@annabenanna DD loved being swaddled, so we will definitely try it again with this baby. Even when DD would eventually get her arms free, she still liked being swaddled around her middle. It seemed to provide some extra security for her. We were also big fans of The Happiest Baby on the Block, as the 5 S's were like magic for DD.
Ooooh @ball4768 and @piperella I just started The Happiest Baby on the Block, and now I can't wait to get off work and get to reading more of it after reading your endorsements!
@bnsmith85, i feel you on the back pain. I feel like you and I have the same back pains. LOL. How is your massager working for you? I find that it just helps my pain temporarily and then it's back again.
That's exactly what's happening now. It helps for a bit and then it's really painful again it just started getting really bad last night. I'm hoping it's just a temporary issue
I too am a FTM who plans to swear by the Happiest Baby on the Block it just seems like it makes so much sense. We plan to swaddle, unless we find he hates it. His dad loves to be snuggled up to sleep, so hopefully he will too.
Awwww, all the fun happened while I was sleeping. I have lots and lots of feelings about human relationships but I feel like most of it has already been said, so I will spare you all my academic soliloquy
TDAP and vaccinations: TDAP did make my arm sore for a few days, but I didn't even feel it the day I got it. I would talk to family members and friends that baby will be exposed to regularly about getting the Flu shot as well... Science has gifted us preventatives, I think it is foolish not to take advantage of that and to possibly put little lives at risk of serious illness when it CAN be avoided.
Monogamy and Soulmates: I do not believe that human beings are biologically designed to be monogamous creatures. I believe that the decision to be monogamous stems from human beings' emotional and intellectual complexities and needs. The drive to be monogamous is also perpetuated by social, cultural, and religious influences. That being said- I choose monogamy because I personally need to feel as though I am my partner's #1 (and only) and offer that feeling in return. It takes a lot of work, and a lot of love to choose to be monogamous in my opinion, and that is what makes it so special. I agree with others who say Soulmates don't necessarily have to be partners, or even people of the same sex, just people who "click", and recent experiences lead me to be more and more open minded to the prospect of past lives and these people being a part of them.
Swaddling: DD LOVED to be swaddled and could not sleep without it, LO HATED being swaddled or restricted at all, even as a newborn. He either wanted to sleep on my chest, or sleep with his arms thrown out in his bassinet. Always kept those little legs crossed though, so when I'd pick him up while he was sleeping his little baby booty would be poked out and it was the cutest thing ever
Back pain: Haven't had much of an issue with that this time around, but the hip and vag pain is terrible
I'll be spending my Wednesday and Friday mornings playing catch up like this I guess! School days simply aren't going to allow for any solid amount of bumping.
My random: I had a dream that all of us (yes, we the BMB members) were being loaded up and shipped off to some pregnancy camp until October with our SOs and on the bus, @TurtleMomma was like the head honcho and making our partners learn how to give us breast massages while we were on our way there...
Tdap: I'm vaccinated my SO can NOT be vaccinated and his parents refuses to be vaccinated because I got the vaccine so the baby is protected so they say its useless and they didn't get vaccinated for any of there grand kids which I don't agrees with. So if Kinzley gets sick I told SO i'm going to flip a cow. I don't have any family in MI so I'm happy I don't have to have that convo with them.
Monogamy and soulmates: I definitely couldn't be someone with multiple partners but if someones relationship is set up like that more power to you, I don't understand it and I don't necessarily agree with it but who am I to judge you. I don't know if I believe in soulmates but I believe my SO and I were meant to be together(we meant on a video game and have been together for 5+years now so imo I always think the chances of us actually meeting were slim because we lived across the country from each other but we instantly connected. Before we even talked for a full month owe knew we were going to meet inrl and be a couple and we were.). He always tells me if something ever happens to him I have to move on and find someone else but I really don't think I could ever love or be as comfortable with someone as I am with him and the thought of loosing him one day absolutely makes my heart hurt and makes my stomach drop. I had a really hard childhood and being with my SO makes me forget everything that has ever happened and he is the first person I ever been able to open up to and feel like I'm not being judged but instead I feel like I am at home, for lack of better description. That feeling of safety, closeness, and love I have never felt with anyone else and I don't believe I would be capable of feeling it with anyone else. (WOW that was along and mushy response I am so sorry lmao)
Swaddling: I plan on swaddling. We swaddled my niece and she loved it and I fully believe in the 5 S's. However, if Kinzley doesn't like swaddling and doesn't respond to the 5 s's I wont force her to be swaddle.
