***TTCAL Check-In Week of 9/12**** — The Bump
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***TTCAL Check-In Week of 9/12****

1. Introduce yourself (if you're new):

2. Status (WTO, TWW, Benched, etc.):

3. Rants/raves:

4. GTKY: Tell us about your history with The Bump. How did you find the Bump community? What made you start participating in The Bump? Do you participate in any other TTC forums?
Age 39, H 38

Married 8/15

Pregnancy #1, MMC, D&C November/December 2015
Pregnancy #2, Dx with Triploidy at 12 weeks, MMC, D&C May 2016
Pregnancy #3 BFP 10/20/2016- EDD 7/01/2017
Hannah Sari was born on June 26, 2017
Pregnancy #4 CP 4/2018
TFAS 7/2018
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Re: ***TTCAL Check-In Week of 9/12****

  • @dungeontrollmell Happy Birthday!
    Sorry the birthday sex will be with something long, cold, and hard  ;)
    brooklyngirl18rainbowturtles
  • @NewMommyCoop I am so glad your mom can be there with you! I am sorry you're still in wait and see mode.

    @DungeonTrollMel I am so sorry for the anxiety of not being able to reach your doctor. I hope that you'll get in today to have the baseline and get the direction you need. Also sorry that your birthday is being overshadowed by this TTC shit.

    @Aera11 I am sorry that your FIL pissed you off. Family is so difficult to manage sometimes, especially the in-laws! Good for you for not giving it to much more thought, it sounds like he definitely does not deserve your energy or attention!

    @szwill86 You cracked me up with the "basic bitch" comment! Too funny. We're cycle buddies! When do you plan to test?

    @chloe97 I understand Chicago is an expensive place to live, so I can imagine how it would be difficult to accommodate a growing family in the confines of the city. Do you both work in the city? How long of a commute do you expect to make? Good luck house hunting! Looking at houses is one of my favorite past times.
    Me: 40, DH: 34
    Married 5/2009; TTC #1 since 2013
    2013 - 2015: 5 pregnancies ——> 5 miscarriages 
    TTCAL with RE (RPL specialist): February 2016
    2016: 3 medicated TI cycles ---> 3 medicated IUI cycles: All BFN

    Donor Egg IVF Transfer: MAY 1, 2017
    May 11, 2017: BFP!! Beta #1: 449.1, Beta #2: 844, Beta #3: 1714
    EDD: 1/17/18, it's a GIRL! 
    E. L. A. born 12/7/2017  <3
    chloe97brooklyngirl18
  • 1. Introduce yourself (if you're new): I'm Steph. I'm new here. I'm 30 with a toddler. Recently lost pregnancy #2. It happened between 8 and 9 weeks but we didn't find out until after 12 weeks. Had a D&C around what would have been 14 weeks.

    2. Status (WTO, TWW, Benched, etc.): I'm 13 days post D&C. Just waiting for the spotting to stop and AF to come. I have a follow up with my family doctor next week and hope to have the green light to TTC after AF.

    3. Rants/raves: Rant is that I'm still waiting for spotting to be over. I'm coming up on a month since we found out we lost the baby and it doesn't feel "over" since I'm getting this daily reminder. Rave is that my DH is the best. I know he's dealing with this too but he's been giving me whatever I need through this nightmare.

    4. GTKY: Tell us about your history with The Bump. How did you find the Bump community? What made you start participating in The Bump? Do you participate in any other TTC forums?

    I started when I was pregnant with DS. I lurked the May14 board under a different user name and just started posting when all the drama happened. It left a bad taste and I left TB but didn't follow the others. When I got this BFP I came back and joined the BMB until I came here.
    Lilypie Maternity tickers
    brooklyngirl18szwill86laeberge3yolandamunoz
  • @TScalei - Yes, I've done the RPL testing. Some of the tests (saline sonogram or HSG and CD3 bloodwork) need to be done early in your cycle, so you could theoretically do the testing and try that cycle. I did it with my OB rather than an RE. She didn't bench me during testing, but I wanted to wait to see the results in case there was anything fixable before I got pregnant again. For example, if I had a uterine septum that needed surgery to fix. So we voluntarily benched. Then, one of my anti-phospholipids came back as "indeterminate". Which basically means it was above the normal threshold but not high enough to be considered positive. Since many women occasionally have slightly elevated APS antibodies, APS can only be confirmed with two blood tests taken 12 or more weeks apart that both come back abnormal. This is where I'm at now. It was the only thing that came back abnormal for me. Even then, my OB didn't force me on the bench, but said it might be a good idea to wait for the next round of results. 

