I did not expect my post to cause such a debate. Yes I did post on the march board first because I was unable to find the April board for a while on the mobile app. When I posted this thread originally I was advised to also post it on the multiple board for support. I am sorry if it appeared as if I was being an AW but that was not my motive. Things have been very very stressful as I now have to move back to NH from AZ as my family is in NH and we will need all of their help and support. We are now in the process of packing and planning our cross country move with our son so that we can be all moved and settled before I can not travel anymore. I do apologize for not responding sooner but I have been a mess of emotions and also trying to figure out my life. I do want to continue to be a part of the community and to support each other through this journey. I have also never been a part of an online community so I guess I'm just not sure how this all works.
And this is why so many people have left the bump. So many rules now. My d13 group was amazing, we are so close, this was before all the restructuring.
My N13 board was amazing too, and all disbanded. This is my first day back on TB, and not liking that people are being told to keep their thoughts in a specific thread. There is no way I'm going to read 1000 intros in a single thread. I would however likely read 500 of them if 1000 were posted individually. hmmmmmph
@ccook1211 Welcome! Please join us! I'm glad you're not letting the debate on this thread deter you from participating The debate was really not about you personally, and more about ... board protocol?
I suggest picking a check in or two, or a discussion topic that interests you, and post on those. Make sure to reply to people with the @ as well. Good luck!
seems like everyone from the '13 boards remember a better time...::sigh::: I was an S13 mama, and I agree that too many strict rules will kill the community fast...
@ccook1211 Congratulations on your 4 bundles!!! that is great!!
I did not expect my post to cause such a debate. Yes I did post on the march board first because I was unable to find the April board for a while on the mobile app. When I posted this thread originally I was advised to also post it on the multiple board for support. I am sorry if it appeared as if I was being an AW but that was not my motive. Things have been very very stressful as I now have to move back to NH from AZ as my family is in NH and we will need all of their help and support. We are now in the process of packing and planning our cross country move with our son so that we can be all moved and settled before I can not travel anymore. I do apologize for not responding sooner but I have been a mess of emotions and also trying to figure out my life. I do want to continue to be a part of the community and to support each other through this journey. I have also never been a part of an online community so I guess I'm just not sure how this all works.
Lurking from March 17 Board... For the record, she came to March because she couldn't find April and we asked (more like begged) for updates because we were so interested in hearing how her journey is going. The simple fact of the matter is that as a mom-to-be of quads, her journey is completely unique to anyone else, so we thought it made sense for her to have started a thread.
As @mrsyimster said, we would absolutely love it if you returned to the March board, @ccook1211 where your posts will be supported and celebrated and not at all labeled as "AW". Plus, as a multiples mom with an original edd of early April, the chances of you delivering in March is pretty high anyway. We would love to have you permanently return to our board - we miss you!!
I did not expect my post to cause such a debate. Yes I did post on the march board first because I was unable to find the April board for a while on the mobile app. When I posted this thread originally I was advised to also post it on the multiple board for support. I am sorry if it appeared as if I was being an AW but that was not my motive. Things have been very very stressful as I now have to move back to NH from AZ as my family is in NH and we will need all of their help and support. We are now in the process of packing and planning our cross country move with our son so that we can be all moved and settled before I can not travel anymore. I do apologize for not responding sooner but I have been a mess of emotions and also trying to figure out my life. I do want to continue to be a part of the community and to support each other through this journey. I have also never been a part of an online community so I guess I'm just not sure how this all works.
Lurking from March 17 Board... For the record, she came to March because she couldn't find April and we asked (more like begged) for updates because we were so interested in hearing how her journey is going. The simple fact of the matter is that as a mom-to-be of quads, her journey is completely unique to anyone else, so we thought it made sense for her to have started a thread.
As @mrsyimster said, we would absolutely love it if you returned to the March board, @ccook1211 where your posts will be supported and celebrated and not at all labeled as "AW". Plus, as a multiples mom with an original edd of early April, the chances of you delivering in March is pretty high anyway. We would love to have you permanently return to our board - we miss you!!
TTC #1 - December 2015 Me:31 H:31 DX: MFI - 1% Morph 12/16 -IVF #1 - Antagonist Protocol w/ Lupron trigger ER - 11 retrieved- 9 mature - 7 fertilized - 3 sent for PGS on day 5 - No normals (1 XXX Embryo - may use in future) 3/17 - IVF #2 - Antagonist Protocol w/ HCG trigger ER- 13 retrieved - 11 mature - 8 fertilized - 2 sent for PGS on day 5 -2 Normal FET #1 - 5/16/17 - BFP! - Beta #1 5/25 - 156 - Beta #2 5/30 - 2562 - Beta #3 6/1 - 5191!
