My FFFC: The Facebook thread makes me want to send out PMs to a bunch of really regular posters to start up my own FB group.. not for the point of excluding anyone in particular.. just because I want the Randoms thread to live on forever and I feel like those are my people... maybe I really am a mean girl, but I don't mean to be cruel in my exclusivity, I just like small mom groups versus 50-100+
I've got my A13 FB group, then some group private message going on and there are a couple ancillary smaller groups. It's all good. People just click better with some people than others.
I generally don't like children, at least other people's tiny humans. I love my niece, because she's pretty wicked for a kid. I have no doubt I will love our daughter to pieces, but other people's kids can bugger off.
@yellowrose314 Respectfully disagree (though sure, there are some kids I'm less a fan of, but only after I get to know them).
You remind me of a confession: I didn't know what "bugger" meant and used that phrase in a professional setting once with (higher level) UK colleagues... Their stunned reaction was enough to help me recognize the mortifying mistake.
My lunch was honey mustard pretzels and reese's oreos. I ate with my back to DS1 who is in his high chair eating peanut butter and jelly so I didn't have to share.
Oh man, the thought of a smaller fb group spinning off gives me hives. I was/have never been one of the "cool kids" (at life, not just on here lol). Also I have FOMO hardcore constantly.
My FFFC: The Facebook thread makes me want to send out PMs to a bunch of really regular posters to start up my own FB group.. not for the point of excluding anyone in particular.. just because I want the Randoms thread to live on forever and I feel like those are my people... maybe I really am a mean girl, but I don't mean to be cruel in my exclusivity, I just like small mom groups versus 50-100+
I like the idea of a smaller group. TBH I have a hard time keeping up with all of the threads and the random is the only one I stay up to date with.
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@Steephers123 - it's nothing to do with being "cool" I assure you. It's about being super present and in on Randoms convos and been there to give support during bumps in the road and babies being born so far, etc. I see your queen flipping the birds all the time.. Those who would be "missing out" on a smaller spin-off would be those that haven't participated to begin with. I get that some people just want to read and not comment, those are great people for a big ol facebook group, just not what this mean girl thinks belongs in an intimate group.
I don't understand the big deal with not being included in a Facebook group, no matter how big or small. It's the Internet, not 8th grade. If you've participated up until now, great. If you haven't, that's fine too. But I don't understand being upset about not being included in a group you haven't made an effort to participate in until now.
I don't understand the big deal with not being included in a Facebook group, no matter how big or small. It's the Internet, not 8th grade. If you've participated up until now, great. If you haven't, that's fine too. But I don't understand being upset about not being included in a group you haven't made an effort to participate in until now.
You summarized my exact feelings a whole lot better than I could. Also, there are plenty of FB groups that exist that have nothing to do with The Bump and just require a simple search. I know we have a Maine Baby Tribe and Maine Toddler Tribe that is not quite my style but I've been in them just to read along... I don't expect to be invited to private groups from there because I just don't feel like they're quite my people and therefore don't often contribute.
@AnnaS930 I totally don't think it's "mean girl" to want a smaller group with people you've gotten to know, and it sounds like it has worked well for lots of groups in the past. I guess I jumped on the cool kids phrase too easily w/o thinking through how that would sound. I should add I retyped that post like 10 times bc I'm so worried about stuff getting taken the wrong way
@Steephers123 - hahaha, for real... I'm not offended at all, just wanted to explain. If there was someone that I didn't care for in Randoms (there isn't) but participated a lot, I'd still be cool with being in a small group with them. That was my only need to clarify the "cool" phrasing and was also trying to say without being so obvious of "I recognize you and like you and would want you in the group"
My FFFC: The Facebook thread makes me want to send out PMs to a bunch of really regular posters to start up my own FB group.. not for the point of excluding anyone in particular.. just because I want the Randoms thread to live on forever and I feel like those are my people... maybe I really am a mean girl, but I don't mean to be cruel in my exclusivity, I just like small mom groups versus 50-100+
I had just finished cleaning the house when I spilled a ton of sugar on the kitchen floor. I secretly hoped my dog would lick it up so I wouldn't have to re-vacuum.
Was hoping to go to our town fair.. it's only a mile or two from our house. Wednesday it rained, yesterday was way too hot and today is just as hot (mid 90s and super humid/scattered thunderstorms). I know it would be miserable for me and for the toddler to be out walking around in that heat... A part of me really wants to go, pay the $10 admission, buy some deep fried oreos and get right back in the car. Hmmm...
@yellowrose314 Respectfully disagree (though sure, there are some kids I'm less a fan of, but only after I get to know them).
