DH and I met through my best friend C, who was dating one of DH's brothers. DH is the youngest of 7, and was kind of an antisocial shut in/gamer nerd. I have a huge thing for nerdy guys, but at the time I was back in the on again phase of an on/off long distance relationship. It kind of just started as me making him come out of his room and socialize when we were all hanging out, and pretty soon I didn't even have to ask; my BF said every time he found out I was coming over he would immediately get dressed nicer or what not, and that it was obvious he really liked me. At that point I was starting to see my current relationship just wasn't going to work, and I called it quits with my ex; at that point I still didn't know how I felt about DH. He was super sweet, always making me laugh, but it was very obvious he'd didn't have a lot of experience with girls, very shy but tried very hard, which intrigued me and turned me off at the same time. So flash forward a few months and I realize I don't really care if he's "not my type", I realize I really really like him, and he's still really into me, but nothing has happened. For New Years Eve that year, the four of us had planned to hang out together as per usual, but my BF and DH's brother ended up bailing to go snowboarding, so it was just the two of us. Crazy sexual tension all night, he made me dinner, we went for a walk in the snow, and at midnight we were watching the countdown and just kind of turned to each other and kissed at midnight. Guys, he was a TERRIBLE kisser, like I had to stop him!! And literally teach him how to kiss right there, and normally I would have been like ok how do I get out of here, but I thought it was super endearing. He's an amazing kisser now. He's also one of the most down to earth, caring, hilariously nerdy people I've ever met. He gives hugs that just melt your insides. I don't know how I knew he was the one... about a month after my mom met him she was like "You're going to marry that man, I just know it", and I was like... you know what? I want that. We dated for 2 years, moved in together after 4 months of dating and never really looked back. One day we were in a local jewelry shop so I could get a ring resized and I caught him eyeing up the engagement rings, but I didn't say anything. Suddenly he was late home from work a lot, and I got really suspicious, because I knew he was up to something (not cheating). Since our anniversary was on NYE, he surprised me with booking a super fancy hotel Victoria BC, and then kept surprising me; super fancy dinner, horse drawn carriage ride, and at midnight we ended up on the rooftop garden terrace to watch the fireworks, and as soon as they go off, I'm watching them and I turn around and he's down on one knee and presents me with the most amazing engagement ring I've ever seen, and the centre stone was from my mothers engagement ring. There were apartment buildings surrounding the hotel, and everyone on their balconies started taking pictures of me screaming and flapping my arms around like a crazy person, but I said yes
Great stories! My husband and I met on MySpace in 2005 in some fluke...I was drunk with my bff and sad to be moving back to my hometown because all my friends had moved away. She made a search to find me some new friends before I got there and he was the first one to pop up and she messaged him. He wrote back and we were MySpace penpals for about 6 months. Then, he just stopped writing. I found out later it's because he got a girlfriend who made him stop writing me. I moved back to my hometown that summer and lived alone and dated a few guys here and there. A year later, I went to a birthday party and played a game of darts with a couple guys. I got a MySpace message that night. It was him and I hadn't even recognized him at the party. We talked back and forth for a couple months before he finally asked me out. We went to dinner at BJs, followed by a mutual friend's bday party. A couple days later, I treated him to a 49er game. He showed up with a hickey on his neck. I wanted to write him off right there and then but just couldn't shake him...I gave him a pass and we started dating seriously. I don't know how I knew he was the one. I serial dated through college and a couple years after and had kissed so many frogs...something just made sense with him....we dated for 6 years...he propsed to me in Central Park in NYC while we were visiting my dad. He told me he wanted to take a picture on a rock in front of the lake, and when we got up there, he got down on one knee. I'll never tell him but I totally knew it was coming...I'm incredibly perceptive and I read him like a book...it was still wonderful...We got married 7/7/12. We had a VERY rough year during our first year of marriage and my first pregnancy. He broke my heart and we almost got a divorce. We made it through somehow and now we are unstoppable....
We met through a mutual friend (now ex-friend). We ran in the same circle of friends, but had never met because our schedules in high school were different (he was also a year ahead of me) and we didn't see more than one of our mutual friends outside of school.