I did not expect my post to cause such a debate. Yes I did post on the march board first because I was unable to find the April board for a while on the mobile app. When I posted this thread originally I was advised to also post it on the multiple board for support. I am sorry if it appeared as if I was being an AW but that was not my motive. Things have been very very stressful as I now have to move back to NH from AZ as my family is in NH and we will need all of their help and support. We are now in the process of packing and planning our cross country move with our son so that we can be all moved and settled before I can not travel anymore. I do apologize for not responding sooner but I have been a mess of emotions and also trying to figure out my life. I do want to continue to be a part of the community and to support each other through this journey. I have also never been a part of an online community so I guess I'm just not sure how this all works.
Lurking from March 17 Board... For the record, she came to March because she couldn't find April and we asked (more like begged) for updates because we were so interested in hearing how her journey is going. The simple fact of the matter is that as a mom-to-be of quads, her journey is completely unique to anyone else, so we thought it made sense for her to have started a thread.
As @mrsyimster said, we would absolutely love it if you returned to the March board, @ccook1211 where your posts will be supported and celebrated and not at all labeled as "AW". Plus, as a multiples mom with an original edd of early April, the chances of you delivering in March is pretty high anyway. We would love to have you permanently return to our board - we miss you!!
You have to give support to receive it. An AW post/poster is someone who only posts and responds to their specific threads or problems. This was definitely an AW post @DaniBanani16.
Previously PaukMeKiande
Surprise BFP/MC February 2011 BFP May 16th 2016
EDD January 25 2017 DD born January 30 2017 Surprise BFP/MC April 2017
Married DH 12/31/13 BFP#1 1/21/14 ended in loss DNC 3/5/14 BFP#2 7/2014 Baby Girl born 4/15/15 BFP#3 2/10/2016 natural mc 2/27/2016 BFP#4 6/25/2016 Due 3/2/2017
in fact.. im pretty sure at this point March 17 is welcoming all april 17 mom who wants less Bullshit more love. so come on over or back over to us.
@mrsyimster I mean... y'all are the ones who came on our board and rezzed an old post just to rehash an argument that was already done, while also being rude to the active women here who are loving and offer each other tons of support by implying that we don't and flat out telling our members to leave our board.
@TheJerilu people are coming over from March because we literally told her to post updates, and then y'all chastised her and called her an AW when she did. It's worth pointing out that when she was explicitly asked to do something by us, and then did it here, she got what I'm sure was an unexpected reaction and y'all essentially called her a wh*re for not posting enough on other threads. Maybe you're showing love and support on other threads, but you're sure not showing it here.
For more on what it's like to have people from other BMBs constantly coming over and either creating new threads or "rezzing old posts," come on over to our board and see how many times we have patiently explained to people how to get to the April 2017 boards. Again. And again. And again.
"Rezzing" a two day old post You guys sure are funny with your rules.
Married DH 12/31/13 BFP#1 1/21/14 ended in loss DNC 3/5/14 BFP#2 7/2014 Baby Girl born 4/15/15 BFP#3 2/10/2016 natural mc 2/27/2016 BFP#4 6/25/2016 Due 3/2/2017
I was definitely trying to give her the benefit of the doubt at first. Quads is pretty cool. But, she still has yet to contribute to anything other than posts exclusively about herself. So, March, you guys can have her. I am shedding no tears over that loss.
Me: 28 year old SAHM/Birth Doula DH: 30 year old pneumatic electrical engineer
Married: October 8, 2011
DD1: September 24, 2013 BFP: June 25, 2016 and MC: July 3, 2016 DD2: April 16, 2017 BFP: November 30, 2018 EDD: August 14, 2019
*still lurking* Also, it's definitely not a "two day old post" everybody. The last time OP commented on it was Sunday. It's Wednesday now. The argument was over and I think everyone *thought* we had moved past it. That's why it's considered "rezzing", because we were all done with this topic until you guys came back on here bitching.