    So, depending on the results from testing, you may end up on the bench. A good thing to remember is that even for women who find nothing wrong during testing, the future success rates for pregnancy are high. Hugs. I'm sorry you find yourself going through this testing!
    yolandamunoz
  • @DungeonTrollMel Happy birthday! I'm so sorry about CD1 on Saturday- not a fun way to spend your birthday! I had CD on or first anniversary. It sucked so I get it!

    @TScalei I also started RPL testing after 2 losses. Basically it consists of CD3 blood tests and an HSG Cd6-11. I never got any official word that I should be on the bench. I'm pretty sure it's because most RE patients are not getting pregnant on their own, so unless there's a really legitimate reason to be benched- they don't think to recommend it. Your Dr will know after your testing if there are any major issues- PCOS or other hormonal imbalances, so maybe they will give you advice to bench at that point, but if all looks good- they will probably suggest IVF+PGS as an option or trying again naturally. The rates of live birth are basically the same for both after 2 MCs.

    @fivetimesnoluck Good to see you here! No worries about popping on and off, we all need a TB break from time to time. Yes- houses in Chicago can be pricey! DH and I both actually work in the suburbs, so our commutes will be better when we move. There are much more affordable suburbs, but we want to be closer to my ILs when we have our hypothetical kids. Also this is where DH grew up, so he's got attachment to the area. 

    @NewMommyCoop Thinking of you. Hope things get started for you soon so you can move on. Sending hugs!
    Age 39, H 38

    Married 8/15

    Pregnancy #1, MMC, D&C November/December 2015
    Pregnancy #2, Dx with Triploidy at 12 weeks, MMC, D&C May 2016
    Pregnancy #3 BFP 10/20/2016- EDD 7/01/2017
    Hannah Sari was born on June 26, 2017
    Pregnancy #4 CP 4/2018
    TFAS 7/2018
    yolandamunoz
  • @chloe97 good luck house hunting, so exciting!! 
    @szwill86 LMAO at the basic bitch comment  :D
    @DungeonTrollMel happy birthday!! I'm sorry it's no fun in the sex department but I hope you can find something else to do to make it fab.
    @fivetimesnoluck i'm so impressed your husband is able to do all/most of the work himself. my DH has many great qualities but the man can barely hang a picture. 

    1. Introduce yourself (if you're new): I'm not new but a quick re-intro. I'm ttcal number 2, I had an ectopic in February and ttcal since May.

    2. Status (WTO, TWW, Benched, etc.): CD4 and feeling blah.

    3. Rants/raves: rant- i finally pulled the trigger and started the refinancing process. I have been putting it off out of sheer laziness but I know it will save us a ton of money so I finally got my act together and compiled all our documents and sent everything over to the bank. Way too much adulting for a Monday morning if you ask me.