We were introduced for the first time the summer before we started dating and he was into me, but I was clueless, shy and awkward. He ended up driving me home from our friend's house and tried to talk to me, but I was too socially awkward to say much and he assumed I didn't like him. Really I was just in a sort of social panic fog.
The same friend invited us both over for NYE at the end of that year (just us and her) to try to get us together because she knew he liked me and I was relaxed enough to actually talk to him that time. She was incredibly obvious and awkward about trying to get us to connect and (ironically) we sort of bonded over her hilariously bad attempts. He ended up asking me out that night and we went on our first date almost three weeks later (I don't remember now why there was such a long wait).
Our first date was playing pool. It took me by surprise when I realized how interested he was in me (I had terrible self-esteem, now it's just low-average) and we ended up having a great time. In less than a month we were inseparable and I was spending all my free time at his house and was part of the family, although we also had a very rocky relationship (for reasons I don't want to get into) at the same time and fought a lot while being similtaneously joined at the hip.
We were together for about 4 years before he proposed, right around my birthday, although we talked about getting married from about 3 or 4 months into our relationship (we were serious, even at age 17/18). When he did propose, he took me to the forest preserve near our houses (I almost ruined it by dragging my feet about leaving because I was eating ice cream and didn't feel like going out ) and proposing to me at a picnic table near a tree that had sentimental meaning for us.
He asked, I said yes and cried (first time I had ever cried happy tears). He had a beautiful ring custom made using the diamond from his mom's wedding ring as the center.
We were engaged for a little over a year before getting married (aged 22/23) and almost didn't make it to the altar a few times during our engagement (rocky relationship rearing it's head again) but we've been married for a little over 11 years now and things are great between us now.
In that time we've faced everything from a difficult LDR, to becoming an aunt and uncle to his sister's four kids, to teetering on the brink of divorce twice (although I was against it both times and wanted to work things out).
It took us probably 8 years of marriage before we finally found ourselves and got over the issues we'd struggled with our entire relationship. I won't say it was sunshine and rainbows, but I'm glad we stuck it out and made it work. He's my best friend and I can't imagine being with anyone else.
It hasn't always been pretty and it certainly wasn't a fairytale (though our relationship has had its magic moments), but we're happy now and are excited to be parents very soon. Part of me wishes we'd had a smooth relationship from the beginning and part of me wouldn't change the past because it taught us some tough lessons that have made us better people.
@MojieJo we had a lot of issues just like you. We got married at 21 and 24, and were both just so young and dumb. H also comes from a dug addicted mother and had a lot of issues from that. He had a hard time being affectionate, and I'm the type that appreciates a good 5 minute hug. It took us a long, hard time (that's what she said) to get to where we communicated well enough that we both felt cared for. And I'm like you, I hate that we went through all of that but I'm so happy we did because we are so much better for it. But please don't ever make me go back in time and live it all again!!!!
He was a friend of my sisters. He was 7 years older than me and I always thought he was hot. (My sister use to have a huge crush on him too haha) When I moved away for college a mutual friend started dating my roommate so he came into the city with him one night. We all went for drinks (at the Strippers ) and he started texting me the next night wanting to hang out.
We we started dating about 4 months later after we had gone home together after a couple wedding socials.
We were together 2 years (living together for 1) when I got pregnant with DD. We got engaged when DD was almost 2. He asked me while o was sick on the couch. The poor guy isn't very good st keeping a secret and I could tell as soon as he came home that something was up. He also had been hinting to asking me for about a month before.
Oh and I have to add, I never had avocados/quac until our first date. He insisted over and over again I try it...I am now obsessed with both. Thanks husband not sure how I would live without you...or quacamole
This makes perfect sense given the quesadilla story a while back.
I saw DH for the first time while he was speaking at a conference I attended with my then boyfriend with whom I had a rocky, on and off relationship. When I saw him, I had the passing thought of "that's the type of guy I should be dating" but didn't really do anything about it. I didn't like him or talk to him or anything like that, I just had that fleeting thought for some reason.
