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How soon did you wait to have intercourse after BFP?

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edited September 2016 in Pregnant after IF
I know I'm not the only one who wants to know. :) When were you given the ok to have intercourse again? My RE originally said after I see the heartbeat but I totally forgot to ask when I had my u/s last week. 

Re: How soon did you wait to have intercourse after BFP?

  • This really depends on your own experience. Our doc gave us the okay after about week 8 or so. At week 20 we had an issue and are now celibate again, probably until after baby comes. It's going to be a loong 18 more weeks. But I'll do anything for this baby! Before you wing it, I would call your doctor's office and ask. 
    Married May 2009, TTC since November 2012 (Together since 2006 ish - had my eyes on him since 2001)
    Me: 32 (33 in May), Him: 37 (January)

    DX: Me: High Prolactin, Possible Autoimmune Disease Issues, though RE not concerned (?)  New RE has a plan!!
           Him: Minor Varicocele, low morphology, slightly low count

    History:

    Beta 5/9/2016 BFP!!
    Embryo transfer scheduled for April 28, 2016 and beta test May 9, 2016 (day after Mother's Day!)
    Transfer Meds include: Lupron Depot (4/1), Minivelle Patch (every 3rd day), Estradiol (3x daily), Amoxicillin, Progesterone in Oil, Methylprednisonlone. Lovenox and baby asprin added after transfer. 

    3/22/16 - Sono Saline ultrasound cyst to be aspirated on 4/1/16 if not cleared up by 3/29 US - It cleared on its own
    Retrieval 3/4/16 - 26 eggs retrieved, 23 mature, 20 fertilized, 14 embryos currently frozen
    Starting IVF Stims on +/- Feb 22, 2016
    HSG scheduled for 1-26-16 - All clear "beautiful uterus" (though inverted)

    Switched clinics and now prepping for IVF in February / March

    Fourth IUI -  CD3-7 100 Clomid w/ Ovidrel Trigger - December, 2015 - BFN
    Third IUI -  CD3-7 100 Clomid w/ Ovidrel Trigger - November, 2015 - BFN
    Second IUI - CD3-7 100 Clomid w/ Ovidrel Trigger - September, 2015 - BFN
    Started Prolactin Medication October 15 - Levels quickly regulated to with in normal range
    First IUI - CD3-7 100 Clomid w/ Ovidrel Trigger - August, 2015 - BFN
    After no BFPs (ever) First RE/Urologist visit in Feb 2015
    HSG w/ OB, 2014 = all clear
    Trying to conceive since November 2012
  • I too was told to wait until after seeing the heartbeat on an ultrasound. You could always call your doc and ask!
    About us:
    Me - 28, Lean PCOS
    DH - 31
    Married June 2010, TTC since March 2014
    Blog: ourbinarystar.com

    FET cycle #3 Transfer July 28th 2016, Triplets born healthy on February 26th 2017 at 33w1d!

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  • Yes, I'll definitely call tomorrow but was just curious to hear from others. 
  • I was also told after the heartbeat I think . But I ended up having two subchorionic hematomas so I was told not to until my bleeding had resolved for a few days . I'm honestly still afraid to because I don't want to bleed ! 

    **BFP and loss warning**

    Me: 29
    DH: 29
    Us: Married Valentine's Day, 2015
    DH: No issues.
    Me: PCOS, unexplained infertility (whatever that means!!)
    June 2015 Medicated TI cycle: BFN
    July 2015:  Medicated TI cycle: BFN
    August 2015: IUI: BFP. Chemical pregnancy :(
    October 2015: IUI: BFN
    January 2016: Egg retrieval: 10 frozen embryos!
    March 2016: FET Cycle- 2 embryos transferred!: BFP !
  • I was given the OK to after hearing the heart beat but I was afraid to so we waited until we were out of 1st tri. 
  • We were give the ok after our 7 week apt. I'm on crinone and my re told us there's a chance of bleeding after and if that happens to stop so we're not taking the chance until I'm off the crinone at the end of the first trimester. 
  • I was never told to not have intercourse. Only like a day or two after putting the embryo back, but that was it.
    They told me to live life like I normally would. So definitely check with your doctors as they all say something different, and go with what you feel comfortable with.