Previously PaukMeKiande
Surprise BFP/MC February 2011 BFP May 16th 2016
EDD January 25 2017 DD born January 30 2017 Surprise BFP/MC April 2017
@ccook1211 come back to March 17 you are ALWAYS welcome there we've all been wondering how u and ur quads are doing. sending you good vibes!!!!!!!!
Truth.
We have SO MANY multiple moms. It's gotta be a bump record. Your be in great company. Plus we are all still so impressed and shocked for you we occasionally talk about you randomly, lol.
In any case, I was just stalking you checking in to make sure that all was well, and it's awesome to see that all beans are growing and healthy. Good luck, I know tons of people are rooting for you.
Sweetheart, I will read every individual thread that you post and I'm appalled at some of the comments on this thread. I, for one, am very excited to follow your journey and hope that you will stay active on this board!
This board and all the rules. I just can't believe this ridiculousness. April 17 moms, you're welcome on March 17. We don't have strict posting rules.
AND WE HAVE LIVED TO TELL ABOUT IT!
Married DH 12/31/13 BFP#1 1/21/14 ended in loss DNC 3/5/14 BFP#2 7/2014 Baby Girl born 4/15/15 BFP#3 2/10/2016 natural mc 2/27/2016 BFP#4 6/25/2016 Due 3/2/2017
Sorry but I'm sitting here laughing, ladies this is going to be a long ass 8-9 months if you start picking little shit like this apart. Seriously how often does a women get pregnant with 4! AW all you want!!! I just started posting and responding in A17 but was very active in N15. I'm surprised, not surprised, the mean girls are already coming out
edited to add... forgive ne if I don't post ALL the time, I have a life with 4 kids 6 and under. It can take a bit (day or 2or3) to reply. I don't live on this thread.
Maybe baby #5 had made me bitchy, or less willing to put up with BS
I, for one, actually want this to be a separate thread (if mom wants). It's such a unique experience and I don't want to have to read all the other US/symptoms/fears posts in the weeklies threads to find out how this particular pregnancy is going. I prefer to read about the different and unique experiences than the nth person's nausea (no offense- my pregnancy is just as routine as the rest too and I assume no one cares how I'm feeling or what I'm eating any given week).
@Cook3133 yes! I enjoyed getting on here with my first pregnancy because it was a place to ask questions and get support when I had no clue what I was doing! I work full time and am not able to check in regularly but Sept.15 always made me feel welcome.
I am guessing that won't be the case with this group and that make me sad
Just for clarification, you already have 4 kids under 6 and now you are having quads? So When you refer to baby #5, you mean 5, 6, 7, 8? All under 6? PHEW! Sounds like a crazy life!!!!!!!!!!!
Sorry but I'm sitting here laughing, ladies this is going to be a long ass 8-9 months if you start picking little shit like this apart. Seriously how often does a women get pregnant with 4! AW all you want!!! I just started posting and responding in A17 but was very active in N15. I'm surprised, not surprised, the mean girls are already coming out
edited to add... forgive ne if I don't post ALL the time, I have a life with 4 kids 6 and under. It can take a bit (day or 2or3) to reply. I don't live on this thread.
Maybe baby #5 had made me bitchy, or less willing to put up with BS
TTC #1 - December 2015 Me:31 H:31 DX: MFI - 1% Morph 12/16 -IVF #1 - Antagonist Protocol w/ Lupron trigger ER - 11 retrieved- 9 mature - 7 fertilized - 3 sent for PGS on day 5 - No normals (1 XXX Embryo - may use in future) 3/17 - IVF #2 - Antagonist Protocol w/ HCG trigger ER- 13 retrieved - 11 mature - 8 fertilized - 2 sent for PGS on day 5 -2 Normal FET #1 - 5/16/17 - BFP! - Beta #1 5/25 - 156 - Beta #2 5/30 - 2562 - Beta #3 6/1 - 5191!
I hesitate to post here again, because I am feeling a little guilty for having ever made my way over to this board to begin with - I don't usually make it a habit to walk into a strangers home and tell them what I don't like about them, so I apologize to doing this to y'all before. But alas, I keep getting notifications because my name keeps getting tagged, so here I am again.
I'm happy that so many of you have the community that you enjoy, and I am sorry for passing judgement. What I am not sorry for, is offering support and encouragement to someone who is in a very unique position and has been publicly chastised. It bothers me on a human level that there are individuals here who believe "you have to give support to get support". Sometimes, it's ok to just give support to someone who's dealing with something way more difficult than you without expecting anything in return from them. Other times, it's ok to just receive support from other people without feeling inherently wrong for not having the strength to reciprocate at that time.