Didn't see him again until a year later after I had just broken up with said boyfriend for good. We ended up hanging out with a group of friends and I just felt really attracted to him so I made a point to talk to him more than anyone. He hadn't paid extra attention to me until the next time we hung out with the same group and he blurted out something about me that showed me he did some online stalking. We continued talking on the phone and knew about a week or two into it that this was it (and even started talking marriage then!).
We got engaged a year later and married a few months after that. He proposed on Christmas Eve while we were out to dinner with all my family. My dad said "(H) has something to say" and DH got up and did a little speech that I can't remember because I just started shaking like a leaf. He had asked my dad for "my hand" weeks before and I had noticed he'd been really nervous for a few days but didn't know what was up. It was beautiful!
It's been an amazing 6 years and we just click perfectly. He is an incredible person and there has never been a doubt in my mind that he's the one. We have that thing where we are just so similar and compatible and it's great!
How did you initially meet? How did you know he was the right guy to go through this journey with? We met in college at Culinary School. We first became really good friends and had a little group of 5ppl we always hung out with. We were both in the dorms and would get together after class and all cook and hang out together. After a few months I started to develop a crush on him and one night when we were all out at a bar (and I had had a bit to drink) so blurted out "I think I have a crush on you!" So over the next few weeks/months we hid our love affair from our friends. They eventually figured it out and were all groomsmen at our wedding
And I will add other questions if you want to answer too... What was your first date? How did he/you propose? Our first date was at a local restaurant in the town we went to school at. And he proposed at my step dads house by the pool one day shortly after he moved across the country to rekindle our relationship. We were living in NYC together for about 6 years and broke up briefly. I moved home to TX and after a few months he followed me here. We were engaged instantly, married the following summer, had our first child exactly 10 months later and are now expecting number 2.
How did you initially meet? How did you know he was the right guy to go through this journey with? In college, I was a Resident Assistant, running a tower in one of our dorms (in charge of about 60 upperclassmen at a time each year). My 2nd year as an RA, Matt was one of my first residents that I met - he actually moved in early and came down to my room and introduced himself/shook my hand. Now, in high school I had a core group of guy friends that I was absolutely obsessed with. In my first few years at college I just could never meet guys that lived up to my standard of best friendship/dating (but met plenty that were worth a few overnights with ). I instantly knew that Matt was different from the other college guys I had become friends with and that he was someone I could bring home to my core group of friends. For that entire year we were just friends, often grabbed lunch together, etc. His friends all claimed I liked him, my friends claimed he liked me - but he had a girlfriend and I had some friends with benefits that were keeping us both tied up... but there was always flirtation. I remember meeting his girlfriend (who hated me.. that should have clued me in that there was something between Matt and I) and just thought to myself that she wasn't good enough for him. Fast forward to the following year, we kept in touch over the summer and he told me he broke up with this GF. We chatted on AIM constantly (hello 2007), and I went to see his new house that he moved into off-campus. We hung out a bunch and kissed for the first time about a week later. That day I called things off with the only friend with benefits that remained. We started officially dating about a week later. And I will add other questions if you want to answer too... What was your first date? How did he/you propose? First date was at a local restaurant I think... hard to remember since we knew each other so well beforehand. Proposal - on our 3rd dating anniversary we had been living together for about 3 months (finally graduated from college). I came home from work and saw that all our apartment blinds were closed and it looked dark in there, seemed odd for windows to be closed when it was hot out (early September). I went in and there were no lights on in the apartment, just candle lit. On the table were bouquets of my favorite flowers and spelled out in tea lights was "Anna, Will you marry me?" He was all dressed up and had a Joshua Radin song (I'd Rather Be With You) playing in the background. I obviously said yes I walked down the ailse just under a year later to the Joshua Radin song "Today" (damn you Ellen Degeneras for stealing my song).
He's my absolute best friend... we make each other laugh and enjoy a lot of the same things and have opened each others eyes to a lot of new interests/hobbies as well. I always knew he'd be a great dad and we honestly started speaking about marriage, a house and kids within a month of dating.. there was just no other way for our story to play out in our minds, and now we've made it that.