    **********************************************************************************************************************************

    Daisypath Happy Birthday tickers

    babylonghorn16peregrinefalconxnellin-2
  • After FET our instructions were to abstain for about 5 days, I think we had intercourse once after that, then I was worried because I saw that a lot of other women were told to wait much longer, and also DH was sort of scared. Right after we heard the heartbeat at week 6 I had bleeding due to a SCH and was put on pelvic rest. The SCH was gone at week 10 but we forgot to ask and I also started feeling horrible with nausea or exhausted almost every night. My following appointment was week 15 and we were officially cleared but sadly haven't gotten to it. I honestly never thought we would go so long without doing it because 1. I always felt that we should continue our normal activities and 2. I never imagined I would feel so crappy, but here we are, we would do anything to make sure our baby is ok but not going to lie, it's difficult!
    37 y.o 
    TTC since October 2014
    DX: Unexplained fertility 
    3 Failed IUI's 2015
    1st IVF cycle March 2016 , planned ICSI, PGS, FET
    ER 3/31/16 30 retrieved, 26 fertilized normally
    Sent 8 embryos for PGS: 5 normal (3 AA, 1BA, 1BC)
    FET 5/11/16 (1 embryo)
    Beta 5/23/16 BFN  :(
    2nd FET 6/12/16 (1 5AA embryo)
    ++++TW++++
    Beta 6/22/16 : BFP!!!  169 
    Beta #2 6/24/16: 412
    DD born 3/2/17
  • My RE said I could behave as normal. That said, we probably didn't have sex again for two weeks simply because our schedules didn't line up.
    DX PCOS + mild male factor
    TTC since Dec. 2015
    Current Treatment: Metformin, Provera, Letrozole, Trigger, IUI
    Past Treatment: Clomid + Metformin x 3 BFN
    Letrozole 5 mg + Trigger shot + IUI = BFP!
    Beta confirmed 8/22
    EDD 5/1/17
  • We were told a few weeks after transfer, so we waited until week 6. Then I had spotting, most likely as a result of irritation from progesterone suppositories, so my RE said to wait until he gave us the OK. Then we got the ok from RE and OB once I got discharged, but then had another case of bleeding at week 15. I'm honestly terrified to bleed again, so I keep holding off still. Since my placenta is low right now anything can cause bleeding, including intercourse, so I'm trying to refrain from having another panic attack. 
    ***History & TW in Spoiler***

    ***bfp & child warning***
    TTC - since 2014
    7 rounds of Clomid - BFN
    IUI #1 - October 2015 - BFN
    IUI #2 - November 2015 - BFN
    IUI #3 - December 2015 - BFN
    IVF #1 - March 2016
    Retrieval #1 - April 2016
    FET #1 - May 2016 - BFP!!! DS - Born January 2017
    Trying for baby #2...
    FET #2 - January 2018 - BFN  
    IVF/Retrieval #2 - January 2019
    IVF/Retrieval #3 - March 2019
    FET #3 - April 2019 - BFP!!! - EDD: January 2020


  • I think we were told to wait until about Week 7. Then we had very little because I felt so sick in the evenings.

    ---Trigger warning---

    Me: 31 DH: 27
    TTC since April 2013
    Two cancelled IUIs in Aug and Sept '15 due to low motility/count
    IVF round 1: January 2016
    ER: February 17, 2016; 9 retrieved, 7 mature, 7 fertilized
    Day 5 Blastocysts: 5 BB, 1 AB, all normal from PGS
    FET date: May 11, '16; transferred 1 AB embryo
    First beta: May 23, '16: 998!!  Second: May 25, '16: 1648
    EDD: January 27, 2017
    BabyFruit Ticker
  • My RE cleared us after the first u/s, however I think my DH freaked out after reading some stuff online so he said we should wait until the next u/s, which coincidentally is tomorrow 
    Me: 34 DH: 43
    Married March 2012
    TTC #1 since 2012
    Dx: unexplained infertility (+ treated for hypothyroidism)
    May 7, 2016: IUI#1 w/Clomid - BFN :'(
    June 6, 2016: IUI #2 w/Clomid - BFN :'(
    IVF Consult 1 & 2: June 10, 2016 / July 15, 2016 
    Started Stims: July 15, 2016 (Lupron, Gonal-F, and Menopur)
    Trigger ----> 08/03 ----> ER on 08/05 ----> Transfer ------> 08/10
    BETA 1 (8/22) - 401  - BETA 2 (8/24) - 541 - BETA 3 (8/26) - 913
    Baby Chadwell's First U/S: 09/06/2016 / EDD: 04/28/2017
  • my RE said we were fine after heartbeat but my OB wanted us to wait until at least week 13. 
    Me: 33 (no known issues)
    DH: 33 (lower motility; 0 morphology)
    TTC since Oct 2013
    IVF round 1 January 2016 (w/ ICSI)
    ER: February 17, 2016; 15 eggs retrieved, 14 mature, 11 fertilized
    Day 5 Blastocysts: 8 sent for PGS - 5 Normal
    FET date: April 12, 2016 - DS born Dec 7, 2016
    IVF round 2: FET : Oct 4 - 1st Beta 188!



