthy and gaining weight so obviously it's fine and we are continuing.
*Constantly makes remarks about my son "always being on the tit" and that I am over feeding him.
*(We live in a small farm town, surrounded by other small farm towns. So local people run the festivals. He was running a kids ride) Told me I wasn't "allowed" to feed him while walking around the festival. When I laughed in his face, he told me I needed to go feed him in the car.
*Asked if I was pregnant again, because I looked chunky (3 months pp). When told no, made some comment about being a mom and priorities being different. Said yup, my son is my priority, not focusing on baby fat! Then asked how long I intend to breastfeed...
I could go on for days *sigh* Old man makes me crazy!
boyfriend's cousin- #trumptrain
Me: ..........
edited: added
Because she doesn't call, text, or visit. We always have to be the ones to reach out.
I empathize for you other mommas going thru the same thing. It is so frustrating.
Edited because the post didn't shown up.The irony.
Im making dinner and LO is in his mamaroo.
DS: whimper, whine, fuss
DH: Aren't you going to pick him up?
Me: Honey, He's allowed to fuss. I'm making dinner and he's not crying.
DH: but he doesn't want to in there...I got you, buddy. I'll pick you up.
Me: whatever you say, Snowflake.
Anyone else's DH talk a big game, but turn to mush for the LO?
I've started working 4 hours a day a couple days a week back at my job. My mom comes to my house to watch Layla those mornings. I try and make it a point to have her fed and dressed.
My mom today: Does she need her diaper changed?
Me: Why would you ask that? I just told you she woke up 30 minutes ago and ate.
Mom: well I'm just asking!
Me: Do you think I would put her in an outfit and not change a diaper she slept in?
Mom: Maybe she slept in that too. I don't know!
I rolled my eyes and left.
Me: Hey J, since you're off all week would you want to come and watch LO one of these mornings so I can run out and do some errands.
MIL: Oh no, I'm really busy this week.
Me: okay, did DH ask you if would watch her during his holiday work party.
MIL: Oh no, he didn't but i can't.
Um, pretty sure I never even mentioned the date of the party, but yes we're preventing you from seeing her.