DH and I were both part of the student government organization at our colleges. Every year, there are two big meetings held up north (one in the fall and one in the spring) that the student government from each community college attends. We met in the fall and hit it off but nothing ever came of it. I was still getting over breaking up with my long distance boyfriend and I swore that my now DH was more into one of my friends than me anyway.
We met again at the spring meeting and things moved pretty quickly from there. I just remember hanging out with a bunch of friends later in the evening and I was sitting on a taller fence with him in front of me giving him a back rub. We our first kiss that night standing on the edge of the lake at the resort with the Northern Lights going full force overhead (the first time I had ever seen them!). We went on our first official date a week later, said our first "I love you's" within a month and got engaged 6 1/2 months later. Just under 2 years later we got married. We'll be celebrating 12 years in September and there's 100% no one else I'd rather have spent the all that time with.
So many of these stories are echoing the point that when one door closes, another opens. So many crappy relationships ended right before, or because of something new coming along. Hard to see when you're in the crap relationship, or recovering from one ending... but awesome to look back and see what you had no idea was waiting around the next bend. Very nice stories ladies, loving them all!
@MrsVoorhees I was just rereading some of these (it's a long trip home from FL) and I didn't realize you had a Navy husband too! Great minds think alike
@MrsVoorhees I was just rereading some of these (it's a long trip home from FL) and I didn't realize you had a Navy husband too! Great minds think alike
I do!! He's not in anymore, but was when we first got together. He actually wore his white sailor hat the whe time we were at the river and i thought he looked SO cute haha I called him Navy Boy and he called me River Girl
Mine isn't either and I'm super disappointed I never got to see him all dressed in his whites! I do have a super adorable picture of him when he got back from overseas on my nightstand though *sigh*
We met online, which is a bummer because it's such an anticlimactic story. I had come out of two long term relationships with people I wasn't invested enough in, followed by a disastrous fling with a friend, so I decided casually dating made sense for me.
Heres the intersting part of our story. In the beginning, we moved very slowly, a date every week or two, I was trying not to rush into anything and I was also dating other people; he was too. One of the people I was seeing was someone I met through a friend- a girl; I'm bisexual. I had briefly dated her a few months before that and kind of didn't expect it to work out because we just had a couple major incompatibilities. So anyway, I saw her casually and also did some online dating.
A few dates in my now BF adds me on fb. I notice we know some of the same people, which is cool. I'm Facebook stalking him, going back several years and being nosey..... When i see pictures of him and the girl I'm seeing kissing! That's right, he and I both dated the same woman. It's ridiculous and (I think) hilarious.
As expected she and I did not work out and he and i slowly became more serious. I am relieved she and I weren't a match, because my boyfriend and I are so compatible as both friends and lovers. I cant imagine how creeped out our daughter will be to some day learn this. Lol.
We have both always been ambivalent about marriage, but the longer we're together the more we both seem to be into the idea. The other day he said "I'd marry you tomorrow", and it was adorable. For now, we bought a house together and are looking forward to baby
this is such a cute thread! so many great stories i will certainly be returning and reading more whenever i don't feel like working (let's be honest that's like every minute of the day!)
My husband and i met on eharmony. I had a friend who was pressuring me to join the site to "find a good guy" Basically after every ended relationship she would say "hey why don't you join eharmony"....so i finally bit the bullet and joined one if their free weekends and then signed up for a discounted 3 month plan. I had actually passed of DH once but then thought, ok maybe he's just not the most photogenic or these aren't his best pictures. At least he looks "real" and not all these fake posed pictures. So i initiated contact and we followed their prescribed 4 methods of communication. I actually had started dating someone else from the site...and when that fell through i wrote DH giving him my number (it wasn't my real cell number actually, it was a google voice number that got forwarded to my phone and i could screen calls...Hey, i didn't want creeps having my real number!)...anyways gave him my number and said i was ending my subscription for now and if he wanted to keep in touch then to just call/text. Sure enough he did and we set up a coffee date/meet.