SO and I have been together: 5 Years+ BFP: 03/10 First Baby: 10/20/2016
@Ashleymn We told our parents they needed to get the Tdap vaccine before they came to visit. End of story. They didn't fight it, but if they had, they wouldn't have been able to see our son when he was a newborn. There was a whooping cough epidemic in our state in 2012 (I was pregnant in 2013 and gave birth April 2014), and that included eight deaths, so we weren't taking any chances.
Babies aren't fully vaccinated against tetanus, diptheria and pertussis (Tdap) until their fourth course of the vaccine at 15-18 months, so your in-laws are not correct that the baby will be protected. And the first course isn't even until two months, so as a newborn, your baby is only protected by the small amount of vaccine that went through you to them when you were pregnant. Do you think you make your SO talk to his parents again?
@ignoscemihi I will have to have him talk to them again. It's very awkward because both his parents are very pro-vaccine so I don't understand why they're both fighting this. His dads a teacher so I feel like hes at higher risk as well because hes around kids all day so it does worry me. His dad always says thing like I don't know how people raised or had kids living before when we didn't have to do all this. Also, they noted that they looked it up and the ACIP doesn't recommend everyone in contact with the newborn to be vaccinated only the mother but I have not looked into that yet, I would just prefer someone to get the damn measly shot and get it over with.
Edit: I just looked up the ACIP because that was bothering me and it clearly states Anyone who is around babies should be up-to-date with their whooping cough vaccine. so I'll let my so know just in case that comes up again.
SO and I have been together: 5 Years+ BFP: 03/10 First Baby: 10/20/2016
Couldn't sleep last night. Woke DH up about a dozen times because I couldn't sit still. Finally got up around 4 am. By 5 I was on the computer. By 6 I had changed half the items on our registry.
So, BTDT moms or FTMs - did you fly in the 3rd trimester? I need to attend a meeting in a week and I'll be 32+3 going up and 32+5 coming back. I could drive, but it's 4 hours vs. a 35 minute flight. I've had slightly elevated pregnancy induced HBP, but it's super well regulated with a low dose medicine (my reading yesterday was 113/70 it was 138/88 prior to meds) so I'm at a higher risk of blood clots, but only slightly. I called the doctor and the nurse calling back said they usually cap travel at 32 weeks, but since it's a short flight, they're fine with it. Drink lots of fluids, move around, etc. but my risk for a blood clot on such a short flight is really non-existent. I want to attend this meeting, but I'm definitely not being forced and could find an alternative if I couldn't go. Would y'all still go? Wear compression socks/stockings on the plane? Change anything? I'm a bit of a worrier but am very much a realist, and I know the chance of something happening is so slim.
Me: 31
DH: 32
Married: Sep 2012
TTC #1: Jan 2015 Baby A (via IUI due to MFI): Sep 2016 born at 35+6
Surprise but very welcome + on 5/16/2019, EDD 1/25/2020
This is better suited for Mon BF, but it's Friday, so whatever!
I can't stand it when my husband acts like he knows more about baby stuff than me. It infuriates me. Every time I poke at my belly, he says "leave her alone!" Like I'm going to hurt her or something. And when I get upset, he says "this is not good for the baby." SHUT YOUR SHIT, ASSHOLE. I have been googling, Bumping, pinning, reading, etc for the past year or more.... I think I know better about what would "hurt" baby. And I've told him that, but he persists.
Does anyone else's SO act like that? Or is it just my wonderful moron???