    4. GTKY: Tell us about your history with The Bump. How did you find the Bump community? What made you start participating in The Bump? Do you participate in any other TTC forums?
     ** TW child mentioned** I joined TB back around March 2014 when I was pregnant with DS and clueless, I was the first of my close friends to get pregnant and I needed people to talk to who knew what I was going through. I also had a ton of questions. I never participated in any online forum before or since but i fell in love with my bmb. At first I was turned off by the bitchiness and snark but it settled down and we found our groove. TB imploded shortly after DS was born and I hadn't been back until I got ku in January. I lurked O16 but never participated, I knew from the beginning something wasn't right. I found this board after my ectopic and have been here ever since. I am still very close with girls from my bmb, they are some of my best friends.
    TW*** Child and loss mentioned
    Married 10/12
    DS 11/14
    Ectopic 2/16
    PCOS/Ovulation Dysfunction 11/16
    IUI x 3- BFN
    Laparoscopy 3/17 Endo and tubal damage
    IVF- 4/17- 40 eggs retrieved, 10 blasts, 7 pgs tested embryos
    FET- 6/17- BFP!
    Due Feb 15, 2017
    laeberge3
  • @TScalei I think it varies from RE to RE, even what is considered RPL testing can vary by practice. My doc included a semen analysis, a C Reactive Protein test, and an immunotype test that a lot of other doctors don't include with the traditional testing. I chose to bench myself during this time and then when my doctor consulted with us on the results, he wanted us to be on the protocol he prescribed (for both of us) for three months so that it had a chance to actually impact your system before moving ahead. I would be prepared for some delays - patience is a virtue in this process (I know you already know that!).  I am sorry to hear your primary doctor has been so casual about TTC. It's very disheartening to not have people offer the appropriate level of concern/intervention when you feel/know something is off.
    Me: 40, DH: 34
    Married 5/2009; TTC #1 since 2013
    2013 - 2015: 5 pregnancies ——> 5 miscarriages 
    TTCAL with RE (RPL specialist): February 2016
    2016: 3 medicated TI cycles ---> 3 medicated IUI cycles: All BFN

    Donor Egg IVF Transfer: MAY 1, 2017
    May 11, 2017: BFP!! Beta #1: 449.1, Beta #2: 844, Beta #3: 1714
    EDD: 1/17/18, it's a GIRL! 
    E. L. A. born 12/7/2017  <3
    TScalei
  • @fivetimesnoluck - Those are much better odds. FX that this is your month!

    @RiverSong15 - Sorry for the long bench.

    @MyNamesTaken and @TScalei ; I'm sorry for your losses. Hoping we can all get back on regular cycles quickly.

    @chloe97 ; Thank you. I really am too. We have a trip to Colorado in October and I want to have all of this done before then. My OB is going to prescribe Misoprostol on Friday.

    Has anyone else used Misoprostol instead of waiting to naturally miscarry or having a D&C?

    **TW - Loss & Child mentioned**
    Me: 40  DH: 47
    Married: 10/2015
    DSD: 17
    BFP #1: 6/2/15, ectopic, metho 7/15
    BFP #2: 12/4/15, cp 12/7/15
    BFP #3: 8/5/16, MMC discovered 9/1, Misoprostol 9/19
    BFP #4: 5/10/17, EDD 1/20/2018
    Baby boy born January 12, 2018, 6 lbs 3.3 oz, 20.5 in.

    RiverSong15MyNamesTakenfivetimesnoluck
  • @fivetimesnoluck my DH always makes fun of me when I have pumpkin anything and asks why I'm not wearing my plaid shirt, skinny jeans and boots to go with it  :D I'm not testing until 11 or 12 DPO, depending on how my temps look since my LP is usually 11-12 days. That is, IF i can hold out that long. 
    fivetimesnoluckrainbowturtles
  • chloe97chloe97
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    Oh my god @PleaseSendPicklesNow that made me tear up. My 1st EDD was late June, so I lurked over in July 2016 BMB, but stopped after my MC. I'm amazed by how thoughtful they are. 
    Age 39, H 38

