Crickets? Hellllllloooooo? — The Bump
Adoption

Crickets? Hellllllloooooo?

I come to this board about weekly, always hoping there will randomly be a burst of discussions and people. Is there anyone else that lurks this board? Maybe if there are enough, we can organize and come together? Check-ins and what not? Can I get, like, a love tit or comments if there are any other people who would like to see the board a little more active?
TTC #1 since September 2014
Diagnoses: RPL, Endometriosis, MFI (count, morph, DNI, DNAS, multiple bilateral subclinical varicoceles), low progesterone
Check out my Infertility blog 
Check out my Infertility Instagram

Loss History (TW):
BFP: 3 May 2015, loss confirmed 4 June 2015
BFP: 15 August 2015, loss confirmed 23 August 2015
BFP: 16 November 2015, loss confirmed 22 November 2015
BFP: 18 July 2016, loss confirmed same day
BFP: 04 March 2018, loss confirmed 23 March 2018
BFP: 12 June 2018, TWINS; D&C 06 July 2018
TTC History (TW):
3 losses in 2015
Met with OBGYN in January 2016
Me: all clear, H: OAT
November 2016: HSG = All Clear!
January 2017: H tested again,  High DNA fragmentation and stainability
February 2017: Clomid + TI + Progesterone = BFN
March 2017: Clomid + HCG + IUI + Progesterone = SA/wash: zero count on attempt #1, <1,000 on attempt #2= BFN
Varicocele Embolization- 5 May 17
December 2017 SA: Zero improvement after embolization
January IVF- 25 retrieved, 11 mature, 8 fertilized, 3 frozen day fives (3AA, 3AA, 3AA), 1 frozen day 6 (5BB), 1 frozen day 7 (3CC)
Three PGS normal (3AA, 3AA, 5BB), one inconclusive (3AA)
FET #1: 27 February 2018, 3AA & 5BB, one stuck! BFP 04 March 2018.... Loss confirmed 23 March 2018
May 2018: SHG/SIS = all clear "beautiful uterus"
FET #2: 04 June 2018, 3AA PGS normal embryo, 3AA PGS hatching inconclusive embryo. 
BFP: 12 June 2018, EDD 20 February 2019
Ultrasound, 25 June 2018: There are two
Lost Baby A 02 July 2018
Baby B not growing, D&C 06 July 2018
Laparoscopy, hysteroscopy, chromotubation: 23 July 2018: blocked right tube, heavily inflamed, covered in endo. Removed right tube. Removed more endo from uterus, tubes, ovaries. Endo remains on bladder and bowel. 
Next Up:
TTC Naturally, possibly IUIs for remainder of 2018. 
ER#2 ~Jan 2019
        

SaphireSweetie88britters314MamaBishlilyaster

Re: Crickets? Hellllllloooooo?

  • I check this board once or twice a week but there's usually nothing new.
    Me:28 | DH: 28
    Married: 07-2014
    TTC #1: Since November 2015
    Restarted TTC "count" Oct. 2016
         due to previous issues.
    ***TW***
    BFP: 11/4/2016
    *TW*
     BabyFruit Ticker


  • MamabeagleMamabeagle member
    10000 Comments 500 Love Its Second Anniversary 5 Answers
    edited October 2016
    Oh shit, wrong board. Edited. 
  • Yeah, I hate how dead this board is. I'd like some kind of check-in. It doesn't seem like there would be many of us, but maybe if we start some organization more people will see it and join in.
    Me: 26   H: 26
    Foster Care process
    Licensed: June 2017
    Foster son placed with us: January 2018
    SaphireSweetie88
  • @britters314

    Never hurts to try!
    Me:28 | DH: 28
    Married: 07-2014
    TTC #1: Since November 2015
    Restarted TTC "count" Oct. 2016
         due to previous issues.
    ***TW***
    BFP: 11/4/2016
    *TW*
     BabyFruit Ticker


  • I say let's get something started! What kind of check-ins do we want? With adoption there are so many different places people could be - just looking into it, somewhere in the process of adopting (both domestic or abroad), fostering, raising an adopted child, people who are adopted. I'm probably forgetting something, too.
    Me: 26   H: 26
    Foster Care process
    Licensed: June 2017
    Foster son placed with us: January 2018
    SaphireSweetie88MamaBish
  • @britters314

    I'd say all of the above broken into the following groups:

    1. Looking into & in the process of adopting (both domestic or abroad)
    2. Fostering & raising an adopted child
    3. Growing up adopted

    There are so many other areas like have you met / do you know your biological parents, adopted child & biological child(ren) etc but I think those sub categories if you will are covered in the broader categories. Thoughts?