    BabyFruit Ticker
  • @Tulips29 we are in the same club. Even if we get the all clear, I don't think I will risk it. Last night I was up for hours worried about what could happen.
    Married May 2009, TTC since November 2012 (Together since 2006 ish - had my eyes on him since 2001)
    Me: 32 (33 in May), Him: 37 (January)

    DX: Me: High Prolactin, Possible Autoimmune Disease Issues, though RE not concerned (?)  New RE has a plan!!
           Him: Minor Varicocele, low morphology, slightly low count

    History:

    Beta 5/9/2016 BFP!!
    Embryo transfer scheduled for April 28, 2016 and beta test May 9, 2016 (day after Mother's Day!)
    Transfer Meds include: Lupron Depot (4/1), Minivelle Patch (every 3rd day), Estradiol (3x daily), Amoxicillin, Progesterone in Oil, Methylprednisonlone. Lovenox and baby asprin added after transfer. 

    3/22/16 - Sono Saline ultrasound cyst to be aspirated on 4/1/16 if not cleared up by 3/29 US - It cleared on its own
    Retrieval 3/4/16 - 26 eggs retrieved, 23 mature, 20 fertilized, 14 embryos currently frozen
    Starting IVF Stims on +/- Feb 22, 2016
    HSG scheduled for 1-26-16 - All clear "beautiful uterus" (though inverted)

    Switched clinics and now prepping for IVF in February / March

    Fourth IUI -  CD3-7 100 Clomid w/ Ovidrel Trigger - December, 2015 - BFN
    Third IUI -  CD3-7 100 Clomid w/ Ovidrel Trigger - November, 2015 - BFN
    Second IUI - CD3-7 100 Clomid w/ Ovidrel Trigger - September, 2015 - BFN
    Started Prolactin Medication October 15 - Levels quickly regulated to with in normal range
    First IUI - CD3-7 100 Clomid w/ Ovidrel Trigger - August, 2015 - BFN
    After no BFPs (ever) First RE/Urologist visit in Feb 2015
    HSG w/ OB, 2014 = all clear
    Trying to conceive since November 2012
  • @vssbrm I hear ya. My OB gave me the go ahead, but I'm still scared. Especially with a low placenta, he said intercourse can definitely lead to bleeding. No, thank you. I'd rather wait than see blood again. 
    ***History & TW in Spoiler***

    ***bfp & child warning***
    TTC - since 2014
    7 rounds of Clomid - BFN
    IUI #1 - October 2015 - BFN
    IUI #2 - November 2015 - BFN
    IUI #3 - December 2015 - BFN
    IVF #1 - March 2016
    Retrieval #1 - April 2016
    FET #1 - May 2016 - BFP!!! DS - Born January 2017
    Trying for baby #2...
    FET #2 - January 2018 - BFN  
    IVF/Retrieval #2 - January 2019
    IVF/Retrieval #3 - March 2019
    FET #3 - April 2019 - BFP!!! - EDD: January 2020


  • HA! I just posted about this in the Random posts for this week. So, let me get this straight. Some of you are choosing not to have SEX until after the first trimester or at a certain week gestation BUT are you still doing other stuff? I mean, what is it about sex that is the concern here? Is it the trusting or the penis or orgasiming..I guess im confused. I mean, I would really love to get freaky but if it's going to compromise things then NO WAY. 
  • Different doctors have different opinions @frustrated and ttc
    I only got a 'no-go' a few days after egg transfer due to risk of infection. 
    After that I was allowed to get freaky again, as they didn't consider me high risk and treated my pregnancy as if I got pregnant naturally. 
    You could have some bleeding due to sex, as blood flow has increased, progesterone may have soften tissue, which causes bleeding, and as the uterus grows orgasm might be uncomfortable (and due to extra blood and sensitive come fast and hard!) 
    My libido was very low first trimester as I was in and out of the hospital.
    My second trimester it got back, but I was very concerned about my body that changed, the different feeling of it all, and now in my third I have a very exhausted bf...