You remind me of a confession: I didn't know what "bugger" meant and used that phrase in a professional setting once with (higher level) UK colleagues... Their stunned reaction was enough to help me recognize the mortifying mistake.
@abberson, wait are you disagreeing with my FFFC or my use of the world "bugger"? If it's the former, isn't the whole point of FFFC the lack of flames and the general acceptance of weirdness? If it's the latter, I can get that. I grew up around a lot of British families/kids and that word was dropped on the daily, it was just normal, and yes everyone understood the origin. To appease I will amend my original statement to "other people's kids are not my jam".
@yellowrose314 I am with you on other people's kids. There are some out there that I literally can't stand and more than gladly put in their place when the time warrants it. But then on the flip side, there are others that I know well that I don't mind being around and enjoy their company.
I do the knuckle thing for the days of the month as well. And also sometimes catch myself making my forefinger and thumb into an L on my left hand to reassure myself it is in fact the left one.
Same!
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H got his TDAP shot a few days ago. I feel a bit justified that he is complaining about how it hurts still, when I said mine hurt days later he gave the 'really' look.
This was my husband! I got my shot & DS1 had one for school in his leg. It hurt both of us & DH told us to quit 'milking it'. I kind of liked that his was sore too!
My dog is super energetic & she loves to play. She always sets her tennis ball down at our feet when we're seated on the deck as a way of saying, "Let's play!", so we pick it up and throw it for her. Endlessly.
I know this is irrational, but I get annoyed when our guests don't throw the ball for her. It makes me feel bad for her --- she's so loving & I can tell it frustrates her because she thinks they do not understand what she's trying to do. (Even when we tell them, "She's trying to get you to throw the ball," most don't.)
@ElcaB - I might not throw your dog's ball. I love my dog (not to the extent that some do) and I hate when she annoys guests.. by putting balls at their feet, etc. I am always apologizing for her and telling her to leave them alone. She's a small dog and doesn't slobber, but I often find dog toys to be just kind of yucky.. especially if an outdoor ball, and therefore I might not want to pick up a stink ball (if yours is in fact a yucky toy) hahaha
@yellowrose314 I'm down with OPK not being your jam, that's fair. No flaming intended, I thought disagreeing was ok here though? Some people hate grey's, others love it? (Just to cite a recurring theme). My wording could have been more clear.
Mostly I was distracted by my face going all red reliving my bugger off moment after reading your comment. It was one of those moments I relive when I can't sleep and my mind skips back to all of the embarrassing things I've done since college (before that I seem to have given myself a break).
I had a bellyache from frosting, then got an email that our morale booster people here bought whoopie pies, so I went and ate some of those..
Also, I bought the cupcakes for the shower(s) yesterday. We put them out again today and people keep eating them, which is great.. but I feel entitled to whatever is left over at 5pm today and I'm secretly side-eying people as they take them because I obviously need like a dozen cupcakes at home...
I've always used the song (it's the only way I remember, other than February, since it's the odd one and October and December since the 31st is a major holiday for both of them).
I'm sitting here amazed at how there's an alternating pattern for most 31 day months. Never noticed that.
@abberson No worries lady, I was just confused as to where you were disagreeing haha. I know what you mean, I get triggers like that too. Never fun, although sometimes I can laugh in retrospect which makes up for it.
I recently taught my son the knuckle trick and my husband was in awe because he'd never seen it. I use it all the time though. @Jabreen I definitely ate two packages of ramen for dinner last night. They were delicious. Now I need more because that was all that was in the house. I then proceeded to finish off my husbands birthday cake (about 1/4 left).
My FFFC is I sometimes lie to my husband about what the kids and I did all day so he doesn't get all judgy because we did nothing. I don't really care to hear what I should do especially at this point. I figure I'm keeping the kids alive and well fed - good enough!
@yellowrose314 other peoples kids are not my jam either, not even family members kids. My cousin has a 13 year old, a 10 year old, & an 8 year old and I totally love them with all my heart but I really don't like to be around them for very long. She baby sits my daughter every once in a while and I make sure to pay her very well whether she asks for money or not just so I won't feel guilty about never offering to keep her kids.
I don't like receiving flowers. Especially now. Getting 5 bouquets at my door is nice and all but now I have to find where to put them, put them in water, throw them out when they're dead, and not even enjoy them because we were in the NICU and not home. Send food. And chocolate. Not something I have to keep alive.
My FFFC, I having cooked a decent meal in I do not know how long. I feel guilty at my lack of effort. My sweet FI says nothing but he must miss having better food.
And I had McDonalds for lunch. I dont even like McDonalds but my coworker offered to pick it up for me and I found myself saying OK before I realized it.
