@AliKay20 yes! I literally had a breakdown, ugly cry earlier putting DD to bed. We've only been home barely 2 days and I feel so bad when she reaches out to me and I can't pick her up or she just wants to help and can't. She was crying about having to go to bed so I read her two books and could barely get through them because she was just sitting on my lap listening, which she never ever does because she is head strong and needs to be in charge. It made me so sad because she just needs her mommy and I feel like I am severely failing at taking care of both kids. I hate feeling like I just tell her no constantly because she's not even 2 yet and doesn't understand why she can't just help. I know it will get easier but why does every part of this seem to be so damn hard!
@midwestbaby I know I cried more times than Oliver. He is such a good baby, and I am a freaking mess.
I think that is totally understandable given the week and labor experience you had. I have been thinking of you and hoping each day gets better for you.
*TW Spoiler*
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
I asked DH last night when he honestly thinks I'll deliver, and i almost cried when he said August 25th. i'm due the 19th, so the 25th is totally reasonable, but still 10 days away
DH says he "feels really good about August 26". That would still be one day before I was due. I told him I could go till at least Sept. 3 and that would only be 41 weeks. I told him he might want to get used to waiting. Ha.
DH still says he thinks I will go early, but I'm starting to feel like that is less and less likely. I really want to have the baby before Labor Day, though, because my sister is coming to visit for the first week of September.
Selfishly, I will have my favourite midwives if I give birth from Aug 22 onwards, so I sort of hope baby comes early, but not before the 22nd, lol.
I asked DH last night when he honestly thinks I'll deliver, and i almost cried when he said August 25th. i'm due the 19th, so the 25th is totally reasonable, but still 10 days away
agreed @lotsofsunshine ! It's like every hour i get one from people who NEVER text me. the only good one i got today was from my SIL saying "I'm bringing you to get a pedicure after work"
I've been way less active on the board since J was born and I've missed it. I'm finally getting used to life with a newborn and am able to find time to check in throughout the day which makes me happy.
If one more person calls or texts me to ask if baby is coming, I'm going to cry!
With DS1 I was 4 days late and those 4 days felt like an eternity. I got so tired of all the calls and texts I posted this link as my FB status: www.haveyouhadthatbabyyet.com
@bananers I sent that link to my husband because its hilarious.. and he asked me if I created it... like as if.. I told him I think it always says nope... and he then dissected it and said there is code written in the program to change it to yup... leave it to my nerd software programming husband to even think of that
Has anyone seen this meme before? Came across it and thought, "heyyy! That's what happened to me!" Pitocin and epi part at least. I'd like to think, however, that they chose the appropriate route as I was not dilating at all since I came in & at that moment, I wanted to decrease my risk of having an infection as it has been 12 hrs since my water broke!
so stressed right now, I'm a day past due... and I have to order a month supply of cat food from my vet... they discontinued the old food which was 125$ a month and now the new food will be slightly above 172$ a month... do I go and get the discontinued food from my agway supplier? 138$ a month... or do I wait and see how much it'll be... they got the cases in but the guy who chooses the prices is out.... is on vacation ... so I can take them now and be charged later... but what if they charge like 200$... ugh... so confused on what to do...
my cat has allergies.. so my vet said the old food changed their formula so he might have an issue with the "kale" they added... he ate it for the past month and has had no issue but it usually shows up after 3 months... I'm nervous about risking it right around the time of baby just to say 40 bucks.. but god its alot of money per month
I've been way less active on the board since J was born and I've missed it. I'm finally getting used to life with a newborn and am able to find time to check in throughout the day which makes me happy.
I was about to reach out to you, I was worried! Glad to hear that things are going well and that you're pulling out of the haze. One-handed phone operation is definitely tough!
Because I have been a lazy pregnant woman all summer, I am having to teach DS2 to tie his shoes again before school starts tomorrow. Good things he's a fast learner.
I'm really ready to find out if this is a boy or girl. I'm sick of people asking. Although, I would be sick of telling everyone what I'm having and then hearing their comments after... "Oh its another girl? Gonna try for a boy?" "Oh its a boy, does that mean your done because you'll have on of each?"
I think I just need to hibernate because I hate basically everyone I see these days.
@texasmama2014 I'm team green as well. When people ask if we are having a boy or a girl DH says "Yes". And then when we get funny looks he says "yes, we are having a boy, or a girl".
It it mostly gets people to stop. And I find it amusing.
I tried to lurk on other boards to see if there were juicy heated dramas but I picked a random month and got to press "change" before I knocked the fk out last night. What a fail.
@caitlinj187 Yeah. People usually assume I want a boy, and I reply with "Actually, I want a girl." and they get real weird about it.
Ugh, I get really stabby when people make the "are you going to try for a girl?" comments. Really? Because I'm pretty sure two losses plus a micro preemie was the universe telling me not to have any more babies! That, and I happen to think having two boys is pretty great. Since when was "one of each" the only acceptable combination?
@caitlinj187 Yeah. People usually assume I want a boy, and I reply with "Actually, I want a girl." and they get real weird about it.
Ugh, I get really stabby when people make the "are you going to try for a girl?" comments. Really? Because I'm pretty sure two losses plus a micro preemie was the universe telling me not to have any more babies! That, and I happen to think having two boys is pretty great. Since when was "one of each" the only acceptable combination?
This! I was just telling DH the other day how awesome the sister bond would be if we had another girl. I only have an older brother so I always loved seeing the bond that my friends had with their sisters. But if we have a boy, then it'll be just as awesome and we'd be in for some new adventures but that's what would make our parenthood journey so amazing.