    Me:28 | DH: 28
    Married: 07-2014
    TTC #1: Since November 2015
    Restarted TTC "count" Oct. 2016
         due to previous issues.
    ***TW***
    BFP: 11/4/2016
    *TW*
     BabyFruit Ticker


  • @SaphireSweetie88  I think those are good for now and it leaves room to expand if and when more people join us. The only thing I would change is in group 1, including the process of being licensed for foster care and/or waiting for a placement. I'm trying to think of a nice, shorter way of putting all of that. Maybe Pre-Adoption?

    @KristoB  What are your thoughts?
    Me: 26   H: 26
    Foster Care process
    Licensed: June 2017
    Foster son placed with us: January 2018
    SaphireSweetie88
  • Sorry, guys. I took a short Bump break. 

    Yeah, totally. I was thinking similar to @SaphireSweetie88
    -"I'm Adopted" / "I'm a birth mother"
    ...and then prompts for those who are either adopted or parents who allowed someone to adopt their birth-child.
    -"I'm Adopting" (monthly)
    ...and then prompts for where you are in the process that month and any questions, etc. 
    -"I Adopted"
    ... and then prompts about raising an adopted child, etc. 

    @britters314 & @SaphireSweetie88 ... forgot to tag...
    TTC #1 since September 2014
    Diagnoses: RPL, Endometriosis, MFI (count, morph, DNI, DNAS, multiple bilateral subclinical varicoceles), low progesterone
    Check out my Infertility blog 
    Check out my Infertility Instagram

    Loss History (TW):
    BFP: 3 May 2015, loss confirmed 4 June 2015
    BFP: 15 August 2015, loss confirmed 23 August 2015
    BFP: 16 November 2015, loss confirmed 22 November 2015
    BFP: 18 July 2016, loss confirmed same day
    BFP: 04 March 2018, loss confirmed 23 March 2018
    BFP: 12 June 2018, TWINS; D&C 06 July 2018
    TTC History (TW):
    3 losses in 2015
    Met with OBGYN in January 2016
    Me: all clear, H: OAT
    November 2016: HSG = All Clear!
    January 2017: H tested again,  High DNA fragmentation and stainability
    February 2017: Clomid + TI + Progesterone = BFN
    March 2017: Clomid + HCG + IUI + Progesterone = SA/wash: zero count on attempt #1, <1,000 on attempt #2= BFN
    Varicocele Embolization- 5 May 17
    December 2017 SA: Zero improvement after embolization
    January IVF- 25 retrieved, 11 mature, 8 fertilized, 3 frozen day fives (3AA, 3AA, 3AA), 1 frozen day 6 (5BB), 1 frozen day 7 (3CC)
    Three PGS normal (3AA, 3AA, 5BB), one inconclusive (3AA)
    FET #1: 27 February 2018, 3AA & 5BB, one stuck! BFP 04 March 2018.... Loss confirmed 23 March 2018
    May 2018: SHG/SIS = all clear "beautiful uterus"
    FET #2: 04 June 2018, 3AA PGS normal embryo, 3AA PGS hatching inconclusive embryo. 
    BFP: 12 June 2018, EDD 20 February 2019
    Ultrasound, 25 June 2018: There are two
    Lost Baby A 02 July 2018
    Baby B not growing, D&C 06 July 2018
    Laparoscopy, hysteroscopy, chromotubation: 23 July 2018: blocked right tube, heavily inflamed, covered in endo. Removed right tube. Removed more endo from uterus, tubes, ovaries. Endo remains on bladder and bowel. 
    Next Up:
    TTC Naturally, possibly IUIs for remainder of 2018. 
    ER#2 ~Jan 2019
            

    SaphireSweetie88
  • This was the list of prompts I sorta came up with when I was thinking about it. It obviously can be edited, etc. 

    “I’m Adopted!” and “I’m a Birth mom!”

    -Are you adopted or a birth parent?

    -At what age were you adopted/placed the child for adoption?

    -Do you have contact with your birth family/adopted child?

    -What kind of contact?

    -How did you handle knowing you were placed/placing a child?

    -Any tips from your experience?

    -What was your experience, overall?

    -Anything else to add?

     

    “I’m adopting!”

    -What route (Foster Care adoption, domestic, international)?

    -Where are you in the process right now (just thinking, home study, waiting for match, etc.)

    -How are you feeling about the process right now?

    -Any questions?

    -Any tips for the steps you’ve passed?

    -Anything else to add?

     

    “I adopted!”

    -What route (Foster Care adoption, domestic, international)?

    -How long ago?

    -What age was the child when adopted?

    -What are parenting struggles you deal with?

    -Any questions?

    -Any tips?