    Married 8/15

    Pregnancy #1, MMC, D&C November/December 2015
    Pregnancy #2, Dx with Triploidy at 12 weeks, MMC, D&C May 2016
    Pregnancy #3 BFP 10/20/2016- EDD 7/01/2017
    Hannah Sari was born on June 26, 2017
    Pregnancy #4 CP 4/2018
    TFAS 7/2018
  • @chloe97 They were so great! The July 2016 BMB had a reputation for being bitchy, but that's what I loved about them. They didn't tolerate misinformation, and they demanded that noobs follow protocol to keep the board organized. Now that our son is gone I don't keep up with them as much, because it hurts to see all the baby pictures. And I miss them.
    **TW: MORE DRAMA THAN LIFETIME TELEVISION**
    me : 36 | him: 35 | ttc since november 2014
    bfp 1 | june 2015 | mc august 2015
    bfp 2 | november 2015 | hlhs diagnosis 24 weeks | beautiful beloved baby boy born july 2016
    open heart surgery at 5 days old | charge syndrome diagnosis at 3 weeks | died august 2016
    bfp 3 | february 2017 | chemical pregnancy
    bfp 4 | may 2017 | edd january 16, 2018
    it's a BOY!
    yolandamunoz
  • @PleaseSendPicklesNow I cannot describe how sorry I am for everything you have been through. What an amazing group of women. How wonderful to have that support. Hugs.
    **TW - Loss & Child mentioned**
    Me: 40  DH: 47
    Married: 10/2015
    DSD: 17
    BFP #1: 6/2/15, ectopic, metho 7/15
    BFP #2: 12/4/15, cp 12/7/15
    BFP #3: 8/5/16, MMC discovered 9/1, Misoprostol 9/19
    BFP #4: 5/10/17, EDD 1/20/2018
    Baby boy born January 12, 2018, 6 lbs 3.3 oz, 20.5 in.

    PleaseSendPicklesNow
  • 1. Introduce yourself: Newer, first m/c in July after a FET

    2. Status: Got the word that everything is on track for my second FET tomorrow! This will be my second & last frozen embryo, so hoping for better luck all around. 

    3. Rants/raves: Totally random, but the progesterone I am on is making me crazy. I have two cats and my older one (8yrs) never sleeps with me and last night she decided to sleep next to me. This put me into, OMG, something is wrong, why is the cat sleeping with me, she must be sick!?!? Pretty sure this was fueled by taking her to the vet this weekend for a checkup and watching a sad Youtube about friend's cat that passed. 

    4. GTKY: I first started using TB during my round of IVF when I only ended up with two embryos to freeze and needed support. The ladies on the Infertility board have been so wonderful and supportive. I also lurked on the May BMB, and they seemed like a good group and not too bitchy. After my loss, I did not think about this being a board until the other week when we learned the FET in Sept was a go.
    **tw**
    Me: 33 PCOS, DH: 32

    TTC since spring 2014
    IUI #1-3, Dec 2015 - Feb 2016, BFN
    IVF #1, Feb 29 2016, ER 3/12/16, 2 PGS normal
    FET #1: June 17, Beta: June 30, BFP! 480, MC 8w2d
    FET #2: Sep13, BFN
    Unexpected natural BFP 10/27 while waiting to start next stim cycle! DD: 7/15/17

    szwill86laeberge3rainbowturtles
  • Thank you @chloe97, @riversong15 @fivetimesnoluck - I really appreciate the feedback. Its hard to know what to do. I got pg fairly quickly after my last mc so I just dont want to get pg quickly again if there is a problem. It is hard to think about delaying this process any further though. Im not expecting AF to come for another 4 weeks or so - so I still have a lot of time to decide. Im just hoping that the dr tmrw can be helpful.

    @pleasesendpicklesnow - That is so incredibly nice and thoughtful what the July BMB did for you. Im so glad you had that support during a difficult time.

    @mjacks16 - fx for you!

    @newmommycoop - I didn't opt for the Mistropol I miscarried naturally both times. I know that Mistropol makes everything a bit more intense and sometimes doesn't work the first time.  Honestly, that kind of scared me. Since I mc naturally the first time and it was "manageable" I wanted to wait it out so I waited 2 weeks to mc naturally. If it was any longer than 2 weeks I was going to call my drs office and try to go the d&c route. I figured I could at least schedule the D&c and then if I mc naturally in the interim I could cancel. Not meaning to alarm with this just telling you my thought process for it. Im so sorry you are still waiting I know how awful it is. Im sending you hugs and fx it just happens naturally for you soon!
    RiverSong15PleaseSendPicklesNow
  • 1. Introduce yourself (if you're new):  Re-intro'ing.  MC in February; TTCAL since April. 

    2. Status (WTO, TWW, Benched, etc.):  WTO, CD 17.  OPKs remain white as can be, so probably have another week yet before FW.