I believe there is something wrong with the logic of only doing something for others so that you can get someone back in return.
Wow, i just happened to see this, as a fellow Multiple mama from March, and just a mom in general, How could you speak to someone like that who is already going through so much? She's not expecting one baby, she's expecting FOUR, if you are expecting a singleton, you have NO room to judge this awesome mama. Come back to March, we can't wait to hear more! It's a shame to see a board get like this so early on.
**~*Noelle*~** Happily Wed DH in May 2010 June 2012: DD#1 born after countless fertility cycles, our 4 year old miracle TTC #2: current cycle: 225iu Menopur for 4 weeks, Ovidrel Trigger= BFP! Beta #1; 333, Beta #2 713! 1st u/s showed TWINS (7/18)
Re: Update on quads
I did not expect my post to cause such a debate. Yes I did post on the march board first because I was unable to find the April board for a while on the mobile app. When I posted this thread originally I was advised to also post it on the multiple board for support. I am sorry if it appeared as if I was being an AW but that was not my motive. Things have been very very stressful as I now have to move back to NH from AZ as my family is in NH and we will need all of their help and support. We are now in the process of packing and planning our cross country move with our son so that we can be all moved and settled before I can not travel anymore. I do apologize for not responding sooner but I have been a mess of emotions and also trying to figure out my life. I do want to continue to be a part of the community and to support each other through this journey. I have also never been a part of an online community so I guess I'm just not sure how this all works.
I suggest picking a check in or two, or a discussion topic that interests you, and post on those. Make sure to reply to people with the @ as well. Good luck!
@ccook1211 Congratulations on your 4 bundles!!! that is great!!
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Lurking from March 2017
@ccook1211 come back to March 17
you are ALWAYS welcome there we've all been wondering how u and ur quads are doing. sending you good vibes!!!!!!!!
SaveSaveAs @mrsyimster said, we would absolutely love it if you returned to the March board, @ccook1211 where your posts will be supported and celebrated and not at all labeled as "AW". Plus, as a multiples mom with an original edd of early April, the chances of you delivering in March is pretty high anyway. We would love to have you permanently return to our board - we miss you!!
Pregnancy # 6
4 missed chances
2 loving children
1 on the way
Me:31 H:31
DX: MFI - 1% Morph
12/16 -IVF #1 - Antagonist Protocol w/ Lupron trigger
ER - 11 retrieved- 9 mature - 7 fertilized - 3 sent for PGS on day 5 - No normals (1 XXX Embryo - may use in future)
3/17 - IVF #2 - Antagonist Protocol w/ HCG trigger
ER- 13 retrieved - 11 mature - 8 fertilized - 2 sent for PGS on day 5 -2 Normal
FET #1 - 5/16/17 - BFP! - Beta #1 5/25 - 156 - Beta #2 5/30 - 2562 - Beta #3 6/1 - 5191!
@Zoey1019 I
You have to give support to receive it. An AW post/poster is someone who only posts and responds to their specific threads or problems. This was definitely an AW post @DaniBanani16.
BFP May 16th 2016
DD born January 30 2017
Surprise BFP/MC April 2017
DH: 30 year old pneumatic electrical engineer
BFP: June 25, 2016 and MC: July 3, 2016
DD2: April 16, 2017
BFP: November 30, 2018 EDD: August 14, 2019
BFP#1 1/21/14 ended in loss DNC 3/5/14
BFP#2 7/2014 Baby Girl born 4/15/15
BFP#3 2/10/2016 natural mc 2/27/2016
BFP#4 6/25/2016 Due 3/2/2017
SaveSaveI mean... y'all are the ones who came on our board and rezzed an old post just to rehash an argument that was already done, while also being rude to the active women here who are loving and offer each other tons of support by implying that we don't and flat out telling our members to leave our board.
That's kinda bullshit if you ask me.
Me: 28 & Partner: 32 | Married 2014
BFP 7/29 EDD 4/11
Pregnancy # 6
4 missed chances
2 loving children
1 on the way
yorkie mama to Oscar
FTM EDD 3.12.17
For more on what it's like to have people from other BMBs constantly coming over and either creating new threads or "rezzing old posts," come on over to our board and see how many times we have patiently explained to people how to get to the April 2017 boards. Again. And again. And again.