Well the night before I had gone out country dancing with one of my good friends. We hadn't really been drinking but it was a late night and i certainly did NOT want to wake up to meet some dude for coffee. I texted him and asked if we could push it back a little (so i could sleep more)...i then eventually rolled out of bed and probably just put on yoga pants and a sweatshirt...hair and make-up from the night before. I was kinda over it if you couldn't tell.
Sorry this is so long--we met for coffee and hit it off great! he left to go camping and basically as soon as he got back we spent pretty much every day together. We had met in May/June...by July 4th/my birthday I knew i loved him...by early August i knew i was gonna marry him some day. Specifically it was when i got a picture he sent from meeting his cousin's newborn...the first thing i thought was "i can't wait till he's holding our baby"
It was a year later, on the 4th of July weekend we went backpacking and he proposed by the river/creek by our campsite...it was quite cute and i was quite stupid...not to make this even longer, but let me explain more...He was big on backpacking and one long trip he took i wrote him little letters that told him about myself and then also required him to find something or take a picture of something...so as a kid loved to collect rocks and i asked him to find a rock for me...ok now back to the proposal....I thought something was up while we were fishing, he was crouched down next to me and i kept thinking he was gonna propose...but then as we started walking back i forgot about it...he then said "hey look at this cool rock i found" so i turn around and don't even notice he's down on one knee and look at the rock he has in his hand (it's a hide a key rock..but i'm not really aware)...and i make some dumb comment like "Omg that IS a pretty cool rock" and he says "yeah, look what it can do" turning it over and showing me it's a hide a key....i forget the rest, but he asked me to marry him and i of course said yes.
I still have the rock and i now have one proud dad birth picture and looking forward to add another one to the collection!
Re: GTYK - how I met your... Father... Mother.
So flash forward a few months and I realize I don't really care if he's "not my type", I realize I really really like him, and he's still really into me, but nothing has happened. For New Years Eve that year, the four of us had planned to hang out together as per usual, but my BF and DH's brother ended up bailing to go snowboarding, so it was just the two of us. Crazy sexual tension all night, he made me dinner, we went for a walk in the snow, and at midnight we were watching the countdown and just kind of turned to each other and kissed at midnight. Guys, he was a TERRIBLE kisser, like I had to stop him!! And literally teach him how to kiss right there, and normally I would have been like ok how do I get out of here, but I thought it was super endearing. He's an amazing kisser now. He's also one of the most down to earth, caring, hilariously nerdy people I've ever met. He gives hugs that just melt your insides. I don't know how I knew he was the one... about a month after my mom met him she was like "You're going to marry that man, I just know it", and I was like... you know what? I want that.
We dated for 2 years, moved in together after 4 months of dating and never really looked back. One day we were in a local jewelry shop so I could get a ring resized and I caught him eyeing up the engagement rings, but I didn't say anything. Suddenly he was late home from work a lot, and I got really suspicious, because I knew he was up to something (not cheating). Since our anniversary was on NYE, he surprised me with booking a super fancy hotel Victoria BC, and then kept surprising me; super fancy dinner, horse drawn carriage ride, and at midnight we ended up on the rooftop garden terrace to watch the fireworks, and as soon as they go off, I'm watching them and I turn around and he's down on one knee and presents me with the most amazing engagement ring I've ever seen, and the centre stone was from my mothers engagement ring. There were apartment buildings surrounding the hotel, and everyone on their balconies started taking pictures of me screaming and flapping my arms around like a crazy person, but I said yes
My husband and I met on MySpace in 2005 in some fluke...I was drunk with my bff and sad to be moving back to my hometown because all my friends had moved away. She made a search to find me some new friends before I got there and he was the first one to pop up and she messaged him. He wrote back and we were MySpace penpals for about 6 months. Then, he just stopped writing. I found out later it's because he got a girlfriend who made him stop writing me. I moved back to my hometown that summer and lived alone and dated a few guys here and there. A year later, I went to a birthday party and played a game of darts with a couple guys. I got a MySpace message that night. It was him and I hadn't even recognized him at the party. We talked back and forth for a couple months before he finally asked me out. We went to dinner at BJs, followed by a mutual friend's bday party. A couple days later, I treated him to a 49er game. He showed up with a hickey on his neck. I wanted to write him off right there and then but just couldn't shake him...I gave him a pass and we started dating seriously. I don't know how I knew he was the one. I serial dated through college and a couple years after and had kissed so many frogs...something just made sense with him....we dated for 6 years...he propsed to me in Central Park in NYC while we were visiting my dad. He told me he wanted to take a picture on a rock in front of the lake, and when we got up there, he got down on one knee. I'll never tell him but I totally knew it was coming...I'm incredibly perceptive and I read him like a book...it was still wonderful...We got married 7/7/12. We had a VERY rough year during our first year of marriage and my first pregnancy. He broke my heart and we almost got a divorce. We made it through somehow and now we are unstoppable....