    3. Rants/raves:  This cycle follows the first from last month where I believe I ovulated since the MC, so my body is taking it's sweet time regulating.  I did bloodwork in July because of abnormal uterine bleeding (~5 weeks of bleeding) and it shows a slightly elevated TSH level and elevated prolactin.  I have an appt with my OBGYN Wednesday so going to address those issues then.  But, I'm feeling much better this cycle and hopeful that I'll ovulate. 

    This Wednesday (9/14) was supposed to by my first EDD, so that's weighing heavily, especially as I got news this week that two others who had MC after me have their BFPs, including my SIL.  

    4. GTKY: I didn't find the Bump until after my MC, but I believe I was trying to find information about how long it would take until my hcg levels would drop to zero and found the Miscarriage/Loss Board.  It was very comforting to know I wasn't alone in this and I've lurked the forums, including TTGP and TTCAL for months.  You all are so knowledgeable and helpful!
    Me: 30     DH: 33
    BFP: 1.6.16 | MC: 2.17.16
    BFP: 10.3.16 | CP: 10.11.16
    BFP: 12.14.16 | CP: 12.14.16
    BFP:  1.23.17 | EDD 10.6.17 -- Noel Abraham born 10.7.17, 7lbs 13oz, 21 inches <3
     

    yolandamunoz
  • @TScalei I really wanted it to happen naturally, but it is coming up on two weeks since I found out. I don't know why I am so hesitant about having a D&C. I guess I was hoping that the misoprostol would be less traumatic. My OB did say that it may not work fully and I could potentially still require a D&C, but it seems like that could be the case with miscarrying naturally or having a D&C (although maybe not as common). I don't remember who, but someone here said that the first D&C didn't remove all the tissue and they had to go back for a second. Ugh, I don't know what the right answer is for me.

    Anybody else have experience with or knowledge about misoprostol?
    **TW - Loss & Child mentioned**
    Me: 40  DH: 47
    Married: 10/2015
    DSD: 17
    BFP #1: 6/2/15, ectopic, metho 7/15
    BFP #2: 12/4/15, cp 12/7/15
    BFP #3: 8/5/16, MMC discovered 9/1, Misoprostol 9/19
    BFP #4: 5/10/17, EDD 1/20/2018
    Baby boy born January 12, 2018, 6 lbs 3.3 oz, 20.5 in.

    TScalei
  • @NewMommyCoop I took cytotec for an elective termination many years ago and chose a D&C for my first MC bc I didn't want to go through the intense pain of passing the tissue and have to see the contents of conception. D&C is traumatic in a different way. If you have great nurses, it's better, but I was amazed by insensitivity of the people caring for me. Also, the risk of scarring is always there with a D&C.

    Its hard to compare b/c I took cytotec at 6 weeks and had 2 D&Cs at 10+ weeks, but in terms of recovering and anxiety- I thought I recovered much faster from cytotec. I also obviously wasn't TTC right away, so it's hard to judge.  A friend had no issues and said that she felt good enough to go to work the next day. I bled like crazy for a week and passed the sac a week later- on Xmas at a rest stop in the middle of Wisconsin, alone bc my BF at the time was visiting family out of the country. 

    Either way it just sucks and I wish you weren't going through this!
    Age 39, H 38

    Married 8/15

    Pregnancy #1, MMC, D&C November/December 2015
    Pregnancy #2, Dx with Triploidy at 12 weeks, MMC, D&C May 2016
    Pregnancy #3 BFP 10/20/2016- EDD 7/01/2017
    Hannah Sari was born on June 26, 2017
    Pregnancy #4 CP 4/2018
    TFAS 7/2018
  • @NewMommyCoop I took the pill for one of my losses and I survived, but it was definitely different than the natural MCs I have had for comparison. It caused me to throw up and have diarrhea (for a brief moment in time) and the cramping was more intense than my natural losses. I know now, but wasn't advised at the time that I could have (should have) taken pain reliever.