    **********************************************************************************************************************************

    Daisypath Happy Birthday tickers

  • Was told not to have sex 48 hours before or after transfer, but that's all the restrictions we had. Had sex before and right after our BFP and all good over here! DH wears protection bc of the zika fear (we live in TX, so ya never know). I've heard no concrete evidence as to why we shouldn't have sex, so we are continuing to live our lives normally. Of course everyone's situation is different - I would see what doc says and question if she says no or gives you a wait until date (doctors LOVE me lol).
    *TW - Pregnancy mentioned*
    Me: 28 DH: 33, Married May 2014
    3 failed IUIs Dec '15 - Feb '16
    IVF April/May 2016 - 1 failed fresh transfer. 11 snow angels.
    1st FET 7/29/16 = BFP
    Lawson arrived on 4/24/2017 at 7lbs 15oz, 21 1/2 inches long!
    Surprise pregnancy!! Baby #2 due 10/11/18 <3
  • My RE said this exactly "No deep penetration until after 12 weeks, but use your imagination with anything else". DH was red faced, but I couldn't stop laughing. Is guess the worry is early bleeding?
    *TW* Pregnancy/Loss Mentioned
    Me: 37 /PCOS DH: 37/no issues TTC: 7/13
    Started with RE 12/14; 3 failed rounds of clomid, started letrozole
    IUI #1 & #2- BFN
    IVF #1 - 9/15 Cancelled Day 9
    IVF #2- started stims 10/24  ER- 11/15 6 eggs- 5 fertilized/ 1 frozen
    FET #1 -1 embryo-12/9/15- BFN
    IVF #3- started stims 1/22/16  ER- 2/8 33 eggs(!)- 21 mature, all 21 fertilized - 6 snowflakes!
    FET #2- 2 embryos- April 4th-BFN
    ERA-June 8- results show need 12 addt'l hours of PIO
    FET #3-  2 embryos transferred August 14,2016  BFP! on 8/24! Beta #1-22  Beta #2-83 Beta #3-368 
    Confirmed singleton-Heartbeat on 9/19-160bpm! EDD: May 1, 2017, It's a girl!!
    Pre-term labor/loss-stillborn at 18w. 
    FET #4- 1 embryo-Aug 12th-BFP on 8/23 Beta #1-112 Beta #2-298 Beta #3-1010
    Confirmed Identicals!- Heartbeats seen on 9/8  Miscarriage on 9/18
    FET #5- 1 embryo- 1/12/18-BFN
    Lots of testing and finally determined I have elevated natural killer cells. Will begin prednisone and IVL treatment before next round.
    IVF#4- April 2018 8 eggs, 7 fertilized/3 frozen
    FET #6- 1 embryo- 6/11/18- BFP on 6/21 Beta #1-446, Beta #2-1841 
    Confirmed singleton- 6/29/18 HB-157 EDD: February 22, 2019. It's a Boy!



    BabyFruit Ticker 
    clt2pwm11
  • Thank you all for your responses. I should have updated you all. My RE said sex is ok as long as my spotting has stopped which it has but we still havent had sex. :( I'm having another u/s tomorrow because she wants to see me before I leave on vacation so I'll ask again just to reconfirm. 
    AandDM2014
  • @Steff_99 I understand your hesitation. I too feel a tiny bit concerned about having sex, though I haven't had any bleeding in over a month. At this point, I'm most worried if it's going to hurt because it's been so long since we've done it! Hopefully you guys will be able to relax and have fun on vacation and lots of wonderful sex!
    About us:
    Me - 28, Lean PCOS
    DH - 31
    Married June 2010, TTC since March 2014
    Blog: ourbinarystar.com

    FET cycle #3 Transfer July 28th 2016, Triplets born healthy on February 26th 2017 at 33w1d!