    TTC #1 since September 2014
    Diagnoses: RPL, Endometriosis, MFI (count, morph, DNI, DNAS, multiple bilateral subclinical varicoceles), low progesterone
    Check out my Infertility blog 
    Check out my Infertility Instagram

    Loss History (TW):
    BFP: 3 May 2015, loss confirmed 4 June 2015
    BFP: 15 August 2015, loss confirmed 23 August 2015
    BFP: 16 November 2015, loss confirmed 22 November 2015
    BFP: 18 July 2016, loss confirmed same day
    BFP: 04 March 2018, loss confirmed 23 March 2018
    BFP: 12 June 2018, TWINS; D&C 06 July 2018
    TTC History (TW):
    3 losses in 2015
    Met with OBGYN in January 2016
    Me: all clear, H: OAT
    November 2016: HSG = All Clear!
    January 2017: H tested again,  High DNA fragmentation and stainability
    February 2017: Clomid + TI + Progesterone = BFN
    March 2017: Clomid + HCG + IUI + Progesterone = SA/wash: zero count on attempt #1, <1,000 on attempt #2= BFN
    Varicocele Embolization- 5 May 17
    December 2017 SA: Zero improvement after embolization
    January IVF- 25 retrieved, 11 mature, 8 fertilized, 3 frozen day fives (3AA, 3AA, 3AA), 1 frozen day 6 (5BB), 1 frozen day 7 (3CC)
    Three PGS normal (3AA, 3AA, 5BB), one inconclusive (3AA)
    FET #1: 27 February 2018, 3AA & 5BB, one stuck! BFP 04 March 2018.... Loss confirmed 23 March 2018
    May 2018: SHG/SIS = all clear "beautiful uterus"
    FET #2: 04 June 2018, 3AA PGS normal embryo, 3AA PGS hatching inconclusive embryo. 
    BFP: 12 June 2018, EDD 20 February 2019
    Ultrasound, 25 June 2018: There are two
    Lost Baby A 02 July 2018
    Baby B not growing, D&C 06 July 2018
    Laparoscopy, hysteroscopy, chromotubation: 23 July 2018: blocked right tube, heavily inflamed, covered in endo. Removed right tube. Removed more endo from uterus, tubes, ovaries. Endo remains on bladder and bowel. 
    Next Up:
    TTC Naturally, possibly IUIs for remainder of 2018. 
    ER#2 ~Jan 2019
            

    SaphireSweetie88MamaBish
  • @KristoB

    I think your list and mine together are really good!
    Me:28 | DH: 28
    Married: 07-2014
    TTC #1: Since November 2015
    Restarted TTC "count" Oct. 2016
         due to previous issues.
    ***TW***
    BFP: 11/4/2016
    *TW*
     BabyFruit Ticker


  • Awesome... So is there anything else anyone wants to add? Otherwise I will start them?

    And what about a stickied "read this first" thread, to explain?
    TTC #1 since September 2014
    Diagnoses: RPL, Endometriosis, MFI (count, morph, DNI, DNAS, multiple bilateral subclinical varicoceles), low progesterone
    Check out my Infertility blog 
    Check out my Infertility Instagram

    Loss History (TW):
    BFP: 3 May 2015, loss confirmed 4 June 2015
    BFP: 15 August 2015, loss confirmed 23 August 2015
    BFP: 16 November 2015, loss confirmed 22 November 2015
    BFP: 18 July 2016, loss confirmed same day
    BFP: 04 March 2018, loss confirmed 23 March 2018
    BFP: 12 June 2018, TWINS; D&C 06 July 2018
    TTC History (TW):
    3 losses in 2015
    Met with OBGYN in January 2016
    Me: all clear, H: OAT
    November 2016: HSG = All Clear!
    January 2017: H tested again,  High DNA fragmentation and stainability
    February 2017: Clomid + TI + Progesterone = BFN
    March 2017: Clomid + HCG + IUI + Progesterone = SA/wash: zero count on attempt #1, <1,000 on attempt #2= BFN
    Varicocele Embolization- 5 May 17
    December 2017 SA: Zero improvement after embolization
    January IVF- 25 retrieved, 11 mature, 8 fertilized, 3 frozen day fives (3AA, 3AA, 3AA), 1 frozen day 6 (5BB), 1 frozen day 7 (3CC)
    Three PGS normal (3AA, 3AA, 5BB), one inconclusive (3AA)
    FET #1: 27 February 2018, 3AA & 5BB, one stuck! BFP 04 March 2018.... Loss confirmed 23 March 2018
    May 2018: SHG/SIS = all clear "beautiful uterus"
    FET #2: 04 June 2018, 3AA PGS normal embryo, 3AA PGS hatching inconclusive embryo. 
    BFP: 12 June 2018, EDD 20 February 2019
    Ultrasound, 25 June 2018: There are two
    Lost Baby A 02 July 2018
    Baby B not growing, D&C 06 July 2018
    Laparoscopy, hysteroscopy, chromotubation: 23 July 2018: blocked right tube, heavily inflamed, covered in endo. Removed right tube. Removed more endo from uterus, tubes, ovaries. Endo remains on bladder and bowel. 
    Next Up:
    TTC Naturally, possibly IUIs for remainder of 2018. 
    ER#2 ~Jan 2019
            

