FFFC

MrsBakes

@M&Max

I think it's totally normal to feel that way! But you just get used to your baby and their personalities, no matter what. From the day DD was born I couldn't have imagined it being any other way.

OMG I can't wait to find out what we are having. I'm kind of secretly hoping for a girl because it would be easier in many ways. I wouldn't have to buy so many things and sharing the room would be easier, too. And for the obvious reason we just mentioned LOL. But somehow I just feel like it may be a boy...

I have my 12week genetic scan on 9/23 (AMA) and they can tell on that scan with pretty good certainty. I won't be buying anything blue or pink at that point but they are usually right. (They were with DD)

schef070911

@mrsstuessy I am in the same boat re: the nursery.  We're most likely moving late next June, and since I plan on having LO sleeping with us for first few months (we'll see how/if that actually works and adjust if necessary!) I'm not planning on setting up a traditional "nursery" until after we move (our other bedroom will be for family who comes to visit/assist).  It will be interesting to see how people at work react to this idea - I recently went to a work baby shower and everyone wanted to know all about the nursery, was it set up, what did she have, etc?  So that should be interesting. 

Mama5181

So we found out yesterday we're expecting twins. I know I should be ecstatic but my FFFC is I'm not excited I AM TERRIFIED! I can't even think about getting excited. There are so many variables and different things that can go wrong and my first pregnancy wasn't a breeze either so I was hoping things would be different this time. And I am sooooo freakin sick I can't think straight. I'm sure someday in the future I'll be excited, but that day is not today. 

ladameperdue

@leslieknope So happy to read people coming out and saying this. Good for you. I hope people look back on this decade in public health history and say 'why the f did we tolerate such strong messaging many making mothers feel like sh*t?'

leslieknope

@Mama5181 I don't blame you! But congrats. Deep breaths, mama. You can do it.

@ladameperdue I think it's ridiculous. I am so over judging and being judged. 

mrsw0920

@allybadry & @punnybunny I feel the same way! I want a girl, but I have a gut feeling it's a boy. My husband is a huge Star Wars nerd and is referring to it as "him" and calls it his "little jedi".  

Dannylion24

My confession is that my husband and I were pretty much certain our family was complete after our last baby (#4) and this pregnancy is so much of a shock I'm having a hard time getting excited (yet). We'd given away most of our baby items, changed around all of he kids' bedrooms and redid the playrooms, had decided to move in the spring, made some ambitious travel plans, plus I had some semi-serious health concerns my last pregnancy which are making me very worried about how I'm going to manage later trimesters if I'm put on bedrest. Being totally exhausted and queasy right now isn't helping. I'm trying to be positive and have always loved having a large family and do believe everything happens for a reason and I can't wait to meet baby, but it's also very hard to feel much other than nervous/apprehensive and less than thrilled at the surprise changes at the moment. On top of it all I feel very guilty bc I have close family members who have experienced recent pregnancy loss so I feel like I'm being ungrateful for not being more thankful for my baby blessings. Anybody else feeling a little lost at the beginning of this pregnancy? 

chelle087

@bwo I need to start hiding books. My son is obsessed with the LONGEST Curious George stories. I am so exhausted at bed time that I just can't read them anymore. I end up skipping pages...it's terrible!

My FFFC is that I bought a few things for my DR'S big boy room today and a few things to update the nursery, but I didn't even tell DH because even I think I am crazy!

KirstinH88

Regarding gender - I also really want a girl. I already have 3 boys at home, plus DH. So it would be nice to have a girl around, for my sake. However, I also really wanted a girl when I had DS and I honestly couldn't imagine him being anyone different than who he is. 

mrsstuessy

Here is another one. There is a woman at my church who has three little girls. She did a Facebook announcement super early back in July. She is about one week ahead of where I would be if I didn't lose my baby last month. I was hoping to be her friend when we moved here at the beginning of the summer. I am now actively avoiding her since all I have heard her talk about as far as the pregnancy goes is that she hopes it is a boy. That is all anyone else has to say about the pregnancy as well. I literally think she only got pregnant to have one more chance at a boy. My totally flame worthy internal response to her and her whole family is... "you can go to hell, b****." I would give anything to have 4 beautiful daughters. But, my last baby died. So yeah, there are more important things than if your baby has a penis or a vagina. There you have it. 
I didn't used to be this person. This summer from Hell has made me bitter. 

NESeattlite

I'm just saying I love the honesty on this thread.  Being scared over having twins or surprise #5 is totally normal (and I know I'd feel the same way)!  Kudos to you both for admitting some uncomfortable feelings!

Dannylion24

Thank you @NESeattlite !!