@CopperBoom86 We all have wonderful morons sometimes!! My DH doesn't know anything, so he's a blissfully ignorant moron when it comes to babies. Pretty much anything he thinks he might know, I shoot down. Yet he felt no need to go to all the birth classes. Sigh.
Me:33 DH: 34 Married: May 2011 TTC #1: May 2015 DS: 10/20/2016 TTC #2: June 2019 #2 EDD: 2/20/2020
@MorganL925, I flew to San Francisco (just an hour flight) when I was 29 weeks early this month. If I had to fly again, I probably would, but only short distances. However, I have had no complications and my blood pressure has been super low, so I don't have that to worry about.
In my 2nd tri, I flew 10 hours to Greece, but that was a different story, being just in 2nd tri... I still wore compression socks though.
The only thing I can say about flying is that it's probably super uncomfortable right now. My back killed me during that 1 hour flight. It was awful... but I've been having back problems, so it may be different for you.
@ibabyloveb87 - I swear, they think they know it all! My husband didn't want to take the classes either... yet, we're 3 classes deep and he's asked the most questions of anyone and is admittedly shocked at how much he's learned.
@CopperBoom86, DH can be a moron sometimes too. Especially with his "been there done that" attitude since he's had 2. Sometimes I can shut him up by saying "oh really? but look at all the new info since then. that's not the latest research, etc etc etc"
For the most part, he's been good: "sorry sweetie, I know this is going to be a different experience, you're a different mom, this is a different time, the baby will have his own personality." But sometimes he's really pushy about his opinions (on strollers, on pack n plays and other gear-related stuff that he thinks "we don't need" or "we absolutely need")
I can handle FI having an opinion about baby related topics. I can NOT however, handle him feeling as though he is entitled to an opinion about what foods I consume and in what quantities... SHUT UP! I have gained 35 lbs over the last eight months because I'm pregnant, what excuse do you have for YOUR new gut???
My DH has been very good about this pregnancy but he can be a know-it-all moron when it comes to other stuff. Luckily, he's learned - I don't speak up often, but when I do...it's because I know I'm right.
@CopperBoom86 & @annabenanna Add mine to the moron list as well. I had a meltdown in BBB last weekend partially because he had an opinion on every.single.thing I looked at. Let me clarify - negative opinion. Such as - "We don't need a bassinet - she has a crib." "We're not paying over $50 for a high chair, that's stupid." "We already have a bouncer, why does she need a swing?" "We're not getting a bath tub, we can just put her in the sink." I can only take so much and I lost it. And then he told his friends that I made it stressful. I could have punched him. Still may.
@AllyTheKid Yes the new layout is stressing me out as well! It is not at all easy to navigate & I can't find anything.I don't need this added stress in my life! Lol
@babmacoop I always love reading your posts! You have a great way with words & you crack me up.
My random annoyance for the day - my MIL text me this morning and said people are asking her what we need and she wants to know what to tell them. I really wanted to respond with, "Umm...everything on our registry?!" Not sure why this is annoyed me so much.
Hey techie bumpies.... or just resourceful bumpies in general... Do you know of any websites where I can hire someone virtually to help me format an excel template and a word template? I suck at excel (wish I was better) and know I'd spend days doing one template, when it would probably take someone just a day.
I usually use fiverr for things like this, but wanted something more professional.
@Kaessi hahah my mom texts me, "Do you have a nursing cover? Grandma wants to know if she should get you a nursing cover since she's excited that you chose to breastfeed. me - "Yea, I have one that covers me and the carseat. I have a whole registry of stuff I do need though if she wants to browse that. " mom- "Okay, I'll have her get you the nursing cover" me -
@CopperBoom86 oh its not just your wonderful moron. The other night DH walked in the bedroom and said "we should talk about breastfeeding vs bottle" ummm excuse me? Don't you think I've done my research and have a plan by now?! Not to mention we have talked about it before, so not sure where he was during that!
@annabenanna If I weren't JUST now starting out my MS Office class and learning to use everything, I would totally volunteer to do it for you for the practice, but I'm still too newb.
@SpaceBurger Your enthusiasm (or sarcasm?) makes me smile.