  • For the stickied thread - a brief sumarry of each one. remind people to lurk a little bit , etc
    Me:28 | DH: 28
    Married: 07-2014
    TTC #1: Since November 2015
    Restarted TTC "count" Oct. 2016
         due to previous issues.
    ***TW***
    BFP: 11/4/2016
    *TW*
     BabyFruit Ticker


  • I think those are great ideas. This is only my 2nd time to check out this board. I'm still looking and getting my toes wet to the idea, we haven't givin up hope on IVF. But it looks like this maybe our only option for a family.
    SaphireSweetie88KristoKekerooni
  • @katymarie101 - welcome :)
    Me:28 | DH: 28
    Married: 07-2014
    TTC #1: Since November 2015
    Restarted TTC "count" Oct. 2016
         due to previous issues.
    ***TW***
    BFP: 11/4/2016
    *TW*
     BabyFruit Ticker


  • I just started a thread for those of us going through the adoption process right now. Maybe we could chat there?
    SaphireSweetie88
  • How bout this for a stickied? Anything else to add @SaphireSweetie88
    or @britters314 ?


    Welcome to the Adoption board!
    Remember: This is a community, remember to lurk and learn the vibe of the group before you post.

    Please be sure to check out the FAQ stickied thread. It has lots of good information about adoption. please be sure you read that before posting questions, as it could answer most queries people have. 

    Please also join us in our Monthly threads. We have three-
    "I was adopted/I'm a birth mom"
    This is for those who were previously adopted or who gave birth and then placed a child for adoption. If you fit one of those categories, please follow the prompts and feel free to add anymore important or pertinent information. 

    "I'm adopting"
    This is for those who are thinking of adopting, or who are currently in the process of adopting. If you fit in this category, please follow the prompts and feel free to add anymore important or pertinent information. 

    "I adopted"
    This is for those who have already adopted a child and are now parenting an adopted child. If you fit in this category, please follow the prompts and feel free to add anymore important or pertinent information. 


    TTC #1 since September 2014
    Diagnoses: RPL, Endometriosis, MFI (count, morph, DNI, DNAS, multiple bilateral subclinical varicoceles), low progesterone
    Check out my Infertility blog 
    Check out my Infertility Instagram

    Loss History (TW):
    BFP: 3 May 2015, loss confirmed 4 June 2015
    BFP: 15 August 2015, loss confirmed 23 August 2015
    BFP: 16 November 2015, loss confirmed 22 November 2015
    BFP: 18 July 2016, loss confirmed same day
    BFP: 04 March 2018, loss confirmed 23 March 2018
    BFP: 12 June 2018, TWINS; D&C 06 July 2018
    TTC History (TW):
    3 losses in 2015
    Met with OBGYN in January 2016
    Me: all clear, H: OAT
    November 2016: HSG = All Clear!
    January 2017: H tested again,  High DNA fragmentation and stainability
    February 2017: Clomid + TI + Progesterone = BFN
    March 2017: Clomid + HCG + IUI + Progesterone = SA/wash: zero count on attempt #1, <1,000 on attempt #2= BFN
    Varicocele Embolization- 5 May 17
    December 2017 SA: Zero improvement after embolization
    January IVF- 25 retrieved, 11 mature, 8 fertilized, 3 frozen day fives (3AA, 3AA, 3AA), 1 frozen day 6 (5BB), 1 frozen day 7 (3CC)
    Three PGS normal (3AA, 3AA, 5BB), one inconclusive (3AA)
    FET #1: 27 February 2018, 3AA & 5BB, one stuck! BFP 04 March 2018.... Loss confirmed 23 March 2018
    May 2018: SHG/SIS = all clear "beautiful uterus"
    FET #2: 04 June 2018, 3AA PGS normal embryo, 3AA PGS hatching inconclusive embryo. 
    BFP: 12 June 2018, EDD 20 February 2019
    Ultrasound, 25 June 2018: There are two
    Lost Baby A 02 July 2018
    Baby B not growing, D&C 06 July 2018
    Laparoscopy, hysteroscopy, chromotubation: 23 July 2018: blocked right tube, heavily inflamed, covered in endo. Removed right tube. Removed more endo from uterus, tubes, ovaries. Endo remains on bladder and bowel. 
    Next Up:
    TTC Naturally, possibly IUIs for remainder of 2018. 
    ER#2 ~Jan 2019
            

    SaphireSweetie88
  • @katymarie101 - Welcome. I truly hope IVF works out for you... but I also hope adoption can work too!

