I don't want to be treated differently because I'm pregnant. Like it frustrated me when my ILs didn't want me to pick up dishes when they visited and things like that. I'm pregnant not disabled. I'm sure there will be a time closer to 40 weeks when it's hard for me to get up and I'll appreciate someone else getting the dishes but for now I'm perfectly capable. Sometimes I tease DH and tell him things like I deserve more than half the bed because I'm carrying his child but we both know it's a joke and I used to make the same joke before I was pregnant but instead of carrying his child I'd make up some other reasons.
Me: 33 | DH: 34 Married: October, 19, 2015 EDD 2/22/17 DS1 born on 3/2/17 EDD 3/8/20 DS2 born on 3/10/20 EDD 11/24/23 (Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
It's fine to disagree on the topic but my perspective is that stress has been shown to be of significant danger while pregnant so I do feel that should be respected. I wish I had my psych texts where studies were done on it but nonetheless, I do not award an individual who cannot control their emotions to have even the slightest possibility of negatively affecting my pregnancy.
But yeah high stress situations do effect our babies and can have long term consequences. This one of the reasons why I think so many schools that serve poor families have more IEPS.
My child has an IEP for his motor planning speech disorder. We aren't poor and never lived through an ice storm disaster. I think the article makes a lot of assumptions as to cause an effect. Who knows what else this particular population of pregnant women were exposed to? Malnutrition? Impurities or toxins in the water? Lack of prenatal care? Heck, maybe it was a community of an inbred religious cult?
I'm torn between the two opinions... Over the weekend, I had a pop-up sale and did all the loading, unloading and re-loading of my inventory, clothing racks, etc. into the car. I did ask DH to empty the car that night because I was beat, but I could have done it myself if he was out of town. I try to remember that both sides of my family were farming people and the women, who were already used to physical labor, kept up with their daily lives for the most part. I mean, my version of cleaning out the cow stalls is CrossFit, but I can still do most of what I could before, just modified. When I can't carry all my groceries in one trip, I split it up into two trips.
On the other hand, I got an amazing 'expectant mother' parking spot directly in front of Panera at lunch. And, I didn't feel guilty about accepting that at all!
Being rude or screaming at people in general is just not acceptable. I am often amazed at the way people treat others. If nothing else, I think we should all take a few steps back and try to remember the Golden Rule. If preschoolers can get that, why can't adults?
It's fine to disagree on the topic but my perspective is that stress has been shown to be of significant danger while pregnant so I do feel that should be respected. I wish I had my psych texts where studies were done on it but nonetheless, I do not award an individual who cannot control their emotions to have even the slightest possibility of negatively affecting my pregnancy.
But yeah high stress situations do effect our babies and can have long term consequences. This one of the reasons why I think so many schools that serve poor families have more IEPS.
My child has an IEP for his motor planning speech disorder. We aren't poor and never lived through an ice storm disaster. I think the article makes a lot of assumptions as to cause an effect. Who knows what else this particular population of pregnant women were exposed to? Malnutrition? Impurities or toxins in the water? Lack of prenatal care? Heck, maybe it was a community of an inbred religious cult?
I want to make sure that when I said that above that does not mean that is the only way one can get an IEP or that if your child has an IEP that the mother did something wrong. It is just something that studies have noticed that poorer families have more stress in their life (because they are worrying about when their next meal is or when they will sleep that the next night, etc...) and if this study is right about stress on the baby, it can lead to longer term issues down the road including learning disabilities.
@skiingstark I admit I did take a little offense to the implications about your IEP comment. That's a sensitive subject for me! It's hard to accept when something isn't "perfect" with your child. I did not have excessive stress during his pregnancy and no known cause has been determined for his apraxia of speech.
I guess the point I'd like to make is if anyone is going through something super stressful, I don't think this one study proves there will be any horrible effects on your baby. Of course, decrease stress if you can. But the set up of that retrospective set up of that study proves nothing.
I feel super guilty when I read stuff like this! I know it's irriational, but it makes me feel justified in believing my son is the way he is because we struggle financially and/or because I've always struggled with depression. Basically if only we did better in life or if I could be a better mom, he wouldn't have the problems he does. Then I worry about the stress on the baby I'm carrying, both then and now, and it makes me stress out even more lol please know I realize how silly that is and that wasn't the point of what people were trying to say. I'm just being ridiculous.
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On the other hand, I got an amazing 'expectant mother' parking spot directly in front of Panera at lunch. And, I didn't feel guilty about accepting that at all!
Being rude or screaming at people in general is just not acceptable. I am often amazed at the way people treat others. If nothing else, I think we should all take a few steps back and try to remember the Golden Rule. If preschoolers can get that, why can't adults?
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I guess the point I'd like to make is if anyone is going through something super stressful, I don't think this one study proves there will be any horrible effects on your baby. Of course, decrease stress if you can. But the set up of that retrospective set up of that study proves nothing.