We were introduced for the first time the summer before we started dating and he was into me, but I was clueless, shy and awkward. He ended up driving me home from our friend's house and tried to talk to me, but I was too socially awkward to say much and he assumed I didn't like him. Really I was just in a sort of social panic fog.
The same friend invited us both over for NYE at the end of that year (just us and her) to try to get us together because she knew he liked me and I was relaxed enough to actually talk to him that time. She was incredibly obvious and awkward about trying to get us to connect and (ironically) we sort of bonded over her hilariously bad attempts. He ended up asking me out that night and we went on our first date almost three weeks later (I don't remember now why there was such a long wait).
Our first date was playing pool. It took me by surprise when I realized how interested he was in me (I had terrible self-esteem, now it's just low-average) and we ended up having a great time. In less than a month we were inseparable and I was spending all my free time at his house and was part of the family, although we also had a very rocky relationship (for reasons I don't want to get into) at the same time and fought a lot while being similtaneously joined at the hip.
We were together for about 4 years before he proposed, right around my birthday, although we talked about getting married from about 3 or 4 months into our relationship (we were serious, even at age 17/18). When he did propose, he took me to the forest preserve near our houses (I almost ruined it by dragging my feet about leaving because I was eating ice cream and didn't feel like going out
He asked, I said yes and cried (first time I had ever cried happy tears). He had a beautiful ring custom made using the diamond from his mom's wedding ring as the center.
We were engaged for a little over a year before getting married (aged 22/23) and almost didn't make it to the altar a few times during our engagement (rocky relationship rearing it's head again) but we've been married for a little over 11 years now and things are great between us now.
In that time we've faced everything from a difficult LDR, to becoming an aunt and uncle to his sister's four kids, to teetering on the brink of divorce twice (although I was against it both times and wanted to work things out).
It took us probably 8 years of marriage before we finally found ourselves and got over the issues we'd struggled with our entire relationship. I won't say it was sunshine and rainbows, but I'm glad we stuck it out and made it work. He's my best friend and I can't imagine being with anyone else.
It hasn't always been pretty and it certainly wasn't a fairytale (though our relationship has had its magic moments), but we're happy now and are excited to be parents very soon. Part of me wishes we'd had a smooth relationship from the beginning and part of me wouldn't change the past because it taught us some tough lessons that have made us better people.
● IUI #2: BFP - early M/C
● IUI #3: BFN
● IUI #4: BFN
● IVF/FET #1 (2 transferred): BFP! TWINS!
● FET #2 (1 transferred): BFP! BOY #3!
● Natural #1: BFP - M/C @ 8 weeks
● Natural #2: BFP - M/C @ 5w5d
that but I'm so happy we did because we are so much better for it. But please don't ever make me go back in time and live it all again!!!!
I'm glad it worked out for you guys, too. We deserve happiness after slogging through the trenches.
● IUI #2: BFP - early M/C
● IUI #3: BFN
● IUI #4: BFN
● IVF/FET #1 (2 transferred): BFP! TWINS!
● FET #2 (1 transferred): BFP! BOY #3!
● Natural #1: BFP - M/C @ 8 weeks
● Natural #2: BFP - M/C @ 5w5d
We we started dating about 4 months later after we had gone home together after a couple wedding socials.