    @kyrgyzshan - Did you read this post at all before making a commenting and then making a thread? We are working on getting some threads open to talk. Those will be great places to chat about where we are in the process, but with a little organization so we can all participate and actually get some good information and camaraderie.


     @britters314 , @SaphireSweetie88
    Also, since I think most (if not all of us at least present) are doing this after/while going through IF. Maybe we should also have a thread dedicated to adoption after IF? I'm not so sure if it should be a prompt, or a place to just open discuss, or if it would even be something we would use...?

    TTC #1 since September 2014
    Diagnoses: RPL, Endometriosis, MFI (count, morph, DNI, DNAS, multiple bilateral subclinical varicoceles), low progesterone
    Check out my Infertility blog 
    Check out my Infertility Instagram

    Loss History (TW):
    BFP: 3 May 2015, loss confirmed 4 June 2015
    BFP: 15 August 2015, loss confirmed 23 August 2015
    BFP: 16 November 2015, loss confirmed 22 November 2015
    BFP: 18 July 2016, loss confirmed same day
    BFP: 04 March 2018, loss confirmed 23 March 2018
    BFP: 12 June 2018, TWINS; D&C 06 July 2018
    TTC History (TW):
    3 losses in 2015
    Met with OBGYN in January 2016
    Me: all clear, H: OAT
    November 2016: HSG = All Clear!
    January 2017: H tested again,  High DNA fragmentation and stainability
    February 2017: Clomid + TI + Progesterone = BFN
    March 2017: Clomid + HCG + IUI + Progesterone = SA/wash: zero count on attempt #1, <1,000 on attempt #2= BFN
    Varicocele Embolization- 5 May 17
    December 2017 SA: Zero improvement after embolization
    January IVF- 25 retrieved, 11 mature, 8 fertilized, 3 frozen day fives (3AA, 3AA, 3AA), 1 frozen day 6 (5BB), 1 frozen day 7 (3CC)
    Three PGS normal (3AA, 3AA, 5BB), one inconclusive (3AA)
    FET #1: 27 February 2018, 3AA & 5BB, one stuck! BFP 04 March 2018.... Loss confirmed 23 March 2018
    May 2018: SHG/SIS = all clear "beautiful uterus"
    FET #2: 04 June 2018, 3AA PGS normal embryo, 3AA PGS hatching inconclusive embryo. 
    BFP: 12 June 2018, EDD 20 February 2019
    Ultrasound, 25 June 2018: There are two
    Lost Baby A 02 July 2018
    Baby B not growing, D&C 06 July 2018
    Laparoscopy, hysteroscopy, chromotubation: 23 July 2018: blocked right tube, heavily inflamed, covered in endo. Removed right tube. Removed more endo from uterus, tubes, ovaries. Endo remains on bladder and bowel. 
    Next Up:
    TTC Naturally, possibly IUIs for remainder of 2018. 
    ER#2 ~Jan 2019
            

    SaphireSweetie88
  • @KristoB  Just two comments - in the "I adopted" thread, I think we should make it more clear that people who are currently fostering can post in there, too.  Also, we could have the adoption after IF thread and if we don't end up using it, we can always just absorb it into the other threads.
    Me: 26   H: 26
    Foster Care process
    Licensed: June 2017
    Foster son placed with us: January 2018
    SaphireSweetie88
  • @britters314 - Should I put in prompts for the A after IF thread? Or just let it be?

    Also, should we do an intro thread? or nah?
    TTC #1 since September 2014
    Diagnoses: RPL, Endometriosis, MFI (count, morph, DNI, DNAS, multiple bilateral subclinical varicoceles), low progesterone
    Check out my Infertility blog 
    Check out my Infertility Instagram

