Am I over-reacting?

BabyRoot1

I am a 35 year old new mom. My son just turned 4 months old and I recently returned back to work. My sister-in-law is watching him during the day. I just found out she has been sneaking pacifiers and giving them to him. She went out and bought different pacifiers and used them without saying anything to me. We have a different brand of pacifiers already, but she did not use them. Moreover, she was keeping them to herself and using them and did not say anything to me until I confronted her. I am now distrustful of her. Am I over-reacting? Would anyone else be upset if someone in their family made a decision like this and keep it from you?

nackie

So, you are using pacifiers, she just decided to get a different brand and use those instead?  Did you ask her why?  It certainly is odd that she would try to hide that

SmrBrd2012

I don't think the pacifiers themselves are a big deal but I do find it odd that she would be sneaky about it. did you ask why she hid it?

4N6s

Depends on the intent. Was she being purposely sneaky? Or just helping

crsanchez87

Yea I guess I am a little too confused too. I think if you were "no" to all pacifiers and she was giving him one, then I would understand why you'd be upset/frustrated. If you are upset because shes using a different brand then I think it shouldnt be a big deal. I agree with PP, why is she hiding this from you? 

judithsr1983

Also to echo the sentiment of others, i think it's more the fact that she's hiding info and not consulting you on changes is more of a concern than anything.