We were together 2 years (living together for 1) when I got pregnant with DD. We got engaged when DD was almost 2. He asked me while o was sick on the couch. The poor guy isn't very good st keeping a secret and I could tell as soon as he came home that something was up. He also had been hinting to asking me for about a month before.
I saw DH for the first time while he was speaking at a conference I attended with my then boyfriend with whom I had a rocky, on and off relationship. When I saw him, I had the passing thought of "that's the type of guy I should be dating" but didn't really do anything about it. I didn't like him or talk to him or anything like that, I just had that fleeting thought for some reason.
Didn't see him again until a year later after I had just broken up with said boyfriend for good. We ended up hanging out with a group of friends and I just felt really attracted to him so I made a point to talk to him more than anyone. He hadn't paid extra attention to me until the next time we hung out with the same group and he blurted out something about me that showed me he did some online stalking. We continued talking on the phone and knew about a week or two into it that this was it (and even started talking marriage then!).
We got engaged a year later and married a few months after that. He proposed on Christmas Eve while we were out to dinner with all my family. My dad said "(H) has something to say" and DH got up and did a little speech that I can't remember because I just started shaking like a leaf. He had asked my dad for "my hand" weeks before and I had noticed he'd been really nervous for a few days but didn't know what was up. It was beautiful!
It's been an amazing 6 years and we just click perfectly. He is an incredible person and there has never been a doubt in my mind that he's the one. We have that thing where we are just so similar and compatible and it's great!
Edit: forgot engagement story
And I will add other questions if you want to answer too... What was your first date? How did he/you propose? Our first date was at a local restaurant in the town we went to school at. And he proposed at my step dads house by the pool one day shortly after he moved across the country to rekindle our relationship. We were living in NYC together for about 6 years and broke up briefly. I moved home to TX and after a few months he followed me here. We were engaged instantly, married the following summer, had our first child exactly 10 months later
In college, I was a Resident Assistant, running a tower in one of our dorms (in charge of about 60 upperclassmen at a time each year). My 2nd year as an RA, Matt was one of my first residents that I met - he actually moved in early and came down to my room and introduced himself/shook my hand. Now, in high school I had a core group of guy friends that I was absolutely obsessed with. In my first few years at college I just could never meet guys that lived up to my standard of best friendship/dating (but met plenty that were worth a few overnights with
For that entire year we were just friends, often grabbed lunch together, etc. His friends all claimed I liked him, my friends claimed he liked me - but he had a girlfriend and I had some friends with benefits that were keeping us both tied up... but there was always flirtation. I remember meeting his girlfriend (who hated me.. that should have clued me in that there was something between Matt and I) and just thought to myself that she wasn't good enough for him.
Fast forward to the following year, we kept in touch over the summer and he told me he broke up with this GF. We chatted on AIM constantly (hello 2007), and I went to see his new house that he moved into off-campus. We hung out a bunch and kissed for the first time about a week later. That day I called things off with the only friend with benefits that remained. We started officially dating about a week later.
And I will add other questions if you want to answer too... What was your first date? How did he/you propose?
First date was at a local restaurant I think... hard to remember since we knew each other so well beforehand.
Proposal - on our 3rd dating anniversary we had been living together for about 3 months (finally graduated from college). I came home from work and saw that all our apartment blinds were closed and it looked dark in there, seemed odd for windows to be closed when it was hot out (early September). I went in and there were no lights on in the apartment, just candle lit. On the table were bouquets of my favorite flowers and spelled out in tea lights was "Anna, Will you marry me?" He was all dressed up and had a Joshua Radin song (I'd Rather Be With You) playing in the background. I obviously said yes
He's my absolute best friend... we make each other laugh and enjoy a lot of the same things and have opened each others eyes to a lot of new interests/hobbies as well. I always knew he'd be a great dad and we honestly started speaking about marriage, a house and kids within a month of dating.. there was just no other way for our story to play out in our minds, and now we've made it that.