    Loss History (TW):
    BFP: 3 May 2015, loss confirmed 4 June 2015
    BFP: 15 August 2015, loss confirmed 23 August 2015
    BFP: 16 November 2015, loss confirmed 22 November 2015
    BFP: 18 July 2016, loss confirmed same day
    BFP: 04 March 2018, loss confirmed 23 March 2018
    BFP: 12 June 2018, TWINS; D&C 06 July 2018
    TTC History (TW):
    3 losses in 2015
    Met with OBGYN in January 2016
    Me: all clear, H: OAT
    November 2016: HSG = All Clear!
    January 2017: H tested again,  High DNA fragmentation and stainability
    February 2017: Clomid + TI + Progesterone = BFN
    March 2017: Clomid + HCG + IUI + Progesterone = SA/wash: zero count on attempt #1, <1,000 on attempt #2= BFN
    Varicocele Embolization- 5 May 17
    December 2017 SA: Zero improvement after embolization
    January IVF- 25 retrieved, 11 mature, 8 fertilized, 3 frozen day fives (3AA, 3AA, 3AA), 1 frozen day 6 (5BB), 1 frozen day 7 (3CC)
    Three PGS normal (3AA, 3AA, 5BB), one inconclusive (3AA)
    FET #1: 27 February 2018, 3AA & 5BB, one stuck! BFP 04 March 2018.... Loss confirmed 23 March 2018
    May 2018: SHG/SIS = all clear "beautiful uterus"
    FET #2: 04 June 2018, 3AA PGS normal embryo, 3AA PGS hatching inconclusive embryo. 
    BFP: 12 June 2018, EDD 20 February 2019
    Ultrasound, 25 June 2018: There are two
    Lost Baby A 02 July 2018
    Baby B not growing, D&C 06 July 2018
    Laparoscopy, hysteroscopy, chromotubation: 23 July 2018: blocked right tube, heavily inflamed, covered in endo. Removed right tube. Removed more endo from uterus, tubes, ovaries. Endo remains on bladder and bowel. 
    Next Up:
    TTC Naturally, possibly IUIs for remainder of 2018. 
    ER#2 ~Jan 2019
            

    SaphireSweetie88
  • KristoB said:
    How bout this for a stickied? Anything else to add @SaphireSweetie88
    or @britters314 ?


    Welcome to the Adoption board!
    Remember: This is a community, remember to lurk and learn the vibe of the group before you post.

    Please be sure to check out the FAQ stickied thread. It has lots of good information about adoption. please be sure you read that before posting questions, as it could answer most queries people have. 

    Please also join us in our Monthly threads. We have three-
    "I was adopted/I'm a birth mom"
    This is for those who were previously adopted or who gave birth and then placed a child for adoption. If you fit one of those categories, please follow the prompts and feel free to add anymore important or pertinent information. 

    "I'm adopting"
    This is for those who are thinking of adopting, or who are currently in the process of adopting. If you fit in this category, please follow the prompts and feel free to add anymore important or pertinent information. 

    "I adopted"
    This is for those who have already adopted a child and are now parenting an adopted child. If you fit in this category, please follow the prompts and feel free to add anymore important or pertinent information. 


    @KristoB

    I would either add a 4th one ( I'm Fostering) or make that part of I'm adopting (I'm adopting / fostering)

    I would also add "I was a foster child" to the 1st one or make another thread for that. I feel like "I'm a birth mom" is a bit out of place but I'm not sure where else it would go...
    Me:28 | DH: 28
    Married: 07-2014
    TTC #1: Since November 2015
    Restarted TTC "count" Oct. 2016
         due to previous issues.
    ***TW***
    BFP: 11/4/2016
    *TW*
     BabyFruit Ticker


  • edited October 2016
    KristoB said:
    @katymarie101 - Welcome. I truly hope IVF works out for you... but I also hope adoption can work too!

    @kyrgyzshan - Did you read this post at all before making a commenting and then making a thread? We are working on getting some threads open to talk. Those will be great places to chat about where we are in the process, but with a little organization so we can all participate and actually get some good information and camaraderie.


     @britters314 , @SaphireSweetie88
    Also, since I think most (if not all of us at least present) are doing this after/while going through IF. Maybe we should also have a thread dedicated to adoption after IF? I'm not so sure if it should be a prompt, or a place to just open discuss, or if it would even be something we would use...?

    @KristoB

    I think it would be okay to include that in the "I adopted" thread and I like the idea of an intro thread
    Me:28 | DH: 28
    Married: 07-2014
    TTC #1: Since November 2015
    Restarted TTC "count" Oct. 2016
         due to previous issues.
    ***TW***
    BFP: 11/4/2016
    *TW*
     BabyFruit Ticker


    britters314KristoKekerooni
  • KristoB said:
    @britters314 - Should I put in prompts for the A after IF thread? Or just let it be?

    Also, should we do an intro thread? or nah?
    You know, I'm really not even sure what prompts to use for a whole IF thread. Maybe it could just be something in one/some of the other threads. Perhaps a "what brought you to consider adoption?" (though that could end up being repetitive every month) or "are you also trying to have bio kids?" Or we could just leave it to the IF/TTGP boards for now. I'm kind of neutral on it.

