We will tell our parents after our first us at. 8 weeks. Friends after that and social media after the first trimester. After our loss we are hesitant to blurt it out just yet. I'm not sure if anyone felt this way after their loss.. But I was almost embarrassed.. Maybe embarrassed is the wrong word.. Like I let people down? It was a first for my parents and they were so excited. I felt like people didn't know what to say? It would be easier, I feel, to tell them we lost another than to feel sad for them and us again..If that ramble-on makes any sense...
I'll think I'll tell people at work in December. I'm a professor and that's the end of the semester. If I wait to tell them after the holiday break (mid-January), I think I'd return and everyone would be like, "WHOA!" DH would definitely not want me telling them earlier. We'll see how that goes....
We see my neighbors a lot. Sometimes there are informal street "happy hours" and whatnot. Those will die down a bit in the fall so we might not get around to telling anyone and then just emerge in the spring as a giant. But odds are we will start telling some neighbors this fall/winter, and once one knows, many will know.
We will not announce anything on facebook, but we'll make an effort to call friends who don't live nearby and tell them the news individually, or at least in a private e-mail. To that end, we'll also try to keep everyone from talking about it on facebook. I expect, though, that around 8 mo I'll end up saying it on fb because I might be giant in a photo, or someone else will spill the beans, etc.
Given that this is #3, I'm bracing myself for a) people not caring or worse,b) people making comments like, "you know how babies are made, right?" or "two wasn't enough?" or "good luck with THAT" or "you'll be in an old folk's home when that kid graduates!"
When it's your first and in wedlock, people are usually excited. When you have a second, same thing -- everyone is glad you gave #1 a sibling (in fact, they make comments when you have one child who is 1 or older, wondering when you'll have #2). But starting at 3, some people start to get negative. People in my career seldom have more than 2, so I'm also wondering about some backlash there, as I am also pre-tenure (in a few years I will either be fired forever or hired permanently.)
Age: 25 DH: 28 Together since 2011, Married May 2014 and TTC since April 2015
MFI (3% morphology)
3/16 - IUI with femara & ovidrel - BFN
4/16 - IUI with femara & ovidrel - BFN
6/16 IUI with femara & ovidrel - BFN
8/19/16 - IVF -