@Kaessi ugh, that woudl annoy me too. My complaint is along the same vein. People are like: "Anna, what do you guys need still? where are you registered?" I wanna say: "DID YOU CHECK THE INVITATION DETAILS? BECAUSE IT'S ALL THERE!!!!"
So, BTDT moms or FTMs - did you fly in the 3rd trimester? I need to attend a meeting in a week and I'll be 32+3 going up and 32+5 coming back. I could drive, but it's 4 hours vs. a 35 minute flight. I've had slightly elevated pregnancy induced HBP, but it's super well regulated with a low dose medicine (my reading yesterday was 113/70 it was 138/88 prior to meds) so I'm at a higher risk of blood clots, but only slightly. I called the doctor and the nurse calling back said they usually cap travel at 32 weeks, but since it's a short flight, they're fine with it. Drink lots of fluids, move around, etc. but my risk for a blood clot on such a short flight is really non-existent. I want to attend this meeting, but I'm definitely not being forced and could find an alternative if I couldn't go. Would y'all still go? Wear compression socks/stockings on the plane? Change anything? I'm a bit of a worrier but am very much a realist, and I know the chance of something happening is so slim.
I flew last weekend for my baby shower, I was 31 weeks and had two short flights (2 hrs or less each). I was a little nervous about it because I hate flying in general but it was completely fine. I just made sure to get an aisle seat for easy potty/stretch breaks and drank lots of water to keep hydrated . Baby was wiggling around in there pretty much the whole flight but I don't think she minded
Re: Weekly Randoms 08.15.2016
BFP #1: 7/15/15, SB: 11/14/15
Rainbow baby DS born 9/29/16!!
BFP #3 3/26/18 | Due 12/3/18
DS#2 due 25 April 2019
one out and order already.
Monogamy and Soulmates: I do not believe that human beings are biologically designed to be monogamous creatures. I believe that the decision to be monogamous stems from human beings' emotional and intellectual complexities and needs. The drive to be monogamous is also perpetuated by social, cultural, and religious influences. That being said- I choose monogamy because I personally need to feel as though I am my partner's #1 (and only) and offer that feeling in return. It takes a lot of work, and a lot of love to choose to be monogamous in my opinion, and that is what makes it so special. I agree with others who say Soulmates don't necessarily have to be partners, or even people of the same sex, just people who "click", and recent experiences lead me to be more and more open minded to the prospect of past lives and these people being a part of them.
Swaddling: DD LOVED to be swaddled and could not sleep without it, LO HATED being swaddled or restricted at all, even as a newborn. He either wanted to sleep on my chest, or sleep with his arms thrown out in his bassinet. Always kept those little legs crossed though, so when I'd pick him up while he was sleeping his little baby booty would be poked out and it was the cutest thing ever
Back pain: Haven't had much of an issue with that this time around, but the hip and vag pain is terrible
I'll be spending my Wednesday and Friday mornings playing catch up like this I guess! School days simply aren't going to allow for any solid amount of bumping.
My random: I had a dream that all of us (yes, we the BMB members) were being loaded up and shipped off to some pregnancy camp until October with our SOs and on the bus, @TurtleMomma was like the head honcho and making our partners learn how to give us breast massages while we were on our way there...
Monogamy and soulmates: I definitely couldn't be someone with multiple partners but if someones relationship is set up like that more power to you, I don't understand it and I don't necessarily agree with it but who am I to judge you. I don't know if I believe in soulmates but I believe my SO and I were meant to be together(we meant on a video game and have been together for 5+years now so imo I always think the chances of us actually meeting were slim because we lived across the country from each other but we instantly connected. Before we even talked for a full month owe knew we were going to meet inrl and be a couple and we were.). He always tells me if something ever happens to him I have to move on and find someone else but I really don't think I could ever love or be as comfortable with someone as I am with him and the thought of loosing him one day absolutely makes my heart hurt and makes my stomach drop. I had a really hard childhood and being with my SO makes me forget everything that has ever happened and he is the first person I ever been able to open up to and feel like I'm not being judged but instead I feel like I am at home, for lack of better description. That feeling of safety, closeness, and love I have never felt with anyone else and I don't believe I would be capable of feeling it with anyone else. (WOW that was along and mushy response I am so sorry lmao)
Swaddling: I plan on swaddling. We swaddled my niece and she loved it and I fully believe in the 5 S's. However, if Kinzley doesn't like swaddling and doesn't respond to the 5 s's I wont force her to be swaddle.