    I'm also kind of neutral on the intro thread. Maybe we could wait until we get a few more people before starting it? Though if anyone else does want to do one, I'm not opposed. 
    Me: 26   H: 26
    Foster Care process
    Licensed: June 2017
    Foster son placed with us: January 2018
    SaphireSweetie88
  • I like the idea of an intro thread (because some stories may be longer) and that way when we get new people looking / joining (hopefully) they can read the intro thread and get a back story on those who are participating.

    What do you think of an abbreviations thread (or part as the stickied thread)? @britters314 @KristoB
       ex: BM = biological mother / BD = biological dad, etc
    Me:28 | DH: 28
    Married: 07-2014
    TTC #1: Since November 2015
    Restarted TTC "count" Oct. 2016
         due to previous issues.
    ***TW***
    BFP: 11/4/2016
    *TW*
     BabyFruit Ticker


    KristoKekerooni
  • @SaphireSweetie88  I think putting abbreviations in the stickied thread would be good. Though I'm not sure about BM and BD for bio mom and bio dad, since those already have other meanings..
    Me: 26   H: 26
    Foster Care process
    Licensed: June 2017
    Foster son placed with us: January 2018
    SaphireSweetie88
  • @britters314

    Good point. What would you suggest?
    Me:28 | DH: 28
    Married: 07-2014
    TTC #1: Since November 2015
    Restarted TTC "count" Oct. 2016
         due to previous issues.
    ***TW***
    BFP: 11/4/2016
    *TW*
     BabyFruit Ticker


  • @britters314
    @SaphireSweetie88

    Okay. So let's say no in the IF thread, but yes to the intro? just so we have a place for it?

    As far as abbreviations and acronyms, there is a list I already have that was emailed to me. It's the "official" ones the social workers use... I will post it tomorrow (I'm a work bumper, so I'm about to leave the office).
    TTC #1 since September 2014
    Diagnoses: RPL, Endometriosis, MFI (count, morph, DNI, DNAS, multiple bilateral subclinical varicoceles), low progesterone
    Check out my Infertility blog 
    Check out my Infertility Instagram

    Loss History (TW):
    BFP: 3 May 2015, loss confirmed 4 June 2015
    BFP: 15 August 2015, loss confirmed 23 August 2015
    BFP: 16 November 2015, loss confirmed 22 November 2015
    BFP: 18 July 2016, loss confirmed same day
    BFP: 04 March 2018, loss confirmed 23 March 2018
    BFP: 12 June 2018, TWINS; D&C 06 July 2018
    TTC History (TW):
    3 losses in 2015
    Met with OBGYN in January 2016
    Me: all clear, H: OAT
    November 2016: HSG = All Clear!
    January 2017: H tested again,  High DNA fragmentation and stainability
    February 2017: Clomid + TI + Progesterone = BFN
    March 2017: Clomid + HCG + IUI + Progesterone = SA/wash: zero count on attempt #1, <1,000 on attempt #2= BFN
    Varicocele Embolization- 5 May 17
    December 2017 SA: Zero improvement after embolization
    January IVF- 25 retrieved, 11 mature, 8 fertilized, 3 frozen day fives (3AA, 3AA, 3AA), 1 frozen day 6 (5BB), 1 frozen day 7 (3CC)
    Three PGS normal (3AA, 3AA, 5BB), one inconclusive (3AA)
    FET #1: 27 February 2018, 3AA & 5BB, one stuck! BFP 04 March 2018.... Loss confirmed 23 March 2018
    May 2018: SHG/SIS = all clear "beautiful uterus"
    FET #2: 04 June 2018, 3AA PGS normal embryo, 3AA PGS hatching inconclusive embryo. 
    BFP: 12 June 2018, EDD 20 February 2019
    Ultrasound, 25 June 2018: There are two
    Lost Baby A 02 July 2018
    Baby B not growing, D&C 06 July 2018
    Laparoscopy, hysteroscopy, chromotubation: 23 July 2018: blocked right tube, heavily inflamed, covered in endo. Removed right tube. Removed more endo from uterus, tubes, ovaries. Endo remains on bladder and bowel. 
    Next Up:
    TTC Naturally, possibly IUIs for remainder of 2018. 
    ER#2 ~Jan 2019
            

    SaphireSweetie88britters314
  • edited October 2016
    KristoB said:
    @britters314
    @SaphireSweetie88

    Okay. So let's say no in the IF thread, but yes to the intro? just so we have a place for it?

