No patience for DD

claudia3059 · October 2016

I don't know if it's me or if DD (15 months) has been particularly irritable lately but I have found I have little no patience for her whining and fussing. She's seems to whine aaaalllll the time and it seems like she is never happy. Then she acts out and tonight she grabbed a glass of water off the table and pulled it away from me when I tried to help her, spilling it everywhere. I got so mad at her especially when she started crying. And I find I get irrationally mad at her to the point I have to leave the room because I'm so angry.

It makes me very nervous about having another baby and I don't remember ever feeling like this before I was pregnant...I"m hoping it's just the hormones but I'm feeling really frustrated.

SparkySunDevil · October 2016

This is how I felt about my daughter after DD2 was born. She made me so angry one day, over nothing I can even remember, and I almost smacked her across the face. I was terrified that I was feeling that way. I immediately called my doctor, sobbing. I was started on anti-depressants the same day. Eventually, I weaned off of them.

Back in August, I started getting really irritable towards my girls again. Then I started suffering with crippling anxiety. So bad that I couldn't function. I started on anti-anxiety meds and have been SO much better.

Now, I'm not diagnosing you or trying to put thoughts in your head. I can just absolutely sympathize with what you're feeling. I'm a much better mother on medication

champhe · October 2016

My patience and temper have been super short lately overall with my son and my husband. Some days recently have been much better so I'm hoping maybe those hormones are subsiding, or maybe I'm coping better. I hear you though, I hate losing my cool with my son and yelling. He wouldn't go down for a nap on Saturday and I totally lost my crap.

mamatowildones · October 2016

Yup I've been short tempered too. With both my 4 year old and 18mo old. I have little tolerance for the baby's whining but I did notice a difference when I started drinking coffee again. Haha. I'm hoping when first tri is over that the clouds part and I feel better for everyone's sake!

OmegaRose3 · October 2016

I have a 17 month old DD and I know how you feel...a lot of it I think is a combination of my hormones and her teething, not to mention that I have been trying to curb some bad behavior caused by in-laws...All that to say that I feel for you and sometimes the best thing you can do is take a deep breath, walk away and take it one day at a time.

mrsrep123 · October 2016

@claudia3059 my son just turned 15 months and we are just finishing up a leap... it was his worst one yet. The crying and fussing and clinginess combined with these new tantrums were overwhelming for a parent, let alone a pregnant one. I found myself with a pretty short fuse this last week and was reminded by my DH this morning to relax and not yell. Of course I started crying... but stopped myself quickly knowing it's s combo of the above and my hormonal self.

Hang in there and hopefully things improve.

mcvgal · October 2016

Thank you for posting this. I feel a little more normal today or at least in good company. DS1 had really been acting up and I have been very impatient. I had to walk out of the room last night. This morning, I said to myself it's a new day, so we will start all over and I will try to be more patient.

SKZW · October 2016

It isn't easy! Short fuses and fussy kids just equal a huge mess sometimes. (You are not alone!!) And when things are falling apart around you, Remember that there's always one thing you have control of: your breath. Slow it down, let it deepen, blow out all the negativity, inhale peace and calm and let it fill your lungs. Peace in, anger out. You can always control your breath. It's easier said than done (I am a work in progress) but it's a good place to start.

chickyclg · October 2016

I sit here, my kids are 21 months old and I swear the terrible 2s are coming early.

WombThereItIs · October 2016

Solidarity! My (almost) 2 year old is sucking the life out of me. I think he is getting his final molars but he's so moody and I'm moody and all he wants is mommy. It's exhausting.

I laid down and cried after bedtime the other night because I felt like a shitty mom for getting frustrated with him when he was obviously overtired from waking up early. If I can't hack it with one kid why am I doing this again?

But then I had some ice cream and relaxed and remembered toddler are super hard and it's ok. I had difficult days with him before I got pregnant again and we always figure it out.

MoshiMoshi7 · October 2016

It's so nice to hear that I'm not alone in this. DS is about to turn three and he is so much more challenging than he ever was at two. I know it's natural development and he's just testing his boundaries, but it's so hard to be patient with him when I have no energy/feel nauseous. And then I feel like a terrible mother for having no patience and an even more terrible mother for having another child when I can't even handle one some days. I'm hoping it gets better as I get out of first tri.

RainyDays86 · October 2016

I definitely lost my cool with DS and yelled at him this weekend. Like so many other PPs have said, he's definitely going through a phase where he's more clingy and needy and it is so hard to handle when I'm already tired and nauseous. I know it's normal, but it's nice to hear I'm not alone.

NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot · October 2016

My threenager is so frustrating lately. DH spoils her and I've become the enforcer. I'm almost looking forward to having a second so DD and DH are forced to evaluate their behavior.

NewbySweet · October 2016

My 5 month old daughters whiny days are really frustrating for me, I haven't got as much patience. I feel so guilty but I can't help it. Hoping this will pass when I'm not so tired all the time.

LeilaD123 · October 2016

I know how you feel. My DS turned 16 mos tdy and the past few weeks have been horrible. I think it's a combo of a phase he's going thru and my short temper. I've found removing myself from the situation to cool down a bit helps- obv if possible.

Kipperoo · October 2016

So nice to hear that I'm not alone here! My patience is so thin these days. I find myself endlessly frustrated with my toddler (which is justified because he's completely irrational and emotionally unstable) and my husband (which is less justified because he's not really acting any different than he normally does. Which is probably what's bothering me, haha)...

Jbananas4 · October 2016

Ugh, the acting up toddler is the WORST! We recently went through a rough patch with my 21 month old and I was seriously freaking out about having a 2nd. I was crying telling my husband we made a terrible mistake lol. Plus, I’ve been slacking on the housework because of my terrible morning sickness and exhaustion so having a temper tantrum toddler and a disaster zone house was a killer. I had to scream into pillows during his bad tantrums for my own sanity! Luckily DS turned back into my angel this week and keeps saying “mom’s sick, rub back” (my poor husband haha). So hopefully its just a stage that will get better soon!

ChristinaWild · October 2016

@claudia3059 - If it helps at all, you are not alone! DS is about to be 15 months, and goodness gracious, I have a monster on my hands. DH took him to a doctor's appointment this morning, and apparently after I left he screamed for 30 minutes. Last night, he wouldn't go to sleep unless I was sitting by the crib (which never happens. Bedtime is the ONE thing we've got down to a science!!).

So maybe it's just the age - could be teething or a wonder week leap. Hormones and exhaustion likely aren't helping our cause. We all need clones!

claudia3059 · October 2016

Thank you ALL for your responses!!! I am grateful to know I'm not alone. Like many of you I have been terrified that having another one was a giant mistake. But I know I didn't feel this way before I was TTC so I'm going to chalk it up to a particularly fussy kid and some raging hormones. Hopefully it gets better with time but hearing your responses is very helpful!

jessbruxanovaa · October 2016

I feel you! My 13 month old has been horrible lately. Crying, whining, following me around everywhere to nurse. Today at the restaurant he spilled a glass of ice water all over the table and on me. I almost lost it. He just seems so unhappy even though I make sure he has everything he needs. I raise my voice at him out of frustration and then I feel really bad afterward. He's always been super high needs and I'm usually the most patient person in the world but this week I just can't. I hope this gets better because I hate feeling like I'm failing him 100% of the time.

mamasmurf12 · October 2016

I lost it BAD with my extremely bright and strong willed eldest DD this morning. I actually started cramping I got myself so upset, and then I spent the rest of the morning worrying. I already have a temper, hormones don't help!!!