  • Wow, I'm glad I found this thread as I was lurking around this forum because I have really been wondering about this! I am SO paranoid about messing anything up, but all my RE said was "nothing in your vagina for 5 days after transfer." That's it, that's all the instruction I was given. I am way too scared to have sex right now, especially since we only JUST got our BFP. I'm worried about when it will be okay because I do want to live my life normally... I guess I'll ask my RE when I see him at our 7 week ultrasound.
    ***BFP & Child Warning***

    Me: 33, DH: 37 ~ TTC since 2014
    IUI #1-3 (Nov 2015, Feb 2016, May 2016) = BFNs
    IVF ER (July 2016) = 7 PGS normal embryos
    FET #1 (Sept 2016) = BFP! DD born 5/30/17
    FET #2 (April 2019) = BFN
    FET #3 (July 2019) = BFP! EDD 4/4/20
    AandDM2014
  • @wifeinraleigh28 I will say this: both time we've gotten bfps, we went ahead and DTD, even though we were told to wait until after the first ultrasound. DH and I have a hard time NOT having sex, so waiting like 3 weeks was not really a thing for us. We were careful, and I was on top to I could control everything, in case something started to hurt or feel weird. We were fine, babies were fine, babies are still fine. We sort of looked at it like this: if we were a normal, fertile couple, we'd definitely be having sex during the TWW, and after getting a BFP, so if we're careful now, it should all be fine. Trust what your guy says.
    About us:
    Me - 28, Lean PCOS
    DH - 31
    Married June 2010, TTC since March 2014
    Blog: ourbinarystar.com

    FET cycle #3 Transfer July 28th 2016, Triplets born healthy on February 26th 2017 at 33w1d!

    wifeinraleigh28
  • @AandDM2014 You're right, regular fertile couples have sex all the time and often don't even find out they are pregnant until way after we do. But we also have a lot more to lose... with all the money we spend and the treatments we go through. I will just follow my RE's instructions with whatever he says. I'm sure it will be fine, and I just need to relax! Which is what I keep telling myself through everything... such a worry wart!
    ***BFP & Child Warning***

    Me: 33, DH: 37 ~ TTC since 2014
    IUI #1-3 (Nov 2015, Feb 2016, May 2016) = BFNs
    IVF ER (July 2016) = 7 PGS normal embryos
    FET #1 (Sept 2016) = BFP! DD born 5/30/17
    FET #2 (April 2019) = BFN
    FET #3 (July 2019) = BFP! EDD 4/4/20
    AandDM2014
  • I'm so glad to see this conversation. I don't remember that being part of our instructions but then I was SOOOO not in the mood anyway--I had a rough ER and at my 7-week ultrasound my ovaries were STILL inflamed and angry. I did get the formal ok at my 7 week ultrasound though.
    Me: 36, DH 38
    MFI: somewhat short-lived sperm, otherwise unexplained
    2012-2016: TTC #1
    2015-2016: 5 negative IUIs
    August 2016: IVF with ICSI: 13 day-5 blasts, non-PGS tested
    BFP on fresh transfer, DD born May 2017
    FET #1 planned for January 2019, but surprise BFP December 2018: EDD August 2019

  • I'm glad I ran across this thread..... we were also told to wait 4-5 days after FET but nothing else. Will probably ask my RE now

    Me: 38 | DH: 34 | Us: Married since April 2014 | TCC 20 months before IVF

    Me: unexplained infertility (AMA?) | DH: No issues

    1st IVF cycle with ICSI & PGS | ER 1/21  | FET  4/26, ectopic

    2nd FET 09/20 | BFP! | 6/8 due date

  • I am chiming in late. But we were told no intercourse until we got the good to go at my first ultrasound at 7 weeks. I think this is because I did a fresh transfer and my ovaries are still big. 

    **Trigger warning**

    Age: 25 DH: 28 Together since 2011, Married May 2014 and TTC since April 2015

    MFI (3% morphology) 

    3/16 - IUI with femara & ovidrel - BFN

    4/16 - IUI with femara & ovidrel - BFN

    6/16 IUI with femara & ovidrel - BFN

    8/19/16 - IVF - 

    • Retrieval 9/4
    • Transfer 9/6
    • 9/16 - BFP 1st Beta -110 
    • 9/20 - 2nd beta - 762
    • TWINS!!!! EDD 5/28/2017

  • We were told we just had to wait a few days or a week. We waited 2 weeks.
    *****Losses Mentioned*****BFP MENTIONED*****ALL WELCOME******ALL ABOARD!!

    Me: 42, DH: 46, Married: 11/12
    Losses: MMC#1 11/12 BO, MC#2 11/13 at 8w BO?, MMC#3 8/14 chromo healthy M @12 weeks, stopped growing at 10.
    Negligible AMH, FSH finally went high. Pursued DE.

    DD born at 38w2d on 5-27-16. Finally!!

    Pregnant again with OE. EDD 11/9/17 Girl!




    BabyGaga
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