    I never elected to have D&C, mostly because I didn't need to, but I also was scared of how much it would cost - even with insurance - and the thought of getting that bill always seemed like it would be insult on top of injury. But, again... I didn't have to have one - I am sure I would have followed doctor's orders should that have been the case. I am sure you will feel fine with whatever you decide. It's a tough place to be though, and I am sorry you're going through it at all.
    Me: 40, DH: 34
    Married 5/2009; TTC #1 since 2013
    2013 - 2015: 5 pregnancies ——> 5 miscarriages 
    TTCAL with RE (RPL specialist): February 2016
    2016: 3 medicated TI cycles ---> 3 medicated IUI cycles: All BFN

    Donor Egg IVF Transfer: MAY 1, 2017
    May 11, 2017: BFP!! Beta #1: 449.1, Beta #2: 844, Beta #3: 1714
    EDD: 1/17/18, it's a GIRL! 
    E. L. A. born 12/7/2017  <3
  • Thanks for al the birthday wishes everyone! 

    @fivetimesnoluck the HP queen got a remote control wand for my TV. My dreams are complete 
    BFP #1: 1.22.16                 MMC: 2.29.16 ( tetrasomy 11, partial deletion 1, XXX) D&C: 3.2.16
    BFP #2: 4.14.16                 CP: 4.17.16
    BFP #3: 6.10.2016             CP: 6.17.16
    RE appt: 6.27.2016- saline sono all clear
    Progenity: + carrier Tay-Sachs, Gaucher's, hemachromatosis. DH: carrier Alpha 1 anti-trypsin
    PCOS, hypothyroid, MTHFR, hx of LEEP in 2006
    Clomid + TI Cycle #1: 50mg Trigger 8.24.2016- BFN
    Clomid 75mg + IUI#1 9.25.2016- BFP #4 10/6
    Beta #1 15   Beta #2 38    Beta #3- 71     beta #4 171   Beta # 5- 21  Natural MC 10/21
    HSG- clear
    IVF Jan 2017
    Egg Retrieval 1.22.17: 32 eggs retrieved,29 mature, 24 fertilized, 14 to blastocyst for biopsy
    PGS results: 4 PGS normal 2 XX, 2 XY
    FET: 3.13.2017 for 2 PGS embryos
    Beta#1: 3.24.2017......... 78; Beta # 2 241; Beta #3 4198
    Baby BOY due 11.29.2017






    brooklyngirl18fivetimesnoluck
  • @chloe97 That is great information. I did ask my OB if any of the three options were better/worse for TTC ASAP. She said no. She also said there are no lingering affects from the misoprostol/cytotec.  I am only measuring at 6 weeks, so I wonder if it won't be bad.  I am so sorry you had to endure that by yourself.

    @fivetimesnoluck ; My OB did not mention a pill. She said it would be a cream that you put on a tampon and wear overnight. Did you have any MMC? As for doctor's orders, she said she preferred to wait and see, but she would not let it go past four weeks. When I talked to her last week about waiting another week and then doing the cream, she thought that was a good approach. I guess we will talk about it more on Friday. I will ask her about pain meds though. Thank you for the info. 
    **TW - Loss & Child mentioned**
    Me: 40  DH: 47
    Married: 10/2015
    DSD: 17
    BFP #1: 6/2/15, ectopic, metho 7/15
    BFP #2: 12/4/15, cp 12/7/15
    BFP #3: 8/5/16, MMC discovered 9/1, Misoprostol 9/19
    BFP #4: 5/10/17, EDD 1/20/2018
    Baby boy born January 12, 2018, 6 lbs 3.3 oz, 20.5 in.

  • Happy Birthday @DungeonTrollMel!

    @mjacks16 FX for your FET tomorrow, keep us posted :)

    @PleaseSendPicklesNow I was in the July '16 BMB briefly too and loved the ladies there.  I lurked the August one because my EDD was end of July but found so much comfort in the July one that I just stayed there until my m/c.






    PleaseSendPicklesNow
  • First of all Happy birthday @DungeonTrollMel !!!

    About misoprostol @NewMommyCoop I took it just before my D&C. I had a MMC that was detected at 8w and only measured 6w. My doctor told me to wait 2 weeks and if it didn't happen naturally, he recommended the D&C. So the day of the procedure I was at the hospital from the morning (total fast) and they gave me the pill 2 or 3 hours before the procedure to help getting all the tissue out. I started cramping and bleeding intensely, but soon enough I was going to surgery.