BFP#1 1/21/14 ended in loss DNC 3/5/14
BFP#2 7/2014 Baby Girl born 4/15/15
BFP#3 2/10/2016 natural mc 2/27/2016
BFP#4 6/25/2016 Due 3/2/2017
DH: 30 year old pneumatic electrical engineer
BFP: June 25, 2016 and MC: July 3, 2016
DD2: April 16, 2017
BFP: November 30, 2018 EDD: August 14, 2019
Also, it's definitely not a "two day old post" everybody. The last time OP commented on it was Sunday. It's Wednesday now. The argument was over and I think everyone *thought* we had moved past it. That's why it's considered "rezzing", because we were all done with this topic until you guys came back on here bitching.
BFP May 16th 2016
DD born January 30 2017
Surprise BFP/MC April 2017
We have SO MANY multiple moms. It's gotta be a bump record. Your be in great company. Plus we are all still so impressed and shocked for you we occasionally talk about you randomly, lol.
In any case, I was just stalking you checking in to make sure that all was well, and it's awesome to see that all beans are growing and healthy. Good luck, I know tons of people are rooting for you.
Married: 12-04-06
Annabelle: 1-1-08
Patrick: 8-15-10
EDD: 4-20-17
BFP#1 1/21/14 ended in loss DNC 3/5/14
BFP#2 7/2014 Baby Girl born 4/15/15
BFP#3 2/10/2016 natural mc 2/27/2016
BFP#4 6/25/2016 Due 3/2/2017
edited to add...
forgive ne if I don't post ALL the time, I have a life with 4 kids 6 and under. It can take a bit (day or 2or3) to reply. I don't live on this thread.
Maybe baby #5 had made me bitchy, or less willing to put up with BS
I am guessing that won't be the case with this group and that make me sad
Cook3133 said:
Me:31 H:31
DX: MFI - 1% Morph
12/16 -IVF #1 - Antagonist Protocol w/ Lupron trigger
ER - 11 retrieved- 9 mature - 7 fertilized - 3 sent for PGS on day 5 - No normals (1 XXX Embryo - may use in future)
3/17 - IVF #2 - Antagonist Protocol w/ HCG trigger
ER- 13 retrieved - 11 mature - 8 fertilized - 2 sent for PGS on day 5 -2 Normal
FET #1 - 5/16/17 - BFP! - Beta #1 5/25 - 156 - Beta #2 5/30 - 2562 - Beta #3 6/1 - 5191!
DD #2: May 2020
Baby #3: EDD May 2023; MC October 2022
@cook1211 is having quads @Cook3133 posted that about baby number 5
Me:31 H:31
DX: MFI - 1% Morph
12/16 -IVF #1 - Antagonist Protocol w/ Lupron trigger
ER - 11 retrieved- 9 mature - 7 fertilized - 3 sent for PGS on day 5 - No normals (1 XXX Embryo - may use in future)
3/17 - IVF #2 - Antagonist Protocol w/ HCG trigger
ER- 13 retrieved - 11 mature - 8 fertilized - 2 sent for PGS on day 5 -2 Normal
FET #1 - 5/16/17 - BFP! - Beta #1 5/25 - 156 - Beta #2 5/30 - 2562 - Beta #3 6/1 - 5191!
I'm happy that so many of you have the community that you enjoy, and I am sorry for passing judgement. What I am not sorry for, is offering support and encouragement to someone who is in a very unique position and has been publicly chastised. It bothers me on a human level that there are individuals here who believe "you have to give support to get support". Sometimes, it's ok to just give support to someone who's dealing with something way more difficult than you without expecting anything in return from them. Other times, it's ok to just receive support from other people without feeling inherently wrong for not having the strength to reciprocate at that time.
I believe there is something wrong with the logic of only doing something for others so that you can get someone back in return.
Happily Wed DH in May 2010
June 2012: DD#1 born after countless fertility cycles, our 4 year old miracle
TTC #2: current cycle: 225iu Menopur for 4 weeks, Ovidrel Trigger= BFP! Beta #1; 333, Beta #2 713! 1st u/s showed TWINS (7/18)
Me: 39 DH: 40
Married: 12/6/2014
BFP#2: 10/28/15 MC: 11/24/15
BFP#3: 3/20/16 MC: 4/26/16
BFP#4: 7/15/16 DD: 3/18/17
BFP#5: 5/1/18 EDD: 1/12/19