SO and I have been together: 5 Years+
BFP: 03/10
First Baby: 10/20/2016
Babies aren't fully vaccinated against tetanus, diptheria and pertussis (Tdap) until their fourth course of the vaccine at 15-18 months, so your in-laws are not correct that the baby will be protected. And the first course isn't even until two months, so as a newborn, your baby is only protected by the small amount of vaccine that went through you to them when you were pregnant. Do you think you make your SO talk to his parents again?
Edit: I just looked up the ACIP because that was bothering me and it clearly states Anyone who is around babies should be up-to-date with their whooping cough vaccine. so I'll let my so know just in case that comes up again.
SO and I have been together: 5 Years+
BFP: 03/10
First Baby: 10/20/2016
DH: 34
Married: May 2011
TTC #1: May 2015
DS: 10/20/2016
TTC #2: June 2019
#2 EDD: 2/20/2020
Baby A (via IUI due to MFI): Sep 2016 born at 35+6
I can't stand it when my husband acts like he knows more about baby stuff than me. It infuriates me. Every time I poke at my belly, he says "leave her alone!" Like I'm going to hurt her or something. And when I get upset, he says "this is not good for the baby." SHUT YOUR SHIT, ASSHOLE. I have been googling, Bumping, pinning, reading, etc for the past year or more.... I think I know better about what would "hurt" baby. And I've told him that, but he persists.
Does anyone else's SO act like that? Or is it just my wonderful moron???
DH: 34
Married: May 2011
TTC #1: May 2015
DS: 10/20/2016
TTC #2: June 2019
#2 EDD: 2/20/2020
In my 2nd tri, I flew 10 hours to Greece, but that was a different story, being just in 2nd tri... I still wore compression socks though.
The only thing I can say about flying is that it's probably super uncomfortable right now. My back killed me during that 1 hour flight. It was awful... but I've been having back problems, so it may be different for you.
For the most part, he's been good: "sorry sweetie, I know this is going to be a different experience, you're a different mom, this is a different time, the baby will have his own personality." But sometimes he's really pushy about his opinions (on strollers, on pack n plays and other gear-related stuff that he thinks "we don't need" or "we absolutely need")
I can NOT however, handle him feeling as though he is entitled to an opinion about what foods I consume and in what quantities... SHUT UP! I have gained 35 lbs over the last eight months because I'm pregnant, what excuse do you have for YOUR new gut???
Baby A (via IUI due to MFI): Sep 2016 born at 35+6
Such as - "We don't need a bassinet - she has a crib." "We're not paying over $50 for a high chair, that's stupid." "We already have a bouncer, why does she need a swing?" "We're not getting a bath tub, we can just put her in the sink." I can only take so much and I lost it. And then he told his friends that I made it stressful. I could have punched him. Still may.
@AllyTheKid Yes the new layout is stressing me out as well! It is not at all easy to navigate & I can't find anything. I don't need this added stress in my life! Lol
@babmacoop I always love reading your posts! You have a great way with words & you crack me up.
My random annoyance for the day - my MIL text me this morning and said people are asking her what we need and she wants to know what to tell them. I really wanted to respond with, "Umm...everything on our registry?!" Not sure why this is annoyed me so much.
I usually use fiverr for things like this, but wanted something more professional.
Me: 32 & DH: 37
BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16
IT'S A BOY!!!!
DS Born 10/16/16
me - "Yea, I have one that covers me and the carseat. I have a whole registry of stuff I do need though if she wants to browse that. "
mom- "Okay, I'll have her get you the nursing cover"
me -
@SpaceBurger Your enthusiasm (or sarcasm?) makes me smile.