    My procedure went very well, I bled a lot for a week (it was much worse than 1st day AF for like 5 days) but got strong pain medication to handle it at home. I took days off from work and rested at home. It was good for me to stop being on the limbo and have closure about my loss. Then I started to grieve my angel baby that was no longer with me.

    i hope yours will go very well too!
    Married 06.21.14 / TTC since 11.15 /
    BFP 01.03.2016 / MMC 6w5d D&C 02.2016 // BFP 05.06.16 / natural MC 05.12.16
    Benched 06.2016-08.2016 / TTC again 09.2016! On a diet. Cranky.
    BFP 10.02.2016 / NT scan at 12w looked normal / Anatomy scan at 20w everything ok
    Team blue! / EDD June 11th 2017
    DAVID ROGER was born on May 23rd at 37 weeks.

    Architect, Peruvian living in Chile. I love art, opera and good chocolate.
    Started PhD studies in Architecture on 2017.
    Fur mom of a rescued miniature poodle called Luke Skywalker.


    Lilypie First Birthday tickers
  • @yolandamunoz ; Was the natural MC less painful/less bleeding? I know everyone is different, and every loss is probably different than a previous as well. Just trying to weigh all factors, pros, cons, etc. that I can before I go see my doc on Friday.
    **TW - Loss & Child mentioned**
    Me: 40  DH: 47
    Married: 10/2015
    DSD: 17
    BFP #1: 6/2/15, ectopic, metho 7/15
    BFP #2: 12/4/15, cp 12/7/15
    BFP #3: 8/5/16, MMC discovered 9/1, Misoprostol 9/19
    BFP #4: 5/10/17, EDD 1/20/2018
    Baby boy born January 12, 2018, 6 lbs 3.3 oz, 20.5 in.

  • @NewMommyCoop for me the D&c was a better experience. I was really scared of it happening when I was alone or at work. 

    T w -----------




    When I had my CP that was a natural MC it surprised me at home really early -thank God- and DH was with me. It was really painful and a lot of bleeding. But the worst part was having to see the things coming out of me. And then expecting some more bleeding and tissue passing. That was so awful to experience.

    im sorry it sucks so bad!

    hugs to you
    Married 06.21.14 / TTC since 11.15 /
    BFP 01.03.2016 / MMC 6w5d D&C 02.2016 // BFP 05.06.16 / natural MC 05.12.16
    Benched 06.2016-08.2016 / TTC again 09.2016! On a diet. Cranky.
    BFP 10.02.2016 / NT scan at 12w looked normal / Anatomy scan at 20w everything ok
    Team blue! / EDD June 11th 2017
    DAVID ROGER was born on May 23rd at 37 weeks.

    Architect, Peruvian living in Chile. I love art, opera and good chocolate.
    Started PhD studies in Architecture on 2017.
    Fur mom of a rescued miniature poodle called Luke Skywalker.


    Lilypie First Birthday tickers
  • **lurking/siggy warning/TW (previous losses described)**

    @NewMommyCoop I had two D&C's and recovery was vastly different between the two. After my first, I had heavy bleeding/passing clots and lots of contraction like cramping the next day. It was very intense. I bled for about ten days afterwards, like a heavy period tapering off. After my second, I had a small amount of brown spotting for a day or two. No pain, essentially. Just wanted to share that the experiences can be different for each person, and different for the same person more than once. It's hard to predict what path is the easiest to choose. Each option had pros and cons. I found that being asleep and knowing things were "complete" was very helpful to me. I hope you can come to a decision that is right for you. Sending hugs your way. 
    My Journey (**TW**):

