Someone may have listed this number already, but just in case, this is the National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233. It is staffed 24/7, they can help you find a safe place and provide support as you navigate this difficult situation. I am so sorry for what you are going through, we are all thinking of you!
I'm sorry if this is unpopular, but suggesting marriage counseling to someone in an abusive relationship is NOT good advice. @milozmommy I know that this is the hardest thing ever, and the step probably seems too big to take, but you are in an abusive relationship- you need to leave. Now. It will escalate. Take care of yourself and your babies and get out. If he gets help and genuinely changes, you can go back later if you want.
@milozmommy I'm just now reading through all this. I am so sorry to hear you're going through this!! Each post you made added a little more to the puzzle, and the last bit about him getting angry at your for something he lost, then trying to hit you with his car to show that he was angry (WHAT if he didn't stop, or if his foot slipped and hit the gas too hard, or anything else???) is NOT ok! Not to mention drinking and driving. As a licensed professional myself, I suggest finding an individual counselor instead of going to marriage counseling. Relational counseling while abuse is present is actually more dangerous. If he wants to make things work, he needs individual therapy first to deal with his behaviors, addictions, and anger. I highly suggest making a safety plan for yourself and start documenting everything with as much evidence and/or detail as possible. This sounds like you're in an emotionally/verbally abusive relationship that is escalating into a physically abusing relationship, and it is not only unsafe for you, but for your children. Also, you're worth so much more and don't ever let anyone tell you any different. Please give us an update! And please take care of yourself. None of this is your fault in any way.
Also worried. I really hope you've just been busy and haven't had time to log in here for innocuous reasons, but please let us know you're okay when you see this, @milozmommy!
UPDATE just want to let everyone know that I'm doing ok and everything is getting better by time and I appreciate everyone and all the awesome advice I was given. Me and my husband are doing better but I will always be a little skeptical. But everything has been beyond better I'm almost 29 weeks pregnant and so far everything has been going smooth with my marriage, my relationship with my son and my pregnancy thank you everyone so much
@milozmommy, very happy to hear things are working for now and I pray they continue to. Don't be afraid to reach out if things start going back to what they were when you initially started this thread. You have this online community supporting you and people in your life who would help as well if need be.
Me: 33 DH: 38 Married: 1/10/15
1st Pregnancy EDD: 1/1/17 Born 1/10/17 Team Green turned Blue!
2nd Pregnancy EDD: 11/6/18 Born 11/09/18 Baby Boy!
3rd Pregnancy EDD: 12/?/21
Children are like casseroles; it takes a lot to mess them up.
@milozmommy thank you for letting us know that things have gotten better! Don't forget what you're worth, and that nobody has the right to treat you with disrespect. I hope you'll stop by occasionally to let us know how you and your babies are doing!
@sjanish I am doing great. My husband has been beyond helpful and it's crazy how much I see him growing up during this time and getting so much closer to our son. Due to the weather he's not working as much but He is SO helpful at home. He can still be a sarcastic asshole times. As can I. But we have been doing so much better. Thank you for thinking of me. We will be meeting our twins on Tuesday the 10th
Re: Contemplating divorce.
It is staffed 24/7, they can help you find a safe place and provide support as you navigate this difficult situation.
I am so sorry for what you are going through, we are all thinking of you!
BFP1 12/24/14 - EDD 09/07/15 (D/C 8w1d)
BFP2 6/12/15 - EDD 2/22/16 (D/C 10w3d)
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Diagnoses and Treatments
PCOS (myo-inositol, excercize)
Indeterminant levels of APS IgM antibodies (baby aspirin)
Sub-septate uterus (hysteroscopic septoplasty 12/18/15)
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BFP3 05/02/16 EDD 01/09/17 DS born 01/05/17
BFP4 01/28/19 EDD 10/?/19 🤞🙏
BFP1 12/24/14 - EDD 09/07/15 (D/C 8w1d)
BFP2 6/12/15 - EDD 2/22/16 (D/C 10w3d)
———
Diagnoses and Treatments
PCOS (myo-inositol, excercize)
Indeterminant levels of APS IgM antibodies (baby aspirin)
Sub-septate uterus (hysteroscopic septoplasty 12/18/15)
———
BFP3 05/02/16 EDD 01/09/17 DS born 01/05/17
BFP4 01/28/19 EDD 10/?/19 🤞🙏
As a licensed professional myself, I suggest finding an individual counselor instead of going to marriage counseling. Relational counseling while abuse is present is actually more dangerous. If he wants to make things work, he needs individual therapy first to deal with his behaviors, addictions, and anger. I highly suggest making a safety plan for yourself and start documenting everything with as much evidence and/or detail as possible. This sounds like you're in an emotionally/verbally abusive relationship that is escalating into a physically abusing relationship, and it is not only unsafe for you, but for your children. Also, you're worth so much more and don't ever let anyone tell you any different.
Please give us an update! And please take care of yourself. None of this is your fault in any way.
Married: 8/11/2007
DD: Born 2/3/17
BFP#2: 5/3, EDD 1/10/19
BFP1 12/24/14 - EDD 09/07/15 (D/C 8w1d)
BFP2 6/12/15 - EDD 2/22/16 (D/C 10w3d)
———
Diagnoses and Treatments
PCOS (myo-inositol, excercize)
Indeterminant levels of APS IgM antibodies (baby aspirin)
Sub-septate uterus (hysteroscopic septoplasty 12/18/15)
———
BFP3 05/02/16 EDD 01/09/17 DS born 01/05/17
BFP4 01/28/19 EDD 10/?/19 🤞🙏
Hope you're okay @milozmommy. Sending you good vibes & kind thoughts.
Me: 33 DH: 38 Married: 1/10/15
1st Pregnancy EDD: 1/1/17 Born 1/10/17 Team Green turned Blue!
2nd Pregnancy EDD: 11/6/18 Born 11/09/18 Baby Boy!
3rd Pregnancy EDD: 12/?/21
Children are like casseroles; it takes a lot to mess them up.
just want to let everyone know that I'm doing ok and everything is getting better by time and I appreciate everyone and all the awesome advice I was given. Me and my husband are doing better but I will always be a little skeptical. But everything has been beyond better I'm almost 29 weeks pregnant and so far everything has been going smooth with my marriage, my relationship with my son and my pregnancy thank you everyone so much
BFP1 12/24/14 - EDD 09/07/15 (D/C 8w1d)
BFP2 6/12/15 - EDD 2/22/16 (D/C 10w3d)
———
Diagnoses and Treatments
PCOS (myo-inositol, excercize)
Indeterminant levels of APS IgM antibodies (baby aspirin)
Sub-septate uterus (hysteroscopic septoplasty 12/18/15)
———
BFP3 05/02/16 EDD 01/09/17 DS born 01/05/17
BFP4 01/28/19 EDD 10/?/19 🤞🙏
Me: 33 DH: 38 Married: 1/10/15
1st Pregnancy EDD: 1/1/17 Born 1/10/17 Team Green turned Blue!
2nd Pregnancy EDD: 11/6/18 Born 11/09/18 Baby Boy!
3rd Pregnancy EDD: 12/?/21
Children are like casseroles; it takes a lot to mess them up.
I am doing great. My husband has been beyond helpful and it's crazy how much I see him growing up during this time and getting so much closer to our son. Due to the weather he's not working as much but He is SO helpful at home. He can still be a sarcastic asshole times. As can I. But we have been doing so much better. Thank you for thinking of me. We will be meeting our twins on Tuesday the 10th