    As far as abbreviations and acronyms, there is a list I already have that was emailed to me. It's the "official" ones the social workers use... I will post it tomorrow (I'm a work bumper, so I'm about to leave the office).
    @KristoB ; @britters314 ;

    Sounds good to me. I will go ahead and start the Intro thread. I can start the stickied thread too if there are no objections...
    Me:28 | DH: 28
    Married: 07-2014
    TTC #1: Since November 2015
    Restarted TTC "count" Oct. 2016
         due to previous issues.
    ***TW***
    BFP: 11/4/2016
    *TW*
     BabyFruit Ticker


    britters314KristoKekerooni
  • A

    ACR Age of Child Requested (sometimes AOCR)

    AD Adoptive Dad 
    AF Adoptive Father 
    AM Adoptive Mother 
    AP Adoptive Parent/s 
    AYAP As Young As Possible

    B
    BC Birth Certificate
    BC Because 
    BF Birth Father 
    BIL Brother-in-Law (also SIL, MIL, FIL)
    BiM Birth Mother
    BTW By The Way

    C
    CA Consulate Appointment
    CoC Certificate of Citizenship

    D
    DD Dear Daughter
    DH Dear Husband 
    DS Dear Son
    DW Dear Wife
    DOA Date Of Adoption
    DOB Date Of Birth
    DOR Date Of Referral
    DOT Date Of Travel

    F
    FIL Father-in-Law
    FP Fingerprint / Fingerprinting

    H
    HS Home Study / homestudy

    I
    IA International Adoption
    I-600 Petition to Classify Orphan as an Immediate Relative 
    I-600A Application for Advance Processing of Orphan Petition
    I-171H US federal approval to adopt foreign-born child
    I-797 The new I-171H

    L
    LID Log In Date (official date recorded in CCAA logs)
    LOI Letter Of Intent (SN adoptions)
    LOL Laugh Out Loud


    M
    MIL Mother-in-Law


    N
    NSN Non-Special Needs

    P
    PA Permission to Adopt (SN adoptions)
    PAP Prospective Adoptive Parent(s)
    PPR Post Placement Report

    R
    RAD Reactive Attachment Disorder

    S
    SIL Sister-in-Law 
    SN Special Needs
    SW Social Worker

    T
    TA Travel Approval

    U
    USCIS US Customs & Immigration Services (Dept. of Homeland Security)

    W
    WC Waiting Child

    TTC #1 since September 2014
    Diagnoses: RPL, Endometriosis, MFI (count, morph, DNI, DNAS, multiple bilateral subclinical varicoceles), low progesterone
    Check out my Infertility blog 
    Check out my Infertility Instagram

    Loss History (TW):
    BFP: 3 May 2015, loss confirmed 4 June 2015
    BFP: 15 August 2015, loss confirmed 23 August 2015
    BFP: 16 November 2015, loss confirmed 22 November 2015
    BFP: 18 July 2016, loss confirmed same day
    BFP: 04 March 2018, loss confirmed 23 March 2018
    BFP: 12 June 2018, TWINS; D&C 06 July 2018
    TTC History (TW):
    3 losses in 2015
    Met with OBGYN in January 2016
    Me: all clear, H: OAT
    November 2016: HSG = All Clear!
    January 2017: H tested again,  High DNA fragmentation and stainability
    February 2017: Clomid + TI + Progesterone = BFN
    March 2017: Clomid + HCG + IUI + Progesterone = SA/wash: zero count on attempt #1, <1,000 on attempt #2= BFN
    Varicocele Embolization- 5 May 17
    December 2017 SA: Zero improvement after embolization
    January IVF- 25 retrieved, 11 mature, 8 fertilized, 3 frozen day fives (3AA, 3AA, 3AA), 1 frozen day 6 (5BB), 1 frozen day 7 (3CC)
    Three PGS normal (3AA, 3AA, 5BB), one inconclusive (3AA)
    FET #1: 27 February 2018, 3AA & 5BB, one stuck! BFP 04 March 2018.... Loss confirmed 23 March 2018
    May 2018: SHG/SIS = all clear "beautiful uterus"
    FET #2: 04 June 2018, 3AA PGS normal embryo, 3AA PGS hatching inconclusive embryo. 
    BFP: 12 June 2018, EDD 20 February 2019
    Ultrasound, 25 June 2018: There are two
    Lost Baby A 02 July 2018
    Baby B not growing, D&C 06 July 2018
    Laparoscopy, hysteroscopy, chromotubation: 23 July 2018: blocked right tube, heavily inflamed, covered in endo. Removed right tube. Removed more endo from uterus, tubes, ovaries. Endo remains on bladder and bowel. 
    Next Up:
    TTC Naturally, possibly IUIs for remainder of 2018. 
    ER#2 ~Jan 2019
            

    SaphireSweetie88britters314
  • Thanks @KristoB
    Me:28 | DH: 28
    Married: 07-2014
    TTC #1: Since November 2015
    Restarted TTC "count" Oct. 2016
         due to previous issues.
    ***TW***
    BFP: 11/4/2016
    *TW*
     BabyFruit Ticker


Sign In or Register to comment.
Choose Another Board
Search Boards