I seriously don't get the social notion of one of each. They're not materialistic things. If you asked me if I wanted chocolate or vanilla cupcake...now that's a different story. I'd probably say I'll want one of each to that question but we are talking about our little humans -- they have their own little minds and personalities set to do things unimaginable to us right now.
So then how does our society get the idea that having a boy and a girl would make the best situation to parenthood (this is a rhetorical question)?
@AliKay20 I only have a brother as well, and while we're close now, we weren't very close growing up and I was always jealous of my friends who had sisters.
I can't count the amount of times people have said "oh one of each, good job!" When they find out we have a boy and a girl. I always wanna pat DH on the back and say "yeah way to send the right sperm my way."
HR just called to check in on me( because I'm 3 days past my due date)... ugh... and also had to call to schedule an ultrasound for the 22nd... Oh and my sister flies back to TX on sat... pretty sure shes missing the baby
I got the opposite about my kids. I had a boy and girl, so people just assumed I was done having kids since I had one of each. Having my 3rd on purpose really confused people, apparently most people think he was an accident.
DH and I have always planned on having a 3rd baby, but now everyone assumes it's because we will be trying for a girl. I just tell them we're hoping for a third boy, which is kind of true. I have two brothers and they have such a special relationship, and I'm so happy my boys can have that too, regardless of if we have a boy or girl next.
Ooh I love talk about more babies! My delivery, recovery, and baby have been too easy. Makes me want a third!!
I don't know about having the mirena placed. There's something unsettling for me about having this foreign hormonal object in my body. It's just weird. Maybe I'll go on the mini pill like I did with DD.
Ooh I love talk about more babies! My delivery, recovery, and baby have been too easy. Makes me want a third!!
I don't know about having the mirena placed. There's something unsettling for me about having this foreign hormonal object in my body. It's just weird. Maybe I'll go on the mini pill like I did with DD.
I'm wondering/trying to figure out that same thing! We don't plan on having our second baby until DD is 2 or 3, so the mirena would be ideal. But I've had a patient who's IUD perforated her uterus .. so yeah a little freaked out! I'll probably end up with Irish twins lol
I know a lot of women love the Mirena. I really liked mine the first year or so that I had it, but after that, I really grew to hate it. I've since learned that my body and the hormones from it just don't mesh well together. As soon as I had it removed, I was a whole new person... Not sure what we'll do this time as we aren't sure yet if we'll try to have anymore.
On a side note, I just found out this afternoon that I'll be induced next Thursday, if not sooner. I'm so excited to have a finish line. Yet, at the same time, I now feel like I have a ton to get done in the next week.
Why can't I nap?? Ds is sleeping soundly in his rnp, and I'm tired, but just can't fall asleep. My big kids keep getting into fights and being loud, and my house really needs some attention. But I just want to do nothing! Oh yeah, and dinner. I keep forgetting about that lol
Re: Randoms 8.15-8.21
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
Selfishly, I will have my favourite midwives if I give birth from Aug 22 onwards, so I sort of hope baby comes early, but not before the 22nd, lol.
BFP #1: 08/17/2012 DD1 born 05/01/2013
BFP #2: 07/31/2015 M/C 09/23/2015 (11.5 weeks)
BFP #2 8/22/12 | EDD 5/5/13 | DS1 born 5/9/13
BFP #3 4/25/15 | EDD 1/7/16 | MMC 7/2/15 @ 13w1d | D&E 7/8/15
BFP #4 12/9/15 | EDD 8/22/16 | DS2 born 5/18/16 at 26w2d
Just keep swimming.
All about perspective.
my cat has allergies.. so my vet said the old food changed their formula so he might have an issue with the "kale" they added... he ate it for the past month and has had no issue but it usually shows up after 3 months... I'm nervous about risking it right around the time of baby just to say 40 bucks.. but god its alot of money per month
Double naptime, omg!
BFP #2 8/22/12 | EDD 5/5/13 | DS1 born 5/9/13
BFP #3 4/25/15 | EDD 1/7/16 | MMC 7/2/15 @ 13w1d | D&E 7/8/15
BFP #4 12/9/15 | EDD 8/22/16 | DS2 born 5/18/16 at 26w2d
Just keep swimming.
Welcome back!
I think I just need to hibernate because I hate basically everyone I see these days.
It it mostly gets people to stop. And I find it amusing.
BFP #2 8/22/12 | EDD 5/5/13 | DS1 born 5/9/13
BFP #3 4/25/15 | EDD 1/7/16 | MMC 7/2/15 @ 13w1d | D&E 7/8/15
BFP #4 12/9/15 | EDD 8/22/16 | DS2 born 5/18/16 at 26w2d
Just keep swimming.
I seriously don't get the social notion of one of each. They're not materialistic things. If you asked me if I wanted chocolate or vanilla cupcake...now that's a different story. I'd probably say I'll want one of each to that question but we are talking about our little humans -- they have their own little minds and personalities set to do things unimaginable to us right now.
So then how does our society get the idea that having a boy and a girl would make the best situation to parenthood (this is a rhetorical question)?
BFP #2 8/22/12 | EDD 5/5/13 | DS1 born 5/9/13
BFP #3 4/25/15 | EDD 1/7/16 | MMC 7/2/15 @ 13w1d | D&E 7/8/15
BFP #4 12/9/15 | EDD 8/22/16 | DS2 born 5/18/16 at 26w2d
Just keep swimming.
My delivery, recovery, and baby have been too easy. Makes me want a third!!
I don't know about having the mirena placed. There's something unsettling for me about having this foreign hormonal object in my body. It's just weird. Maybe I'll go on the mini pill like I did with DD.
On a side note, I just found out this afternoon that I'll be induced next Thursday, if not sooner. I'm so excited to have a finish line. Yet, at the same time, I now feel like I have a ton to get done in the next week.