    Pregnancy #1: BFP 11/3/15, MMC same month
    Pregnancy #2: BFP 2/25/16, MMC 3/16
    Recurrent loss workup negative
    Pregnancy #3: BFP 7/6/16, Rainbow Baby Isaac Michael Born 3/23/17 <3
    Pregnancy #4: BFP 12/22/17, EDD 9/3/18

    yolandamunoz
  • Thank you @yolandamunoz ; and @Wishilivedinflorida ; I really appreciate it! Eeveryone's wisdom will help me make the right decision for me. 
    **TW - Loss & Child mentioned**
    Me: 40  DH: 47
    Married: 10/2015
    DSD: 17
    BFP #1: 6/2/15, ectopic, metho 7/15
    BFP #2: 12/4/15, cp 12/7/15
    BFP #3: 8/5/16, MMC discovered 9/1, Misoprostol 9/19
    BFP #4: 5/10/17, EDD 1/20/2018
    Baby boy born January 12, 2018, 6 lbs 3.3 oz, 20.5 in.

    yolandamunozchloe97
  • @NewMommyCoop - I have had 2 D&C. With the first, i was measuring about 6 weeks, I partially miscarried a couple days before I had the actual d&c. The pain was so intense and I was bleeding so much that I ended up driving myself to the ER (DH was out of town). They ended up moving the d&c up a day because of my ER trip. Afterwards I felt physically well and emotionally I had some closure because I knew the physical part was done. 
    The 2nd d&c, I did end up with some retained tissue and my OB assured me that this is a rare occurrence. I had a hysterscopy and d&c to remove the retained tissue but what they found was that I had a fibroid and the tissue was stuck to it, so both were removed. The fibroid may have been causing the MC's, so I'm glad they needed to go back in with a scope.
    I hope this helps.
    *** TW ***
    Me 31, DH 30
    Married: 07/2014, TTC since 12/2015
    BFP #1: 1/1/16, MC 1/14/16 (6 weeks), D&C 2/5/16 (9 weeks)
    BFP #2: 5/25/16, MC 6/23/16 (8 weeks), D&C 6/24/16, 2nd D&C for retained tissue and fibroid removal 9/1/16
    BFP #3: 12/24/16  EDD 09/04/2017
    Pregnancy Ticker
  • @NewMommyCoop we're thinking of you, hope this resolves for you soon.
    Happy, happy birthday @DungeonTrollMel!!!

    1. Hey! Again! I'm Amber! "ruka" is Swahili for "jump". Just always liked it. CP January and developed Graves disease about 2 weeks later. @laeberge3 I'll take some of your TSH, if you don't mind  ;). It's finally started to not be "undetectable" but I still have a long way to go.

    2. TWW 3 DPO.

    3. R/R. Nothing too crazy this week. 

    4. GTKY: I started lurking on TB immediately but about one week later when I found out it was a CP, I discovered the miscarriage board and what an amazing, strong group of people we all are. Which led me to TTCAL. I couldn't even lurk for a long time on TTGP because of what PP said, now I do occasionally but find it's the online equivalent of a mosh pit, no?  ;)
    Me: 39 DH: 39
    CP 1/25/16 4.5 weeks, developed Graves' disease
    fivetimesnolucklaeberge3
  • Oh and random comment on the GTKY- I know Baby Center gets a bad rap on here. I've lurked on their BMB and other boards and shuddered, BUT I did want to say that their specialized boards have actually been Incredibly helpful to me. They have much more specialized knowledge then what your will find on here or PGAL or TB BMBs. Their NIPT board, Triploidy board, and TMFR board were wonderful resources for me when I was going through my NIPT issues, CVS, and got our Triploidy diagnosis. I have met some wonderful resources that had gone through similar issues as I was going through. It was helpful. I try to hang around the NIPT board to chat with the ladies that aren't getting "low fetal fraction" no results that can indicate chromosomal abnormality. 

    Not going to lie, but it kind of pisses me off that TB got rid of a lot of these "controversial" boards and groups have disappeared. It would be nice to have a place to go when your pregnancy wasn't textbook to discuss the issues specific to your pregnancy. Instead you have to count on your BMB having someone knowledgable in it. Not helpful.
    Age 39, H 38

    Married 8/15

    Pregnancy #1, MMC, D&C November/December 2015
    Pregnancy #2, Dx with Triploidy at 12 weeks, MMC, D&C May 2016
    Pregnancy #3 BFP 10/20/2016- EDD 7/01/2017
    Hannah Sari was born on June 26, 2017
    Pregnancy #4 CP 4/2018
    TFAS 7/2018
    Aera11
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