I don't like receiving flowers. Especially now. Getting 5 bouquets at my door is nice and all but now I have to find where to put them, put them in water, throw them out when they're dead, and not even enjoy them because we were in the NICU and not home. Send food. And chocolate. Not something I have to keep alive.
Yes!!! So much this!!!
Also, both DH and I are allergic to flowers. They're like the worst thing you could give us
I don't like receiving flowers. Especially now. Getting 5 bouquets at my door is nice and all but now I have to find where to put them, put them in water, throw them out when they're dead, and not even enjoy them because we were in the NICU and not home. Send food. And chocolate. Not something I have to keep alive.
Seriously, the only gift you should give to a new mom is a casserole or a cleaning service.
I've never liked getting flowers. But then I'm not a flower girl.
I don't like the smell (which apparently qualifies as a reason to revoke my Girl Card according to some people) and I don't like taking care of them.
I've always considered flowers a waste of money. And it makes me sad that they cut them and kill them just so that people can decorate a table for a few days.
@mom2adoodle I hear that. My mom has the world's biggest green thumb, her house is constantly full of fresh flowers, and she's always bringing them over. I have so many vases I don't know where to put them. But in reality, I love flowers in the house for about 2 days and then I'm like well, shit, I don't want to clean up their leavings. More than once I've left flowers in the vase for so long there's fluffy stuff growing on the water. I told everyone we know "don't get me flowers, get me an Edible Arrangement", because damn I love those things. Fruit on a stick? Hell yes.
Re: FFFC
I've got my A13 FB group, then some group private message going on and there are a couple ancillary smaller groups. It's all good. People just click better with some people than others.
You remind me of a confession: I didn't know what "bugger" meant and used that phrase in a professional setting once with (higher level) UK colleagues... Their stunned reaction was enough to help me recognize the mortifying mistake.
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This was my husband! I got my shot & DS1 had one for school in his leg. It hurt both of us & DH told us to quit 'milking it'. I kind of liked that his was sore too!
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I know this is irrational, but I get annoyed when our guests don't throw the ball for her. It makes me feel bad for her --- she's so loving & I can tell it frustrates her because she thinks they do not understand what she's trying to do. (Even when we tell them, "She's trying to get you to throw the ball," most don't.)
Can you tell I love my dog?
Mostly I was distracted by my face going all red reliving my bugger off moment after reading your comment. It was one of those moments I relive when I can't sleep and my mind skips back to all of the embarrassing things I've done since college (before that I seem to have given myself a break).
Also, I bought the cupcakes for the shower(s) yesterday. We put them out again today and people keep eating them, which is great.. but I feel entitled to whatever is left over at 5pm today and I'm secretly side-eying people as they take them because I obviously need like a dozen cupcakes at home...
I've always used the song (it's the only way I remember, other than February, since it's the odd one and October and December since the 31st is a major holiday for both of them).
I'm sitting here amazed at how there's an alternating pattern for most 31 day months. Never noticed that.
● IUI #2: BFP - early M/C
● IUI #3: BFN
● IUI #4: BFN
● IVF/FET #1 (2 transferred): BFP! TWINS!
● FET #2 (1 transferred): BFP! BOY #3!
● Natural #1: BFP - M/C @ 8 weeks
● Natural #2: BFP - M/C @ 5w5d
Baby girl is moving up a storm now, so I'm not saying she loved it, but man, I think she loved it.
@Jabreen I definitely ate two packages of ramen for dinner last night. They were delicious. Now I need more because that was all that was in the house. I then proceeded to finish off my husbands birthday cake (about 1/4 left).
My FFFC is I sometimes lie to my husband about what the kids and I did all day so he doesn't get all judgy because we did nothing. I don't really care to hear what I should do especially at this point. I figure I'm keeping the kids alive and well fed - good enough!
And I had McDonalds for lunch. I dont even like McDonalds but my coworker offered to pick it up for me and I found myself saying OK before I realized it.
Also, both DH and I are allergic to flowers. They're like the worst thing you could give us
I don't like the smell (which apparently qualifies as a reason to revoke my Girl Card according to some people) and I don't like taking care of them.
I've always considered flowers a waste of money. And it makes me sad that they cut them and kill them just so that people can decorate a table for a few days.
● IUI #2: BFP - early M/C
● IUI #3: BFN
● IUI #4: BFN
● IVF/FET #1 (2 transferred): BFP! TWINS!
● FET #2 (1 transferred): BFP! BOY #3!
● Natural #1: BFP - M/C @ 8 weeks
● Natural #2: BFP - M/C @ 5w5d