We met again at the spring meeting and things moved pretty quickly from there. I just remember hanging out with a bunch of friends later in the evening and I was sitting on a taller fence with him in front of me giving him a back rub. We our first kiss that night standing on the edge of the lake at the resort with the Northern Lights going full force overhead (the first time I had ever seen them!). We went on our first official date a week later, said our first "I love you's" within a month and got engaged 6 1/2 months later. Just under 2 years later we got married. We'll be celebrating 12 years in September and there's 100% no one else I'd rather have spent the all that time with.
Boy and he called me River Girl
Heres the intersting part of our story. In the beginning, we moved very slowly, a date every week or two, I was trying not to rush into anything and I was also dating other people; he was too. One of the people I was seeing was someone I met through a friend- a girl; I'm bisexual. I had briefly dated her a few months before that and kind of didn't expect it to work out because we just had a couple major incompatibilities. So anyway, I saw her casually and also did some online dating.
A few dates in my now BF adds me on fb. I notice we know some of the same people, which is cool. I'm Facebook stalking him, going back several years and being nosey..... When i see pictures of him and the girl I'm seeing kissing! That's right, he and I both dated the same woman. It's ridiculous and (I think) hilarious.
As expected she and I did not work out and he and i slowly became more serious. I am relieved she and I weren't a match, because my boyfriend and I are so compatible as both friends and lovers. I cant imagine how creeped out our daughter will be to some day learn this. Lol.
We have both always been ambivalent about marriage, but the longer we're together the more we both seem to be into the idea. The other day he said "I'd marry you tomorrow", and it was adorable. For now, we bought a house together and are looking forward to baby
My husband and i met on eharmony. I had a friend who was pressuring me to join the site to "find a good guy" Basically after every ended relationship she would say "hey why don't you join eharmony"....so i finally bit the bullet and joined one if their free weekends and then signed up for a discounted 3 month plan. I had actually passed of DH once but then thought, ok maybe he's just not the most photogenic or these aren't his best pictures. At least he looks "real" and not all these fake posed pictures. So i initiated contact and we followed their prescribed 4 methods of communication. I actually had started dating someone else from the site...and when that fell through i wrote DH giving him my number (it wasn't my real cell number actually, it was a google voice number that got forwarded to my phone and i could screen calls...Hey, i didn't want creeps having my real number!)...anyways gave him my number and said i was ending my subscription for now and if he wanted to keep in touch then to just call/text. Sure enough he did and we set up a coffee date/meet.
Well the night before I had gone out country dancing with one of my good friends. We hadn't really been drinking but it was a late night and i certainly did NOT want to wake up to meet some dude for coffee. I texted him and asked if we could push it back a little (so i could sleep more)...i then eventually rolled out of bed and probably just put on yoga pants and a sweatshirt...hair and make-up from the night before. I was kinda over it if you couldn't tell.
Sorry this is so long--we met for coffee and hit it off great! he left to go camping and basically as soon as he got back we spent pretty much every day together. We had met in May/June...by July 4th/my birthday I knew i loved him...by early August i knew i was gonna marry him some day. Specifically it was when i got a picture he sent from meeting his cousin's newborn...the first thing i thought was "i can't wait till he's holding our baby"
It was a year later, on the 4th of July weekend we went backpacking and he proposed by the river/creek by our campsite...it was quite cute and i was quite stupid...not to make this even longer, but let me explain more...He was big on backpacking and one long trip he took i wrote him little letters that told him about myself and then also required him to find something or take a picture of something...so as a kid loved to collect rocks and i asked him to find a rock for me...ok now back to the proposal....I thought something was up while we were fishing, he was crouched down next to me and i kept thinking he was gonna propose...but then as we started walking back i forgot about it...he then said "hey look at this cool rock i found" so i turn around and don't even notice he's down on one knee and look at the rock he has in his hand (it's a hide a key rock..but i'm not really aware)...and i make some dumb comment like "Omg that IS a pretty cool rock" and he says "yeah, look what it can do" turning it over and showing me it's a hide a key....i forget the rest, but he asked me to marry him and i of course said yes.
I still have the rock